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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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How high does the building have to be to guarantee death?

Why would you ask a question like that? There is no reason for you to know that. No one is going to answer that question seriously. Sounds to me like your having thoughts of suicide. Please talk to somebody that you trust if this is the case.

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My parents are sooooo retarded theyve blocked almost every site known to man, im surprised this site aint blocked, but anyways the block is a
Library Web Filter by DansGuardian, this message pops up:

"B L O C K E D
Access to
WHATEVER SITE
has been denied.

You are seeing this error because the web site or file you attempted to access contains material, links, or language that has been deemed to be inappropriate for viewing at the library.

Block Reason: Weighted phrase limit exceeded OR
Banned Regular Expression URL found

Please contact a librarian if you think there has been an error."

DOES NE ONE HAVE NE IDEAS OF HOW TO DELETE OR UNBLOCK WATEVER IS DOING THIS TO MY COMPUTER.

I know of a few ways to get passed that sort of thing. That is unless the school blocked it, but I'm still able to get on certain sites through this. I doubt your parents know about it. Theres this site called http://www.ninjaproxy.com or try http://www.polysoftware.com

Theres a place where you type in the site and it will take you to the site by connecting to another server outside of where your at. Just don't try to be looking up anything really inappropriate.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok, me and my exboyfriend broke up about 3 months ago. We went out for about 6 months and he was literally in love with me, or as close as it gets anyway. I broke up with him and he wanted us to still be friends and he was really depressed and stuff. Eventually, no one at fault, we just drifted away and he started hating my guts for no reason. So, the other day I was on myspace and I decided to message him to appologize for whatever I did that made him hate me. Then, just today, I found out he got a new girlfriend. He told her about it and she's threatened to kick my ass and he's laughing at me and the whole school thinks I was pathetic enough to come crawling back and try to break him and her up, which I wasn't! And no one believes me, probably because I just broke up wit my current boyfriend. I have absolutely NO feelings for my ex, I was just thinking about how good of a friend he was and that it would be cool to be like that again, but now basically the whole school is bugging me about it. His girlfriend is actually on probation for beating up another girl and i'm terrified. I didn't mean for any of this to happen, and I feel horrible and guilty and terrible! What should I do??? Please help!!!

Yeah I know what you mean. I would be scared too! Wow! If someone were to ask me about the whole situation I would not even give them the satisfaction of telling them about it. Just let them believe what they want. Telling them what they want to hear won't do anything any way. And as for the girl; I doubt she'll seriously even do anything. Odviously you ex is trying to make yuo jealous. He sounds like a total fat head. It's not your fault. Your probably a very attractive girl and have a lot of guys after you, and he's probably miserable and trying to make you mad so your not happy. If she does touch you in anyway, tell an adult right away, but like I said before, I doubt she'll really do anything. I had an ex who was so upset when I broke up with him, he took his brother's car, went for a joy ride, and almost killed some people. She probably learned her lesson if she was really in juvy before.

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok so people told me that all 3 of the presidential candidates are Christian but (not trying to offend anyone here) how can you be a Democrat and a Christian?? Democrats are for stem cell research (using developing babies for science!! thus killing them, etc.) and they are for abortion (basically murdering a baby) and they are ok with gay unions and marriages and such. i mean those things definitely go against God!! its right there in the Bible!! im NOT trying to offend im just truly puzzled by how they can support this when it is so clearly not the wish of God. thank you :)

Hun I truly don't believe anyone is really for abortion. They just believe it's a women's right to choose what she wants done. I personally could never have one, but I don't believe I have the right to stop someone else from having it done. It's like this with the conservative side. They care about the fetus (the unborn child in the women's stomach) as soon as the baby is born though, basically it's on it's own. Really no health care is provided for the child and unless their willing to adopt the child I think men should keep their mouth shut on the whole issue period. And with gay marriage, honestly does that really affect you as a person? As long as gays and lesbians aren't around me, I could care less. Yeah let them get married. It's not their fault there like that. A lot of people will become gay if they go through molestation or if there raped as a child. Or simply they may be a man in a women's body for the fact they have more male hormones. Same with the female side. And for the bible? Honestly I don't believe a word in it. I believe it's made up. Honestly I don't see how our "soul" is going to go up in the sky when we die so we can see everyone of our loved ones again. I believe it's all make believe fairy tale land if you want my opinion. And with the stem cell research well... Abortion hasn't been banned yet and until it is why get rid of everything that's left. My dad has cancer and I wish they could find a way to help him.

