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when me and my boyfriend talk i want him to hug me but he only hugs me or kisses me or anything if someone tells him. should i make the first move [ which im scared to do ] or wait. or have a friend tell him to make the first move ? helpss (link)
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It seems to me that he's scared and doesn't know what you expect or if he's going to cross any boundaries if he were to do this on his own.
The next time you see him ask him for a hug and initiate your own kiss and joke "Contrary to popular belief I will not self destruct if you try to hug or kiss me." Once you have him laughing tell him to do either on his own without prompting from now on.
That ought to be the end of the problem right there. He seems to think he needs your approval to do these kinds of things. I guess your best resort is to formally give it to him. That way in the future you'll get exactly what you want here.
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um..I heard there's a workout to make your breats bigger? I only want to make my breats grow bigger because it is WAY to small, like a timbit for my age and it hasn't grown in three years (link)
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If this worked every woman would have basketball size breasts. This old myth about workouts to enhance ones bust seems to go directly back to Judy Blume's "Are you There God, It's Me Margret" protagonist who wanted to do the same thing as you do.
All you can do is relax and know you are a normal teenage girl. Sooner or later they will grow. You are probably just a late bloomer. Growth is determined by your genes and the age where this usually ocurs in your family.
Until then there isn't much you can do except know that in time it will happen. Believe me there are countless other girls at your school going through the same thing feeling they are inadequate as well as girls who feel awkward because they feel too big in the bust area for their age.
If you are terribly concerned about your growth and lack of breast development over a three year period see your family doctor for peace of mind. I'm sure he/she will tell you there's not much you can do but wait on nature.
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People have told me I'm singing flat.
I can hear it. I don't know how to sing.. not flat? I'm trying to do vibrato. Some words come out naturally but the others.. don't.
What are some breathing exercises?
My chest sometimes feels.. all tight.
How can I relax and breathe.. well.. correctly? (link)
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Hi,
The best thing you could do is get a voice coach who is an experienced musician/singer/actor and work with him or her on these problems.
They will be able to determine your vocal range and whether you are trying to hit notes you cannot. They can tell you better than anyone in here the reason why you are "flat." You can also ask your music teacher at school but it would seem to me that you need vocal training to attain your singing goals.
A vocal coach is well-versed in the correct breathing techniques you will need and will know how to teach you to breathe properly and figure out why your chest feels so tight. When it comes to that it's not normal to experience it when singing or period.
There's a significant problem here only a vocal coach or music teacher would know how to fix. Just so you know for your own self ask what your friends mean by saying it was flat? I doubt they mean tone deaf here but probably are saying there's something wrong your singing.
Let them be brutally honest about this so you can figure out what to fix with a vocal coach or not try to attempt singing again just for now.
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I just recently realized I like my friend, Chris.
Tomorrow we have school & I want him to know that I like him.
What sort of things can I do to let him know?
What flirty actions or things can I say to him?
Thanks in advance!
ps. I NEED TO KNOW ASAP
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Are you 100% sure you like him? He is your friend after all and telling him this could end your friendship if he does not feel the same way and is not mature enough to just let things slide if he doesn't feel the same way rather than make it an issue.
If you know how this person will react and you think you have a good shot at a relationship forget the flirting etc and just tell him the truth and see what he does with it.
You are friends so by now you can say damn near anything to each other and skip the flirting and other steps you really don't need to use. Ask him what he thinks about dating in the morning and leave it at that. Don't be upset if he only wants to be friends though as the friendship may be worth a lot more to him than a relationship that could someday fail.
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So at the beggining of the school year[sept-october] i had alot of acne. It wasn't like big oily whiteheads or alot of blackheads, more like alot of small raised bumps and then up until now my skin has been amazing, i can't complain at all. But now along my hair line the bumps are BACK, and now theres big red bumps of acne on my nose.
i own proacne,
i won neutrogena daily blackhead scrub
and its still there.
What can I do NOW to make it all go away ? (link)
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Hi,
I'm not sure if Proacne has medication in it but I would bet it does not as I do not believe medicated acne creams could be sold over TV or the counter. Nuetrogena really is useless to fight severe acne because it too has no meducation in it that distroys the acne.
What you need to do is see your family doctor or a dermatologist who can give you a perscription for an acne cream that is ten times more effective than anything bought over the counter or on TV that just eats up all the acne (burns it off actually) and keeps it away. It's really your only solution and best for that matter.
You mentioned a lot of these pimples, red blotches and bumps are along your forehead near your hairline. You have to make sure your hair never touches your face because the natural oils contained in your hair are brushed across your face and pimples can form from that exposure. See your doctor and get a prescription. That ought to work out best for you.
