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i do feel weird writing this but im scared and need to no well lately if been having weird thoughts like heaps scary, like a crazy person wouldi think im going crazy sometimes i hear things and not sure if they were there just everythings gone weird from one night i was smoking pot cause i no what being stoned feels like and its not this i been smoking it for a few years now im just paranoid and stuff about like evereything and dont just blame it on im stoned because it fees differnt all thats in my head is death anything to with dying like not me i dont want to kill myself but like me already people dead or some one around me going to die
or that there not really there that there just in my head please tell me what you think

If you smoke pot for a long time, you will be paranoid in the long run so i think it's kicking in now. i'm not one of those people against smoking either, i just know thats one of the things that's been proven true about pot. my suggestion would be to stop before it gets worse.

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Well tonight, I gave head.
It wasnt my first time or anything, than after that he stuck in me for like literally 5 or 6 seconds, and then i jumped off.
He deffinetly didn't cum at all,
and then I finished giving him head and after a long time ,he finally finished and i swallowed a tiny bit of it.
I know there is a risk or me being pregnant but is there a very high risk or a low risk?

You cannot get pregnant by swallowing cum so you are fine.

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how can i convince my parents to let me get a cell phone? my mom and dad have one, my older sister has one, and im like the only one except for my baby brother that doesnt have one! and im a 7th grader and like everyone has a cell now except me. and its hard to talk to some people who may not have AIM or something.. plus cellphones are just cool. i mean i dont even have an ipod, pet, or other special privileges other kids get. or maybe i just live in a rich area.. i dunno but often its just not fun.. i always have to listen to the radios like mostly online cause i have like one CD which my friend burned for me.. my parents have like 200 cds and us kids, have like none. its just really not fair.. and like how can i convince them to get me a cell? um also cause my dad's setting up this big company in a diff state so my mom says like we cant do all these things.. like it makes me so mad that like my friends can have sleepovers (I CANT EVEN HAVE THEM!! and my parents wont explain. its just cus they didnt have it probably.. cause i cant even have them with like really close friend and they know the parents and stuff) and always have fun with their families. im always like "your lucky" ALL THE TIME. its barely ever that like people would be like "wow your so lucky you got blah blah" i havent even gone shopping since last year and let me tell you it is HELL to try and not wear the same things over and over.. i borrow my sister's clothes but she doesnt want me to.. but i dont have a choice. it sucks really badly. and its cause my mom likes me having a clean room SO FRICKIN MUCH and when its clean she doesnt say anything and when it isnt she makes a crapload of a fuss about it. and she says she wont buy me clothes till i clean it... i clean it every week and i havent even gotten new bras since.. last year too and i almost was gonna get them last week but she got mad at me and bought my sis stuff.. which she always does when she has so much clothes she can actually put away clothes from lastyear while i still have things like from frickin fourth grade. i occasionaly get bad grades too.. but its like i have nothing really to work for to get them. i mean maybe i'd be more motivated and stuff if i got some perks like that.. i mean i wanna do good in school, but i feel like my childhood may not be as fun since i dont have some stuff. yeah yeah its better to not be materialistic.. but i barely have materials. its like always been this way. my cousins had gamecube and then we wanted it and by the time we got it there were newer better stuff.. and we only had one game. and with gameboys, we got gameboy color, and then around that time everyone had advanced.. and i wanted advanced so bad, then i wanted DS. and other games like DDR and guitar hero 2.. oh my lord. sometimes i know its bad but i wonder what its like to live in a diff family with nicer parents.. not too strict, not too nice, but my parents.. they just arent normal at all and i mean it. we're not necessarily poor or anything too.. i mean why have money when you dont spend it? the last time i went on vacation was in 3rd grade to chicago.. like 4 years ago since im now a 7th grader. we always visit relatives and stuff in maryland and like dont even do anything except be cooped up in a house, the adults talk and cook african foods (im cameroonian) and its very boring at times and i know my cousins also kinda feel the same... that we dont get as much since we have to then like play video games all day.

and one last thing, i just told my mom about like six flags.. i had a field trip to go there but i overslept and we got there when the buses left. if my mom were nicer like alot of my friend's moms, they would have just drove me to six flags, but no i stayed home that day after refusing to go to school. anyways i got my ticket back and its valid through all of this summer coming up. my mom's like "i dont really have any plans to go to six flags this summer i think you should sell your ticket to someone or something" and im like WHAT? cause me and a friend planned to go to the same day.. cause her parents are nice they'd let her just do that and come with me.. but nooo. i cant even go with her family because my family has issues with me being by myself at like places like that. they dont even want me to go to a private pool by myself with my friends at their houses!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! stupid mucH??? ughhhhhh someone please help me or i seriously dont know what id do..