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dottie4

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what, and when is the best way to off yourself, like the fastest and easiest (without a gun cuz i don't have one) i've tried almost everyway (but a gun obviously) but i always get caught in the act please help me. even just telling me household items to mix for instantaineous death (sorry can't spell) and don't try to talk me out of it my whole life people had tried to talk me out of it and it makes no sense i have nothing going for me everything sucks my family hates and abuses me, i have no friends, my soccer team sucks, i suck, please help

I doubt that everyone in your family seriously hates you. But please don't kill yourself. It won't solve anything. It will just make the people that love you very depressed. I know how you feel and I bet everyone has had at least one time in their life where they felt like it was the end of the world. I really don't know what makes you feel this way, and I wish I could help you more. If you message me, I will talk to you. Everytime I see someone who feels this way I also give out my myspace http://www.myspace.com/kaci001.

Please contact me if you ever need someone to talk to.

xoxo,
dottie4

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so i was holding my boyfriends hand yesterday and like i guess you could say he falls into the stereotype of punk.. and like he always wears arm sweat bands but on his wrist and it was moved up onto his arm yesterday and i happened to look down at his wrist and theres like scars .. i saw 3 on 1 wrist and then i looked at his other one and there was 2 does anyone think maybe this is just a coincidence?? or do you think there from cutting like im so confused and i really hope he didn't but like its just ironic how its there what should i do? i dont think i should address him about it but.. i just dont know ah help?

I wouldn't suggest asking him unless you truly do feel your relationship is strong enough to with stand something like that. After all they are scars and you can tell if their fresh or not. If you really do want to know because you do care about him just ask him in a nice way away from people and in private. Ask him whats up and make sure he knows you really care for him and thats why your asking. Cutting is something a lot of people do to cut out everything that's really going on around them. It helps yoiu think about physical pain you inflict on yourself rather then facing the situation that's in hand at the time. Make sure that if you do ask him about it to tell him that whenever he wants to talk that you'll always be there for him. If he does come out and say that he cuts just be sure to tell him that you are there for him %100 and hope that he stops. It seems like you are just generally concerned about him, which there is nothing wrong with.

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok..i am almost 16 and i dont want to sound like a slut or anything, but ive been fingered quite a lot, about 10-15 times (not all by different people) and every time it hurts, some more than others. at first i thought it was just them being bad at it but now i know its me. when will it stop hurting? ive only had sex once and of course that hurt.

I doubt it's actually you. You just need to be with someone you feel comfortable with to do things like that. Sex however is a different story. :3 That can feel good if you do it with anyone. However it's better after you do it a lot and if it's with someone you feel comfortable with. And you are deffinetly not a slut. A lot of people at your age do WAY more then what you have done. Big deal you've been fingered. And yes eventually it will stop hurting. You probably just need to relax and do it somewhere where you know for sure no one else will come in. And of course sex will hurt the first time you do it. Ask anyone whos no longer a virgan. It hurts like hell! But after you do it a few times it feels better. I'm apoligize if I didn't give you the exact answer you were looking for but I answered as thorough as I could

xoxo,
dottie4

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do emo kids get made fun of a lot?

Yeah they do. Emo is just another sterotype people put on people who are different. Basically people just make fun of them because it's a rumor they may cut when really it started out as a type of music and style. For example; goth was a style for people who wanted to rebel and wear black and dark eye make-up. Basically emo is the same thing except they may wear there hair in front of their eyes. (yeah stupid I know.) I've been called emo before only for that reason which is really lame.

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dottie4

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is it all that bad? i have MANY MANY friends who are teenage parents and they just say oh i love my baby and i dont regret having it. and blah blah blah. they make it seem like its the best thing. i want to know what its really like. but i dont dare ask them because i know they wont tell me the bad things. so what did you go through or going through? do you honestly regret keeping it and all that? I DONT MEAN DO YOU REGRET YOUR BABY! because i know that its your child and you love it so you wouldnt regret that but if you could go back in time would you change things?

I personally haven't had a baby. I'm 17. Though I've seen my sister who became pregnant at the young age of 15. Whether they want to admit it or not, it is a very hard thing to go through. My sister has gone through so much from her husband leaving her and yes (she was married at only 16 years old) She doesn't regret her baby. She loves him with all her heart but I've asked her more then once about the whole issue. She does say she wishes she would have waited until she settled down, found someone who she was in love with, and worked on her career. She's went through a lot of things. At 16 and being a mom it's hard to do anything you want to do. When your friends are out having a good time, your at home running around after a little rugrat. Not that I don't want to have kids, I love kids. I'm waiting until I find someone I'm in love with and settled down doing something I love. My sister still struggles with bills and being able to hang out with friends.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I do not know where to start but to make the long story short i hate my self and my life I am 25 years old i am not capable of having any kind of relationship cause I am the person you want call when u r having bad times however I am never there when u r having good time. Moreover,I finished law faculty but hate it so never practiced.I have done my master degree on something else, event management, but hate it as well. Right now I do not know what I want to in my life. So I have start to think best thing to is commit suicide....do you know the easiest and quickest way to do it.

