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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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one of my friends just had sex and shes only 12 years old (turning 13 in June). I would have never thought of her doing something like that... i just really cant think of her the same way. i know its her choice and everything, but i mean come on, 12 years old!

Instead of ranting about how your friend is a preteen having sex, ask a question.

But you're right. It is her choice. As long as she uses protection, then you shouldn't worry about her. I'm not saying underaged sex is the best thing & I'm not telling you or anyone else to go do it, but protection is the best thing.

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I'm 15 years old and so everyday during school i see him and everyday i just wanna talk to him, but im really a shy girl and i really wanna be friends and maybe more than friends. but what happens is that i see him and i get really nervous and run away or i hide.
I asked my friends for advice and they say talk to him. but i need different advice, i need advice on how to talk to him and how to approach him when he is with his friends. Rarely i see him w/o his friends and I get so close that i walk faster to get by him. My friends try to help me get the courage to talk to him but i say no and walk away until he's gone. The thing is i have no idea what to say to him when i actually do talk to him... and thats what i need help on!!!!!!!!

Do you even know his name? If not, ask him. Try & break the ice. Go up to him & ask him how much a polar bear weighs. When he says he doesn't know, tell him "Enough to break the ice. Hi, I'm yourname." Haha. Kinda corny, but cute in a way & it could work. When you do that, just keep talking. Maybe exchange your screennames or phone numbers. Good luck.

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Hey- I have an advicenators column and when I answered someone's question they replied back with a question that I'd like to answer to them personally. How do I do this?

You can't unless you edit it.

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Okay, I'm sixteen and there's this guy that's somewhere around 21 or 22 that lives across from my grandmother. Everytime I'm over there and he's outside he stares at me and when I see him out somewhere he does the same thing. My mom told me that she thinks he likes me but the thing is he never actually smiles when he looks at me but he doesn't look away when I look back. So my question is this: does he like me or not because he's never actually talked to me at all or even waved. I don't actually know anything about him except where he works and that he loves eighties grunge rock (known from his t shirts). What should I do exactly to get him to talk to me or even acknowledge me beside the usual staring contest?

Say hi. Talk to him. I wouldn't go more than that though. He's an adult, you're a minor. You're nowhere close to being an adult yet, & having any type of intimate relationship would be illegal whether your mother approves or not. Just say hi, and talk. Become friends but nothing more.

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I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, but I've been unhappy because he gets mad at me for the stupidest reasons and expects me to drop all of my guy friends, even though 98% of them are guys. He has this one best friend, and it's a girl. She has a boyfriend who is also my boyfriends best friend. My boyfriend always hangs out with the girl and whenever I;m with the two of them, I feel like the third wheel because he always ignores me or is insanely mean to me. He constantly tells me he loves me and tells me he has no interest in her and if he did, he would've wentfor her a couple of years ago. Her and her boyfriend have been dating over a year but I still think they have a thing for eachother considering I asked him to stop hanging out with her for awhile because I was starting to get really uncomfortable with it. Me and him hangout everyday, but the two days we can't he goes and hangsout with her. It's gotten to the point to where I don't trust him at all and everytime they hangout I get really worried and end up crying to him on the phone while he sits there and flips out on me for it. I just need advice on this :(

♥`*Genn

I know how you feel. Been there, done that.

Your boyfriend is contradicting himself [just like mine did]. He said I couldn't hang out with guys, [like your boyfriend is telling you], and then he could hang out with girls [like your boyfriend is doing]. It made NO sense. I couldn't do something, but he could? No. You need to point this out to him. If he can do it, then you can too. A relationship is equal. No one person is better than the other, and no one person has more control than the other.

Honestly to me, your boyfriend sounds controlling. Mine was because he told me to stop hanging out with people & to take pictures off of my MySpace & all of this other stuff I didn't want to do. I finally got sick of it, and broke up with him. I'm not saying you should, but things like this could eventually lead to something else, and I'm not talking about something good. Guys like this tend to become physically abusive. I'm not saying your boyfriend will, but it's always a chance that you need to look out for.

