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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Does anyone know a website that I can buy sports posters that are large in size.

Also...i'm redoing my little brothers room...he's 14 and a sports finatic. ANy Ideas?

There's this site on TV that I saw that sells like life size posters of sports players. If your brother is really into football, find out his favorite team & buy him some.

I think the site is www.fathead.com

I may be wrong, just google it though. Also, if you can't buy those posters -- paint him a scene on his wall if you're good at that type of stuff. If you're not, then that's cool too. Ask him what he wants you to do & to guide you so it's everything he's dreaming of. If you do it alone he might not like it..

hey i need some advice.

i like this boy, who is my really good friend. i really like him ,and a lot of my other friends do, who are also good friends with him. i know he doesn't see me as more of a friend(well im pretty sure) but i really like him. what do i do.

o btw, im 12/f

thanks!

You have to be 13 or older to be on this site.

Anyways, if he doesn't like you, you have to accept that. You can't make him like you, and his mind is set. You cannot change it. There are plenty of other guys out there to like. He's not the only one. Besides, if he doesn't like you, that's his loss.

Theres this guy, and he told my friend that hes gonna ask me out tomorrow. How do I accept? Thanks!

Just say yes & smile. =)

I have to read this book for schoo, but I'm too lazy. How do I motivate myself to get this done? Thanks!

If the book is interesting, you'll wanna read it. Just sit somewhere quiet, or sit outside on your porch or in the grass and read. That's usually what I do. When I do my summer reading, I sit on the deck to my pool with my feet in the water. It's calming, and helps me to concentrate on my reading.

why are pimple red?

It's because they're irritated.

so theres this boy today who just asked me the dance and as a gf! i like him but im not sure if its there!

how do i no?

Just give him a chance. Give it a while & if you don't seem to feel anything for him, then break up with him.

i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and i am really in love with him. but the thing is that i got offered a modeling job in california. and i dont know what willhappen to us. he doesnt want me to go but i really want to. i dont want to give it up and i dont know if he is just tesing me or what i dont want to lose him or this oppertunity what should i do he is also going to college on the east coast next year and i will only be a junior

Is this modelling oppurtunity a once in a lifetime chance? If not, then maybe you should pass it up. It could always come along again. If it's not, take this chance! It may not come back to you, so definitely take it.

Long distance relationships are not something I recommend. You're a junior in high school. He'll be a freshman in college. You meet new people, you move on. Sorry to break it to you, but the chances of you guys staying together are slim. Though you love him & have been together for a while, once distance is an obstacle, things change whether you want them to or not.

Don't let your boyfriend tell you not to go. Do what you want with your life. Do what makes you happy. If this is something that is going to make you happy & that you seriously wanna do, then pursue it. Don't let anyone hold you back from it.

well im a quiet guy. 15/m by the way. and the other day me and a few freinds drank...a lot. and i got pissed, nd i started to pee on one of the streets, and according to somebody, a really popular girl from school saw me, and told her freind "he's(me) disgusting!!" so yeah, should i be freaking? and what do i do if she tells everyone!?

Dude, you were drunk & couldn't control your bodily functions. If she tells anyone, then she tells people. You can't stop her. But shit happens, you can't control what happens next.

I really hate rap. My boyfriend loves it. Some of the songs are alright I guess. I'm trying to be more open to it. Any song suggestions for me?

Song on the left, artist on the right.

The Way I Live -- Baby Boy Da Prince.
Poppin My Collar -- Three Six Mafia.
Doe Boy Fresh -- Three Six Mafia.
Walk It Out -- DJ Unk.
Throw Some Ds -- Rich Boy.
We Fly High -- Jim Jones.
Ooh Ahh -- Grits.
Mr. Jones -- Mike Jones.
This Is Why I'm Hot -- MIMS.
Hip Hop Is Dead -- Nas.
Lost One -- Jay-Z.
Girl -- Paul Wall.
I'm A Flirt -- R. Kelly ft T-Pain.

what are some symptoms of depression?