I'm sorry I'm so late answering this question, but as soon as I saw it, I knew I couldn't just not at least try to help. You seem like you have so much going for you right now. The last thing you should be wanting to do is end your life. I may only be 17, but I've felt that way that you did or maybe even do now more then once. I've been through a lot of crap, and although all these things I've went through dragged me down, I was able to bring myself back up from them. I've went through a lot from physical abusive boyfriends to mental abuse as well. Thing is you shouldn't let others dictate your happiness. Suicide won't solve anything... trust me. I had a friend who killed herself and it is a very painful thing to go through. So whether or not you think your appreciated, you are to someone somewhere and killing yourself won't solve a thing. Once your gone there's nothing you can do. And so what, you may not have a relationship right now, but I gurantee you will. Your only 25. You still have a long fullfilled life ahead of you. You seem like a very intelligent strong woman. If you ever feel this way again you can write to me, and I will do my best to help you through it. Or you could contact me if you have a myspace... My url is http://www.myspace.com/kaci001

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok so... there's a guy and I just realized I liked him last night. I kind of took notice as to how cute he was before, but now I completely notice. He's really nice and funny and he even put his arm on me last night :] well, his family is really involved in our church and stuff and they keep kind of a short leash on their kids. He doesn't have a cell phone, or even an AIM. so, i like him a lot and I dont know how to get him to notice me as more than a friend. And I usually kind of rely a little on the AIM/texting/calling kind of thing. so help please!

Invite him to hang out with you and a few of your friends somewhere.This may sound corny but invite him to come with you to McDonald's or something, maybe even just a movie. Just get to know him as friends first, then make your move. If you move to fast you'll scare him off. That's what I think you should do.

xoxo,
dottie4

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14/f. alright, i have this friend okay. let's call them jen. i am hopelessly in love with jen, but she has a boyfriend and it's apparent that they are happy together and that jen doesn't want me. she told me -- however -- that she had the same feelings for me, but was afraid that if we were to get into a relationship, that would ruin our friendship and she could never live with herself. she doesn't understand how much i love her, though. i'm always thinking about her, talking about her, writing about her, singing about her, drawing her.... i just can't get her off my mind. but my baby has other feelings.... feelings towards her boyfriend and i don't know what to do about it :( the little kisses she gives me here and there.... the AMAZING hugs i get from her.... just seeing her, it all makes me feel so warm & fuzzy inside, it makes me feel so special.

so.. any tips....?
i'm terrible with romance relationships, and i just wanna know what to do :/

thank you in advance, loves.
i really need it.

Just tell her your true feelings. That's all you can really do. I don't mean to burst your bubble but if she doesn't want to be with you, there's not much else you can do. However to make it really special when you tell her how much you like her get her in private and sing a song you wrote about her or something. Maybe even write a poem and actually give it to her if you haven't already tried that.

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dottie4

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this is really gross and i dont want to have to go to a doctor unless i absolutely have to. i have a small bump on the outside of my butthole. its soft.. it feels like theres stuff in it. every once in a while, when i go to the bathroom, it bleeds somewhat. its not a lot, because it doesnt rub off on my underwear, but it comes off on the toilet paper when i wipe. what could this be and is it harmful?
THANK YOU!

It's probably a hemeroid. (A boil that grows in the anus) Yeah gross I know, but a lot of people get them so don't be freaked out. All you can really do is use Preperation H cream on it. You really don't need to go to the doctor for them anyway. There's not really anything they can do for it.

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15/f
So basically I have this wonderfully amazing boyfriend! I love everything about him, he's just so perfect. But last night I had a dream about another guy. I hate this guy but in the dream I was in love with him. Does this mean I'm cheating? Or that I don't really love my boyfriend as much as I thought???
I'm so confused.

No it doesn't mean your cheating on him. Everyone has a weird dream every once in a while. It's just your brain activity... It means absolutely nothing. I wouldn't let it bother you.

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dottie4

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does anyone wash their face with regular soap anymore? or is there a special face soap you use or facial cleanser?

