When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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I'll start by describing myself as I have been described by people:
I write amazing songs on guitar. I'm the best actor in my high school's theater company. According to many I'm the smartest kid they know. According to a similar number I'm extremely attractive. They claim that I'm also one of the nicest, easiest-going and can hold stupid and intellectual conversations with anyone equally well.
Okay. I'm not an egotistical selfless son of a bitch. These are things people have said to me. Here's something that bothers me: I have never had a girlfriend. I've never even been on a real date. Ever. I came close a few times, but then one girl decided to tell me yes when she really meant she didn't like me that way, and then another got as far as telling me what to tell her dad when I came to pick her up, but then changes her mind an hour later, because. No real specific reason, end of two or three weeks of getting to know eachother and whatever.
I keep trying. I generally don't like to approach girls like that unless I make eye contact and float a smile across once or twice and have one returned. Everyone else says that works, and then you go talk to them. I can't even make eye contact.
So, am I just an unlikely kid who should shut up and stop bitching and moaning, or is there some insight anyone might have here? I'm inclined to believe the first one, really. (link)
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Hey,
As i read your problem , i concluded that you are a very talented person with many amazing gifts that could give alot of entertainment to other people later on, because you could be something of a star when you grow up with your skilled acting and singing abilities.
And at the same time, it really depresses me to know that you haven't found someone to love and care about and go out with and hang out with and have alot in common with, but i need to tell you, that you can't just sit there a wait for love, because love just doesn't come that easy, but it comes when it is meant to come. i hope you understand what i am trying to say here, but i just don't want you to waste your time thinking of somethingthat could be hopeless at the moment, and right now. so just concentrate on your music and acting and stuff, and when love is meant to come, then it will come and it will come alone , you don't have to go out there and make eye contact ,smile or wink. Because this is not what will make a person fall in love with you. So just let things settle down and fall in place alone, and they will and i am sure, and one day, you will post a problem here and say that you are having a fight with your girlfreind, and asking us here on the website about what you should do about it. lol.
so don't rush things and just act natural and cool, and take advantage of what you have and thank god about it, and leave that love thing a side for now until it comes by itself.
Goodluck:)
xoxoxoxo
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My bf always tells me to ask him questions, but i never have any, i know alot about him already. can sombody give me a list (as long as possible please) (link)
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First of all, you have to know everything about him,for example:
1- his full name
2-his age
3- his birthdate
4- his parent's names
5- his parent's jobs
6- if he had sisters and brothers,and if he does, ask about their ages and the grade they are in
7- if he had grandparents or are they dead
8- his favorite colour
9- his favorite number
10- his hobbies
11- favorite food and drinks,movies and songs, actors and actresses, singers (women and men),bands
Then you can ask him things like:
1- who are his best friends
2- has he ever dated before, if yes, then why did they break up
3- did he ever make out before
4- did he ever have sex before
5- did he ever do anything that he has regretted doing
6- what is his dream in life
7- what is the thing that scares him the most
8- what is the thing that makes him very happy
9-what is his favorite place to be in and with who
10-what is his best and worst memory
I can't really think of anything else, but if you need more suggestions, or if you have any other problems troubles, worries and concerns, then please be free to contact me.
Goodluck:)
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What exactly is a hopeless romantic? (link)
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A hopeless romantic, is when there is alot of love and passion, and romantic ideas and drama in one's life, but then its hopeless because there is no one that you could give all this love to him.
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I'm a pretty girl, I'm not trying to be cocky but I'm proud of my looks. When I'm out hott guys check me out, wink, smile, or wave at me all the time. However, the only boyfriends I can get are losers. What do I do? (link)
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Hey,
I have two suggestions that i would like to tell you about . First of all, you could go over to one of these hot guys who check you out, and start a conversatoin and hang out with him, and maybe then he'd ask you out. And you would have a boyfreind which is hot an not a loser.
