Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
I'm nowhere near perfect. I'm a busy girl,so I don't have much time to get on as I used to. I'll hit you up immediately if you inbox me.
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why do you get discharge? (link)
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It naturally cleans the inside of your vagina so you dont really need to dry it out with soap and stuff.
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My hair is really curly!! But i luv straightening it but it takes forever! Is there any products to help me! I rate good!! (link)
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If you get a straight perm at a salon it lasts a long time, but it hurts a lil bit.
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when a guy asks you to a dance..how do you nicely turn him down? (link)
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Say this.
"No thank you."
and go get yourself some food.
Works all the time.
Hope I helped!
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hey well i have really annoying nails, and normal nails are hard and don't bend, but my nails bend! and they always start peeling and everything, and it's so annoying! and everytime i get a manecure or put on nailpolish, it comes off in like 2 days!! my nails are sooooo annoying! do any of you know any way to help these problems or why this keeps happening?! also, i have hyperhydrosis, which is something when you have really constant sweaty hands that never go away, so do you think this might have anything to do with it?
please help i rate high! (link)
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My nails used to come off in layers that you can peel off. Try some nail hardener products, I find Sally Hansen nail stregtheners best. You need to find a doctor to help with the sweaty hands problem, but if you take a little baby powder and rub it on your hands that may help a little bit with the sweat, because I sweat a lot everywhere and baby powder helped a lot. Good Luck!
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Well for about 2 weeks so far I've been skipping breakfast and lunch and only eating a snack and dinner.My wrists are really skinny but my moms are 2.And my friends are really worried about me.They're always trying to shove food down my throat.What could happen to me if I keep eating this way? (link)
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I'm not gonna put any of my opinion into this so i'm gonna answer this plain and simple. You will be very unhealthy and most likely will die. You NEED to start eating normally.
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if you havn't had your period yet and you have sex can you still get preganat? (link)
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yes. If your ovulating you can, because ovulation doesnt always mean your getting your period. If you get cramps because your ovulating you could get pregnant.
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only choice left is to say goodbye ive just takin 7 ibuprofen so this is my last good bye
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I usually don't answer a question this way but...
WTF????
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how can i tell if this guy likes me cause some days he'll give me a hug or tell me hey then some days he wont talk to me.. can you plz help me ??? (link)
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The guy, is confused. If he's IGNORING you, then he may not like you, but if he just doesn't talk to you, he may like you, or he may be confused.
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I never got my period yet I'm 13/F.
Every so often (Like once or twice a month) I get these cramps that make me want to cry and I have to sit or lie down when I get them. When I got home from school today I got them and its excruciating pain I mean like bad enough to cry over. These cramps hurt SO bad. It feels like someones stabbing me and slowly pulling the knife out and torturing me. After I get these cramps I can't walk anywhere for like an hour. Do you think I'm going to get my period soon. (My mom got hers at 10) (link)
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I got cramps the day before I got my period.
Cramps dont nesesarily mean ur getting your period though...and they usually arent suppost to hurt that much, unless its genetic. Periods happen after all the normal stuff in puberty. check to see if you have any of the following:
1. vaginal discharge
2. leg, underarm,and pubic hair
3.Breasts
If you have these, your period will come soon.
www.puberty101.com
it may help a little bit.
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i started my period around the first of august. like the 2nd..about.. for the first time. its september now & i havent started yet this month. will the date i start this month be the date for every month ? ?? help me out w/ this time date stuff (link)
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the first times you get your period it will be irriegular, so dont be surprised if it hits you by surprise.
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If anyone can give me some real answers to this...
Know the differences between Luthern, Protestant and Catheran views on salvation??
I have to answer it tommorrow for an essay question so I need Help fast!
Ill rate 5 for real answers (link)
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Basically every religion has the same beliefs, but the ones you listed basically are normal Christian religions but they dont pray to virgin mary, and they are really strict on strictly Bible stuff.
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hey heres my story:
im 18 yrs old and in love with a 24 yr old man! my story starts like this, hes my manager at my job and iimediatly had an instant crush on him but me i dont have that much confidence in myself so when he satrted to show intrest in me i panicked and backed way and brought in a freind to go for him, but the only thing is that the friend is actualy me! the real me that i would like to be but dont have the confidence to be! i made up her name and a whloe life for her(me).and called him pretending to be this person! everything was going so well and my emotions got stronger and the more we talked the more we had in common! i ended up fallin totaly head over heels in love with him and decided id tell him and low and behold he felt the same way! and of course he wanted to meet! i didnt know wat to do! i thought for days and days as to wat i should do and finaly decided i should tell him the truth! that the women he was in love with was me!.... well when i told him over the phone he seemed fine and didnt wanna talk about it just wanted to put it behind us and told me that he could never trust me agian! and im the type of person that trust is important to me and it broke my heart to hear that! so anyway the next three weeks passed by and evything was fine he was nice and called me to talk like friends he invited me to places with him and stil comnfided stuff with me! we were all cool then he hit me with a song he had wrote! he had origianly wanted me to hear it but my comp didnt have speakers so he sent me the lyrics! it was amazing lyrics it touched my heart but he didnt say that i was for me! so i read it he imed me like 20 times asking me if i had recived it and wanted my reaction! once again i panicked and retracted my emotions and played it as if i didnt understand the message he was trying to convey! like i liked the song and wanted to know who the artist was (knowing that he wrote it). he immediatly signed off! then greated me at work with a big smile the next day and asked me once again if i had recived the email! again i backed away! and now so di he! he wont talk to me as much anymore and insist on makeing me jelouse with the other female employees! meanwhile im standing hear with all these feelings and dont know wat to do! im in love with him so much it hurts i cant take it anymore he keeps telling me that my apolagies just arnt enough!can u pls tell me wat i should do! it hurts to have these strong feeling twords someone and not be sure that they feel the same way! i want to go back to when i was the real me!( wich he named lola)
sincerly,
lola( the real me) (link)
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Well, it's bad enough you had to lie about who you are, but things like this backfire and come back to kick you. If this guy is trying to make you jealous and he claims he was in love with you and he's treating you this way, even saying that he won't trust you again, he obviously is confused, and so are you. If you still love him, you need to talk to him, and actually show intrest because if your willing to open your heart to this guy you cant be shy, because love isn't shy, so you need to take time to try and get him to trust you because you can shatter trust a lot faster than you can build it. If this doesn't work, he's not worth it and and you need to go out and find a guy, maybe closer to your age, that actually loves you because this guy may not.