You could use regular soap, but it will probably dry out your skin. It depends on what kind of skin you have. If you have are blessed with no skin problems (lucky you I'm jealous) then yeah it's ok to use regular soap. Just use some moisturizer afterwards. If you do have some dry skin I'd use Noxema. It works the same and it's just as expensive as soap. lol :]

xoxo,
dottie4

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Okay so I was with this guy name well lets call him charles and well we were together for three years from 6th grade till 8th grade and he was my first love...well he caused me alot of drama when ever we would break up and I have even been in a huge fight because of him but evertime we fight we still end up talking again now he is the first guy I ever did anything sexual with so me and him always have that little dirty thing between us well its been like a year since we talked and he saw my mom in the store and decided to call me well now we have been talking for like 2 weeks and Im happy but my mom dosent know about it cause she really dosent want us talking...well he has a girlfriend and I told him I had a bf when i really dont well I just want you opinon cause I kind of want to have sex with him but IDK what I should do

What you guys shared was probably really special at one time but if he wanted to have sex with you he would break up with her to be with you. Odviously he's moved on and you should to. I'm sure after you get out there and meet some new people you'll be over him completely. I'm sorry I didn't give you the advice you were looking for but I think it would be wrong for him to cheat on his NOW girlfriend.

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dottie4

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I am wanting to play guitar at some coffee house and im trying to get some songs that i can learn that do not involve vocals, so i can play them there. I'm looking for things that are maybe calm, and acoustic with 1 or 2 guitars. Maybe jack johnson or john mayer?
I want something soft and easygoing sounding (as in the feeling not the difficulty.)

Anything by Ben Harper... Honestly Jack Johnson would have been nowhere without him. There like best friends... Check him out. He's freaking amazing! ^_^

And maybe some Bob Marley- No women no cry. Its a pretty song to play even without lyrics.

And my favorite Jack Johnson song is I know.

Possibly some Dave Matthews- Gravedigger

Maybe some acoustic the White Stripes- Their acousitc stuff is amazing

Bob Dylan------- Basically all his stuff is acoustic

Black Rebel Motorcycle Club-Complicated Situation

Friend of the Devil or Ripple--Greatful Dead... Even though it's old, people go crazy on it

The Band------The Weight

4 non blonds---What's Up... Depending on whether or not your a female or not... :3

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dottie4

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Please help me find a song about how you HAVE to move on from someone. thanks.

Rhianna-Take a Bow

Bleeding Love-Leona Lewis

Untouchable Face- Ani DiFranco

Sleep to Dream- Fiona Apple

Get Him Back- Fiona Apple

Don't Think Twice it's Alright- Bob Dylan

No Woman No Cry- Bob Marley

Ramble On- Led Zepplin

Trouble- Pink

You Oughta Know- Alanis Morisette

Apple Blossom- The White Stripes

Never is a Promise- Fiona Apple

I Know- Jack Johnson **** My favorite****

Use Me- Bill Withers

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dottie4

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okay so on wendsday me and some friends were supposed to go to a trip. and the teacher gave us a slip and all of my teachers signed it and they think that i am going to this trip but then my other teacher told me and my friends that its full and we cant go. so all of my other teachers think that i am going to the trip so i wont be marked absent. but me and my friends were thinking about going to eachothers houses or the mall or something nothing is going to happen to me. but i feel bad im not your typical cutter. i really dont want to go to school though i dont know what to do. help me. what would you do?? i feel guilty coming back from school and my parents asking me how school went. but i really wanna go and take some risks after all you only live once!.

I wouldn't do it if I were you. Most likely you'd get caught and think about it... Is it really worth the risk? Eventually your parents would probably find out anyway. So yeah... I wouldn't do it. There's other ways to take risks besides playing hooky. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Well im 14 years old. and a female. and theres this guy i like. whos in my grade. and we see each other everyday. and we are always textin each other. well i just started likeing him and he knows i do. all my friends always say stuff to him. and hes friends with my brothers. they tell me he likes me back. and he told me he liked me too. but if i he does then wouldnt he ask me out already. we always flirt. when we see each other smile. everyone says he likes me and that we should go out. but i cant figure out why he wont ask me out. do you think i should ask him out?? or wait for him too. i just dont know what to do. i really like him and i want to go out with him. i just cant make up my mind. Helpp!!!! thanks :]]

He's a guy. They can be like that. He's probably just really nervous and thinks you might turn him down. Not that I'm saying you will... A guy I went out with in the past, it took him 2 wks to get him to ask me out. I would just take him somewhere private and just talk about everything. Doing all this in person is better then doing it over the phone. Trust me. And if you do get tired of waiting for him to ask you out, which the way you described it just sounded like he does, then just tell him you like him a lot and wish you had a boyfriend that had the same qualities he has. He'll deffinetly get the hint. Guys are seriously blind when it comes to this sort of thing. It's like you have to spell it out for them. I LIKE YOU! LET"S GO OUT! lol. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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