What do you do if you are messing around with a boy, and finding out that he has another girlfriend, and may have a baby by one of his ex-girlfriends. What should I do I mean I don't claim him so what should I do?
Leave him alone. Trust me when I say you don't wanna be involved in that. It's not cool or cute and he's dragging you along. Your just another one of his "gurls" that he's playing. If you don't claim him then your just a sideline that he wants when his gf ain't around. Dont be okay with being a sideline girl. It's not healthy for you. Don't claim a guy that does things like that. You will find a guy that is 100% willing to claim u and willing to give his all for you.! Don't fall for a guy that doesn't fall for you.! Jerks are not worth our queen hearts :) ♥ you can do so much better.! Don't let him downgrade your importance and intelligence.!
Hope this helped.!
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My daughter is a Junior in HS and she is dating a freshman. I really don't have a problem with it but most of her friends are freshman also and my husband does not like it at all! My husband thinks she should be hanging out with other teenagers her age with the same goals (looking at colleges, soccer, etc). I'm not so sure. I tend to think hubby is more concerned with the way it looks. I figure if she is happy and they are good kids then it's okay.
She says the kids her age are not nice. She tends to hang out with others where she can be the leader of the pack. I think she feels more confidence with the younger crowd.
My husband wants her to cut it off with this boy. She wants to go to prom with him. I'm thinking it's okay. What do you think?
I don't find a problem with her dating a freshman. Her hanging with younger kids is not to big of a problem, but you both have good points. Your husband just don't want her falling back and trying to stay behind to hang with her younger friends. He wants her to be able to look at the future so when she gets in college she won't be an outcast and she won't be talking to high schoolers but children her age. But you have a good point too. It's not too bad. It's not a bad thing to date someone younger. We did that in hs (my friends and I). Maybe just give her time. It seems like your daughter has a shy voice. That she likes giving her opinion and she wants people to listen to her. And that is probably why she talks to the younger children. They look up to her. Maybe you should sit her down and help her gain a voice. Therefore you and your husband will be okay with who she hangs with. Maybe ask her why she's so attracted to the younger kids. Most likeyly it's because they look up to her so try and tell her to involve herself in activities at the school that usually helps children get involved and give their voice out. Also with small things around the house let her voice her opinion so she can feel more comfortable with voicing her opinion and standing up towards people.
Hope this helped :) ♥
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0we have a manager who lets a few associats get away with a lot.One she is a zsm,because he had a relationship with her.She cries to him about everything and he protects her.Her boyfriend now also works there,gets to come in on his nights off and hangs around her alnight.He also calls in alot and comes in late and this manager goes in the system and fixes it to protect him.I say these kind of managers should be fired.One overnight associat steals and our safety leader knows she has been doing it for years.She is real sneaky sbout how she does it.Our night shift needs cleaned up.
Don't work there anymore then. If your not happy with your workplace leave. Tell someone ahead of them about what is going on. Make a stand for what is rite or just leave it alone don;t get in the middle of it and just leave. you don't want to get caught up in that scandal if something goes wrong
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Recently I broke up with my significant other, and best friend. I left him because of his unambitious lifestyle and inability to commit. Or at least that's the simple way to tell people who haven't seen us together. Truth is, I was completely in love with my ex, but when we were together, he wasn't. Now for the sake a long standing friendship we both had we're trying to go back to just being friends... And it's not working for me. Breaking off from one another is just going to make him angry and hurt him because he's never understood why I needed space, but to me, I can't even think about moving on and dating someone else if he's still around (not that I want to go jump into a relationship, I just want to move on so that I can someday). He wants everything to go back to the way it was, but I can't tell him about my dates or my flirting anymore. And I don't want him to be the first person I call when I'm upset anymore either. I want to move on, completely, and then someday we can be friends again. How do I tell him something like that? Without fighting with him?