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So everytime i like a guy, and they start to like me, i stop liking them like the second after, and i have no idea why, it makes me mad, and i feel horrible about the boy. I don't have commitment problems, and i know i'm actually a pretty good girlfriend, i just, don't know what to do. And its not because i'm immature or not ready, i've had serious ralationships before. Am i afraid of being hurt, ugh, i don't even know. (link)
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I think you enjoy the thrill of the hunt and getting a guy interested in you and then snagging him as yours. You are like a cat in that sense but like the animal once you have your prey and have played around with it and discovered everything about it you are simply not satisfied and want to search for other game.
Most likely you are flirting with and hunting down the wrong kind of guy for you that does not meet your personality just because he looks cute or is a challenge to snag. When you start a new relationship you are restless and not giving them much of a chance.
Should you feel horrible? Hardly! I'm sure you are a great girlfriend but with the wrong guy. You need to be more selective and be sure the guy you want to go after is truly the one you want to be with before you pounce on and dig your claws into rather than discard
Get to know them well before you start hunting and once you start a relationship give things time to develop so that you feel secure and happy. Be creative too and spontaneous and spice things up when they become dull and you should then be able to sustain and healthy relationship.
Nothing you have written here suggests you are scared of being hurt. In the event you think you are scared of being trampled on by someone else talk to your partner about your fears and have them calm them. The reason you feel mad at yourself is that you see a pattern developing and want to break it. I hope the ideas above help you to do so.
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Hey. Does anyone know of a website or websites were they have a list of current writing contests 9poetry, fiction, novels, essays, etc.) and like what the theme is and what the fee (if any) is and all that stuff. If anyone knows of a website that lists writing contests please let me know! Thanks! (link)
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Hi,
You should never pay anyone a cent to enter a contest or to get a prize. Unless the contest is sponsored by a newspaper or legit company that requires a processing fee that all entrants must pay never send money to enter any contest.
Make sure you avoid poetry.com. While the site does indeed publish people on the Web they are not selective and seem only to want to sell you books of your own work back to you.
Are you looking just to have your writing seen, enjoyed and published? If so there's a ton of legitimate organizations that will do so. Some newpapers (especially the local ones with tons of flier door to door) have bureuas where they print feature stories, poetry, short stories etc by teens.
You may want to check out the following Web sites www.teenink.com. where they have ten writing contests with various categories and no entry fees. Click contests on their main page.
Ypp.net is also excellent as they have an annual contest with several different categories but will publish your writing right now on their site and in four different e-zines. If you work is really good it can be picked up by a wire service or newpaper that they are affiliated with.
You might also want to log onto ypress.org which employs teens in the Indianapolis area to be reporters in a special section they print in the Indianapolis Star. They have contests now and then.
That site may only employ teens from the indianapolis area however, I've known them to be able to help people find writing contests and places to publish their work online or in the newspaper.
Here is a link also to a ton of teen writing contests as well http://www.davidbarrkirtley.com/teenwriter/Contests.html
A google search under "Writing contests For Teens" also yeilded an infinite number of sites you can surf and enter contests at.
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um bf bought tickets for me and my friends to go but my parents won't let me and the tickets were expensive =(
you may think he's stupid for not asking my permission first but he only cares..
what should we do about the tickets? (link)
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The best thing to do is let him go with someone else or give them to friends who will pay the face value of the tickets. I would NOT sell them on Ebay or any other auction site because the concert promotor can cancel those tickets at their discretion if they have been sold online.
If they do that then nobody can enter the arena with them and you're on the hook to anyone who bought them that has a case against you. The best thing to do is ask your parents the reason you cannot go.
Clamly explain that the tickets cost X amount and that you are now responsible for paying for your ticket even if you are not going. Odds are your parents won't want you to pay for the ticket and will relent. Have them call his parents and talk about the concert and work things out. I'm sure you can compromise.
If all else fails turn to your friends who may like the same band and cannot get tickets to the show. Sell them the ticket for the amount printed on it.
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okay ive recently gone vegetarian.
i used to masturbate maybe once every one to two weeks. now, i cant seem to go 2 days without masturbating.
i know masturbation is healthy but im still very scared about it being a sin and if my friends do because if they dont i feel like im messed up or something.
what should i do? (link)
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You are a normal 14-year-old girl and need to relax. Masturbation is normal and something teens do a lot at this age whether they are male or female. You have nothing to fear whether you do it once a week, twice a week or a few times a day.
