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He's scared of commitment?
I like this guy (we'll call him X). I met him on a Friday a few weeks ago, hung out with him for about 6 hours straight a few days later, and he tells me that he really likes me. I started talking on the phone and developing strong feelings for him. We hung out again and he talks about how much he likes me + also about trying to make a relationship work with the two of us. This friday, he cancells plans with me and says he's intimidated by relationships/commitment, even after everything he had previously said. Now, on Friday he says he's going to think it through and we're going to hang out on Sunday instead, so he asks me to clear my schedule. I do, and now he's not home, nor has he bothered to call me or sign online all day. How am I supposed to be reacting to this? Should I give him any more chances or is it not worth it?
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Well if you really really like him then i would give him 1 more chance but if you know that he isnt worth wating for and u think you will look back on this and feel stupid then dont i would just call him 1 more time and if he isnt home then give up-trix
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Maybe something happened that has your friend intimidated about relationships now. maybe be he is scared of messing up your friendship. You have to keep in mind that even if he seems like he is telling you everything, there may be little things he keeps to himself. Especially fear. A guy has trouble admitting fears. i think you should give him a chance to get his thoughs situated. but, if he keeps beating around the bush, you can't sit around wating for him because mr. Right may come along and you will miss him. Good Luck! :)
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I think he is playing with your heart and u need to tell him it's not worth it.But tell him you like him and u don't want to loose him but if u wanna act childish then you and him just need to be friends or something.But don't let him run on u and hurt u.
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I would be pissed. He's not being considerate of you, so there's a good chance that he wouldn't be consideratein a relationship. I don't think he's worth it, but since you like him so much, maybe you should wait a little longer.
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Let me summarize this to make sure that I understand. He backs out on you after being together. He tells you he likes you. He backs away and says he doesn't want to commit. Then he tells you to clear your schedule so you can discuss it further, because maybe there is a chance..... and then he is unavailable?! He's had ENOUGH chances. He is already treating you badly before there is an actual steady relationship commitment, so there is no way he'll be any better IF you ever do connect.
This guy is playing "hard to get", BUT you need to play "easy to FORget"! Leave this guy alone and steer in the direction of nicer guys.
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If you really like this guy, give him another chance. If your kinda skeptical, put some limmits on him. He may just be doing all this because he is a little scared of relationships, whatever the case is, don't let it get in the way.
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Hey,
Personally i think he is playing you BUT he also might be just a really confussed guy its really hard to tell especialy since you just met him .... i would give him one more chance since you have already given him 2 ... 3 strikes your out right? but it also depends on how much you like this guy i mean i gave a guy a whole 2 years cuase i was blinded by love but then i snapped out of it when he got a gurlfriend ... lol ... he strung me along too .... so it all depends on your feelings and how many chances you think he deserves but since you havent known him long he could just be shy and chickening out ... you sound like a great gurl so dont forget about your true feelings and i am not saying think with our head but you shouldnt think with your heart either use both equally .... trust in your self you'll know what to do <3 Rachael
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I think you should give him some more chances because, people do make mistakes . But I think you need to talk to him . You need to talk to him about being there when you clear your schedule 4 a date that he set-up , and you all need to talk about his relationship/committment problems . In the topic of discussion, ask him things that he would feel comftorable doing while doing in a relationship, and ask him to mention some things that he wouldn't feel comftorable while doing in a relationship . Each of you can / actually need to set ground rules for each other and this would be the perfect opportunity to do this while discussing a possible relationship, but if he continues to be late to your evening meetings, then maybe he isn't ready and that is alright . Maybe when he is then you 2 can try it out . OH, COULD YOU RATE MY ADVICE . THANKS .
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