You remind me of my bestfriend. She's afraid to tell her EX boyfriend about her new guy she likes afraid of what he will say. Ima tell you the same thing i told her. THERE CALLED AN EX FOR A REASON. There not just an EXample of people you don't want but also an EXample of the type of relationship and life you want to move on from and live something better. You don't need to worry about what he's going to say he's not your concern and your not his. You need to tell him what is on your mind and about you moving on so he can move on and you both can be satisfy. You dont need to argue about something that don't require an argument. Just tell him the truth if he likes it or not shouldn't concern you because your not together. You should be able to have closure without feeling guilty.
:) Goodluck hope i helped
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what does it mean when yuor boyfriend is looking at you like you stupid?and when he looks at one of your best friends and then look around like anything happen?
It means you guys are having problems and you need to talk. Also means that he's being a jerk and he shouldn't be looking at your "BESTFRIEND" in any sexual way and if he is then you need to call you guys off and take a break or just move on.
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This is going to be quite long, I have known my friend for about 4years on and off, when we met we were really close and he would tell me a lot of private things... His 32 and I'm 20 now... We hadn't talked for over a year because he travelled to a different country, then he contacted me recently in june this year and we started talking again, during those few days I developed feelings for him which I had always had I was shy to tell him and However I told him how I felt about him and his reaction was cold he just said "ok fine you like me, then let's see if it works and if you can handle the age at that point I felt he was saying that just to please me not bcos there was any mutual feeling... I decided to distance myself from him I deleted his phone number, his blackberry pin etc bcos I can't stay friends with someone I'm in love with ,later that day he added back and told me how he felt about me too that was when he confessed that he had liked me since I was much younger (16)and I was off age and he couldn't date me at that time. but after a few days I became insecure I still had that feeling that he just said that to please me... I took him off my contacts again... He was mad at me, he told me never to call or text him and all, I sent several apology messages but to no avail, so I waited for a month before I apologised again, its August and I sent him a message, he told me I could call him whenever I wanted to but I couldn't bcos I didn't have his number anymore, there was no where I could get it and I had to ask him for it then he said I had tested his patience and that he had tried his best and I should do whatever I want to do... I don't know what he wants me to do, probably he doesn't want to be friends with me anymore probably he never even liked me and I feel like I am a bug then just yesterday he said when I am grown up and I start acting like an adult I should call him... I cried throughout the night and I told him that it was fine, maybe we shouldn't be friends and said bye!! I don't know what to do and I still love him very much!!
I'm sorry all that confusion happened. You should text him and ask can we talk . Call him and talk and say everything you are feeling. Because honestly yes it will hurt if someone don't love you back but it will hurt even more if you didn't say how you feel and you will always be guessing what the other person could of said and done. Tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way. If he does pursue it if he don't then just let go. It's better to let go of something that's not right for you than to hold on to something that is wrong for you & you keep imagining that this is the perfect thing.
Goodluck :)
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Im a preteen so I understand this might b a little weird for my age.Well I hav this cousin and shes like in her 20's . Well any ways shes my favorite cousin and we used to spend a lot of time together. But now that shes starting a family I cant spend any time with her and plus she lives in a different city than I do now. She haves a new born and i dont want to tell her that i feel like we dont spend any time together anymore. I just dont know what to do. And I hav no cousins my age to tlk to or to b my favorite cousin. I need some help plz and thank u
I have a cousin that i spent time with day and night since i was like 5 years old he used to live in brooklyn and i used to get ride down there every day after school. We didnt talk in like 3 years then 4 & 1/2 years ago he came to my bbq and we met up again. He lives 2 towns away now which is closer. At times i feel like i have my cousin but other times it feels like im losing him all over again. Basically i know the feeling. He's 20 also & im 17. There busy and transitioning new phases and positions in their lives. Yours has a new baby and mine is doing the same college im about to go to but also doing his films and movies and struggling with friends and his gf. He gets so much talk from them that i don't bother to tell him how i feel. But when we talked we promised to tell each other how we feel automatically. & I keep it in for the day but i tell him at the end of the day and i feel good about it because it works out just fine. We both understand eachother's point of view.
