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Tomboy Teen
My 12 year old cousin is going through puberty. She has always been a tomboy and she's disgusted with the whole process. To make matters worse she is developing rapidly (she's already a C-cup), and she started her period. She is normally a very happy person, but has become very depressed. She wears layered clothes and big sweatshirts, in the summer, to hide the changes of her body. Is there anything I can say or do to make her transition any easier?
(I've already tried telling her that it's normal and all girls go through it, but that didn't help.)
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My neice went through the same thing. We live in California and it could be a 112 degrees and she would be in a sweatshirt. It didn't help that she was clumbsy as well. She could enter a room and trip over her shadow. She was a D cup at the time and not a small girl so she was definitely standing out. Depression hit and she became suicidal a lot of the time. I was like you had no clue what to do. So, I did the only thing that I knew how, I took her shopping. We first went to get her eyebrows waxed. Man was that something. She screemed and then cried for an hour afterwards. Then we hit the hair salon and I got her a new do. Then we hit the make-up counter and we got her a make-over. When we were all done I kept telling her how beautiful she was and I ran her through Macys. She looked at the teenaged girls and said, "I wish I looked like her." I said, "Well you might if you took off all those layers." She hugged her sweatshirt to her and said, "Yeah right I'm fat." I said, "How do you know under all that I bet you sweat off most of it." That made her laugh and I started trying on clothes and eventually she did to. One of the teenage girls was trying on clothes while she was and said, "Oh that looks so cute on you." She was sold. Now I can't get her out of belly shirts no matter what I try and am thinking I should have left her int he sweater, lol.. Now she is 14 and isn't horrified about her body anymore. In fact she is liking it and is no longer depressed. So, I am thinking she probably would have grown out of it on her own but if you are really concerned you might try a few of those things but be careful what you wish for. You may end up like me wishing she would put a few more clothes on, lol.. Hope that helped.
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umm, not really. girls just have to deal. just tell her you love her very much, and that if we all have to go through it, its better to get it done earlier then later so she can laugh at all the girls who are freaking out about it later.
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Ha it`s all right.. she`ll kinda get use to it and stuff same thing happen to me..
It is somehting we all go threw.. i was mega tomboy when i was young. i got my period grade 4 and summer sweaters and pants..alway hung with the guyz. But after awhile.. my frined started changing aslso.. thats when i start feelign comftable with myself.... im now 15.. going to grade 10... but i think its a faze.. she`ll get out of the tom boy stage soon.. i duno how about the depression. It shouldnt last long as long as someone there helping her out.
hmm i hope`d i helped:P
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There's not much else you can really do. Maybe when she gets back to school + realizes that everyone else has been changing too, she'll start to be alright with it. Try taking her shopping and telling her how good she looks or whatever when she tries on new clothes.
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tell her tht all grls goin threw puberty changed nd bacame grly. tell her thts wut shes goin threw nd not 2 wrry. good luc
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Take her out shopping and make her feel special.. and buy her cute clothes
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dont worry there is a gurl at my school just like that!!!! but i think its just a stage shes going through...the kinda body might be ideal to some people but maybe the girl doesnt like the way she looks and just wants to cover it up. u just got to let her get through it herself, u cant do n e thing about it. eventually she will come out of it!
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TELL HER THATS ITS OK JUST BE HERSELF. TAKE HER TO DO WHAT SHE DID BEFORE ALL THIS HAPPENDED AND IF THAT DOESNT WORK LET HER BE HERSELF MAYBE IF SHE GETS USED TO THE CHANGINGS.. TRY DO MORE THINGS TO MAKE HER FEEL BETTER ABOUT HERSELF.....HOPED SHE FEELS BETTER ABOUT HERSELF.....
*~MORGAN~*
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like tell her or let her know how much fn it is NOT being a tomboy as well
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Let the weirdo be.
-xXoBrianna
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hmm just tell her that its ok to be herself--just because shes going through changes doesn't mean she has to change herself!! and take her shopping or something that always helps.. help her pick out stuff that is appropriate for the season lol
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try telling her about ur experiences. and just tell her that ya it changes alot but she doesn't have to worry since every girl gets tru it. and tell her the good things that will come from it in the future like babies.
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my sister is the same way, but she got over it when I told her that she could still be a tomboy even with her changes
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i find that sometimes you can't really help someone as much as you want to.. i'd say the only thing you can do is tell her that having big boobs and having her period isn't gonna change who she is. all it will do is change her apperance and if she really looks at her new body she will most likely be ok with it. just let her know that she's still the same person with new looks that could actually be better.. otherwise i dunno what else u could possibly say.. maybe it's just something she has to go through.. maybe it's just one of life's lessons.. whatever it is.. she'll get through it! hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi (please rate and don't be shy to ask me nething!)
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she just probably feels uncomfortable. leave her alone... she will grow into herself eventually. these things just take time. and she probably doest want anyone talkign to her about it, it probbaly is juts making things worst.
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Tell her that just because she's developign and stuff doesn't mean she has to change herself. Who cares if she has breast and stuff...its cuz shes becoming a woman and tell her she shoudl be proud. My sister is 11 and shes goin through the same exact thing and shes also a tomboy. Tell her that she'll get used to it and it won't be so bad. Also tell her to be proud of what she has,i bet a lot of girls will be jealous of her when she gets older!! Good luck! sry ic ouldn't help more :(. byebye
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