Other than that,you could try to care more about your personality,then your looks, because the respectable guys and mabye even some of the hot ones, usually care about the personality then the looks, because maybe they would think that you are too proud of how you look or that you go showing off your body and your hot looks. so why don't you try to show the amazing hot peronality more than you show the hot looks which you own, maybe that would attract more good-not-loser-guys to you.
Try to consider my suggestion, and if it doesn't help or if it upsets you, then please be free to contact me whenever you want.But i just want to tell you that i know whats the right thing to be done in this situation, because i have been in it before, so thats why i want you to listen to me because thats the truth.
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me & my friend.
were 14. we act grown up, more then most girls are age.
we really wanna like makeout, at her party. like, i wanna make out with this guy, that likes me & i like him & my friend wansta makeout with her bf.
but we dont wanna have everyone be like, HELLO SLUT GET A ROOM. yano?
so what can we do/say to them? (link)
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Hey,
I think that its not necessary for you to make out at the party, because you want to do this thing for yourself, and not to show off infront of people,so maybe you could wait after the party, or at any other day, and you could make out all you want, and i am saying that just so you wouldn't have to face humiliaton, emabarressent and rude comments.
On the other hand, usually there are people who make out at parties, so ONLY if you find someone else doing that, maybe you could do it too,and then you could have an excuse, that other people are making out too.
More and more, if you really want to do it, and nobody else is making out, mabye you could really find some room or corner to make out in.
Anyways, these are the only suggestions i have got, so if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me. Goodluck:)
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hi guys i have this big problem. first off, i am almost 15 & my parents are in their 50s they are very old fashioned. they only let me hang out w/ girls im only allowed to talk to boys in school or on the phone in the daytime. they always see hanging out with boys as a "date" & never let me hang out w/ my friends that are boys just because they are boys. i think this is unfair ive tried everything possible to convince them otherwise please help me pleassse (link)
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Hey,
I know that this sounds hard for you not to be allowed to hang out with guys. but unfortunately there is nothing that you can do about it.
And my parents are exactly the same as yours,they are very old fashioned, and have that concept , that guys can only be colleagues, but they can;t be friends or best friends or people to hang out with. and my parents are even more strict than yours, because i can't even talk to guys online or on the phone. So at least you have something that other people don't have.
So in this situation, there is nothing that i would say that could help you, but my only suggestion, is for you to hang out with guys and have all the fun you can have with them in school,or that when you go out with a group of friends as girls, maybe a couple of guys could come too, and you don't have to tell your parents, and if they know, you could just tell them that you met them there. Therefore, you could hang out with both guys and girls. this is the only solution, but in the same time, don't go and tell your parents that you are going out with a girl when you are going out with a boy instead, don't do that, because if they find out, you won't have an excuse then.
So try to consider what i said, and if you need any other help or advice then please be free to contact me.
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ok well my friend is having problems but i don't know how to help her. she has family problems and she just moved so she doesn't have any friends where she moved and she is having so much problems but i don't know how to help. what should i do? (link)
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hey,
I don;t know what kind of family problems they are, but either way i will tell you some steps that you can help her.
I am sure that you see her online or talk to her on the phone or something every once in a while.
So the first step to help someone, is to simply listen to him say everything he wants to say, because it gives him comfort and makes him feel like someone is there for him,supporting him.
Then you start taking each problem one by one and think of the perfect solution that you could come up with together. And if she wants to cry, then leave her to cry, and if she wants to talk, then leave her to talk, and in the same time, comfort her, and tell her that you are there for her, and that she can tell you anything she wants to say.
YOu could also suggest that she should sit with her parents and talk to them, and tell them how she feels, and how depressed she is,and so they would start to think of her an her situation, and would for sure sympathize with her, because i have been in these situations before and soon things will start to fall in place. becuause sometimes, problems just come like that out of the blue, but then again when we sit and think about them and try to figure things out, we find that the solution is right infront of us. But the thing is that your friend is really upset and depressed, which is making her blind from seeing the solutions that could help her get over this problem.