If you want to hang out with your guy friends, then do so. You know you're not going to do anything with them & if your boyfriend doesn't trust you, then he's either insecure, or stupid. You've been together this long, he should know you by now. If he doesn't trust you, then you've got no relationship. Relationships are TRUST, HONESTY, COMMUNICATION, and LOVE. If you don't have one, but you have the other 3, you've still got no relationship no matter what. Same thing as if you don't trust your boyfriend. You should trust him, just as he should trust you. And he makes a valid point: If he liked her, he would've left you already, or cheated on you already. Since he hasn't [as far as you and I know], then you've got nothing to worry about. I'm not trying to put the thought into your head that he's cheating because he more than likely isn't, but if he isn't cheating, then you've got nothing to worry about.

Just sit & have a long talk with him. You guys have issues that need to be worked out. If nothing changes for either of you, & the trust still isn't there for either person, then the relationship needs to end, or you need to rethink yourselves. Good luck.

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My friends went to my schools lacrosse game today and when they were there the guy I like (Joe) was there too. He likes me and I like him and we both know we like eachother. Well suppossedly he was sitting on these girls laps (who are considered sluts) and they were on his and he was flirting with them too. Should I be mad? The catch is, I hooked up with these guys a few weeks ago and he didn't get really mad. So should I just brush it off or should I be mad? I was going to say to him tomorrow, so how was the game and see what he says.. but should I just leave it alone?

Leave it alone. You're not his girlfriend, he's not your boyfriend. He's free to flirt, as are you. Don't try to tie him down when he's not even in a relationship with you. If you get mad at him, it's for a dumb reason & he'll probably get really pissed at you & think you're an idiot.

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what is the artist and title of this song? i only know a little bit...
- you wanna be a little bit taller and baller...

It's called I Wish, but I'm not sure who it's from.

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I think I have an eating disorder. I don't really show it, but I feel extremely guilty when I go over 1000-1200 calories. I'm 5'9 and 136 lbs. If I eat something after 7 [which Im doing now and Im stressing out] or just eat a lot in general, I freak out. My mind goes crazy when I think about food. I cant stand eating sometimes. What can I do? I think everything I eat will make me gain weight. I have a fear of getting fat, most likely because I was chubby in elementary/middle school. I think Im ok now, but probably need some work. Any ideas on how to not feel guilty about it? My parents are getting me a yogurt parfee. Those aren't bad are they? Should I feel guilty for eating that? I'm not sure. It makes things a lot more stressful. Does this sound like Anorexia to you? I do skip meals but not intensely. Any opinions? Thanks!

You & anorexia? No. You & a really guilty conscience? Yes. You're just scared to gain your weight back, and that's fine. Everyone is scared of gaining or losing. My friend is extremely scared of doing either simply because if she does either, it'll be bad for her body. Her body can't handle a lot of weight, nor can it handle a little. She has to be just right.

Anyway, if you just eat healthy & drink lots of water you'll be fine. Don't eat junk food. Don't eat fast food. Don't drink soda. Don't eat munchies/sweets or candy. Don't even eat ice cream. Just stick to healthy foods like vegetables, fruit, dairy, meats & grain. Yogurt is good for you, but I doubt the parfee is. That's from McDonald's right? Things from there tend to be a little unhealthy, but I guess they tell you how much calories is in it now. If not, ask your mom if it's healthy. I know regular yogurt is healthy since it's a dairy product. For water, you should be drinking about 8 glasses a day, and drinking 4 glasses of milk a day.