As long as it hasn't consumed all of your time or is at the point that you can do nothing else or you ignore friends or won't go outside in favor of doing it you are fine. It's not a sin or wrong and doctors will even tell you as much. If you enjoy doing it great if not then don't.
As for your friends, believe me they're doing it too but are too embarassed to say so as girls don't really talk about it like guys do. Rest assured you are normal. It's not really about what your friends are doing or like. It's about you and what you feel comfortable doing and exploring your own sexuality. Each person does that differently.
Also, why did you mention you don't eat meat? I do not see the connection between that and masturbation.
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Ok so i just started this new semester at a new college. i met this kid and he's wicked nice.. we've been kinda flirting he's been poking me, hitting me with a tray from the cafe. ok heres the deal.. he asked if i wanted to hangout tonight.. to which i said yes. he and i have been texting back and forth.. and well obviously we have not gone to hang out tonight.. i don't know what to do. i'm really hurt. i called him and left a message but he has yet to return my phone. What should I do? When I see him next time how should i react? Should I forget about him? HELP ME ASAP!! (link)
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There might be a good reason why you cannot hang out tonight that is completely and utterly unrelated to any text messages you sent back and forth.
Then again, is there any chances you turned him off of you by sending far too many text messages and or calling his house too often because you were excited?
If he has call-screen or pays for text messages to come to his phone this could be a reason why he put the cabash on your plans. Then again you never know if his family required him to be somewhere else.
Unless you know you angered him or pissed him off sending too many messages to his phone or calling his place too much and your number comes up too often there's probably another reason he couldn't hang out.
Odds are he has not answered your phone message because he's out for the evening with his family. The other problem may be that he's extremely shy and doesn't know if he made the right choice in inviting you over.
He might not know how to deal with his feelings and hide them from you or how to deal with this kind of situation with a girl. He might have thought you would say no to him and got cold feet when you did. His mother or father may have also told him he cannot hang out with girls alone or something. You just don't know.
You need to relax until you do. Don't text message him or phone him or e-mail and see what happens in the morning when you see him at school as nobody likes to be nagged or reminded of something too much. You'll blow it that way and lose him.
You could point out Point to him when you see him that you were disappointed you could not hang out the other night and ask him what happened. He'll likely give you an explanation. Wait and see if he wants to make other plans and do not ask him about that. He needs to be the one to make the moves right now.
If he likes you which is evident it will all work out but you must not show that you are overly excited about hanging out with him or want to be his girlfriend as perhaps he just wants to be friends. You have to make him and his family think you have a life (which of course you do) outside of waiting for him to respond.
They won't respect you otherwise and he'll move on if he or they think he's being bothered non stop by you constantly looking for him.
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whats an orgasim or w.e.?
i have an idea but like.. i never really asked anyone becuase i acted like i knew what it ment.
thankss (link)
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I'm clueless about what w.e. stands for too with this being the first I heard of it. An orgasm, however is a feeling you get in your body during sex or masturbation where all your muscles tighten up especially in your pubic area and release in a series of ripples that feel pleasurable. I hope that helps answer your question.
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ok. so i have a vagina that smells like pee and i wipe myself very good. could it be becasue i dont have my period ? im just concious about it cuz im afraid at gymnastics people can smell it. cuz i can smell it alot.
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Are you sure it smells like urine? Does it smell any stronger than that to you? There is a chance you might have an infection if you are smelling a strong or foul odor. This is especially the case if that odor is followed by weird discharge.
I would tell your mother, aunt, sister, grandma or older female you feel comfortable telling that you feel your vagina smells weird and are not sure if you have an infection or if the smell you are describing is normal or not. If they think you have an infection they'll know what to do about it as every girl has dealt with this kind of thing before.
Although, it's embarassing to talk to them about it they will understand as I'm sure they were your age once and had the same questions you have that you want answered.
I highly doubt that your classmates know a thing or you would have heard rumors or faced taunting. Odds are, they're oblivious and that you are paranoid that it smells worse than you think and others can pick up on it.
I would relax about that but go and tell a female you trust about this after reading this question as it will make you feel a ton better to have an answer and know what to do about this.
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basically, i really like buying over the internet. through ebay, or clothing sites, wherever. over the past while my dad's lent me his credit card for no more than minute to enter it at the checkout in online shopping.
that's all fine, but i've memorized the number, and set up a paypal account with it. so whenever i want to buy anything, i can. i get it delivered home, and i arrive home before anyone else, so i get the package, open it, and hide it in my room.
it hasn't been too much, i've bought like four shirts for around fifteen each, and some underwear, but i still feel really bad about all of it.
i don't know what i can do. x x (link)
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It's actually a good thing you feel bad about this. This means that you recognized you had done something wrong. I know you may not see it as being theft or stealing but it is whether it was your father's credit card or someone else's.