Wow that's kinda rough. I have a brother that's in 7th grade so i think i know how you feel. I had a similar situation, minus the cell phone. I got mine right before 8th grade because i got lost at a theme park... but that's beside the point and i don't recommend getting lost. for now, ditch the idea of a cell phone or ask for it the way that Jeanne suggested. as for clothes, layer them, change it up a bit... ask your sister nicely for the clothes she doesn't want. i didn't get a lot of clothes back then and really, you will be ok. you outgrow them too fast anyway. for bras and shoes, yes you can beg for those cuz you probably needdd them. what i think you should do is make a list of things you need and things you want and be specific so you can't just add 14 more shirts to the list. example:
need--
gym shoes, 2 for $5 flip flops, 2 underwire bras, 3-4 undies, white beater, brown cami, green shirt (get basics that you can wear with everything)
want--
mp3/cellphone, trip to 6 flags, psp.
then make priorities... get the stuff you need (and find the cheapest place possible) and maybe try for ONE of the things you want.
after like 8th grade, i don't think any girls really play with video games... computers & tv win over games. do you REALLY need an expensive game thing? just play it at a friends house. you only want it because you don't have it.
the trip to 6 flags won't make you life amazing. it's nice to go but you can live without it. if you set LOW expectations, you will get at least some of what you want.
my family vacations when i was younger were more than hellish... no really. you will grow up soon enough and get to do whatever you want. i know it seems like you are going to be 13 forever, but really, it gets better. save up your money for high school... the things you want now will just seem childish to you by then and high school is what really matters. if you need anything else, let me know.

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When my boyfriend fingers me, sometimes after awhile i tend to moan. lol && afterwords my boyfriend likes to annoy me, perhaps the next day or so and tries to copy the moaning sounds i make. It's kinda annoying haha. so girls do you also moan when being touched there?

it's normallll. most guys LIKE when their girl likes it. just tell him that you dont like that he annoys you with it and he should stop.

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I'm taking up belly dancing for my PE class and I have no idea as to what to wear. Of course, we wouln't be wearing those really flashy and not to mention, see-through costumes every meeting, so what's a typical outfit for this class? Can I just wear jogging pants and a tank top? Please help me ASAP cuz I'm going to shop this weekend....

Thanks in advance!

tank top, soffe shorts/pants, capri length yoga pants. that's cool that you get to take belly dancing!

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whats it mens when a guy says your his morning glory?

i think it means you are the reason for his happiness everyday? something really sweet, that's for sure!

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In your opinion does your grade 8 grad really matters?

Everyone keeps saying that i'm making a big deal about it when it's really nothing at all and just for one hour

My 8th grade graduation back in the day was a huge deal for me. I lost weight, whitened my teeth, got a haircut and bought a new dress to look perfect that night.
but then i do know people that had a picnic and got their diploma after when they were all sweaty and sloppy looking so it really depends on the school.

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Are you supposed to wear a bra to sleep or not?

I don't think so because it's uncomfortable to sleep in them and I read somewhere that your boobs needs to be bra free for a sertain number of hours on the internet long time ago.

My friend said that though if you don't wear a bra your boobs will get saggy.

bra or no bra?

i would go with no bra... no, they won't sag. you're laying down anyway. i agree with the person below me about needing time to "breathe".

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so there's a song im looking for, but i dont know the title. it goes like this:
Hey! Teacher! Leave those kids alone!
title? thanks.

"another brick in the wall/pt.2" by pink floyd. great song!

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i live in florida and ive never been to new york city.
we're going on vacation in a couple days and me and my mom are going to broadway one night, just me and her, and i was wondering, what are you supposed to wear?
my mom told me to wear something dressy. but i dont want to be over dressed.
but then again, i dont want to wear a jean skirt and be under dressed.
so i really don't know what to do. i dont want to look like an idiot tourist.
please help. (:

wear a dress... like one you would wear to a sweet 16... i'm thinking empire waisted that goes to your knees and dress-y shoes. if you need other ideas let me know.

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i want to be a little more sexier for my guy. like he's mentioned to me before he'd likes the type of stuff where a girl'd randomly like, push him against the wall and start making out w ith him type of stuff, but i never know how to go about doing it. like i know it's supposed to be random, but it feels a little silly for me to do it i don't know why [ i'm experienced but i'm still new at mostly everything ].


and also i want to know what are some sexy things i can say to him whenever we're kissing or doing whatever?


just anything sexy that i can do/say in general.


thanks!

when you are making out on a couch, randomly straddle him... guys love ittt. after a movie, if everything isn't packed, while walking out, walk into another movie (like not into the movie but the hall before it, push him up against the wall and make out.

