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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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okay ive been with this guy for a year and half- we're from 2 different religions and my mom would like kill me and i know we have no future if we got married or anything in the future. but recently i met this guy who is sooooooooo hot and he wants me and i realy wanna kiss him and stuff like that...and the reason for that is cus the guy i am with doesnt statisfy me sexually i mean he is not attractive and doesnt turn me on.
im really confused i just wanna cheat but i dont know if i should. is it that wrong to satisfy your feelings somewhere else?

If you're losing interest in your boyfriend, then you need to break up with him. Staying with him would only be leading him on, and cheating on him would only make things worse. Break up with him, and then do what satisfies you.

im like about to cry as i write this. okay i was tlaking to this guy.. hes 2 and a half years older than me and we were getting prettyy closee..and then he asked me for pictures and of course, cause im stupid i sent them..don't even say i shouldnt have because i know i shouldnt. well today he called me and we were talking then he said he was talking to another girl then he was like whne are you gonna come over and ahve sex im like never your talking ot someone remember then he was like dont pull that shit. then he was like if you ever come over will you do stuff with me im like uuhm no your talking to someone and he got mad that i kept bringing it up. i find him pretty damn dumb to do that bc he told me who he was talking to and i could tell her what he is saying to me, but i dont wanna fuck anything up. was i write to bring that u again that hes talking to someonen while hes asking me this stuff?

You most definitely were right. This kid is a douchebag. Cut him off & forget about him. He's a player & he's just in it for sex. Once he gets it from you, he's gonna try & get it from her too. Tell her, fuck what he has going on, & then live your life. She deserves to know so she doesn't make the same choices you do.

13/f

alright. um..

i like this guy A LOT (we'll call him bob). he has a girlfriend & they've been going out for like more than a month. the thing is, they don't do anything. i never see them talk & they have only hugged like once. that's all the farther they've gone. my bff has been going out with this guy for 3 weeks & they hang out a lot, talk evweryday, are constantly holding hands, & have kissed like 4 or 5 times.

my problem is, is that i don't know if i could ever go out with someone like that. someone that doesn't act like a boyfriend should. so my question is, should i move on? should i wait for him? if i do & we end up going out, is he gonna act the same way? i just don't know what to think or do.

help?

He doesn't seem like boyfriend material because he's more than likely shy. Either that, or he doesn't like PDA [public display of affection]. Who knows what they do together when they hang out one on one outside of school?

If you like this kid, then tell him when him & his girlfriend break up. If you were her & some girl told your boyfriend she liked him, you'd be pissed. So don't do that to her. Wait until they're gonna break up or are broken up.

And if he does act like this if you go out, then don't get mad at him. Just talk to him about it and I'm sure he'd understand.

Today I went to the movies with my two best guy friends. We're all 16. Well out of them, I'm closer to one, and he sat next to me. During the previews he'd jokingly like grab my hand, and act like he was scratching his arm, and then put it on my shoulder. He also multiple times put his hand on my knee, and sometimes would rub it lightly. I kept laughing cause it tickled, and i think he was joking cause he laughed everytime I did. But do you think he likes me? He hasn't done this before, and we've been to the movies before all together.

He might like you. Talk to him about it.

I got this letter, from the highschool that i will be attending, and it says like, how they think that i'd be good for this program called 'connections' and how it helps with test taking, problem solving, and stuff like that. and they want me and my parents to go to some meeting about it.

but, isn't that for dumb kids? like doesn't that sound like thats what its for?

and its from the guidance cousler people, so i basicallly dont think everyone is getting it.

but see i dont understand, im not stupid.
i have mostly all As and Bs. i have 2 Cs. and thats in like math and social studies. and ive only gotten the C on my report card like once this year. i mean ive gotten a c in math this whole year, but thats still passing. even a D is still passing. so i dont get that, why i did i get this letter?

im like freaking outttt.