I did a paper on it for my Pysch class, and I've got depression, so I can tell you exactly what they are:

-- You don't eat a lot, at all, or you eat too much.
-- You sleep too much, too little or not at all.
-- You're always exhausted.
-- You've lost interest in things you once loved.
-- You isolate yourself from friends/family.
-- You tend to have suicidal thougts which you may sometimes act on.
-- Low self-esteem.
-- You abuse alcohol/drugs.
-- You don't feel like talking.
-- You experience sadness that has no reason to happen to you.
-- You can have physical pain with no actual cause for it.
-- You lack energy.
-- You can't concentration, & find yourself angry for no reason.
-- You start feeling guilty, worthless & useless even if you've done nothing wrong.

If you feel 5 or more of those sypmtoms for a period of more than two weeks, then you may be depressed & should see your doctor immeadiately. Talk-therapy helps as well as medication, so you should try that.

this weekend i was with my brother and some of his friends and we were all driving around in my new car a 2007 escalade. I was driving adn it was raining and late at night and i have only had my license for about 3 months. we were coming around the corner and hit another car totaling mine and theirs. right away my brother took the blame for it and told me not to worry about it since he has been driving for a few eyars now and wouldnt get in as much trouble as i would. since the other car didnt see i was driving it worked out fine but now i feel awful that he took the blame for this but i know that if i came forward my parents would kill me. what should i do?

If you feel this bad, the best thing for you to do is fess up & deal with what's thrown at you. You cannot change what happened, and you obviously can't lie about the situation since your conscience seems to be eating at you.

Even though you'll get in trouble & your parents would kill you, it's better than your brother getting in trouble, right? Just do what you think and know is right, and deal. I'm sure the trouble you'll get into won't be major. Besides, everyone makes mistakes. It'll all blow over soon enough & everything will be fine.

i used to be pretty good friends with this girl i met this year, and then we got in a fight, and i havent really talked to her in the past month, though we're in a couple of the same classes.

its a long story, but i'll just say a little. like i guess we clicked because we were both in the school's musical, and our characters were together alot. so we became friends, and once we had a little fight, then we became friends again, and we never spoke of the fight again.

then, like we sit in the same table for Health, with 3 other girls. Then soon after health started, and the last marking period (im in 7th grade in middle school btw) she's been acting strange around me. she's like making it seem like im not part of the group and acting like its a joke.. and im like "im part of your group" and shes like "no you arent" and stuff.

i didnt get why she didnt want to be friends with me anymore, because it was so sudden. also, i didnt know how to handle it because i've never lost a friend before like that. usually i lose some friends because i dont see them much anymore, but i hardly ever got in to fights with my friends. i was distressed about this, which caused me to get poor grades on two tests i had after talking to her, and her getting to me.

i know i shouldnt care so much about it.. but i guess its the past now, and i cant change it. and I can forgive easily, but i dont forget. anyways, the main problem is that in health, i dont really wanna sit at that table anymore. i only sat there for that girl, and also another girl (lets call her Jane) who was also in the musical with me, and who i hung around with at alot gym for the 2nd marking period. I thought we were really good friends, but it seems like we're drifting apart.

I'm mad, because that girl who i thought i was friends with (to make it less confusing, lets call her Susie) seems to be malipunating(SP?) Jane and the 2 other girls at my table, to not like me. Two of them I was already not friends with, but before the fight i was okay with them. one of them was like a social outcast before, and i was generally nice to her, but now she's being accepted by the people at my health table, and i seem to become the outcast.

like i've already said, i felt real bad about it. like we have group projects where we talk about stuff, and Susie is like the "boss" and the other girls listen to her, and when i say something else, they act all mean and dont want to listen to my opinion.