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17/f

Okay so I'm kind of overweight. I'm not a whale or anything, but I'm big enough to feel really uncomfortable wearing a bathing suit. Today I bought my bathing suit for the summer. I tried it on and I thought it was perfect for me. It's light at the top and it changes to darker shades towards the bottom. The top is a halter and it has a built-in skirt that conceals my less-appealing cures. I thought it look good because it concealed my huge butt while showing off my nice shoulders and neck.

Anyway, I get it home and my mom tells me it's an "old lady bathing suit." I got mad at said, "Well at least I'm not a slut!" Apparently, if it's not a skimpy two piece, it must be an "old lady bathing suit," in her opinion anyway.

What's your opinion on this? Should I get a different suit? I don't want to be laughed at when I go to the beach or to the pool.

It kinda depends on the print but in all honesty, the ones with the skirts attatched are for the older crowd... sorry but that's just what i've seen. maybe you should try a one piece with the same design minus the skirt and buy a coverup or just wear a skirt when you're out of the water. you don't need a skirt when you're in the water anyway. that's just another option but if you like it, wear it.

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Like my title says: is there a cheaper and more "original" subsitute for American Eagle?

FYI I live in central NJ (USA), so don't give me stores indigenous to the cali area.

honestly, stuff on sale at AE is cheaper than at kohls (unless it's a REALLLY good sale). i got a shirt at kohls that was ae-ish and it was originally $24... more than at ae. i got shirts at ae for $3, not kidding.
try tj maxx, ross, target, and charlotte russe.

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i have softball playday tuesaday and i need a team name. i need some ideas. we are purple so if it could incorporate purple and an alliteration that would be kool.

Purple People-Eaters. .. like the little kid song.

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I lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago. he seems crazy about me, i never ever guessed that he would even think about kissing another girl. but last night he kissed one of my good friends, then grabbed her boob. and masterbated like in front of her.

i really dont want ot break up with him but if i have to i will.

what should i do?>

i really think you should break up with him. if he had just kissed her, then you could stay with him... but since he felt her up and jacked off in front of her... that's way too much to put up with.

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is there a memory card for music in the verizon chocolate phone already, or do i have to buy one? and if i have to buy one, is there anywhere that i can get one, preferably the 2 bg one, cheaper than on the verizon wireless website?

thanks!

you have to buy it seperate... i'm pretty sure all the small memory cards fit because it's just a standard size. it will cost you accordin to the amount of memory.. 2GB costs like... $50 i think. try best buy or circut city.

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I'm planning to have a girl's night out. When I used to do with my family/cousins.. we would dye our hair and spend the night. But I don't think my friends are allowed to dye their hair or spend the night.

Do you have any ideas on what we could do?

Something exciting and that doesn't cost a lot of money?

The age group is mainly around 16. None of us can drive without an adult. Any places to go or things to do? *I usually never go out so I'm having trouble thinking up things*

you could:
go to the movies
go out to dinner and get all dressed up
give each other makeovers then go out
go shopping
go bargain hunting
go to a store and try on dresses
run around wal mart taking pictures
hang out at your house and watch movies
see a show
go to a park
go bowling

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First off before you start reading this , i DON'T want anyone to write me telling me how bad Marijuana is. This is a serious problem to me and by you telling me how much you disagree with weed , is not going to make my situation better.

I've been smoking for about a year and half.
[weed].
I don't smoke cigs though.
When i get done smoking weed , i get really bad pains in the back of my head and sometimes on the top. Sometimes it feels like my brain is jumping up and down inside of my skull. Now i know weed isn't good for your brain and such but are these pains normal? sometimes they really almost make me cry. My brain doesn't always hurt but it's been hurting lately and i was wondering what could be the cause and how to fix it ?

Should i stop smoking for a while ?

thanxxxxxxxxx

I would suggest stopping at least for a little bit... like a month maybe?
i really think it could be serious.. my mom had this thing in her brain (don't know what it's called) and it came from an untreated sinus infection and i believe smoking makes that worse. you should really get it checked out by a doctor before it gets worse.

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The story of the man being lowered down wasn't a parable. It was a real healing that Jesus did.

OH SNAP! my bad! i'm so sorry i over looked that detail and was just thinking bible stories! i'm really not a total idiot, i swear!

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Does a guy's virginity mean as much as it does to a girl?

the majority of guys i know don't care about it... they just want to do it but there are guys out there waiting for marriage or the right one.

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