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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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ok ummi do like him but really not like that i am actually moving on to his best friend named Michael and he is 20 years old! but i just dont know what to do! and he has tried to get to know me and i spent time with him alott! and im even on his speed dials! but i dont know cuz he is like ohhh i dont know if i like her because she smokes and my friend tay said i dont smoke and she said the truth cuz i dont smoke at all and i never did! so im just really confused and his friend michael also likes me to! But im not realy sure bout him but im kinda fallin for michael like alot im like trippin/ sprung ova himm!

Well if Michael likes you and you like him there is no reason to tell him how you feel. But there is quiet a age difference just be carefull let your parents know where your going when you go out with him if you choose him. Best of luck

ok well i have literally no breasts like not even an a cup and i dont think they will ever grow but do guys really seriously care if you don't because now i am going to never want to get naked infront of a guy because it seems to be their obsession. is there any way i can help myself get over this?

Most guys care about that but those arent the guys that try to make a relationship last. You need a guy that looks at you for whats on the inside the "nice guys". Best of luck

Does anyone know where I can purchase the song "Special" off of his Happy Love Sick Album.

Please don't tell me to use Limewire. I actually want to BUY that song.

Thanks.

you can try the itunes store.

ive been going out with my gf for 11 months.(15 yrs old) mostly things are good and then theres sometimes we have our fights, but who doesnt? i will admit im a little insecure at times and times when i get insecure are the times i wished i was single again when i have no one (girlfriend) to worry about. their parents like me my parents like her. its really hard to explain but for the most part everythingg is good but i guess when i start to think i miss the single days. should i be feeling any of this when mostly things are so good? if anyone my age has had a long relationship like this and broke up please explain...i also feel like i shouldnt break up because its been so long. any help will do, thanks.:-)

I've really never heard of someone feeling this way maybe its just a sign that your losing your feelings for her. I think you should talk to her about how you are feeling. Best of luck

Ok, so now my mom is getting her taxes next week and she said that if i clean the house for a straight month she will buy me a new phone. It is a kyocera strobe i realllllly want it. So does anyone no a friend that has this phone or own it if so can u tell me if its good like features (like is the cam. good, get good signal, etc.) Please send responses
P.S. it's goin to be alltel and i know they dont carry that phone anymore so im gettin it off ebay...if it helps???

Thanks in advance...
-Delesha

I found a website that has alot of info on this phone here it is
http://www.kyocera-wireless.com/strobe-phone/
when you get there click on brochure it has everything that you would like to know about this phone.

okay i dont know if this is a yeast infection but my vagina has ben red and EXTREMELY itchy and it hurts when i walk
is it a yeats infection?
and what do i do if it is?

Im sure its a yest infection you need to go to a gyno to get it checked out. Best of luck

ive been goin out with this guy for 5 and a half months then he moved without really saying goodbye i think we want to try the long distance thing but im not sure what should i do?

Long distance relationships are hard to work but if both people are committed then there won't be a problem. Ask yourself if he is worth having a long distance relationship with. If you think you can't do it then be honest with him and tell him that. If you can then tell him "lets try to make this work". Best of luck

okay so i met my boyfriend about 7 years ago and hes two years older hen me, we didnt decide to start dating until july of 07. lately he yells at me alot and trys telling me what i can and cannot do and he even has other girls before me on his myspace page, i dont know what to do. For christmas he bought me a very expencive necklace and told me he wanted to be with me for a long time and everytime i accuse him of being a player he says "if i was playin you i wouldnt of bought u anything and we wouldnt have been together for this long" [he has a bad history of being a player] so what should i do? how do i know if hes cheating? and should i leave him?

You shouldnt let him tell you what you can and cannot do thats nun of his business. As long as your not doing anything bad then don't worry about it. If he loves you then he would want you to be happy, not be holding you down from doing stuff that would make you happy. Thats not right him putting other girls on his myspace before you unless they are related. You can't tell if he is cheating on you right now just spend more time with him and if he makes up odd excusis for not being able to then thats a sign that he is cheating on you. If you find out he is don't hesitate to break up with him. Best of luck

15/f

When I was in like 7th grade, I went through depression. Like it was bad. Like, we did this thing, and like you checked how many things you do, and I checked them all, and then I went anorexic and stuff. But, I never told anyone. I had suicidal thoughts, and I tried it a couple times. But, i'm not like that at all anymore. I was just curious, do you think it can come back? err no?

No it won't come back because you had to realize that what you were doing wasent healthy and you werent getting anything out of it to stop.

Okay let me tell you my situation. I'm 5'3, 110lbs.
I know I sound quite thin but I'm storing fat on my stomach (ESPECIALLY on my love handles, which in turn makes me look big when looking at me from the front or back) I'm also storing fat on my back (which I find gross).

Here's what I want to do:
- Tone my arms, legs & butt (hopefully something that's going to make my butt muscles bulkier, therefore making my butt bigger, not smaller)
- Lose stomach fat & lovehandles
- Lose back fat and maybe work on my back muscles too.

