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Q: ok.i like this guy, but the only thing is i barely know him! but everytime im around him i like him even more. we only had 2 classes together but he would flirt with me and touch me and show all the sings of him liking me back. when i told my guy friend to talk to him he said that the guy i liked wasnt looking for a girl right now. Well, that was when school was. its summer now, should i try again at the beginning of school? and if so, can u give me some tips on how to get him to notice me/like me??? thanks so much!

Why wait till then try and find out his phone number or if you bump into him make plans for the summer that way you have all summer to get to know eachother and he has all summer to like you and ect. good luckp-trix ((please rate))

Q: how can i hide a hickey?

Depends on where it is try makeup it wont cover it completely but hide it a bit.-trix

Q: my name is katie i am 14 almost 15 i like this boy named tony and he has hurt me 3 times and everyone tells me that i need to move on but i really cant do it because i like him to much to lose him!!! and i just dont know what to do i mean he is a really sweet kid!!! i mean he has had so much goin on in his life like his dad just die and he just got hit by a car!! and i just dont know what to do because i dont want what to do because i dont want to get hurt anymore but he means the world to me!! please some one help me i need some advice on what to do !!!! thanks if u can help me

Alright i already knew what to say when i read the 1st to lines if he has already hurt you like 3 times why would you want to go back to someone that has hurt you? i am sure you know that you deserve better then that and i am almost 110% positive that you dont want to get hurt again. just be there for him but just as a friend.-trix((please rate))

Q: Hi. im shelly. i found out that one of my best friends likes me (brian*), not just like me, but like is in love with me. ne ways he is also best friends with the guy that i like (adam*). the other night i found out that adam* likes me and wants to be more that friends with me. i do too, but i dont want to break brian's* heart and then all of us not be friends anymore. adam* and brian* are the best friends anyone could ask for and i really dont want to mess up our relationship. but then i also dont want to just sit there and not be nothing with adam*. what do you think i should do? email me at : richardvmf@stic.net your answers will be greatly apreciated. thanx
shelly

Well just tell brian how you feel and you cant help it and let adam know also maybe sit down with all 3 of you and TRY not to yell .. that could be a hard one but give it a try -trix

Q: Alright well tonight I found out that my bestfriend had sex with my Ex boyfriend... he actually wasnt my boyfriend but i concider him one because we were "Together" But not offically! And I dont know what to do because the person that told me I swore to him i wouldnt tell! And this is the hardest thing that I have truely ever had to been threw! I dont know what to do! Please help me :-/

Well ask your friend be like are you a virgin? ya sure?! positive?! and if seh goes why are you doing that to me just be like im just messing around with ya lol and then if she does tell you then egg her on for me info-trix ((please rate))

Q: hello, i am 13 years old, female, my name is Kayla I feel like I cause trouble for every one that I know. I don't like it. And I don't mean to. But I guess I do and i'm sitting here crying because I do and i'm tired of it! Can you help me?

Pay more attention to your actions and what you say. you may not relize it but you probably do it slowly so think before you speak and think before you act.-trix ((please rate))

Q: yo okay there is this girl leslie and she is hot and beautiful but im a 150 pounds and im a 14 year old male. and i cant stop tinking about her. but i dont have the nerve to talk to her my confidence level is really low

150 fat? or 150 strong wise? you gotta inform us on that lol but i would tell her maybe in a note or through a friend or something of that sort that way its not to her face good luck-trix ((please rate))

Q: Hi, I'm 3 months pregnant and sometimes I get these really bad headaches. I know its okay to take Tylenol, but are there any other ways I can relieve my headaches without taking any medication?

How old are you? you could lay down for a bit or have someone massage your head or right below your thumb or drink moutain dew.-trix

Q: Ok, I have this friend who isn't really nice. Whenever I invite her over she makes my room messy like she is Godzilla or something. Well whenever she invites me to come over she may invite one other person and then I am invisible the rest of the time that other friend of hers is over and she yells at me for nothing blames me on stuff to my parents even though she did whatever and everything is all about her. She is so selfish. What should I do?

Tell her straight up you have the all out right to do so she shouldnt treat you like she does or maybe you could go for a lil payback and do it yourself and if she asks why you are acting like this say its because she treats you like that-trix ((please rate))

Q: Ok, I personally think this is total bull shit but, there's this girl I went out with for 6 months and shit and shes a twin. She broke up with me a little bit ago, maybe about 4 weeks. Anyway, we broke up and shit, and then I had feelings for her sister. I mean like deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep deep serious feelings. I don't know if I should tell her or not say anything so their relationship won't be worried. What the hell should I do?

Tell her you cant help how you feel now can you? noone can so i would say it but in a nice matter-trix

Q: Are the showers in Middle school sanitary??

You dont have to unless you want to i had gym last so i never used them i just went home and took a shower at my house. But they dont require you to cuz now you have a choice weather you want to shower or not-trix

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Q: I have a friend who is kinda in movies and t.v. shows, what gift should I send her.