So try to think of the things i said, and help her with them. you could also try to suggest for her to make friends and meet new people, because eventually she will have to have someone there beside her which she can call her friend.
So goodluck:) and if you need any other help or advice then please be free to contact me.
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i am 13, 14 on friday; about 5 foot; i weigh 110. i know that i'm not fat, but i'm self consious about my thighs and also, i have a pocket of fat in my lower stomach area. i'm looking to lose 15 pounds. anyone have any diet/excercise plans?
thanks in advance. (link)
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Hey,
I have some suggestions that could help you lose the weight you want in about a month or less.Here are some of them:
1- YOu should go to the club every morning.First of all, run the track, then , go to the gym and consult a trainer there to show you some exercises to help you lose weight and keep you fit.
2- Make some stretches and exercises when you wake up every morning
3-Go for long walks everyday, with a friend or anyone to accompany you if you don't like to walk alone
4- Consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan consisting of the four food groups, and don't make one for yourself
5-Quit junk food, and don't eat anything that contains sugar or fats
6-You can use pilates(a set of exercises used in holistic medicine), but only if its necessary, and you failed on doing the other suggestions i recommended, and these pilates are also kind of expensive.
Other than that, you can refer back to my column, for more suggestions that could help you, but i think i already told you everything.
And if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me. Goodluck:)
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There is a guy at school that I really like and I asked him out and he said yea so then we had dinner and all that then he took me to his house and he started to take of his clothes and so did I so now were naked and he came towards me and we started to have sex and then he cumed in me and he said "oh crap" and got his clothes imeditly and ran off with his car and I havent seen him since I havent told my parents yet and I missed my period. Somone please help what should I do (link)
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Hey,
That all sounds alittle strange and tough. But either ways, you most definitely have to make a pregnancy test, because maybe accidently his sperms went down into your body, and he didn't rub it off, so that would result for you to be pregnant. But lets try to look at the bright side, and hope that you are not. So don't get to worried, but just make the pregnancy test because its necessary.
Goodluck:)
P.S: You also have to find that guy and talk things over with him, because he is in this too just like you. And if things get serious and you really are pregnant, don't hesitate, and tell your mom immediately, because you will have to tell her sooner or later.
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Alriiight SO. Theres this guy I reallyyy like and hes like totally sexy. Weve gone out before, and I dumped him for another guy. I totally regret it because the guy I dumped him for I also broke up with. I want to go back to the first guy and I think he is a little mad at me. I dont remember his number because I never put it in my phone, and he hasn't gotten online in forever. I dont know what to do. I really miss talking to him, so if he gets on what should I say to make him forgive me? I have said like I love you again and I broke up with the guy I dumped him for but we dont seem satisfied. I really want him back! What should I doooo? Thanks in advance! lol (link)
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Hey,
First of all, you were really wrong in dumping him like that, and i am sure that if you put yourself in his postition, you'd be totally heart-broken, and upset.
But i guess you already know that, so i will just cut to the chase and tell you my point of view. First of all, try to get his number from anyone of your freinds if you can. But either ways, on the internet or the phone, just go ahead and tell him that you are really really sorry and that you miss him so much and love him like crazy, and that you think that dumping him was the stupidest action that you had ever done in your life, and that you are ready to make it up to him. Then tell him, that you really do treasure and want to be with, and ask him to picture all the fun you could have together, just fooling around, making around and being there for each other. And tell him that you don't blame him for being so mad at you, but then again some people make mistakes and it takes them a while to realize how wrong they were.
So try to tell him all that, and everything else in your heart that you want to tell him, and if you have any other problems, troubles, worries or concerns, then please be free to contact me.
Goodluck:)
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okay I really like this boy but, I can't describe what I feel for him... Is it love? or just a 13 year old's crush?
TY in advance Jeni Lots Of love (link)
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Hey,
I never believed in 13 year olds who actually love,because love usually is followed by marriage, so that only goes with adults.
