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Do i have a problem?
So everytime i like a guy, and they start to like me, i stop liking them like the second after, and i have no idea why, it makes me mad, and i feel horrible about the boy. I don't have commitment problems, and i know i'm actually a pretty good girlfriend, i just, don't know what to do. And its not because i'm immature or not ready, i've had serious ralationships before. Am i afraid of being hurt, ugh, i don't even know.
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my best friend just sent me this question because i was EXACTLY like this since may of last year. i would like a guy and then when they would start to like me i would back off and stopp likeing them. i didn't know what was wrong either. but it's because you are afraid of getting hurt because you've been hurt times before and you don't want to go through the pain again. what you have to do is usually when your caught up in the moment your force yourself to say yes if they ask you out. the next day you will feel like a retart. but after that it will get better; and you'll be really happy and proud of yourself. but if you need anything else just let me know because i know what it feels like since i was the EXACT same way
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I think you enjoy the thrill of the hunt and getting a guy interested in you and then snagging him as yours. You are like a cat in that sense but like the animal once you have your prey and have played around with it and discovered everything about it you are simply not satisfied and want to search for other game.
Most likely you are flirting with and hunting down the wrong kind of guy for you that does not meet your personality just because he looks cute or is a challenge to snag. When you start a new relationship you are restless and not giving them much of a chance.
Should you feel horrible? Hardly! I'm sure you are a great girlfriend but with the wrong guy. You need to be more selective and be sure the guy you want to go after is truly the one you want to be with before you pounce on and dig your claws into rather than discard
Get to know them well before you start hunting and once you start a relationship give things time to develop so that you feel secure and happy. Be creative too and spontaneous and spice things up when they become dull and you should then be able to sustain and healthy relationship.
Nothing you have written here suggests you are scared of being hurt. In the event you think you are scared of being trampled on by someone else talk to your partner about your fears and have them calm them. The reason you feel mad at yourself is that you see a pattern developing and want to break it. I hope the ideas above help you to do so.
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ha. no you do not have a problem. thats completely normal. i do the same thing. it might be because he was never the right guy and you head sends off a message. or you finally got him and your like ehh. like you wanted a challenge or something.
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my best friend had this problem. she would like a guy then as soon as they started getting close she would find a reason why she didnt like them. i guess its just not a good match. your mind is telling you that he's not for you. just go for someone else or just enjoy being single, single can be fun. just take your time, if you realize you don't like him then don't stress over it.
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You could be afraid of getting hurt, and also of being "let-down" (if you know what I mean.) You probably realize that when a guy starts to like you back, you find some imperfection or something to use against them in some way, and then you start to back away. When you were in serious relationships, I'm sure you were able to see past those imperfections, and this is just what you should do -- only when you find a guy who you don't run away from. And don't go out looking for him, let him come to you (as corny as that sounds,) because in the end you will be happier.
♥ lena
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I do the same thing. I really don't know whats wrong with me, or you. I think, for myself, that I just keep thinking that the person I like is so perfect and great and excatly like I want but then when they start liking me back and acting all into me I find out they arnt and I dont like that. You probaly just need to find someone that you know you like before they start liking you back enough for you to be like, led off.. if you get what I mean? I dont know, maybe you can i.m me sometime and we can like try to figure this out haha.
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just relax. maybe its because you know they aren't the right bf for you. trust me, when some guy comes along that you will really like & want to be with, it won't be that way. just try being friends with them. maybe its because you know they like you & there's no chase anymore?? basically, when you really really like someone, that will stop happening with that guy.
-hope that helped!♥
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