Anything just cuz she is in that stuff doesnt mean she should get something worth trillions or something lol give her a cute picture frame and a picture of you 2 in it. of a good memory or something.-trix

Q: My friend,say her name is Sally, has been talking about my other friend, say Suzie. Sally is really nice and all but when Suzie isn't around she talks about her. And when Suzie is around she is nice and everything to her. How can i get Sally to be nice about Suzie behind her back without making Sally mad at me?

Just say hey thats my friend i dont like it when you talk about her behind your back i would stick up for you if someone were doing this to you so please stop-trix

Q: Okay this guy is 17 and im 13 going to be 14..well hes soo afraid of what his friends will think if we go out but hes up for the friends with benfits behind closed door thing and i dont know if i like that but friday night i went to this show with my friend and the 17 yr old showed up the night b4 this he had told me just to move on because he would hurt me and i need to find a guy that cares about me an such well i have this really good friend named Josh and i was sittin on him at the show because there were no other chairs and my other friend was sittin on her boyfriend well gabe (17yr old) walked in and he looked at me and he got really upset and walked outside i ran after him and as soon as i got outside he walked back in later that night we got into a big fight infront of everyone and now hes tellin me how he likes me and all this but doesnt know what to think ne more.. im really confused and dont kno if i should just be friends with benfits or just be done with him im soo lost sk8tergurl294 please help me b4 i go insane over this boi

Well i can already tell he isnt worth it cuz if you are friends with benifits then that is like you are his play toy and thats not cool i would stick with josh cuz he seems nice although i know nothing about him lol but i would just stick with him cuz u r nobodys toy-trix

Q: There*z this kid who ive gotten really close to when my best friend broke up with..but im afraid to ask him out because if i do and he says yes my friend will be mad at me but if he says no then i will be upset..but i cant just let him go becuase i really love him and i cant keep my mind off him..HELP!
13,Female

I would ask your friend about it and see how she feels about it all and if she is over him and if not i would hang low for a bit cuz you wouldnt want to lose a friend let alone a best friend.trix

Q: I like this guy (we'll call him X). I met him on a Friday a few weeks ago, hung out with him for about 6 hours straight a few days later, and he tells me that he really likes me. I started talking on the phone and developing strong feelings for him. We hung out again and he talks about how much he likes me + also about trying to make a relationship work with the two of us. This friday, he cancells plans with me and says he's intimidated by relationships/commitment, even after everything he had previously said. Now, on Friday he says he's going to think it through and we're going to hang out on Sunday instead, so he asks me to clear my schedule. I do, and now he's not home, nor has he bothered to call me or sign online all day. How am I supposed to be reacting to this? Should I give him any more chances or is it not worth it?

Well if you really really like him then i would give him 1 more chance but if you know that he isnt worth wating for and u think you will look back on this and feel stupid then dont i would just call him 1 more time and if he isnt home then give up-trix

Q: I have two male cats. One 15 year old simaese which I have had for most of my life, and an 8 month old that I just adopted today. Technically the new cat is my mom's. I am really attached to my cat and want to make this adjustment for him as easy as possible. Is there any advice someone can give me for this?

Also, from what the lady said who was giving him up was that he was a very gentle and docile cat. But he has been following me around and watching me ever since he encountered my cat. Right now I as I sit at my computer and type he is staring at me and yeowling. If I advance towards him to walk to the kitchen, he gets lounder and advances back. And he follows me around with his ears back, tail puffed up, and jaws slightly agape. Is there ANYTHING I can do to make him leave me alone? We've only had him now for a few hours, and I know there will be an adjustment time, but it is really getting annoying.

One last concern, my cat doesn't have his front claws, and the new cat does... My mom won't get him declawed because of a mishap that happened with my cat's surgery. We will be getting him neutered sometime this week. how long do you think this adjustment period will be?

In case it matters for whatever reason, I am 21/F.

Move out.-trix

Q: Hi my dad died when i was like 1 and a 1/2 or 2 i am not really sure what happened so i was wondering if you could tell me were i should go to find out info on my dad about his death

thanxs

Ask your mom or a family member or you could go online and put in the date and yr of the death and his name of course and look for it online newspapers sorry to hear about the loss-trix

Q: my names kayla and i like this kidd blake i dont rilly kno him and i only talked to him once over the computer he knows how i feel but we never really talked about it.how should i approach him and what should i say to bring up the whole idea of me likeing him and how should i find out if he likes me?

Well bring it up like you did the last time.. simple as that really and if you want to know if he likes you then have a good friend ask him and make sure its a friend of his too cuz that always helps. but try not to be scared.. after all if you say it online its not totally bad. good luck to u and blake -trix

Q: my mother died a couple years ago and i feel like it's my fualt. as a child i didn't get a lot of attention from my friends so i kept wishing that someone in my family would die! and it happened and i regret everything i wished! is it my fualt my mom died?

Its not your fault Things happan.. did she have something cuz that is defintly not your fault if she did. Everyone says and does dumb things equally but its really not your fault. If you want more help go to your dad or a close family friend or a close friend. sorry to hear about your loss-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"