But in your situation, its usually to like someone or have a crush on him or admire his looks or personality. But 13 year olds and love never come in the same sentence.
Other than that, i could give you some tips to make a step forward with this guy. yOu can go up to him and get to know him better, and know his likes and dislikes, and just make short normal conversations with him. Its like your making him your friend. Then when you do that, each one of you will know if they really do like each other or not, and then maybe if he really liked you, he would take a step forward and ask you out.
But by the way, don't just get so close to him, and like him so much and be crazy about him, and then at the end, he wouldn't ask you out or something. But just keep it cool and natural and things will go smoothly. Goodluck:)
And if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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Okay, my boyfriend has been wanting to make out... but I don't know how!! I've been telling him that I've been to like third base with a couple guys but soon he's gonna find out that I don't even know how to kiss!
Can someone explain to me how to french kiss? What am I supposed to do? Is it hard? Ahhhhh!!!lol thanks!!! (link)
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Hey,
I know that it really new to you this whole kissing thing, but its really easy and you will get used to it. All you have to do, is to close your eyes, and don't worry he won't think that you look like an idiot because he will be closing his eyes too. Then into his mouth, stick your tongue inside and lick it with his tongue, and keep on doing that, it will feel great.
so don't worry ,its not big deal. Goodluck:)
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My eyes have always been normal. I was never cross eyed or had a lazy eye or anything. Well, now, when I see pictures of myself, I'm a little bit cross-eyed. Is there a way a person can get cross-eyed? Does too much time on the computer make your eyes cross? Is there a way to fix it by yourself, without going to a doctor or anyuthing (my mom told me if you hold up, like, a pen and you move it around and just follow it with your eyes, it'll help your eyes go back to normal)? (link)
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Hey,
I usually tell people in similar conditions like yours to consult a doctor and have a medical examination, just to be on the safe side and know if its something serouis or not ,but it will help you to consult someone experienced than to listen to any advice here that could be given to you.
So goodluck:) and you are free to post all the problems, troubles, worries and concerns that you want.
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I need to know where to look up information on Wilms mass, its a type of cancer of the kidneys (link)
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Hey,
YOu can have a look at that link, it has all the information you need:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilms_tumor
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how is it in egypt? i really wanna learn about it there? tell me everything (link)
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Do you really wanna know how it is in Egypt? Because i think that you'll regret asking the question when you hear this.
Egypt is definitely not the place you want to be in nor is it the place I want to be in. I don't like egypt at all , and i can't wait to leave it when i grow up. when you try and make friends, you won't find anyone but mean ,cruel, horrible, liars and back stabbers. You can't trust anyone with anything,or even tell anyone anything.
I was born in saudi arabia, and it is my real country, but then when i came here to egypt.Everything went wrong and i stopped believing in freindship, and believe it or not, i don't have one good freind that i trust.
so when you ask me whats it like here,then i will tell you that its exactly hell.
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Okay, let's get right down to it, I feel like I don't have any friends. I'm constantly comparing the amount of friends I have to the amount of friends other people have. For some reason, I always have less, and it is really starting to bother me. Also, I don't have that many guy friends that are my age and stuff (I'm a girl and I'm 14). I probably have about 10 good friends but I feel like I should have more. Is that an okay number, am I just over paraniod, or do I really not have that many friends at all? Should I make new friends and how? And pleas edon't suggest more actvities because I'm wicked busy during the school year.
By the way, I often suffer from lonlieness and depression. (link)
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hey,
You know i had that feeling once before for 2 whole years, until i came to notice one day, that i actually do have lots of freinds who love and care about me and are there for me. And that i was never lonely, but because i was so depressed i was too blind to see what i have and what i don't.
listen to me, i am sure that you are caring and loving and a great freind, and that there are alot of people out there who want to be with you, and wish to have a freind like you.
So try to forget this whole depression thing, and always look on the bright side of life, and that is the friends you own, and the people who care about you. Try to have a good sense of humour, and be loads of fun because thats what usually attracts people to you.
