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what should I do I still want to be his friend
This is going to be quite long, I have known my friend for about 4years on and off, when we met we were really close and he would tell me a lot of private things... His 32 and I'm 20 now... We hadn't talked for over a year because he travelled to a different country, then he contacted me recently in june this year and we started talking again, during those few days I developed feelings for him which I had always had I was shy to tell him and However I told him how I felt about him and his reaction was cold he just said "ok fine you like me, then let's see if it works and if you can handle the age at that point I felt he was saying that just to please me not bcos there was any mutual feeling... I decided to distance myself from him I deleted his phone number, his blackberry pin etc bcos I can't stay friends with someone I'm in love with ,later that day he added back and told me how he felt about me too that was when he confessed that he had liked me since I was much younger (16)and I was off age and he couldn't date me at that time. but after a few days I became insecure I still had that feeling that he just said that to please me... I took him off my contacts again... He was mad at me, he told me never to call or text him and all, I sent several apology messages but to no avail, so I waited for a month before I apologised again, its August and I sent him a message, he told me I could call him whenever I wanted to but I couldn't bcos I didn't have his number anymore, there was no where I could get it and I had to ask him for it then he said I had tested his patience and that he had tried his best and I should do whatever I want to do... I don't know what he wants me to do, probably he doesn't want to be friends with me anymore probably he never even liked me and I feel like I am a bug then just yesterday he said when I am grown up and I start acting like an adult I should call him... I cried throughout the night and I told him that it was fine, maybe we shouldn't be friends and said bye!! I don't know what to do and I still love him very much!!
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OK,Your not going to like hearing this but what ever you do in this situation its still going to be a sucky situation. You need to move on... meat someone new, take up a new hobbie and if he conatcts you again, as hard as this will be, tell him he is to old for you and that he must not truly care about you the way you care for him. He is twelve years older than you and at twenty you are still a child not matter what you age is in numbers you need to mesure yourself by matureity and at this point I think you both need to grow up a little... I know this is hard to hear but yor too good for him and one day you will meet someone better than him. One last thing try getting involved at your local church, finding Christ is the best thing i've ever done. Try googling Kent Hovind and Louie Gigleo, they are amazing!
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I'm sorry all that confusion happened. You should text him and ask can we talk . Call him and talk and say everything you are feeling. Because honestly yes it will hurt if someone don't love you back but it will hurt even more if you didn't say how you feel and you will always be guessing what the other person could of said and done. Tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way. If he does pursue it if he don't then just let go. It's better to let go of something that's not right for you than to hold on to something that is wrong for you & you keep imagining that this is the perfect thing.
Goodluck :)
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