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Ok, i really like the song "Fall for you." I heard this song on the radio and i was like i really like this song, because i had never heard it before. Do they have a cd? When did they start getting popular and everything? thanks!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secondhand_serenade

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my boyfriend and i have been together for about a year. yet we havent really done anything. we are both mature and all, but im not sure. i like just talking to him more than doing stuff. we arent shy around each other or anything, he knows i never want to. but i feel bad for making him miss out. even though he says he's okay with it, he would just like to do more. eh :/ what do i do?

Don't do it if you're not ready. You will regret it. You aren't behind for not doing sexual acts and he isn't missing out. If he says he's ok with it, he's ok with it. And if he wasn't okay with it, that wouldn't mean you should do it anyways.

Talking with a guy will get you much further in a relationship than anything physical will. A relationship must be built on trust and understanding, not on sex. Your relationship is probably much more stable than your peers'.

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16/f what are fun things to do when you hang out with friends at home.. when my friend comes over, my mind goes blank lol. [something besides video games, movies, make-overs, nails...]

-Cook
-Go on an adventure around your neighborhood, street, woods surronding you, ect. It's not as boring as it sounds
-Dance
-Make random videos
-Make random videos of you dancing
-Set up sprinklers and run through them
-Internet shop
-Listen to awesome music
-Clean your closet. But in an awesome Sex-and-the-City montage kind of way. Like try on all your old clothes and have your friends tell you if it's worth keeping or not.
-Go for a run
-Board games!
-Tan on your roof
-Spend the entire day outside
-Make a band. For instruments use random household products. Ex: for a drum use a tissue box and wooden spoons.
-Make a clubhouse/fort/other thing a five year old would make
-Take pictures
-Put on transvestite make up and then take pictures
-Have a picnic
-Make a pink lemonade stand and donate all the proceeds to a breat cancer fund.
-Tye-dye clothes
-Have a bon fire
-Write a song
-Have a garage sale
-Take the chapstick
-Put it on your lips
-Make other Vampire Weekend references (or refereneces to another music artist)
-Prank calls
-Water balloon fight
-Climb trees
-Hit on the ice cream man
-Watch TV
-Ride bikes
-Ride bikes with no handlebars
-Order pizza for Dominos and time the delevery guy. Bitch at him for free pizza if it takes more than 45 minutes

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i absolutely LOVE shoes.
any kind and just this past year ive been liking them. i definetly look good in them because i have a good style.
but see the thing is im white-ha ha- and i live in a town where all of my friends are a diferent color. and i just dont want them to think im posing as anything or something. its jsut my style.
no one has told me anything about it. but
can u tell me what you think they think of me?

We can't tell you what they think of you because we are not them. I doubt they think any differently of you than they did before. It's just shoes.Also style is something only a few people possess. If you were born with it, work it. If others don't like it, they quite apperantly lack the style you're luck enough to have.

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im going to ninth grade next year and im knida happy but i cant get over the horrer stories i heared of high school and i want to know is it really bad????thanxs

No. I personally love high school. In most places, it really is nothing like what you see in the movies. There may be a popular clique, but they really don't target a "loser" to torment. I'm not sure if your school has "Freshmen Friday" or not, but in most schools it's just something seniors make up to scare underclassmen. Believe me, it's a fun four years. For added fun join as many clubs as you can to meet new people. Avoid the silly drama, and your high school experience will be wonderful.

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Okay so I've been awake for going on 48 hours here. I'm a tiny bit tired but everytime I try to go to sleep I just lay there for hours. I'm not into the whole taking sleeping pills thing so what other things can I do to fall asleep fast?

Don't say exercise, change your diet, don't eat heavy meals, and don't drink caffeine before going to bed because I've already tried all that. I just can't sleep. :/

You may want to see a doctor. Fourty eight hours is quite a long time to stay up without purposely trying to. You may have a sleeping problem.

