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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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hey can anyone tell me what you think when i tell you that i call my friend all the time and he dont call me and i asked him all the time why he dont call and then sence recently i havent called for like a week he asked me why i dont call and when i kept on asking him why he dont call he said well stop asking me why i dont call does that make sence that he would do the same and ask why i havent called and to mention i call him mosly because i like him and i wanna build a stongrer frinedship

just stop asking eachother why didnt you call... taht will save all of this confusion

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Im 13 years old and im very scared. This summer my boyfriend who wasnt my boyfriend then got out of jail for drugs. He said he would change for me and I believe him. We've been goin out now and Last night he called me crying sayin he thinks he is going back to jail. All I know is that his dad and him got into an arguement and that he wants to move in with his grandparents. And He wouldnt answer me why He thought he was going to jail again. Then he said he had to go and that he loved me and he never called back. I dont know if he went to school today or not, but Im really scared and I dont know what to do about it. Should I call him and ask him about it or what? Last night I cried all night long. I tried calling 2 times and nobody answered. I dont want to loose him. What do I do?

try calling him, and see whats going on.

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i have very thick lashes... but they are short... this sounds concited but i have very pretty brown eyes and i haven't found a mascara to make my lashes longer to give more attention to my eyes. any suggestions on a mascara or eye shadow to make my eyes look great?

well its not conceited to say you have pretty brown eyes. its good to have high self esteem. but anyways, try max facotor mascara. and when you put eye liner on on the inside, make sure you do the bottom and the top. and as for eye shadow, i like anything that has shimmer. especially pink. pink is always cute and natural. and the shimmery kind, always makes your eyes stand out, but it doesnt look like your a porn star or something, lol. and dont do a white line of eyeliner on your top lid, that is so tacky, and it makes your eyes look small. if you have pretty brown eyes, you should want to make them look big.

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yes, i know this is wierd subject but belive me by the time i explain this, if your a girl at least, you can see why i'm pissed. My best friend just so happens to be one of the girls with, well, big breasts. Well i'm starting to "catch up" to her, and every tiem i tell her my size she laughs and says with sarcasm and disbelief in her voice, "thats not your size, that's almost MY size!" And for some reason alot of times we'll get in a conversation, and she'll bring up her boobs! it's so annoying how do i show her that what she's saying is really bitchy w/o her freaking out because belive me this girl is a huge drama queen

your friend probably think shes the shit cuz she has a big breast. thats really immature. but you shouldnt get upset for her immaturity, its not your fault she is stuck on herself, or her boobs lol! but yeah, the next time she compares her boobs to yours or starts talking about her boobs just be like "yeah... not to be rude, but i dont care about your breast. i see them, i know there there, everyone does, its very obvious, so you dont need to talk about them all the time." she might get mad and think you are jealous, but oh well. and just for the record, big boobs arent so great anyway, mines are growing cuz i'm pregnant, and i cant stand them, i want them back small again. lol.

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the first day of school is coming up and i really want to be noticed. i hav some new clothes and i got a haircut but mostly i want to change my mkae up application slightly so that people will look at my eyes. I have greenish-hazel eyes and i really wanna draw attention to them. so my question is how to make my eys stand out and make people think, "who's that girl?"
Also im gonna be an eigth grader so i dont wnat to do somethign TOO dramatic.

shimmery eye shadow is always good... it stands out but doesnt make you look hookerish

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i don't like myself. is that normal? like are there other people out there who don't like themselves either? i dunno, i just am having a really tough time and i'm liking myself less and less and less. please help me. i just feel so out there and wierd.

no its not normal. but yes many people feel this way about themselves. you may be going through a depression. try talking to a good freind, parent or someone you can trust about how you've been feeling.

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Ok, I have blue-ish eyes with green around my pupil. I have tan skin. School is starting soon and I wanna make my eyes stand out. Like when I'm walking down the hall, I want people to turn around and be like "Who's that girl". What kinds of colors of eye makeup such as eye shadow, mascara, and eyeliner should I use. I'm going into the 8th grade also. Please help! Thanks

blackest black mascara and eyeliner are always the ebst for blue and green eyes... try a pale blue, or pink shimmer, or even just a white shimmer, any shimmer eyeshawdow looks really nice

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about a month or 2 ago, i tripped and fell and a nail sliced my leg all the way down...(sorry if that is gross) and now i have this really ugly scar...is there anyway to get rid of it? thanks! ill rate you either a 4 or 5!!

cocoa buuter and neosporin

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This is going to sound stupid but the term "getting off" does that mean like when a guy "gets off" he gets a hard on or he orgasms??

he means he orgasms or nuts?

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i have thisgirlSz screen name on aim nd me nd her have been talking nd we are like calling each other shortiiesz and all and everythiing iis good and exchanged cell numbers like 5 minutes ago - she iss like my true inner besst friend and well i aint never met her but i talk to her and her twin sister everyday and all and like i wanna meet her and al but like then again ii dont b/c im afraid she aint going to like the way i am personally or ii aint going to like her personality. but i reallly really wanna meet her and hang out with her all the time i mean she and i could be best friends for like ever im just nervous i think well she never gave me an eact date to when we were going to meet but like idk i just know that i need help and i just dont know what to do....HELP!

personally i dont think its a good idea to meet people from the net. but if you want to, just ask ehr when does she wanna meet up.