I asked Susie why she was mad at me, she wouldnt tell me, so I asked one of my friends to ask her, and she said that I kept hanging around her, and interrupting her when she talked to other people. Okay first of all, i didnt hang around her all the time, and when i did, its because i thought i was her friend, and when you see your friend, you dont just ignore them, you go over there and talk to them! and for the second part, its a bad habit of mine, but she should have told me before.. she never mentioned it, so i never really noticed. my other friends just accept that im like that, though im also trying to change it so its not too rude, since i am kinda impatient.

so then at the table, after sitting there during the last 5 mintues where we were allowed to talk freely, quietly, and seeing as the other people at my health table giggled and talked, I asked her if she wanted me to sit at that table. She said no. I asked the other girls, and they said they didnt care.. even Jane! They said that they were just gonna agree with what Susie said! I cant believe that.

so then i asked my other friend at a different health table if i could sit with them, and she immediately said it was okay. but the next day i felt kinda weird at just leaving the table.. i wanted to, but i wasnt ready. i didnt just want to join the table and then the other girls be like "why is she sitting there?" i mean, im generally friends with them, but they're kinda more popular than i am. not that im like terribly lacking self esteem or anything, its basically a fact, and im not THAT spontaneous to just do that without thinking.. (though i do speak before i think sometimes, thats different).

so then i asked another girl i was friends with at that other table if i could sit there, and i told her that i wasn't friends with Susie anymore, and she said it was okay too, since it was a free country and all. so then the next health day i took the risk and sat there. There are 4 seats at that table, but normally 6 people sit there, since 2 other people add chairs to the side. Adding me, that's seven. i thought there may not be enough room but one of the girls sat at a diff table. i thought it was because of me, but my friend at that table said that she was in a little fight with one of her friends. (atlease she made up with her!)

when the other girls from my previous table came to class, they asked if i was gonna sit with them, and im like "Not today!", and that was that. i didnt even glance over to that table even though i wanted to see Susie's expression.

anyways, do you think i should continue to sit at my "new health table" for the rest of the marking period? i really want to, because the girls are funny and i'll actually enjoy sitting there than my other place. but.. like.. do you think they'll find it weird if i start to sit there everyday? or should i just screw the possibilities and sit there anyways? and should i make friends with Susie again?

like this is another thing that happened. i was sick and going to the nurse during spanish class, and I asked one of my friends, who's also friends with Susie (they were walking together to spanish, like always), if she could tell the teacher that i will be at the nurse's office. While I was saying this, Susie was like "NO, NO, NO, NO, NO" repeatedly, with a little grin on her face as she said this. I said "i wasnt talking to you" very professional, and my other friend said she would.

however, we had a field trip to go to some place, and i talked to that friend of Susie's & Me again, and they were partners for that trip, and all of a sudden Susie started talking to me. im like.. what the heck? how could she forget what happened before? i just played it cool and acted like myself though, and not like "HOW COULD YOU ACT LIKE THIS WHEN YOU DIDNT EVEN SAY SORRY ABOUT BEFORE!".

i dont even know if i should say sorry or if she should. or should we both? she hurt my feelings.. im not sure if i hurt hers and i kinda dont care.. i hope she doesnt feel the same about me. but if she doesnt apologize i dont think i can fully be her friend again.. should i even bother?

should i sit at that seat for the marking period in health? should i try to be friends with Jane again (I really liked being her friend before)? And please say other things that can help me.. just be happier!

i mean im normally a happy, energetic person, or i just keep things bottled up inside me all the time, so it seems like it. how can i also make myself less shy, and more like self assured?

Gosh you guys are saviors. whenever i have a problem i dont know how to fix, i always think of asking my mom, or advicenators for help. i love this site.

Whoa, you have an exciting, dramatic life. And a long one! With that said:

No. You shouldn't bother. If Susie doesn't wanna be friends with you anymore, then there is nothing you can do to change her mind. And why would you wanna be friends with her again? She's bitchy, rude & mean. If she didn't wanna be friends with you anymore, she should've just told you instead of ignoring you that way.

Don't say sorry. What do you have to be sorry for? She is the one who ditched you, turned people against you, purposely didn't include you, & couldn't even say things to your face. You did nothing but try to find out what the hell was going on. You were the one who tried to fix things & get your friends back. You were the one who tried to make things work.

Also, don't be friends with Jane again. If Jane is gonna go along with whatever Susie says, then she's just as shallow & stupid as Susie is. Why wold you wanna be friends with someone like that? Honestly, forget them both. Sit with your new table, become their friends & just be happy. You're so much better off without Susie & all those other girls. Trust me when I tell you that.

ok, so im 14/f and theres this guy whos gonna ask me out tomorrow. hes my first bf, (gonna be), and how do i say yes??! also, what do we talk about in class, and how do i act?? thanks!