Basically what im trying to tell you is to talk to your cousin and tell her how you feel. And try to understand that she did just have a new born it's going to be hard for her to hang with anyone for a while. (It's a new born) Honestly if you miss her do what i do when i miss my cousin when he's babysitting his 1 year old niece i go over there & help him and hang w him one time. Go over there and help her out. Maybe she's going through a rough time also. Go to her house and let her get some rest and you help take care of the baby for an hr or two. Put yourself in her shoes and you'll understand the difficulties she's going through. Don't be mad at her just understand her and forgive her. Go over by her help her out. Have someone give you a ride by her or tell her to come by you have her nap for an hr or two while you take care of the baby and when the baby is resting you guys can talk and catch up. Just don't blame her or be upset with her. She's doing her best
Hope i helped :) Goodluck
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I hav a friend and we hav been best friends for a long time. She just moved from a apartment to a really big house. She doesn't realize that she changed a lot since she moved. She acts like she's all that sometimes I want her back. I want to tell her with out hurting her feeling so I decided that I want to give her this quiz that might make her realize that she's acting different or mayb a quiz that will help me kno if she thinks she's different or something like that so can someone help me with some questions to ask her and should I txt it to her so I won't hav to hav a fight with her in person or should I tell her in person
( btw her mom is like kinda strick when someone's begin mean for example: once I was mad at her and she told her mom and I got in trouble.)
So my point is that I'm scared something like that will happen. Oh and btw we r only 11.
Well can someone plz help me I hav no idea what to do?????
Give it to her in person and you can ask these.
1. When is the last time we hung out all day?
2. When is the last time we talked on the phone or just text non-stop?
3.List the things we always used to do and 3 things we still do now.
4.How did you help me with the problems i used to have?
5.How do you help me now?
6.What are the things that are still the same about you?
7.What are the things that are the same about me?
8.What do we really know about eachother now?
These are a few questions you can ask her. Write them down and when you see her again give the paper to her. Tell her to take her time and answer them. See what happens
P.S. you can also write it down for yourself and ask answer them yourself and see if your answers match and if they don't talk to her about them.
Good luck :)
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is it advisable to have sex with another girl if your virgin girlfriend is not ready.
No it is not. Apparently you guys are on different levels. She isn't thinking about sex but apparently you are. You need to break it off with her nice as possible and tell her your not ready for a real committed relationship. Committed people don't think like this. They will wait for however long they have to for their gf to lose it to them because that's what real LOVE is. Your looking for someone to just give it to u when your ready and in a heartbeat. she's looking for someone to love her no matter what. & To wait for her and just to be there to love her. Your not that person don't string her along. If you know you can't wait nomore don't force her just go about your business cut it off with her & she'll find someone better than you that is willing to wait. If you can keep your adrenaline rush inside then stay and make her happy
Do the right thing :)
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My question is like this. Well, ok my mom is really strict about a lot of things and it's just so unfair and she can be mean sometimes. I want to know how to get her to be more relaxed and let me do more things. I've tried everything. I'm out of options. Please help.
Usually moms are strict because they see how children act and don't like it or because of the neighborhood they live in or even just the friends they hang around. Sometimes it can just be because thats how they are, there afraid of losing there children. She's protecting you yes it can be suffocating but appreciate all the protect she's giving you and the help because once your on your own there's no more hovering. & Trust me you'll wish they were still hovering over you.
There's nothing you can do about that. Just be patient she'll start opening up with you once you start getting older and in high school and college. She loves you. We never understand a mother's fear or pain or hard ache until we become one.
:)
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ok so im 13 . and theres this guy i like in my school. sometimes we talk by text, and iv seen him 2 times at the park this wholes summer. most of the time i always have to text him and after a while he stops texting me, he says his phone has problems but i dont know :( its summer and school starts next week. we promised each other to give a hug when we see each other. but the thing, iv never really had a guy friend like this, all my other friends always get hugs by guys but im just,like nothing. so i dont know what to because its my first time, so how should i act with him how should i hug him and stuff ok thank you lots!