However, if this is not the case count sheep. It sounds dumb, but it does work. Furthermore, eating heavy meals actually will make you tired. Specifically, eat turkey. A chemical fond in turkey and other poultry makes your sleepy.

Also give these a shot:
http://www.wikihow.com/Fall-Asleep
http://www.wikihow.com/Fall-Asleep-when-Your-Wide-Awake

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15/m
i have a weird question if a girl put a cigeret in her pussy could she quefe and blow out smoke

No. And please, don't try this at home.

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I want to be famous, I love to act and sing. I'm not that great at singing. I would love to be on Broadway but I don't know if I would make it. I don't know what to do with my life. I'm 14, so I want to take high school classes that will help me in what I want to be. I love fashion and everything but I don't know what to do any ideas?

Take choir at your school.
Take an acting class there.
Join drama club.
Join any clubs involving vocals.
Get a vocal coach.
Join fashion club at your school. If you don't have one, make one! Someone recently started one at my school and I'm learning how to sew =].

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okay so does nick and selena have a thing...
and does anyone know if they will be at disney world for christmas? thankkssss

My lanta, Nick always seems to be going after another Disney Channel star! Anyway, currently, they have not confirmed this, as the person below me said. They very well may have on,but are trying to keep it out of the public eye. Browse through TigerBeat and whatnot to keep up on the JoBros gossip.

As for Disney World, I sure hope those poor boys won't be there during Christmas. They deserve a break. However, they usually are invited somewhere for New Years so keep an eye open for any announcements about that.

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13/female

okay so i like this guy and hes 18 and my parents dont approve. i see age as just a number. and hes not the type that just wants some. so how do i get my parents to compromise with me?

I'm going to be honest. At thirteen you should not be dating an eighteen year old. Whether he wants sex or not he is way more physically, emotionally, and mentally developed than you. Your parents aren't going to give in my dear. Yes, boys are immature at your age, but eventually you will find someone right for you.

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so i cannot stop thinking about this one guy and i really just want to stop thinking about him and just get him out of my life.. that sounds really stupid but eh its complicated he's really out of my league.
how do i get him out of my head.
and stop thinking about him before i go to sleep.

Oh the ageless problem for girls!

It's been said before, but occupy yourself with different things. Pick up a new hobby. Learn to sew, draw pictures, read a book, become involved with volunteer work, get a job, ect. Hanging out with friends more is not always the best idea because they may bring him up in conversation.

The best thing I can tell you is time heals all wounds. As the days go on you'll start to think about him less and less. It's hard, but you will find someone else.

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There's this boy I have known since 1st grade and we've dated three times now and we just broke up a few months ago and I've moved on but I can't seem to get him off my mind....I'm still in love with him....and i don't know if he feels the same about me....what should I do....someone please help me!

If you still love someone you should not surpress that. Tell him you still like him. If you never tell him, you'll never know if he feels the same way.

If he feels the same way, try the relationship once again. However, I stress that this should be the last time. It's only going to hurt you if you do the on and off thing too many times.

If he doesn't feel the same way, quite obviously, it is time to really move on. Occupy you time with something else, and you will eventually forget about him.

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13/f
Ok im going into the 8th grade and i have never had a boy friend. It's not like im realy lonley or anything. It's just at school and stuff I always see my friends with their boy friends and I feal left out. And when me and my friends go to the movies or mall they always bring their boy friends and I hate not having one. I'm not ugly or anything either but guys never ask me out and im way to afraid of being turned down. I know im only 13 but my friends have ben in many many relation ships and i dont mean like a week they always go out for a while and that makes me feal so inexperienced. What should I do?

Darling, I know you're probably tired of hearing this, but you don't need a boyfriend to make you happy. Sure, you could just go out with anyone, but is that really for the best? When you find someone you truly like and they truly like you, you'll realize it was well worth the wait.

Besides, regardless of what kids these days are doing, it's silly to be so commited at thirteen. When you're young you should be meeting lots of people; you do not need to be tied down by a guy you'll break up with in a few monthes.