(I know you can't spot reduce fat, by the way). I don't have access to a gym or to any weights or anything so bare that in mind.
Anyone know some exercises I can do (other than crunches, I'm doing those anyway) and foods I should stay away from?

For arms you can do push ups, legs & butt you can do leg lifts, cruches are good for your stomach but it depends how much you do i recommend that you start of doing 3 sets 25 each then every other day you pick it up a set on everything you do except push ups start of at 3 sets 15 times. As for the back i dont think there is a exercise that you can do without weights. For food just eat healthy eat salads, fruits, and protein such as fish or chicken. work out 3 times a week you don't want to hurt yourself. Best of luck

hey guys [=. i just got the KRZR and its MP3 capable, but i can't buy full songs and get them on my phone to listen to. The only way I can do that is if i record a song and add it to my playlist. Thats fine, but I was just wondering if anyone knew a better way to get full songs on there so I can listen to them? because when I record the quality isn't too great.
Thanks! :)

If you have internet on your phone go to sprint music store and type the name of your fav band.

i removed it in may, and now i am takign thyroid pills to replace the thyroid! are u serious that they wont grow? do u think i should just ask a doctor?

Im not 100% positive that they wont grow but the odds are against you because of your age at 19 you should have developed almost completely. Yes i think you should ask a doctor cuz i know it really means alot to you. Best of luck

Hey, My friend is having a tough time convincing her mother she's still a virgin (she's not).. but the problem is that the boy.. well man.. is 24 and she's 16. But, anyway, that's not the issue at stake. She was thinking about telling the gyno that her hymen was broken by a tampon, not a penis. But I'm not even sure if that's possible. Can it be broken by a tampon? Also, can being fingered break it?

Thanks so much
xo

Yes a hymen can be broken easily by a tampon or being fingered.

ok so heres the deal i am a big tomboy i love sports and video games and everything like that but my mom thinks that if i contenue to be a tomboy im going to be lesbian gosh i have had a crush on a few boys and i have never had a crush on a girl my whole intier life all it is, is i think that boys clothes are more confertable then girls clothes and i like sports so i always wear my hair back in a pony tail and i wear a hat all the time because me and my dad go golfing almost everyday ok thats all it is its not because i have crushes on girls or anything its just because its who i am thats it so what should i tell my mom the next time she gives me the i dont want you to date a girl talk. i am not intrarested in girls at all ok i do have a crush on a boy and i hate all the girls do you know why its because they all think im freaks and i have no one to talk to when that "speacil" guy comes around or if i have a problem or if i want somthing a boy cant help me with like when im having my period and my mom dosnt have any pads i cant go and ask a boy if they have any i want one friend thats a girl but i dont want a girlfriend but i dont realy want a boyfriend either but i do like them as friends and crushes but what do i tell my mom when she gives me that really stupid i dont want you to date a girl talk again i dont want to have to sit through that what do i tell her please help

You pretty much answered your own question there just repeat what you told us its pretty harsh but it will get her off your back. Best of luck

ok but will they ever grow???

I don't think they will because the thyroid secrets 2 important hormones that you need so you can develop how long ago was this removed?

ok, i am almost 19 year olds and i have no breasts, like there is only a bump, im not even an a cup. i just removed my thyroid because i had a hyperthyroid, can this be the cause of it? and its nto like small breasts run in my family, well except my mom but my sisters and my cousins and aunts all have bigger breasts:S i really hate it!!! will they ever grow or am i gonna be like this forever!!?? its really bringing down my self cofddence and i definitely do not wanna et implants

Yes removing your thyroid could be the cause of this because the thyroid regulates the rates of metabolism, growth, and development. Sorry

15/f/freshman

kay so i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for about 3 months. it's not that long i know but is it bad that like i don't tell him everything and i know things about him but like not everyyything? it seems like everytime i see someone being a couple they know everrything about eachother and tell them everyyyything. i'm kinda shy and new to the whole actual dating and going places with a boyfriend so i get kinda nervous around him but it's gotten way better. also we started "dating" like a few days after we met so i think we're still developing in our relationship a lot. thats not bad right? and i love him but i'm not "in love" with him you know like it's a friend love but a little more then that.

another question, like i said i get nervous and like can't think of what to talk about around him because i'm so afraid that i'm going to sound dumb. i'm really insecure. how do should i attempt to break that shell?

i don't know, i think it might be better now that i have lunch with him next semester, so anyone who helps, thanks a ton, i mean it =]

If your in a relationship it shouldent be that hard to trust him with the things that you havent told him. Once you do that and he does the same then you shouldent be so nervous around him knowing that it didn't make a difference to him about what you said (in a good way not like he doesnt care). About breaking the shell you just need to be more confident in the way you look and act. I know easier said then done but its worth a try. Best of luck

so. my friend and i are kinda in a big fight. and.. he's winning. i mean. he has a good reason. he called me a poser [[well, that's not the good reason]] for cutting and he said i cut to get attention or what'ev.. so like. he's really mad at me for cutting. and he posted this on my myspace.
"You're such a fucking idiot
I wish you'd fucking stop
You think you really are
But you're really really not.

