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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Hi there, I missed the yearbook meeting and they picked a task FOR me which is to compile list of "yearbook superlatives." One problem: I don't even know where to begin!

Can anyone give me advice on the kind of words they are really looking for?

They're looking for stuff like this:

Best dressed.
Nicest smile.
Best hair.
Most likely to end up on a reality show.
Best car.
Cutest couple.
Most inseparable pair of friends.

Someone told me that I wore my heart on my sleeve and I just stood there nodding like I knew what she meant by it but I really have no idea.

Can you enlighten me a bit? Thank you

To wear your heart on your sleeve means to be open about your emotions and to express yourself freely with no shame.

So I went in the living room after school and my mom was looking at PORN on her laptop. I totally don't know what to do about this. She is old and I don't understand why she would want to see porn. I just feel really wierd and I can hardly look at her. Can you help me get past this?

Just because someone is "old" doesn't mean that they can't look at porn. Sexuality, sensuality and a drive for passion doesn't go away just because you age. Your mother is human, and well above the legal age to look at porn.

She can do as she pleases. Just try to remember that like you, she's normal and has needs just like you do.

For my textiles course in school, I'm doing a sketchbook full of samples, drawings, info etc. on 80's fashion. I've got a few things for it, but I don't know any icons or bands that were big in the 80's. So does anyone know of any person from the 80's that would be interesting to do a section about? Like, who was fashionable and shows what the 80's were about? And any other information about the 80's would be good :)

Michael Jackson is definitely an icon. You could also try Madonna, or Blondie. Maybe even try Pat Benetar.

http://www.80s.com/Icons/index.html

I had two cats, Toby & jack. jack was taken to my moms house for a month now to get fixed and everything... a little after he left, toby has been really affectionate; i dont know if its because he needs me to be like his Jack, because they loved each other.. if not mistaken, they were lovers.. hahah, but why is it that my cat who was never this affectionate before suddenly is? he never even liked being picked up and now he can sleep in my arms..

I'm no cat expert, but I think that since Jack is gone, Toby misses the love that Jack gave him. Since Jack isn't there, he'll have to be loving towards someone else, so he's chosen you.

I think it's adorable. :)

heyyy i need some songs with deepish lyrics. about love/partying/just plain happiness.

rock is good.

thanksss :]

It would take me forever to list songs, so I'll give you the bands and you can look them up.

Weezer.
All Time Low.
Hey Monday.
Boys Like Girls.
Forever The Sickest Kids.
Anberlin.
Saosin.
Every Avenue.
A Day To Remember.
Cartel.
We The Kings.
This Providence.

Someone told me I needed to stop this eating disorder because it could kill me but I don't believe them. Then today someone else told me the say exact thing! Can being bulimic kill you or are these people just jealous cause I am a size zero while they are like size 2 or size 3 fat chicks? I think they are fatties who are hating on me.

Bulimia can definitely kill you, and you'd be surprised how many people it kills each day. You may think that girls who are size 2-3 are fat, but they're not. They're actually quite healthy. So is a girl who wears a size 5. The type of fat girl you're thinking of is someone who's around 200+ lbs.

Anyways, what you need to do is see a psychologist. You have a very hardcore perception of body image, and it is going to kill you if you keep up. You will die if you don't get the help that you need to turn your life around.

Click search to find out what Bulimia will do to you if you keep at it.

Well he is actually my ex boyfriend. I wasn't aware that I was immature. But he says that I behave like I am 10 years old sometimes (not always). That's not why he left me. He just sees me as a friend now. I am 16 years old and have never been called immature :(. Any ideas?

Either he's the only one that finds you immature, or other people also think you are but he's the only one who had the balls to tell you.

Either way, do you behave like you're 10? I think if you are, you should probably remember that there's a time & place to be goofy and that there's also a time & place to be serious. However, you need to evaluate when those times/places are. There's also certain situations to be mature in.

Say someone says they dislike you. An immature response would be: "Well, good, because I don't like you either." A mature response would be: "That's fine. You don't have to like me, and I accept that you don't. I respect that you told me personally rather than telling someone else."

You see? So, just remember that & you'll be more mature in no time. BUT, also remember that you're 16 and it's okay to act like a kid sometimes. But just know that you'll be an adult soon so you'll need to act like it as well.

Is acne contagious? Because, ever since I started going out with my boyfried who had really bad skin, I've started getting zits, and I VERY rarely get them, but there's heaps!! D:

Acne is not like a cold where if you touch someone, or touch something that has germs on it that you'll get it.

Acne is caused by oily skin and one not taking care of their skin. What you need to do is wash your face a few times a day with a skin care product, and pat your face dry. Do not rub it with the towel.

Hey, we all know that december 21, 2012....12/21/12 is a very well known date. i dont understand this that well.. i have been researching on it, i talk about my friends with it and i saw the movie 2012 already...whats your viewpoint on this? Do you think the world is actually going to end of is this a myth?

I'm so sick of people thinking the world is going to end in 2012, and Hollywood making a movie to justify that damn fear isn't helping.

I know for a fact the world isn't going to end in 2012. I don't need websites, or books, or any type of resource to tell me that I'm right. I just know.

The Mayans are not around anymore. This whole "end of the world" prediction is a faux. It's false, not gonna happen, etc. They stopped the calender at 2012 because they figured the world wouldn't go on after that. But a prediction or an estimate isn't always exact and that's what people need to realize.