Just give him a hug. Once you do it the awkwardness will go away. When you see eachother think of him as a close friend you always hug and relax don't freeze up or anything. Think of him as a brother at first. Just talk to him keep texting him and being yourself around him. Trust him too. If he says his phone is off then you have to believe him not second guess what he's telling you. Become friends and you'll get used to his hugs and phone calls & text in no time
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I have been with my wife for 4 years. coming into this relationship I knew her bestfriend was her ex. That should of been a red flag for me, but as the years gone by I got to know her bestfriend and the more I got to know her the more I hated her. she seems to always have to top everything I do, from cooking, to baking, to decorating to the way we dress(just so you understand I'm a girl shes a girl we are all girls)the way we raise the kids everything is a compotition. Plus she always talks about herself and what shes doing and how she gets to go out and do this and that know we have young children and we can't do those thing almost like she rubbing it in our faces. The hard part is shes a huge part of my wife's family the sisters look at like a sister and the in-laws love her as a daughter and call her daughter their gran. see i'm the actual wife and I gave 2 grandchildren but i get treated like the outsider. she comes over almost everyday and doesn't know when to leave, she sleeps in my bed uses my shower. but when i try to say anything to my wife she lets me know how wrong i am and that she doesnt understand why i have such a problem with her and that i'm trying to put her in the middle and she won't choose. like today i packed a picnic to take to my wifes work so the kids and i can eat lunch with her but guess whose been there since early in the morning her bestie so now i have to make extra to feed her to. I just feel liek everywhere i go or anything i do her bestie has to be apart of it. they go and have lunch they talk on the phone for hours they tell each other eveything. my wife and i never go out and have lunch just the 2 of us, and she never opens up to me like that. not only that but she would never let me hang out with her at work like that. I don't know what to do. I don't think they are messing around but I want to be the one to be close to my wife not her. any advise?
You have to tell your wife this. Go to her and tell her you feel like an outsider. Yes they dated and that's her bestfriend but you are her WIFE & she's supposed to be going out with you and hanging out with you all the time not her bestfriend. Then you should tell the bestfriend to back away some. Tell them your feeling like a third wheel which shouldn't be happening since your the wife. You should also speak to her family about this too. They have to realize that your apart of their family now and they have to treat you the way they are treating the other woman.
You have to tell them that things have to change or your relationship is not going to work out. Maybe she doesn't understand how badly your hurting and if you was to talk to her & really tell her listen im feeling hurt left out & like she's the wife in this relationship & that things needs to change or this isn't going to work out, things might just get better. She'll understand that your hurting and she'll start seeing from your point of view.
Hope this helped :) Good luck. Fight for your wife
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Okay this girl and I have a lot of problems... If it isn't her family then its trust... She thinks I'm using her for my own pleasure,, she doesn't believe in true love and happiness which makes things even harder. I've been in many relationships before,, abusive relationships,, relationships based on sex and relationships full of hate,, but the feelings I feel for her are new to me,, I've never felt this strong about anyone in my whole life and I do think that I've found true love... I'm not the type of guy that wants sex and stuff,, its been 1 of my biggest dreams to find that one special girl that I can love and who'll love me in return. I tried explaining to her that I'm not using her but she has trust issues and the more I try to show her that I'm only doing this for the love the more I'm complicating things... I took me 3 years to get to this stage,, we had our first kiss a couple of weeks ago. I was her first kiss and her first "boyfriend-like person"... I don't know how to convince her that I'm not using her. The thing with her parents is complicated because if they find out that we're seeing each other then they'll do to her what they did the last time a guy tried to get into a relationship with her... Her parents are very hard to please,, they don't allow dating because they want her to finish school before she gets into a serious relationship. I'm trying to respect her parents wishes but I'm moving out of town next year to go to college which means that I must wait a whole year for her to finish school first before we can do anything. At the moment we're not dating but we are kinda seeing each other which is complicated. I do love her and I'm trying to show her that I'm not using her,, I'm trying to keep this a secret because if her parents find out about anything then they'll make sure she doesn't see me again and that she doesn't have contact with me... They'll ground her till she's done with school for the year and by that time it'll be too late. I don't know if we should try this long distance thing because in my experience it never lasts... PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE!!!! :'(
Your the same guy who asked me before. I guess it got worse.
I will guess she got trust issues because of her parents. She can't trust that a guy will be with her because she's afraid her parents will do what they always do & break it up.