Just say yes. You don't have to say anything special, just say "sure." When talking, talk about anything. Music, movies, friends, school, family, home, work [if you guys have jobs yet], & sports. Anything that comes to mind. It could be totally random, just say it. As for how you act, hug each other, laugh at his jokes & your own jokes, hold his hand, smile at him. =)

Someone who I trusted so completely, who I could tell anyting too, and I adored with every fiber of my being told me that she doesn't care about me anymore, or how I feel. We faught occaisionally, but all friends do. But these past few weeks thats all we had been doing, so I told her how I felt. Everytime we faught it was because my opinion wasn't the same as her which meant: I was ignorant, I didn't know anything about the world, and of course I was wrong. I'm so tired of being always wrong, especially when its just an opinion or belief. I wrote a long letter explaining how I felt..begging her to treat me right. She told me all she could give me was apathy. Later when I tried to sort things out with her she told me I was nothing but a drama queen...like I was stirring up crap for no reason. She said she didn't want my forgiveness because she believes she didn't do anything wrong which means - suprise! I'm wrong again. She said she didn't want to make peace with me. She didn't care about me anymore. In her eyes I'm nothing but a self rightgeous idiot. It couldn't have hurt me more if she had just killed me herself. How after being friends for a year she can treat me this way, I do not know.

I invested everything in her, I loved her...she took it all away. I've never felt so hurt in my entire life. I suppose I do sound like a drama queen..but I don't know how to describe it. I've been crying for the past three days..I've never felt this way before.

She doesn't even care what shes done to me.

I try to keep myself busy, but as soon as I stop it just hurts again. I can't sleep anymore because I can't stop crying. I haven't slept in over 40 hours. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to feel better. I don't know how to stop hating her for what shes done for me. I don't know what to do. I just...don't.

Somehow I think shes not worth my time..not anymore. Shes not worth my tears or my thoughts, but I can't help it. Any help would be appreciated. thanks.

and yeah its long, sorry.

I'm not going to diss your friend, & tell you how horrible she is, because you obviously already know. But you need to accept what she's done to you. Like it or not, accept it. There is NOTHING you can do to change her opinion on you, so the best thing to do is to just move on & accept yourself. You're not in the wrong, she is.

Your friend will learn. Not everyone is going to agree with her. Not everyone is going to like her, and not everyone is going to accept her. There will be people who challenge her & make her wanna scream. And I hope she meets someone like that. She deserves to get a taste of her own medicine. Seriously though, don't let this bug you so much. There will be someone to come up & give her everything she's been feeding out, and slap her in the face. Move on with life, and don't worry about her.

I am 16 and a junior going into my senior year.
I am homeschooled and I have also recently skipped a grade.
I'm afraid to graduate, I don't want to be considered an adult. I am afraid to grow up, I don't think I can handle the responsebility yet.

I am also having problems deciding on what I would like to do with myself for the rest of my life. Universities, jobs, where to live, wether I want to run away from my parents/past and never see them again as soon as I am old enough or not, etc.

Someone give me some encouraging words?

*I am being picky this time; I don't want some 'know-it-all' fifteen year old girl that has raging hormones telling me what universities to check out or how I should probably see a psychiatrist. I want an adult with maybe a few suggestions for my troubles. Maybe a quote I could remember to keep myself going.

...because right now, I just don't feel like hanging on.

First off, some kids know what they're talking about. Not all 15 year olds are stupid & "know it alls." Not all of them are like that, but some are. Don't judge the whole group from just a few. That's not giving people a chance.

Anyways, lots of people are afraid to graduate & move on, but it's life. There is no holding back, and you have to take exactly what it throws at you. Ready or not -- that's the fun of the experience. It teaches you a lesson as well.

Some kids don't know what to do with themselves for a while. Some kids go to school for a certain major & then do something in a completely different field of work for their career. College is there to help you figure out exactly what you wanna do with life. But when you do something, make sure it's something you love. You don't wanna have some mediocre job that you hate, right? Whether pay is good or not, loving what you do seems to be most important.