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I am 14/f (freshmen in high school) and going out with a 16 year old guy (also a freshmen). He has had his first kiss before and made out with girls. I have never had my first kiss so i am afraid that i will do something wrong or not know how to do it. Any tips i should know? (link)
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www.virtualkiss.com
this may help a little bit.
Good luck!
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I am 14/f and i am 5'6'' and i weigh around 160 lb
(my scale isnt accurate...)
but people ALWAYS mistake me for around 140 pound
and i know i am fat...ohh harsh me.. i mea overweight. but i do try to lose weight.
i exercise regularly. every monday wednesday and friday (it was on health magz that its not good for you if you exercise everyday when you get older) anyways so i lost 10 pounds around already yes i know i was even fat loser then.
and i dont eat alot, although i snack sometime like eating desert like little bit of ice cream but not a lot.
so what is normal for my height and weight and my age? and how can i get my self to stay exercising?
because during those times i been quiting in and out and technically i only exercised for a month
or 2. so its pretty good losing 10 lb in those month because i dont want saggy skin...talk about ew. no offense... to people who do have those ...
anyways and i am thick in the leg. and arm... and i cant do lifting dumbels anymore because i kinda got hurt from that...
so how do i get my legs to be slender?
and keep on track and any tips on losing weight faster?
please i need help ! i havent had a boyfriend ever! i know people say its not about what's on the outside becaue then its not true love or stuff but i really want a boyfriend and i WANT to look good for him (well future bf ) and i want to feel better about my self...
so please help me (link)
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Yea it is. Your height is perfect on your weight, just on the borderline of being overweight, and since you don't eat much, don't worry. Just slow metabolism. Just remember to exersize ocasionally.
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hi, ive been going out wih my girlfriend for like 4 months now. we are in love. now i know what your gonna say, its only been four months. well, screw you. if your gonna say stuff like that please dont answer, because you dont know the whole story. anyway, im a virgin, and i want us to make love. i am waiting until i am sure who i want the first person to be, and ive found her. im not nervous of i or anything, but i want to know it is a good idea. I mean i love her, i really do, and i dont want things to get screwed up because of this. shes had sex before, so she warns me that you can take back your first time, and i know that. but im sure, i just want outside input... thanks (link)
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Wait untill marriage, cuz she's right. You can't take back your first time, and when your older you may regret it, because even studies show if you wait untill marraige, you'll be getting it better and you won't regret things at all.
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i am almost 14 and i weigh 140 pounds i am 5'4 and i need a way to loose weight. i am not good at stay to a diet so i need something easy that i could find around the house
it is summer and i need help fast!!!!! i rate (link)
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Don't bother loosing the weight. Xenical orilstat's bmi chart says you are completely normal, and plus, i'm the exact same weight and height as you, and i'm younger! 13 to be exact. I'f you really want to, do crunches after you eat food. It makes you look good in 2 pieces and slimmer under clothes and it really helps you loose weight.
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Anyone know any really good acoustic songs? (link)
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Anything from India Arie. She is really great.
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okay. i need to talk to someone and none of my friends can really help. my parents are divorced and i dont see my dad very often. i live with my mother who is an alcoholic and gets pissed off easliy. today my brother and mom got into a huge fight. she is now gone, i mean she just left. i called her and she said that she just needed to be alone. she hasnt returned yet, and i dont know what to do. i am only 14 and my brother 11. she is most likely going to come home incredibly drunk and when she is drunk life just sucks... i dont know what to do anymore because i am just sick of it. this isnt the first time she has just left...... (link)
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Tell someone. Your mom is very irresponsible, and is under no athority to take care of you. You may need to call in a relative, maybe your dad or the police because this can escalate into things worse.
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why does my vagina itch. hmmm. i dont do anythin nastry with myself but i read this thing and she did nasty stuff and and had problems with that... but i dont do that. my vagina itches and i dont like it!! PLEASE HELP. thanks (link)
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Do you shave down there? That may be the problem, because most peoples vaginas are not dry, and don't get exposed to air, so when you shave, it itches. You could just be getting itchy warts down there, but not the std with warts, but just warts. Use vagisil or summers eve and wash down there. It should stop by then.
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how can i get my self estem back (link)
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Look at yourself. Look into yourself. Think about 50 thinks you like about yourself. Walk with confidence. Dress with little concern about what people will think, yet still look decent enough for somone to say "hey I like your shirt" Make friends who care about you, then look at all that you can and have acomplished, and look at yourself as someone with worth. Listening to positve music usually helps. Distance yourself from people who look down on you, and remember to smile!
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