Also, try to exercise. Walk around the block a few times, and then work yourself up to a jog. Do that for a while, and then try to work up to a run. Pace yourself so you don't get tired & stop, and bring a water bottle with you. That'll work tremendously because it'll keep you hydrated. If you don't like the invisible taste of water, get flavored water, or drink gatorade. Don't drink gatorade as a replaced drink for sodas because it's mainly to hydrate you while you do things like exercising, and that's all you should use it for. And stop skipping meals before you do give yourself an eating disorder. Good luck.

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my boyfriend is will be 17 in july. and i will be 15 in june. we have been dating for a like 3 and a half months, and we are both really happy together. the only real problem is my parents. they like him and all, but they just don't really want me dating. its not even the fact that he is older, but its the fact of my just going out on a date. oviously they know him and i know his parents too, but he ust got his lisence and he wants to take me out to dinner. my parents don't want me to go in the car with him driving. there is like nothing i can do to convince them either. they automatically think he is a bad driver, just because he just got it. i just don't know what to do. i'm so irritated that i have to say "sorry, i can't my rents won't let me" every single time he freaking asks me. please, anyone with help. it would be greatly appreciated. any tips too. and don't say like have your parents get to know him better and such, because they know him. and they like him. and they know i really like him.

Talk to your parents about it. Tell them to let you go out on this date. If they're concerned about his driving, they can follow you until you guys get to the restaurant. If they don't like his driving, then he won't drive you anywhere anymore, and if they do, then the privelege is continued. Tell them that if you come back in one piece, then they should let you.

When you talk to them, talk calmly. Don't get loud, and don't get an attitude. The more you do that, the more your answer will be the same; "No."

If they don't change their minds, then just accept it. As long as you live under their roof, you follow their rules, whether you agree/like them or not.

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what is a vagina? pussy?

If you're asking these questions, you shouldn't be having sex.

I'm not sure if you're male or female, but if you're female & you don't know what a vagina is, you're either young, or nobody taught you.

A vagina is the female sex organ where you make babies, pee & have sex.

Pussy is just a vulgar/slang word for it. It can also be used to describe a cat [like a pet], or a person who's scared.

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Ok so I got my ears peirced on April 13th and I know the lady said I should wait 4-6 weeks to take the earrings out but I can't waaaitttt. Lol. I want to try all these earrings, you know? I've cleaned them the first 2 weeks twice a day like I was supposed to and now I've had them for 3 weeks. So yeah.

What would happen if I just switched earrings for a few days? Eh. I'm afraid of them getting infected then I'd have to get them re-peirced and it'd take even longer. Reh. xD Help.

It could possibly get infected & even close if you take them out even for a few seconds. Just wait the full six weeks like you're supposed to. As hard as it may be, just do it. Then you can wear all the earrings you want. Also, don't stop cleaning them after 2 weeks. Clean them EVERYDAY. It's not hard, it takes two seconds & it'll keep them from getting infected in the future.

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do you know how to make ur belly fat gone while exercising or some kind of solution?

Eat healthy. Take away junk food. No sodas, no sweets, no candies, no munchies, no fast food. You take that away & replace it with vegetables, fruits, meats & grains. Drink 8 glasses of water a day, and 4 glasses of milk a day.

Do tons of crunches, lunges, and maybe work out in a gym. If you've got a weight room at school, maybe go into school early & work out on the machine that targets abs. If you don't feel like getting all sweaty before school, and waking up early, then stay after & work out. Most schools usually lets kids do that. All you have to do is talk to your gym teacher about it & ask, and I'm sure they'll have no problem with letting you stay.

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hey
i have a question
theres this guy i like.
I dont see him alot, only about once every two months...
Hes one year older then me and he is really nice
I dont want to go out with him but i only want to leave a good (HOT!) impression
We usually chill at his house cuz their like family parties (My parents and his parents are tight friends!)
Any way how can i leave a hott impression on him since i dont see him alot?
By the way im 14/F...hes 14/m turning 15.
Thanks!

If you guys are the same age, and he's turning 15, he's only a few months older than you. Not a year. Just wanted to clear that up.