You've got no-one fooled
So stop tryin to put on you're little act
Put your notebook on the shelf.
You're really fooling no-one, but yourself, in fact.

Cut the fuckin drama
I will no longer tolerate this stupidity
Seconds after reading this you'll be cryin to your mamma
I refuse to tolerate your imbecillity.

You're such a fucking idiot
You make me wanna shout
You're such a fucking idiot
Find a gun, and blow your fucking brains out.

Get out of my life
Leave me alone
Bitch, you're whack
Take that shit home."

and this....

"If you really wanna kill yourself that bad
Go a-fucking-head,
Put your finger on the trigger
Of a gun full of lead

The people close to you
Feel the same fucking way I do
Go ahead, do it, you'll fill out lives with bliss
I highly doubt you will be missed"
and it hurts
alot...

It doesnt seem like his is a good friend a good friend would help you out of this. A good friend wouldent give up on you i wish i could help you out but id need the real reason why you cut.

13/f

Okay, so me nad this guy like each other. Sounds simple right? Just go out? One problem. I don't date because I have this thing where I DO NOT trust guys. My last relationships sucked, so... And, I don't know why he doesn't date. But, I know I can trust him. I mean, he's sweet. Nice and everything... I mean, perverted, but that's me too. We're both perverted. Like, ya know? Dirty jokes? No, I would not have sex with him even if I wanted to. *shudders* Anyway, I just want to know what I should do at this point. I mean, he knows I like him. I know he likes me. We're both aware of this, but what do we do? Can somebody NICE please help me?

p.s I mean nice as in, nice advice. And, no comments about being perverted. That's me, not you. I am me. :3

I know this probably not what you want to hear but... you need to start trusting guys i know you probably where in a bad situation at once but you got to give the others a chance. If you are sure he likes you then there isent much holding you back from telling him how you feel and that you are ready to take the next step. Best of luck

23/f

Ok I have this friend Terry (26). He is a very good friend and we always have fun hanging out. And yes I do have a crush on him. We flirt all the time but it is always ALL talk. We can about literally anything. I can talk about guys and he won’t bad mouth them and it is the same when he talks about girls. Sure of course there is a twinge of jealousy when someone tries to get in the picture, but I don’t do anything about it. That is just not right. I want him to be happy. I know I have to give it time if it is meant for me and him. Sometimes I feel that it is right there in front of us but neither one of us is blind to it. Well I thought I would make a little effort on new yrs eve. My friends and I were out bowling having a lot of fun. I thought it would be cute and bought this cheesy mistletoe. Last day out of the year to get away with something like that. My friends got a kick out of it. (FYI I am sober throughout this whole thing) I also ran into Terry at the alley too and said he was going to have some people over at his house and that me and my friends were invited to come along. Well I wanted to get there before midnight but my friends just took a little longer then I wanted them too. We got there just a matter of minutes afterwards when everyone is rushing outside to light off the firecrackers. I wanted to wish Terry a happy new yr, just was a little too hard with so many people around. I finally was able to stop him in the kitchen and I had the mistletoe. I thought it was a clever little trick to be able to kiss him. And it did work; also that it was new yrs too. I felt very proud of myself too, that I took a little initiative. And we went on with the evening like nothing had happen.
Well.... turns out, there was a girl that didn't know that was kind of with him. She was almost always around him. At first I figured it was one of these young little girls (teenagers) that do have a tendency to follow him around since he is attractive. Well that was until I saw them sitting on the couch holding hands and cuddling. I felt like such a fool. If I had known they were together that night I respectively would not have tried anything. I know when to not step on toes even when it does happen to me. So I mentally tell myself, “ok I have to back off, and let it be” So the next night I am at our Tuesday karaoke Night which we always go to. Terry is there and the girl wasn’t. But we didn’t do anything out the ordinary. We still continued to banter and flirt back and forth like nothing was different, because it wasn’t. I few of us went up to his house since it was up the street. While most were down stairs, I was alone with Terry upstairs and we were talking and I made the effort to apologize for the night before for kissing him not knowing he was technically there with someone. He told me not to be, since they weren’t actually together and the girl ( her name was Jenny20 yrs old) was very needy, moving too fast and that she lived in Sacramento and had come up to see him for the night. Also said that he thought it was very cute and that he had liked the kiss.
Now what I need to know is what should I do about this? Should I just let things take their course? Should I forget about it? Am I in the right to be feeling like this? This has never happen between us. He is always telling me about these girls that like him but he doesn’t really want to start anything with them, since his last relationship really hurt him, but then he is looking for Mrs. Right and not Miss right now. And he does tell this to the girls and they seem to kind of leave the picture, not even wanting to be a friend, yet I know well enough to keep being his friend. You think he is trying to tell me something and I am not taking it in all the way? I don’t really think he is trying to play me because he does look out for me and has not tried anything. I know this is very silly but it is still something on my mind. Any advice would be great. Thanks for making it through all this.

Im sure that he likes you more then any of those girls that he tells you about. I think you should just keep going with the way things are. In time he will heal from that last relationship and notice that you are the Ms. Right for him. Be patient Best of luck

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