You can get in a lot of trouble as it's considered fraud to use anyone's card without their permission, sign their name to pay for anything or open up accounts using their number and name. It's a serious thing you have done here.
I'm not sure if your father would charge you with a crime or not. I doubt it so consider yourself lucky if he lets you off with admitting what you did (which is your next step now). He will likely destroy the credit card, get a new number and not trust you for a while.
You see, while you think he would have never have known about the purchases he'll always have a bill with them on there and may dispute with his credit card company that someone else got a hold of his number. If he can prove this you can get in trouble.
Also, if he ever were to fail to pay the statement he is sent by VISA or whatever card it was because you ran his bill up he can be sued by debt collectors and may be forced to give up his car or any posession even a house if he could not pay. I'm just telling you this so you see the serious level of this kind of mistake can do.
I'm sure he will forgive you (in the end) for coming clean and admitting you did something very wrong and want help so you never do anything like it again. Again, not saying this to make you feel horrible but just to open your eyes to the truth and what you could have done if you had not seen this was a problem.
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I am 15 years old and my ex boyfriend is 16. I just had a baby he was born January 2nd. Before the baby was born my ex and i decided the baby would not go to his dads house (not is biological dad) because his father does crack in the house. he called me a whore and a bitch and other names. he said awful things about the baby before he was born and after.
He also says rude things about my family. Who has never said anything wrong about their family. Anyways the father of my son wants to take the baby away for a weekend but he does not hear him at night when he cries. he never feeds him correctly (gets him to finish the bottle) my question is i dont know what to do (link)
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Hi,
I will try to help you the best I can however, the wording of your question had me and I would assume the other person below this question a bit confused. I'm not sure if it is your baby's father who is the problem and on drugs or if your baby's father wants to take your son to his house for the weekend where your ex-boyfriend's father is the one on drugs or is it your ex?
At any rate you have legitimate reasons not to allow your child to be alone with his father let alone anyone in an enviornment where crack is being smoked and the child can not be adequately cared for.
What must you do? Talk to your parents and explain what is going on and then let them handle the situation with him and work out visitation rights with a lawyer so your child is not subjected to that enviornment. Mention that your ex-boyfriend has no idea how to change, clothe or feed a child.
They ( your parents, lawyer) can easily find a way to keep your boyfriend at bay this weekend and from going anywhere near your son or with your son in the future unsupervised.
As long as you are truthful and mention the fact he is being subjected to an enviornment where people are smoking crack cocaine there's nobody in law enforcement who wouldn't believe your story.
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I helped this girl friend get into the institution I'm working for. She was a big hit as an academic coordinator, but success went into her head. She's spreading rumors about the owner ( who is a well respected family man) having fantasies about her. She is so full of herself that all the guys in the office thinks she's an easy lay. She's also bragging that back in college, all the guys I wanted to date likes her instead of me?!? I am a teacher and I worked hard to earn the respect of my colleagues and my students, but I'm tired of being linked to her promiscuity's. Is there a way I can get out of this monster I created? (link)
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I have a feeling the problem here will inevitably resolve itself without anyone saying a word about it. Sure enough, all the talking and gossiping will come to your boss's attention and he will have her disciplined if she's a decent teacher and on probation unless she's really, really crossed the line here.
If she ever brought up embarassing sexual detail abouts etc then she will be gone for sure. I hate to say it but for the protection of your own job you ought to speak to your superior or file a report on her. Why? you recommended her for the role. Your boss might wonder why and if you both have "issues" that he ought to fire you over even if you've done nothing.
You need to protect yourself here and put a hell of a lot of distance between you and only be around her in a situation where you are working. Do not socialize with her or have her in your life. If she invites herself over univited tell her you were about to go out.
I would have nothing to do with her period as I think she's got some mental issue here as most people are able to see this is inappropriate behavior and cause for termination.
File the report immediately because it's an anonymous process because quite frankly, the guys or anyone else who heard her could essentially file too so she wouldn't know. Go about your business and don't mention this to co-workers.
Something as i said isn't right with her mentally at this time as most people know not to behave like this. The girl needs help. She's got infinitely more than you have. Time will take care of all of this. But yes, do file your report so you are protected.
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Lately i think one of my wisdom teeth is growing in. The gum around it is killing me for about a week and it feels kind o like they'res a rift or the gum is splitting open or something.
idk it just really hurts! (link)
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You need to book a checkup, and teeth cleaning procedure with your dentist. They'll take X-rays and figure out if you have cavaties or not. Be sure to tell them whether or not this only happens ocassionally or when you eat something hot or cold.