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Hi, OKay I skipped my period for 3 months and then started again. But I am really heavy compared to my normal. Is that normal?

yeah... your cycle probably just got messed up or is still developing... its normal for it to be heavy, especially if you havnt had it in a while.

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I liked a guy and told him and he said that he didnt like me back... so i got over it and i kinda like someone exactly like it!! And now me and him have gotten to be awesome friends and i am sorda having feelings for him again!! And i dont want to tell him because i dont want to ruin the friendship!! I mean i have dropped hints but i dont think he knows!! What do i do??

just tell him how you feel and see what happens. you never know, he may feel the same way. and he will never know until you say something.

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hey , i am going out with a 17 year old guy for about a mouth now and i kno this 21 year old and he likes me and i already went to thrid base with him and i sleep with him and he really fun guy to hang out with and he say s he really likes me . . my boyfrfiend have been to 2nd and somewhat to 3rd and i like him and all but why si that all the time i think aobut the 21 year old guy more then my boyfriend what should id o ?? stay with my boyfriend or go for the 21 year old . . i am 16 truing 17 in dec
please help me . . .

Nicky

go with which ever one makes you happy

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ok u people here on advicenators r my last help! not even my mom understands wat im goin through. well my boyfriend and i have been datin for a while and well now he's startin to scare me.
he's gettin very obsessive and im so scared that if i break up with him(which i want to) he's gonna do something crazy(kill himself or hurt me) the worst part is if he ever found out i liked his best friend he's gonna get very violent....i dont kno what to do!!! i try avoiding him but he gets madder and wonders if i dont like him..he told me that if i broke up with him he WILL kill himself

help me plzzz..no one understands i have no1 2 talk 2

OMG! you have to leave this kid. hes nuts. chnaces are he wont kill himself. but it hink you should get a restraining order on him, if he starts threatening you and stuff.

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When I was 12 years old, I was raped, and became pregnant. I never told my daughter how she was conceived. She is 13 years old, and I just found out that she's pregnant. Her boyfriend's father kicked him out of his house as a result. Abortion is out of the question. We have to decide whether my daughter and her boyfriend will raise the baby themselves or allow me to adopt the child. So I have three questions.

1. How do I tell my daughter the truth about how she was conceived?

2. Should I allow her boyfriend to move in with us, and if so, is it okay to make them sleep in seperate rooms? (His only other option is to move out of the country with his mother.)

3. Do you think it would be better for my daughter to raise her child or should I adopt the baby? (I was unable to have any other children.)

Sorry so long, but any advice would be appreciated.

1. tell her the truth. she will understand. make sure you let her know that you love no matter where she came from. and you didn't give her up because you wanted her.

2. it would nice if her boyfriend moved in because the baby would have both if its oarents around. if he lived out of state the baby would never know its father.

3. i don't think you should adopt her child. i think you should just help the parents raise it and be the best grandmother you can be, because they are really gonna need your support.

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Okay, I'm gonna obviously make my own decision about this, but I'm curious as to what y'all think. I'm 16/f, if you wanna know.
My boyfriend and I have been...experimenting lately. In the beginning of the relationship, we'd both said that we weren't into oral, but all of a sudden he wants to...y'know, give it a try. I mean, he wants to try it on me. I originally refused because I thought it would kind of obligate me to give it to him, but he said that wasn't the case. (I'm really, honestly not into it, and I always feel like he does more for me than I do for him.)
Also, the thought of kissing him afterwards kind of...bothers me...
Should I let him or not? I mean, it's kind of an...interesting...idea, but nngh - I dunno. What d'you think?

yeah let him do that shit... you'll chnage your mind about it afterwards.

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Alright, sometimes when I ask a question, it will let like 3 people answer it then it will say this question has been deleted and blah blah blah. Why does it let so many people answer it, then they delete it??

cuz we can do that shit

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My 12 year old cousin is going through puberty. She has always been a tomboy and she's disgusted with the whole process. To make matters worse she is developing rapidly (she's already a C-cup), and she started her period. She is normally a very happy person, but has become very depressed. She wears layered clothes and big sweatshirts, in the summer, to hide the changes of her body. Is there anything I can say or do to make her transition any easier?

(I've already tried telling her that it's normal and all girls go through it, but that didn't help.)

she just probably feels uncomfortable. leave her alone... she will grow into herself eventually. these things just take time. and she probably doest want anyone talkign to her about it, it probbaly is juts making things worst.

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I'm going to be having sex soon with my boyfriend. I've tried to talk to my mom about it but she thinks I'm too young and I should wait until I'm absolutely ready. I feel ready and I usually tell my mom everything. She's someone I tell my most private things to and I want her to help me get birth control and be there for support. How can I get my mom to understand I'm very serious about all this? I could never have sex without her knowing I'm sexually active! (I'm 15 and a virgin)

okay well she probably thinks 15 is toop young. it kinda is. but if you're gonna do it, you're gonna do it. so she should just get you birth control. but if she wont, just tell her there are ways you can get it without her, like at planned parenthood, cuz you can.

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Has anybody played "Yu-Gi-Oh: Reshef of Destruction? Its a game for Gameboy Advanced. This game is the stupidest game in the world. But as the gamer that i am, i have to beat it without cheating. Does anybody know of a way to beat this game other than luck? Because thats all you can do to beat the is to have luck. There is no real skill involved. PLZ help ... gah i feel as such a n00bie

yeah you're definitely gay, and no one cares

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