Don't run away from your parents. Besides, they've taught you & helped you to grow [I'm assuming they have, or they would be horrible parents]. They're the reason why you're here, and why you're going to pursue what it is you're gonna pursue. I can't tell you what colleges to go to, where to live or what jobs to get, but I can tell you that life is going to throw you lots of shit, and whether you're ready for it or not, life doesn't care. It's gonna hit you anyways, and you need to accept it.

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How in any way was this a smart ass answer? I gave you an answer which you asked for, and I think it was good. I wasn't being a dick to you, so get over yourself.

Does anyone have any reliable natural remedies for migraines? I don't like taking medication and the tablets don't work too well anyway.

I've seen the doctor and there's not a lot else that can be done, so I need to look elsewhere.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.

If you don't want any type of medical treatments, this is the best I can suggest:

Lay in the dark. Take a nap. Don't move too much. Don't have any type of lights on, and try to be in a very quiet, comfortable place.

Other than that, I can't really do much for you. Even though you don't like medicines, try Excedrine Migraine. It has a really powerful formula that's made for what you're dealing with, and they work rather well. My brother loves them.

what does that mean??

It means that the person is outgoing, ready & willing to do anything life throws at them.

I've always thought that guys liked big boobs.. but I just found out that my friend likes big butts WAY better than boobs. Why is this? And is it like this for most guys? Also, why do guys like legs so much?

It's different for everyone. All people like different things.

"je suis votre mere. votre pere. votre frere. votre soeur. votre predicateur. votre professeur. votre amour. votre ami. Garcon, je serai tout et quelque chose que vous avez souhaite."

what does that mean?

i got...

i am your mother. your father. your brother. your sister.

This was taken from the Translation section of dictionary.com:

FRENCH VERSION:
"je suis votre mere. votre pere. votre frere. votre soeur. votre predicateur. votre professeur. votre amour. votre ami. Garcon, je serai tout et quelque chose que vous avez souhaite."

ENGLISH VERSION:
I am your mother, your father, your brother, your sister, your predicateur. your professor, your love, your friend. Boy, I will be all and something which you have wishes.

15/f okay. I already have one piercing on each ear. And I really want a second one. Not a cartilige (sp?) but like another piercing on each of my ears. However, my dad won't let me get one. No matter how much I beg him, he will NOT let me get one. I was just wondering, if a person would be able to do it her/himself? Did anyone here do it? Does it hurt? Can there be an infection if proper medical treatment isn't used? Thanks in advance :)

I did each of my piercings on each of my ears. My brother did my first piercing, and then I did the 2nd, 3rd & 4th myself.

I could potentionally get in trouble for giving you this advice, but I'm willing to take that chance.

If you want to pierce yourself, there's a kit you can buy at Wal*Mart. Or, you can just buy a piercing earring. I used that, and it worked well. Don't use needles or safety pins. Those were not made to pierce you, and you shouldn't use them to pierce yourself.

But, I'll tell you how to do this in steps:
Step 1: Mark a dot on where you want the hole to be.
Step 2: Numb your ear with ice for at least 30-45 minutes. The more you numb it, the less you will feel it.
Step 3: When you feel that your ear is numb enough, and that you will not feel the piercing earring go through, put it through.
Step 4: Proceed to take it out slowly so it doesn't hurt, and then quickly put the desired earring into your ear. You have to do it fast so the hole you've just made does not close.

Although you're doing it yourself, there is a chance that your ear will become infected, or you might pierce it too close to the egde of your ear. I did that, so now I only have 2 of the 3 piercings I did myself, and I have a weird looking right ear because the earring ripped out. [Since it was too close to the edge, I didn't feel it rip out.]

I can't tell you if it will hurt or not. Pain is different for everyone. My cousin doesn't feel anything. When she broke her arm, she started laughing. She honestly didn't feel it, and she was the one telling her mom to stop crying. As for me, I can feel pain, and I don't like it. So basically, what might hurt to me, could tickle to you & vice versa.

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