Just think of it this way: The world was supposed to end in the year 2000. Did it? No. We're still here 9 (almost 10) years later. It was also supposed to end on 06/06/06. Did it? Nope. Still here. So, everytime the world is supposed to end, just remember all the times in the past that it was said to be ending, and we all survived. :)

So no, it isn't going to end, and that stupid movie shouldn't have been made because now it's scaring everyone even more than before. This whole situation is stupid. You'll live to see 2013 and so on. Chill the hell out.

What do you think of guys lip peircings? Sexy or stupid? If you think it is sexy could you say what kind of lip piercing you like on guys?

Thank you for helping me make up my mind.

I'm not a guy, but I've got my lip pierced, and I definitely think that piercings (especially lip & nose) tend to be the most attractive on men. Some guys will argue that a nose piercing looks too girly, but then look at Aaron Gillespie from Underoath. He has his nose done, and he's stunning.

There's a lot of different types of lip piercings you could get. There's the spider bite (2 piercings directly next to each other). There's the snakebite which is 1 on each side of your lip, and there's also a spiderweb which is 3 piercings - 1 on each side & 1 in the middle. Or, you can just have 1 on whichever side you like best.

Out of those, I'd definitely say that snakebites & spider bites are my favorite. I'm working on getting my spider bite sometime in December, along with my nose. :)

If you want pictures, just Google search them because it would help to make up your mind even more. I definitely hope that if you do decide to get your lip done, and you get one of those, that you're truly happy with it. I've had mine for a year & a half, and it never stops being awesome. :D

I feel kinda dumb always calling my boyfriend the same couple things over and over but I don't know what else to call him. Could you tell me what are some cute nicknames for your boyfriend? Maybe theyu will work for me too! :)

Please and thank yoU!

I use different variations of my boyfriend's name to create nicknames for him. For example, my boyfriend's name is Luis, but he goes by Lou. So, I'll take Lou and turn it into something else. These are the ones I could think of that I call him on a regular basis:

LouLou
Louie
Smooshy
Cupcake
PoopooDoopoo
Louielub

Stuff like that. You can use inside jokes with him, or just take his name and turn it into something else. Anything will work. :)

My bf fingered me 5 times this month. It was my first experience, I have never been fingered before. My period is due to in 1 day and I have no signs of it (i.e. sore breast).

My question is, can being fingered delay my period or miss it? I'm asking as I have never been fingered. Tell me pls.

Thanks

As far as I know, it can't. Stress & worry delay your period and it seems like you're a little worried.

You're gonna get your period, it may just be a little late. You didn't give an age but I'm gonna assume you're young. If you just got your period a few years ago, it's going to be irregular. It'll regulate itself once you get older. No worries.

I'm a girl and I hate chick flicks. I just think there dumb and pointless, and everyone has the same story line; boy gets girl, boy loses girl, boy gets girl back again. I would rather watch a mob movie anyday. Is that weird? My bf says it is.

I don't think it's weird. Everyone has different movie preferences. Is it weird that someone dresses differently from you, or has a different taste in music? I don't think so.

Hey, if you like mob movies or action films, there's nothing wrong with that. Who says girls have to watch sappy love movies anyway? ;) Watch your mob movies. You're perfectly normal. :)

I had a kinda embarrassing moment with my new girlfriend. She said something about howher other boyfriends were bigger than me and stuff. :(

So what is considered a small penis anyway?

Mostly I think I need a girlfriend with some manners. lol!

5 inches is the average penis size for a man, and anything smaller can still be satisfying. Size is not the pleasure factor when it comes to sex. The pleasure factor in sex is the way a guy works it. You don't need to be built like a porn star to satisfy someone in bed. Not everyone can be built like a porn star anyways.

And I agree. I do think you need a girlfriend with manners because that's extremely bitchy. Besides, if she's unhappy with your size, then she shouldn't be with you. If she loved you, she wouldn't have a problem with it.

where can you buy the acai berry supplement and the colon cleanser supplement at stores....and does acaiberry juice have good effects on weight loss?

If it's a supplement, you can probably find it at a vitamin store or any type of pharmacy. I don't know the effects of it since I've never tried it, but you could definitely ask a store associate about it & see what they say.

Hi, I'm 15/f and this is a really random question, but I was just wondering how do you respond to compliments without being cockey & stuck up, but at the same time without making things akward? Also, how do you respond to positive comments someone makes about you without seeming like you care or it really matters to you even if it makes you really happy (so you're not being stuck up)? example: if your friend tells you that all the boys think you're really pretty (in front of other people)

Just say "Thanks!" & throw them a smile. Maybe even compliment them back. :)

ill just get right to the point ......... how do you do the best bj to your boyfriend cause hes saying i need to buy a book about it!

I think you should dump him. For him to go on and say that you should buy a book on how to give a blowjob, that's pretty fucking rude of him, and he should be thankful his dick is in your mouth to begin with.

But, if you need help, just google:

We're not allowed to give tips because it could result in us getting banned. Young kids come onto this site & if they see this advice & use it, we could get into some serious trouble.

how do you get buttsex to not hurt?

If you're trying it for the first time, it's going to hurt. I recommend that you use lubrication because it'll ease the pain, but it's still going to hurt a little. It may hurt a few more times after, but definitely use lube.

It's gonna hurt regardless though.

What would you do if you know that this guy likes you and he is the GAYEST guy on earth and you HATE him?!?!
By the way: that guy keeps on asking about my feelings and talks to me...asks me personal questions which r none of his business.

First of all, calling him gay is kind of rude, especially if he isn't gay. That's a really fucked up thing to do.

Second, if you don't like him in the way that he likes you, tell him. And if he's asking you personal questions, just tell him "That's personal and I really don't feel comfortable answering that, so please stop."

I'm pretty sure he'd listen but don't be a bitch about it.

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