Sorry but she is living with them and until she leaves HS & goes away there's nothing to do about it. Your moving away to college & being with her wouldn't help anyways because she'll just keep doubting the relationship & think you'll be cheating. That's not good for a girl to think about . . . That her bf is cheating on her that apparently she's not good enough.
The best thing for you to do is just move on. You'll find someone. your life just started your going to college. You'll learn what true love is and you'll understand the sacrifices you will have to make.
If you truly love her you will say your good byes and just move to college & she'll be able to move on with her life too. She's not ready for committed relationship & by the looks of it neither are you. You don't trust in long distance relationships. Which means its time to let go.
If you guys are meant to be God will put you guys together when the time is rite. But rite now you guys need to find your own life and love & move on. As hard as it may be that's just what you have to do. Just end things off now on a good note and go to college with no bad tensions between the both of you.
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I start getting to know someone and once we have a connection and even if I really like them, then at one point I stop trying to talk to them and start avoiding them and abruptly stop talking. and then time goes on and then I feel guilty over not talking to them and then more time goes on and then I feel more guilty but at the same time feel like I can't just start talking like I used to because I think they'd be wondering why I'd stopped communicating with them in the first place. it's like a vicious cycle. I don't have any close friends right now and I hate it because I want to be close to someone and go to parties and movies and etc. and not just be on the computer but then why am I doing this to myself? I feel like I self sabotage myself in so many ways and I don't understand why, when people are supposed to be doing things in their best interests. I've been this way for the past couple of years and it only gets worse and worse. I'm starting college this year and I'm afraid if I'll let this screw things up in college too (with regards to relationships with others and grades)
You sound just like me i was like this through out High School. Im going to college this fall too. I will always run away from people i like and sometimes my friends too. I had to learn to stop doing that.
It just means were scared to get close because we don't want to get hurt. You probably got hurt in the past and build up a wall and everytime you feel like your getting to close you put up a brick wall and the red light comes on. It's hard to let someone in trust me. Im still learning. But i learn that your going to get hurt no matter what.. Letting people in not letting people in. Either way you'll get hurt by having no friends and being all alone or with friends and they do something and backstab you.
You have to have faith that everyone is not out to hurt you. The way i learn is that i can either block people and have no friends or let people in and learn that not everyone is going to hurt me. That it's okay to still have a green light up even if im getting to close to someone and i get scared. That's part of life your supposed to be scared. It just means you have a conscience unlike some people who don't care what happens to them.
Instead of putting up a block as soon as you get scared just put up a yellow light to help you slow down. So then you can still be open but in a more cautious way. College is a bigger place than HS so you'll be able to experience it and learn what to do when it comes.
Hope i helped and good luck you'll b great :)
You can e-mail me for more help if you need it
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a guy i recently had a thing with moved away to his cottage for the summer and the last time we talked sort of ended on a bad note. his friend now wants to start hanging out with me and when i was concerned for the guy i recently had a thing with feeling's, he simple stated that he already told him about it and he replied by saying "sick, go for it". the problem is, i don't really want to hang out with his friend as much as i want to hang out with him, and i'm really confused on what to do right now. considering what he said, should i just hang out with his friend, or should i try and talk things out with the guy i recently had a thing with?
You got to move from people like that. It wasn't a relationship it was a "THING" having a "thing" isnt good. Yes it may be his friend but you should talk to him get to know him maybe you'll be more happy with his friend & you might become two people who like eachother and start dating. & if it dont work out atleast you know that you moved on. Dont stay stuck on the past because that wont do any good for you & your future.
Good luck :)
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How should I start off a paragraph about me?
U can start by describing yourself. After the introduction you can say work hard and be independant is what i do everyday. I love to learn about the adult hood that im starting to face everyday. Theres always something new that i strive for and always something different. Im an independant hard worker that wants to succeed in my life and I dont and wont give up.