I was at my dentist with the exact same problem today. How ironic, it sounds as though you have something similair to what I have. They told me my gums (which is what you are complaining about) had a build up of plaque and were inflamed.
I'm not trying to scare you as it's nothing major but they did mention your gums can tear and fall a bit and cause pain. It's called recession. Ask the dentist if it's recession with you gums. Bottom line they must be inflamed and you need to see a dentist as brushing your teeth and flossing won't stop it.
It's the same scenario in the event it turns out to be a cavity and a filling you need. You need them to go in and fix it. Once they clean plaque from your gums the area will feel less sore.
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I'm 15 yr old male. I had a best friend for about a year now. We got into an argument yesterday and he wont talk to me anymore. I tried talking to him, saying sorry, everything. Its only been 1 day though. He got mad because He thought one of my other friends knew more about me than what he does. And no because he knows the most about me. Today at lunch he wouldnt talk to me.. I'd do anything to get my best friend back
please help me ={ (link)
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It's important right now that you do absolutely nothing at all but wait for him. You should not be saying sorry or admitting guilt when you aren't totally sure what exactly has set him off. If it's something trivial like "so, and so knows this and I don't" relax as he will come around as it's quite a silly thing to break a friendship over.
Trust me, let him come to you and be gentle in your responses to him if he's angry and do not let your anger if there is any come into it when he makes the approach. Don't add fuel to the fire then or for that matter right now. When you give him time to cool off and come to you it will put the flames right out and the friendship will be on stable ground again.
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when i look inside the peehole of my manhood...there is this like skin....like a divider... dividing my hole into 2... is this normal? (link)
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You have nothing to fear as every penis is exactly like that. It is in fact a valve that does not open until such times as you release semen or urine.
Incidentally, incase you ever need to ask a medical question to your doctor about your penis that hole, the valve and the entire tube tself is called the urethra. The tube is the same for releasing semen and urine but it gets the semen from the testicals and bladder for urine.
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evertime i have sex with my husband i fart by my vagina. how can i avoid that? (link)
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You both should just laugh and joke about it as it's normal and not really avoidable. Why? air is being pushed into your vaginal cavity as you have sex and as it's a dead-end street up there its got nowhere to go but down and out.
The noise might sound embarassing now but won't even be a concern after a while if you both accept it as a normal thing that does happen as air packed into your vagina from thrusting mst escape some how.
There's really nothing gross or dirty about it when you think about the true reasons it happens. You may however, want to try alternating different positions where there may not be a lot of vigorous thrusting and see if it cuts down on this happening.
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hey...im 16/f and im in a long term, serious relationship with a guy. we're definitly in love adn ready to start to have oral sex.
alright...heres the deal...some woman have something called a big inner labia [lips] which is basically when your inner labia is big and sort of hangs...thing is...i have that...and im scared that maybe a lot of girls have normal, small inner labias and that because mine is bigger hell get grossed out or things wont go smooth and im just really nervous and self concious about it...does anyone else have the same labia like this and experienced oral sex...if so...tell me what heppend because im really nervous just about the way my inner labia looks and im scared of what hes going to think (link)
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Take a deep breath and exhale. Youu can relax. What you need to know is that you are normal and so is your labia, vagina, vulva and reproductive system for that matter.
Not everyone's genitals look the same or like the anatomy text books or health diagrams or however they show them looking in sex-ed and or books you may have read about anatomy or sexuality on your own.
Quite common is discoloaration or different skin color and in some women larger labia and or clitoris. It's all fine and nothing to be upset about. In fact it may in fact enhance your pleasure.
As far as your boyfriend goes he likely won't notice and will not bring it up. It will not gross him out either as he probably knows and have learned that genitals can look a little different on both sexes. Some guys are circumcised, some are not and some can have discoloration or birth marks or whatever.
He loves you and will still love you afterwards. Trust me, it's the last thing on any guys mind. He's probably just as self-concious about his penis as you are of your vagina, breasts etc. etc. He's probably only wondering if he's going to be bad at this or if you are going to have a good time.
I wouldn't worry but if you are concerned about it just be truthful with him and tell him what you were worried about and I'm sure you will both be able to laugh together about it and he'll revel his fears too.
When it comes to having any type of sex you need to communicate and especially above all talk about fears or what you both find embarassing about sex and or your bodies.
It will bring you closer so that when you do decide to do this you won't be all tense and can actually enjoy it. What's the point in doing it otherwise if you cannot both enjoy it?
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