You should be honored that they're trying to help. It doesn't mean that you're dumb, but that you could be better at test taking. Doing this program will make those weaknesses stronger & a lot better for you. Just try it out. Other kids could be struggling while you're acing these tests. And if you don't like the program then tell them that. But don't knock it til you try it.

i like this guy and i want to start being more flirty around him. Hes kind of a perv, btu wicked funny. Any cute flirty things I can say or do?? Websites?? (dont tell me to use a search engine please and thank you)

Please help me fast I am going to see him again veryy soon :)

Thanks a bundle &HEARTS

Touch his hand. Laugh at his jokes. Playfully make fun of him. Smile at him. Challenge him to a wrestling match.

Is there any way to find out what song a person has on their myspace if their music player is hidden because i know there's a site for unhiding their top friends so i was just wondering if there's one for unhiding their music player?

The only way to find out what song it is would be to listen to it & then google it, or you could always ask them. But some people are rude about it & won't tell you because they don't want you "stealing" their song when 495769577 other people on the site have it too. But I honestly don't think there's a code for unhiding the music player. Sorry.

Do labias vary in size? Mine seems kind of .. long, like it hangs down a little bit out of the outside lips of my vagina. Is this normal?

Yeah it's normal. Some girls have it, some girls don't. If you're worried because a guy might see it & think you're a freak, then don't worry. Most guys don't even notice it.

it really sucks because two of my best friends are totally against eachother. the worst part is that my friend gina had this problem with jake and now they dont talk. they talk about eachother behind their backs though. so gina is just fed up with jake and is trying to get other people to hate him. also jake has done some other stupid things and a lot of people are against him. but jake is my best friend too, and i really like him, as more than a friend. he doesnt know that but like he flirts with me all the time. he said not to worry about it because everyone is being stupid. but gina, britany, and kat dont really get why im still friends with jake. brittany and kat are annoyed with me because they think i only hang with him cuz i like him. but thats not even true and i feel like im jakes only real friend. i explained to gina the whole situation and i think she can understand me a little better. what can i do about this i dont like having to be mean to people but im in such a tough situation. thanx

Explain to your friends that you're going to be friends with whoever you want whether they like it or not. Be friends with Jake, but be friends with Kat, Brittany, and Gina too. If they can't accept the fact that you're gonna be friends with Jake too, then they're not really your friends & you need to cut them short & stop hanging out with them. Nobody tells you who to like or who to hang out with but yourself.

Where were you when you had your first time. My boyfriend of almost a year and I are thinking about doing it for the first time, but we aren't sure where the best places would be, or places that would be fun. and we don't want to be uncomfortable. So if you could list a couple it'd be apriciated. Thanks!

When I first had sex, I was actually in my room on my bed. I can tell you right now, any place besides the bed or the floor would probably be really uncomfortable. I'm not telling you to go off & have sex, but if you do decide to, use protection.

My friend kept it quiet that i was cutting because she loves me, but when it got so bad she told. i completely hate her, is that alright to hate her? now we dont even talk... i stopped cutting, so i guess she stopped my pain.. so i still love her..?

No. It's not alright to hate her. Your friend did something most people are scared to do. She told somebody & tried to get you help. You shouldn't be mad at her, she saved your life. If you would've kept cutting yourself, you would'v died especially because it was getting bad. Instead of hating your friend, try thanking her. She did it out of your best interest.

In school theres this guy and we have known each other since december. but everytime i see him we ususally stare @ each other and then he waves to me and says hi. and i always do the same like whenever i see him. its all we do basically. but i wish it was more he tried talking to me and i did too but it didnt work out. he flirts with most of my friends. but i never got the chance to actually know him. hes popular im not. but i would like to know what to do because alls we do is say HI (name) its just i like him! what should I do?

Just talk to him. If you don't, you're never gonna know anything about him, & you're not gonna get anywhere with him. Just strike up a conversation & have enough to ask him what his sn or his number is. Then try hanging out. And flirt.

ok so this guy who i like and i guess he likes me too wants to hang out so bad with me. he asked me for my phone # and he gave me his. first he invited me to his game and then a school dance afterwards which i couldnt go to. now is like the perfect day for him to hang out with me. but you see he wants me to call HIM? and i cant b/c i get embarassed and i just freak out. also i dont even know what we are going to do i havent planned anything but alls i know is im free today, next weekend im not. but you see its already 4 and i dont know what to do right now so help me before the day is over?