Then you can talk about the things you do
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Things are hard for us because of her family,, she's not allowed to date or see any guys till she's done with school... If her parents find out then they'll make sure that we don't have any contact with one another... Her brother hates me and I don't know why and I know he'll do anything to keep us from being together. Having a dinner with her family will only complicate things more because they'll make sure that we don't see each other anymore... I'm going to college next year which means that I must wait for a whole year for her,, and that worries me because I know men and I'm afraid that she might meet someone else... This is my one true love,, I've been through many relationships and none of them has ever meant this much to me.
You have to tell her these things. She's scared too. This could be why she's running away from you & want to end things. She's afraid of getting caught. It can also be because she loves you so much that she's afraid of what they will do to you. She can be protecting you. You have to let her know that no one can tear you guys apart. Tell her your going to fight for her. I know you don't want to approach her family and talk to them but honestly you should.
My friend didn't want to tell her mom about her two years relationship with her bf because her mom didn't like him because she thought he wanted sex from her which wasn't the case. I told her the same thing im telling you. Keeping it a secret is much harder than telling them. She took my advice and her mother sat down with both of them at dinner and accepted the relationship. She was brave and positive in her love now you have to be too.
Yes your scared but you have to think like this. Your not going to get anything proven by sneaking around. You have to stand up for the BOTH of you & tell her family that you love her that your not there to hurt her. If they try to keep you guys apart then fight that too. Honestly like i said LOVE is worth the fight and sometimes the wait, but NEVER EVER give up on the one you can say is your heart and soul
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For the past few month ive been volunteering at a senior center and there is this maintenance man that works there i liked him from the first moment i saw him but i didnt think he liked me he would never talk to me he would walk by sometimes he would look at me or walk by slow or stand somewhere around me but that it then yesterday he leaned in really close to me and started asking me questions about me volunteering and complimented me for doing it i was shocked by it because he never ever talked to me before i didnt know what to think i was caught off guard then today he came up to me and was speaking in spanish but i dont speak spanish and so he was asking me why i dont know spanish and things like that and then the rest of the time he would walk back and forth past me look at me but now he smiles a little bit and he still stands around me help me tell me what this means why now all of a sudden is he talking to me when he wasnt before
Maybe he's being friendly. Or maybe he just wanted to talk to someone. Honestly it doesn't seem like he likes you in that way it just seems like he needs someone to talk to & he was being polite. Maybe before he was focused on work and not friendship on the job. It could be he just wants to be polite & friendly. It doesn't seem like any feelings are there yet. But if you like him you should keep talking to him more and see if your friendship can build.
Hope i helped :)
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I always feel unwell because my parents barely feed me
im shaki g rightnow so its hard to type on this scresn
they havent seemed to care forb3 years and im salways in pain because of it, dizzy, sick, faint
Since your still in their house it's their obligations to feed you. You seem young so maybe you can't cook but can you do sandwiches? Try to make a little something or eat cereal if you guys have any. You should report that to someone because that's not healthy or legal what they are doing. Tell your family or neighbor or someone because your pain and sickness can get worse.
Feel better & Good Luck :)
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My sister and I always argue. I recently got engaged and she didnt seem to care, congratulated me two weeks later by text. She always seems to find excuses for her actions, never apologize for her actions, says hurtful things and really does not care about anyone but herself. I have approached her numerous times to try and fix the tension between her and I, tell her how I feel about things but never works, we will be ok for a couple of days then argue about something. She is always right and thats it, it never goes anywhere, even when shes wrong. I'm not sure at this point what to do but have given up and just fed up with her actions towards me.
There seems like there's some deep tensions there. Did something happened in your past that caused her to be angry at you so much? Don't give up on her she's your sister. Approach her again & find out what her problem is. Maybe something happened before she started acting like this towards you. She is your sister and as much as she is driving you away you have to show her that her anger and words towards you are not going to stop your love for her or even stop you from finding out what's wrong.
Trust me sisters are a pain i have one. There rude and obnoxious, but there our sisters.
Sometimes there the only family we got when we need someone there.
Talk to your sister tell her your not putting up with the crap she does to you and she has to change. She has to tell you whats wrong & what's going on so you can be there for her & help.
Goodluck. You can e-mail me if you need more help im always available. :)
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