I had two cats, Toby & jack. jack was taken to my moms house for a month now to get fixed and everything... a little after he left, toby has been really affectionate; i dont know if its because he needs me to be like his Jack, because they loved each other.. if not mistaken, they were lovers.. hahah, but why is it that my cat who was never this affectionate before suddenly is? he never even liked being picked up and now he can sleep in my arms..
ellen537 answered Monday November 16 2009, 3:19 pm: I had two cats and one seemed to always be "my" special cat. He was always on my lap, on my shoulder, playing with me. The other cat seemed shy and like she didn't want to be on me as much. Well, the "lovy" male cat died of cancer and after he was gone, the female cat "came into her own." It was like she was in the shadows because the male cat was always on my lap and slept with me, etc. and she never had a chance. Over the last few months, she has become soooooooooooooo affectionate, in ways I never thought she could. But in the absence of the male cat, she has really become lovy. Who knows the things that go on in animal relationships or how they really feel. What we may see as shy or not wanting to be affectionate may be other things (my female cat may have seen the male as dominant and left him to do what he wanted and she stayed in the background....but without him, she felt she could do what she always wanted to do). Just my opinion...... [ ellen537's advice column | Ask ellen537 A Question ]
Athena answered Monday November 16 2009, 2:43 am: Well first of all...aaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee and maybe Toby thinks of you as a replacement cat lover or maybe he really loves you now. [ Athena's advice column | Ask Athena A Question ]
cuddlemonster answered Monday November 16 2009, 1:29 am: You obviously did something right. It doesn't have anything to do with the other cat, it has to do with you. I have a cat named Lacey and ever since the day she was born she was really timid and trusted no one. I'd only got to pet her like three times.. until she had kittens when she was about a year old. Ever since then she trusted me. I think it was because I helped her take care of them and I didn't bother her too much or anything. It just changed her view on me. Now she rubs all over me and needs my undivided attention. [ cuddlemonster's advice column | Ask cuddlemonster A Question ]
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