And if you're still worried, remember- once you stop looking for a guy, you'll find one.

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My friend has smelly ears.. how do you get rid of the smell..

Its the smell like if you ear is infected by your earings but she doesn't wear any ..??

WHat should she do ..??

She should see a doctor. It could be another type of ear infection, and, unfortunately, we cannot diagnose her over the computer.

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would you rather love a loser or lose a lover and why?

As Razhie stated below me, it really depends on what your perception of a loser is.

If you buy into the highschool definition of a loser, it is much better to love a loser! The "losers" tend to be the real winners. They have hearts of gold and are more interested in getting into your heart than into your pants.

However, if you mean a loser in the sense that a lover is treating you poorly than lose the lover. You do not need them.

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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...

Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.

He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!

I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...

Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...

Well, I'm kinda weak, so I don't exactly beat guys at arm wrestling and such. No upper body strength :].

But, I have beaten guys at sports such as field hockey, soccer, dodgeball, basketball, and a few others. No, I may not have been the best example for this question, but girls can be just as competitive as guys!

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13
f
8th grade

I was not sure what category to put tis under so i am sorry.

well i am going into high school next year and i really want to figure out what i plan to go with my life.
I will tell you somethings that I enjoy and please give sugguestions about what my carreer options can be,

i love writing.
i love animals.
i love the ocean.
i love helpig others.
i love to come home and relize that i changed. helped people/ the wold.
i get mostly A's and some B's.
i love God.
i would like to work around christian people.
i love bringing others tord god.
my favorite subjects are art, math and science

thank you so much in advance

There are many career tests online that you can take they may help you figure this out. However, you have time to figure out what you want to do. You're interests may, and probably will, change in high school.

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Okay, well my hair is like meduim length, just over my sholders, and i wanna know what would be a cute hair style that i could get, i don't want it too short, cause i don't like having short hair, and i also kinda want it a little "emoish" or whatever you want to call it.. any ideas would be great!

The best thing to do is search photobucket or another site for pictures of hairstyles you may like. Bring these pictures to your hairdresser so they can see exactly what you want.

Examples:
http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi31.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fc388%2FCutiepa2tie50%2Fhairstyles.jpg&searchTerm=cute%20hairstyles&pageOffset=8

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi165.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fu58%2FANGEDUFU%2FHairstyles%2Ftom_carson_JC_49.jpg&searchTerm=cute%20hairstyles&pageOffset=2

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi143.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fr135%2Fkerix3syou%2Femo-hair.jpg&searchTerm=emo%20hair&pageOffset=14

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi198.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Faa243%2Fparamore94%2Femo%2520hair%2Fhair.jpg&searchTerm=emo%20hair&pageOffset=2

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi37.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fe75%2Fpaige-son%2Fhair%2Femo.jpg&searchTerm=emo%20hair&pageOffset=17

These are slightly generic. Try and find something more orginal and cooler.

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Can two kids: one boy and one girl go to the movies as freinds anymore??! Not according to my parents, they said one thing leads to another and i even assured them we were just friends.Trust me on this one, i would never ever think of my friend ted as anything more then a friend. Were like best freinds! But i dont think he will understand. My parents think im too young to be ging to the movues with boys alone. they said maybe a group of friends might work.
im just so confused ive tried everything. please help me

What's so bad about going with a few more friends? Asking a group of friends to come along is great! Sometimes it's actually more fun than going with one because you have so many more people to talk to. Your parents rules are rules, so it's senseless to bother them about changing their minds if you really have tried everything. If you really are just friends I highly doubt it would bother him if a group of you went together.

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Ok i just want to know peoples opinions on these types of things. Do you believe in them? Do you think they actualy work? just whats your opinion on them?

While they're fun, don't take them seriously. Your horoscope or whatever can't control your life. In this crazy mixed up world, you make your own luck; not some freak telling you your future or a cookie =].

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