And try to get to know people. Just walk up to someone from your class and start short normal conversations,about something in class or the teachers or anything that you can think of, and then maybe someone would ask you to hang out with them or something.
But let me tell yo something, people are really freindly, and they always look for a good fun freind like you, so take advantage of that, and go out there and know people and make conversations with the people you know and you don't know. Just change your attitude and personatlity and this whole depression mood, because there is alot in life that you haven't seen,and alot that you are missing by sitting there thinking that you are lonely and depressed and crying and weeping over nothing, when you are actually loved by alot of people. why dont' you try and get to know people online, thats another idea, in the myspace.com site, or if you can send emails to people. There are alot of ideas on how to meet new people and have lots of freinds, but this only needs someone who is active , happy ,hyper, and freindly, and this description exactly fits you , so why don't you do something about it, and instead of sitting here and posting problems and making yourself much more depressed, then why don't you go out there and live your life.
And if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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Ok so, I've been dating my brother's friend Mike who lives in a diff. state for almost 3 months now, and we didn't tell my brother or my parents. But, my parent's found my Myspace and everything about Mike in it. They flipped out and my brother found out and got really mad. And if this one just a random relationship I would have just ended it .. but I really do love him, and I cannot live without him. I'm pretty sure I should just stay with him. but I don't know. so could you help?!? =) (link)
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Hey,
You know there is something that i have always told myself, and it really helped me alot in different situations, and that if a person really wants something really badly, then he should work as hard as he can to have it, get it,own it and achieve. And you shouldn't just sit around here and say that you like the guy, go out there and do whatever you want and whatever that pleases you, and follow your heart for that i am sure that it leads you to him.
you know, that the greatest thing is to love and be loved in return, and you have that ,then hold on to it, and fight your way through anyone that would stand in it.
You are a great person, with an amazing ,loving ,caring and truly sweet and kind personality,so take advantage of that, and use it right. And as long as your doing something right and your happy about it, then hold on to it and don't you dare let it slip.
About your brother, sit with him, and tell him every single word you just posted right now, and i can even swear, ( but unfortunately i never do) then he will be touched by what you say, and will agree for you to go on with this relationship, because all he wants is everything good for you. Then if he does agree, later on, when your parents know that you settled things down with your brother, they will be cool too, and will leave you to do whatever you want.
But whatever you do, don't give up the greatest thing that you have in your life.
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how do you get stys? you know those scab things on your eyes or bumps on ur eyes that hurt! please and thanks! (link)
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For more information that could help you learn more about stys,check the website
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stye
It will help you alot. So goodluck:)
and if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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ok-
I'm f/13 and almost everyone aroungd where I live isn't virgin from age 11/up My friends and I are witch includes 2 boys- I was wondering, since alot of people(except parents) think we are wierd, Do you think it's wrong to be virgin? (link)
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There is completely nothing wrong with being a virgin, your free to lose your virginity whenever you want to, and maybe you just haven't met the guy that you would like to do it with him. Besides, you shouldn't care what other people think about you, because you are most definitely not a freak or weird just because you are a virgin. So have some self confidence in yourself, and dont listen to others, but just do what you want to do and feel comfortable with.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other help,then please be free to contact me.
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you know what stys are right? well i think i have them. they are like all over my eyes! i have like 3 on one side and 1 on the other and one or two are going away but theres still some you know? well i was wondering how do u get rid of them? (link)
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Hey,
yes i know what sys are, they are An infection of the sebaceous gland of the eyelid, and all the advice i can give you is that its necessary to consult a doctor, and to get medical treatment,because not just because one or two went away,means that your eye will be okay. You have to consult a doctor, because he will tell you the right medicine to take, and he will know more than anyone 's advice here on the website.
So goodluck:) and other than that,you are free to post any problems ,troubles, worries or concerns that you have. And if you need anything personal, then please be free to contact me.
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