I know how nervewrecking it can to call a guy you like, and it's so hard. You want to, but you can't cause you don't know what to say, and ugh. But you just gotta get over it because if you don't you'll never lose that fear, & you'll never talk to him on the phone. Just call him up & ask him to movie & possibly dinner. =)

What is the correct method of washing hair! like how long do you keep shampoo in, how should you massage conditioner into your hair and what not!
Thanks

I usually massage my shampoo in for about 2-3 minutes so I can make sure I get everything. I've got thick hair so it takes longer to brush/straighten/wash than it would if I had thin hair. After I shampoo, I leave it in for about 3 more minutes and then I wash it out. I do the same thing for conditioner, but I massage it for 5, and then leave it in for five minutes & then I wash it out. If you have thin hair, only massage & leave it in for about 2 minutes.

Alright, well i've been with my boyfriend for awhile now and we're really close. I want to have sex with him but i'm a virgin and hes not. The problem is I don't want to give away my virginity knowing he already lost his. It means a lot to me and if this wasn't such a problem we would have probably already done it. I know if we do do it now, the only thing on my mind will be how much I wish I was getting his.. is there something wrong with me? How can I get over this?

No, there's nothing wrong with you. Before I broke up with my ex, I was the 5th girl he had slept with. I felt low, and it bothered me so much, it was only of the many reasons why I dumped him. I'm not saying to let it bother you so much that you leave your boyfriend, but you should give this decision some serious thought. Is he the one for you? Are you sure that giving him your virginity is the right decision? Are you going to regret this? Is it going to bother you even more once you do it? If you can't begin to answer these questions in a positive way, then the best thing to do would be to either dump your boyfriend, or hold off on the sex until you can completely make up your mind.

Hey i'm 17f, and work at a small restrant. The bosses son is about 19/20 y.o. He always looks at me when im at work and comes and talks to me, gets stuff like drinks... (he dosn't do this for any one els).... I like him verry much, he's realy nice and realy good looking.

The problem is next week he's goig away to europ and i wont see him for a month and a half... tomorows the last day i will see him until he comes back, and i would realy like to keep in contact with him.

should i ask him for his e-mail? If so how could i bring it up?... thanks

He likes you, you like him. Just ask him for his email.

okay..so i cannot eat right now. like i put food in my mouth andd im hungry but i can't swallow it. i feel fat, and i know im relaly not..that might be why im not eating. idk what im asking i just need some advice.. thanks ♥ :]

You need to swallow your food. You know you're not fat, so eat. You're going to give yourself an eating disorder.

ok so iam a 16/f and i recently broke up with my boyfriend because he couldn't believe that i trusted him... so i told him its over.. and then i told one of our friends that i wanted to go back out with him and she told me that he said he doesn't date his exes... o yah and also he started being mean t o me in class and like he was calling me stupid and i was like your just saying that because i broke up with you.. well why is he mean to me now? and i still like him and he doesn't want me back so what should i do?

Well you broke up with him for a good reason in my eyes. You trust him, and he couldn't believe you. Honesty, trust, communication & love are everything in a relationship. You've got to have all 4 in order for it to be a real relationship. If he doesn't want you back, you've got to accept it. As for him being mean to you, ignore it. He's the immature type.

my wife and i got married 6 months ago. despite having unprotected sex with her, she is yet to get pregnant. can you advice me when best to have sex with her within her mestrual cycle to get her pregnant? does the use of vaseline as viginal lubricant during sex ipmpedes the chances of conception? can a woman ovulate twice within a menstrual cycle? and lastly, is it possible for a woman to be pregnant and still see her menses?

They obviously didn't teach much about sex ed when you went to school.

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15/f.
is it fair to tell the guy i like that i like him even though he has a girlfriend? because i feel like he has the right to know since we are also good friends. but then i don't want to be mean to him and ruin his relationship.
thanks!

Don't tell him until that relationship is done. Put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes. How would you feel if another girl told your boyfriend she liked him? You'd be pissed, right? Exactly. So back off of him until they're done to avoid any unwanted, unncessary drama.

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