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Feeling Friendless
Okay, let's get right down to it, I feel like I don't have any friends. I'm constantly comparing the amount of friends I have to the amount of friends other people have. For some reason, I always have less, and it is really starting to bother me. Also, I don't have that many guy friends that are my age and stuff (I'm a girl and I'm 14). I probably have about 10 good friends but I feel like I should have more. Is that an okay number, am I just over paraniod, or do I really not have that many friends at all? Should I make new friends and how? And pleas edon't suggest more actvities because I'm wicked busy during the school year.
By the way, I often suffer from lonlieness and depression.
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hey,
You know i had that feeling once before for 2 whole years, until i came to notice one day, that i actually do have lots of freinds who love and care about me and are there for me. And that i was never lonely, but because i was so depressed i was too blind to see what i have and what i don't.
listen to me, i am sure that you are caring and loving and a great freind, and that there are alot of people out there who want to be with you, and wish to have a freind like you.
So try to forget this whole depression thing, and always look on the bright side of life, and that is the friends you own, and the people who care about you. Try to have a good sense of humour, and be loads of fun because thats what usually attracts people to you.
And try to get to know people. Just walk up to someone from your class and start short normal conversations,about something in class or the teachers or anything that you can think of, and then maybe someone would ask you to hang out with them or something.
But let me tell yo something, people are really freindly, and they always look for a good fun freind like you, so take advantage of that, and go out there and know people and make conversations with the people you know and you don't know. Just change your attitude and personatlity and this whole depression mood, because there is alot in life that you haven't seen,and alot that you are missing by sitting there thinking that you are lonely and depressed and crying and weeping over nothing, when you are actually loved by alot of people. why dont' you try and get to know people online, thats another idea, in the myspace.com site, or if you can send emails to people. There are alot of ideas on how to meet new people and have lots of freinds, but this only needs someone who is active , happy ,hyper, and freindly, and this description exactly fits you , so why don't you do something about it, and instead of sitting here and posting problems and making yourself much more depressed, then why don't you go out there and live your life.
And if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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The amount of friends you have isn't important!! as long as you have some people you can trust and have a good time with, then you're lucky!! you don't need more friends or new ones either. you just need to realize what a good thing you have and take advantage of it!!
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you dont need many friends. your good friends, are your close friends i think the more friends you have the more you got to be watching them because sometimes your cant trust them
if you feel as if you need more friends. then just go up to some girls and guys that seen friends and you would like to get to no.
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Im 14/f too. I have plenty of friends but to me, all you need is one good friend. One friend you can trust your life with, can tell anything to, shop with, be yourself/stupid with, and be as comfortable with them as you are alone. Its not about quantity, its about quality. If you have 1 good friend, you're set. Who cares if you have ten friends... do you really think you can trust them all? Do you think they are all honest with you. If you can't answer those questions then you know they arent worth it.
HOPE I HELPED <3
sincerely, Abby
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In this world, you'll be lucky enough to have one good friend. Ten is a really good amount of friends to have, some people have lots of friends and a best friend, and some people have only a best friend and a couple of other friends. All you need is one person to be there for you and to support you and you're set for life, you don't need a huge group of friends to make you happy. Hope I helped.
P.S: There are a lot of people out there who don't have any friends, so people who have 1, 2, or even 3 friends are really lucky because they have someone there, but think of those without friends- aren't they lonely and feel left out? Usually their answer is yes.
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considering the fact that you're already busy during the school year! (and i applaud you for that - way to be involved!) people would LOVE to have 10 good friends in their lives. you don't have to compare the amount of friends other people have. when you're at your activities, try to be more outgoing and make it your goal to get to know some people, start a friendly conversation here and there. when school starts, make some friends with a couple classmates. having 10 good friends is fabulous! (: but you can always get out there & make new ones! making new friends isn't easy, everyone knows that, all you have to do is don't think about what they'll think of you and just be yourself! the friends you make should like you for being you (: i'm sure you'll have a LOT of friends! on the other hand, your suffering from loneliness and depression - during the weekends or whenever you're not busy, call up your friends and see if they want to hang out. for me, sometimes i make online friends (i.e.: myspace, xanga, etc.) they could be living in a different state or a different country! but it's okay, just keep in touch here and there. and hey! i'll be your friend =] feel free to IM me or email me or anything. i'll be glad to have you as a friend (: remember, smile! =]
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