Anyways, you like him right? Affirmative. Okay, so when you see him again, talk to him a lot. Don't annoy him or anything, but try talking to him if you don't already. If you think he likes you, ask him if he does. It doesn't matter, just be straight forward about it. If he does, then go chill by yourselves for a bit & see what happens.

Exchange sns/numbers/myspaces possibly, so even if you don't see each other a lot, you're still talking as much as possible. Good luck.

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Okay i was watching High school Musical on the disney channel the other nite, and between the commericials they did some dance along thing where the cast members teach u to dance. Anyway Ashley Tisdale was on there and she looked sper skinny and i just thought that i didnt remember what she looked like. So the movie came b ack on and she is "thicker" in the movie. By no means am i saying that she was fat. Just when the dance along came back on i could tell that she was suppa skinny, Like her legs were as big as my lower arms skinny. Just wanted to kno if u guys thought that too.

Cody*

Yeah, I noticed that. As long as she's doing it healthily though, who really cares?

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Okay i use the asthma medicine Advair and i heard that it is a steroid. So does it make you fat? Is that the reason that i cant lose weight? I have stopped taking it. But iono... thanks

Cody*

I don't think so. If you have questions about the pill, either see the site, or talk to your doctor. If you're unable to lose weight, you could have a slow metabolism, but if you'd like a diet plan, see a nutrionist. =)

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Maybe that's why your friends do it. For the expressions people give them, and for the thoughts of others. Yeah, they're being immature, but honestly, who isn't? Even the maturest person in the world can be a little immature sometimes. And as it's good to be mature, it's not good all the time. It makes you seem stuck up & like you can't have fun & like you have no sense of humor.

Just tell them that there's a time to be serious, and there's a time to be silly. There's also a place for it, and it's not out in public. If they don't seem to change or at least stop a little, then they don't seem to care & they didn't take what you said into any type of perspective.

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where do guys like to be touched? where do they WANT to be touched??

It depends on the guy. Every guy is different & likes to be touched different places.

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um, well yesterday i accidentally slipped to one of my friends that i like someone, and now she keeps bothering me about who it is. and i cant believe i slipped it out.

so now, everytime i look at her, she is staring at me, and before ANYONE knew i liked someone, i would stare at him non-stop and no one would notice! but now with her staring at me 24/7 i cant really look at him or talk to him as much as i used to!!

AND I CANNOT TELL HER WHO IT IS. she will barf and she's not even one of my good friends... and i dont really trust her too much. should i say i stopped liking him? will she be even MORE suspicious, then, thinking i lied to her? or should i wait like, until monday and say i dont like him anymore (when i really still do...)?

please helpp

Why should she care who you like? If you don't want her knowing, then tell her it's none of her business. She should be concerned with her own life, and not yours. It's your life for a reason. Don't lie to her though. It'll just make her bother you about it more.

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i asked a question before about make-up which you happened to answer saying something about mascara.
my only problem is that my eyelashes and kinda short and actually slant down.
do you have any advice as to how i would use mascara?

When you're doing mascara, tilt your eyeballs upward. It'll make your eyelashes go up as well because of your eyelids. Then while doing that, stroke the mascara brush upwards.

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I have a friend who is the closest to me but sometimes when you have one friend there are other friends who come along with the territory like this girl who has been my best friend's friend longer so she likes to be around her 24/7 soemtimes I even feel like her lips or so stuck to this other girls ** it is ridicoulus but she sometimes comes on campus on weekends and I don't see her because she goes to see her and her boyfriend never me and yes i do call her at times but i always call and is topped because i am the type of ***** that won't follow and kiss *** but for so long. And, now they treat me funny and I treat them funny am I in the wrong or are we both in the wrong. Let me know if you need more info. Thanks!

Either she's trying to ignore you, she's stuck up, or she's just an ass kisser to other people.

Either way, stop being friends with her. She's not worth your time. Best friends don't do that to you.

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