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Q: i need to tell my boyfriend im sorry but i dont know what to say . i need a very sincere apoligy help!

It should come from the heart. If you can't come up with your own, obviously you're not very sorry. I think you should write a letter, it might help get your feelings out easier.

Q: Hey... I've been thinking lately. This isn't meant to be inflammatory or argumentative, I'd just like different opinions.

How could heaven be heaven if you know that 4 billion people are roasting in Hell just because they picked the wrong religion? I don't get that... I mean, if I were in heaven and I knew that, it would be Hell for me. And I know you can say, "well they chose wrong", but that doesn't seem to me like a reason for endless pain and suffering. There are perfectly good people down there. Thoughts?

Well, now this is coming from an Agnostic view here, just a warning. Now, to be truthful, you can't start this off, because you don't know the actual truth. Anyways, I take it your Christian, just a guess. But, there's no "real" religion, because who knows what's real anymore? It's such a controversial topic, and people, like me, are going to have controversial opinions. Now, before I converted to a different belief, being Catholic (me) meant that just because you sinned didn't mean you went right to hell. I can't really have much of an opinion on this, because I think it all depends on what religion you believe in.

Q: can any one help me find lyrics?
Double Decker Supreme by Gravy Train
ive been looking everywhere...

http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/gravytrain/doubledeckersupreme.html

but apparently, you weren't looking hard enough, there's something called google.

Q: Ok well i look for sites to find an html code for my pics right? the only close thing i can find is putting it in is in a slideshow but i was wondering if there was any way where i could pictures in like 'interests' section..cause i went to a site where they gave me those codes, but only to certain pics... i wanna use my pics but put it different places like about me, and books and music n stuff...ive been to a lot of sites wondering how..any trick or certain i could put?

photobucket.com will help you.

Q: is it true if a boy bugs you in a playful way he likes you? cause this boy always bugs me and make me laugh and when im working with my friend and he just came over and got closer to me and on thursday he just came running and like hug tackled me he just does stuff to me to get my attenion everyday does that mean he likes me

I'm pretty sure he likes you. I'm almost 100% sure.

Q: I am thirteen and just started giving advice here. Well now I have a question. I am addicted to cofee. I really like it and drink it with my Memaw. Is it bad for me to have it?

Well, I don't think it's really really really bad for you to have, but I don't suggest having it a lot. In moderation, yes, it's fine. But instead of drinking coffee, maybe try drinking water/propel, or something else, because coffee isn't always good for you.

Q: please only girls answer.
what types of clothes/outfits do girls like on guys?? Im not interested in things like emo style or goth, no offense to those that are, i just dont like the style. any help would be appriciated. ..thanx..

It depends on the girl you're trying to impress. I mainly go for just about any guy, but see, my guy's style is more goth/emo. But like I said, I basically go for anything. Just don't act like a wigger. Or dress like one. Or like a nerd.

Q: where can i find a lime green bikini?
thanks

There's quite a few places.
-Target
-PacSun
-American Eagle
-Kohl's
-JcPenny's

That's just some.

Q: whats is the preppy look. wats the preppy attitude. i am sorta of a prep...all my frends that i hang out with r preps. how do i become a prep

Well, most of the preps at my school dress in head to toe in Hollister, American Eagle, Abercrombie & Fitch, etc. They use expressions such as "ohmygawshh", or they act ditzy. But that doesn't mean all preps are like that, because there's some that are actually quite normal. Now, if you're a guy, it varies. You kind of act skater-ish, preppy-ish, ganksta-ish. I don't know, because I'm not a guy. But that's how it goes at my school. Don't act all depressed. Be a girly-girl. (Unless you're a guy) I'm kind of stereotyping, but seeing from experience, that's the style and the attitude.

Q: Is it bad to have confidence and think you are pretty?

This is coming from someone who had low confidence for a large number of years. I would never call myself pretty.

but this is a new year and the past is left behind.

and I'm a lot happier now. It's scaring me I guess. I'm happy when I go out and I smile ...and feel pretty?

Is that bad?

I mean.. confidence in everything.. that you think you are good?

It feels.. really weird/wrong.

Confidence is the best thing you can have. When you say you're pretty, or you like to smile out in public, it's good self-esteem. You're being modest. Confidence is the key, and never lose it. It's okay.

Q: Alright well my cousin copies me A LOT! I MEAN LIKE ALL THE TIME!
She's a year younger than me...i'm 13/f
-She wears her hair like me all the time
-She's trying to get a cell phone because I got one
-She's getting a perm because my hair is naturally curly
-She tells me im pretty all the time so she tries to look like me
-one time she came up to me and asked me if i liked the song mockingbird by eminem and i was like "no, i hate that song." so she was like "omg me too! it's so annoying." but then my other cousin nick ran up to me and said "she's lying, she told me she LOVED that song!"
It's getting to the point where I don't know her because she's trying to be me! She needs to be her own person but i dont know how to tell her cuz i've tried and it never worked. she's been copying me for years and i've confronted her about it like 3 times...
but i get jealous when she temporarily stops copying me and copies someone else
REALLY JEALOUS!
but whenever i ask her something like..."do you like the song say it right by nelly furtado?" she'll ask me if i like it first shell be like " i don't know do you?" and then if i say yes shes like "me too it's awesome." so then i change my mind a minute later and say "nah maybe not" so she says "Me neither" so i can keep changing my mind and she'll change it with me!
help! i don't know if i want her to stop!
i just need to make up my mind,

I know it can get quite annoying, but, think of it this way, someone (no matter who) is looking up to you. She thinks you're special. So, my advice is to set a good example for her. Trust me, my little cousin does the same thing with me. And, someone else will come along that she will copy and admire eventually, but for right now, just live with it, and know that you really mean something special to someone.

Q: What is the difference? I never really got that (oother than the name and spelling..duh) haha. Please don't just slap down a link. I just want a few worded simple answer =]

Anorexia is where you don't eat anything, because apparently you have self-esteem issues about your weight. Bulimia is when you binge and purge (eat, and then throw up your food).

Q: 17/M
I know I've asked similar questions but I don't think I've been asking the right question. Sex vs.Love, I'd like some advice. In the battle between sex and love that I've been fighting I feel like I love her, I cry when I talk to her because I miss her. I haven't cried in 4 years until I started going out with her. But at the same time, I really miss her touch and what we do. Whenever I see her we do something to do with sex. Is there something else we can do? Is this excessive? We see eachother every weekend. In this scenario I just need to know, what is greater, sex or love?

I think love is greater, but if you're both ready for sex, I think that if there's a special bond/connection between you to, that would just add on to the relationship.

Q: why do people say be yourself? but what if they dont like how you act? its just hard to be yourself in public, because some people doesnt accept you who you are. i dont get life =[

I was once asking the same question, because it's just so easy for us as humans to not be our actual selves. Some people are hard on other people because of their personalities, yet they can't even handle themselves. I think it's important to be yourself, because chances are you'll have more friends. People who meet you don't want someone fake, think they know you, and have you turn around and surprise them (sometimes good, or for worse). It's okay to just give out pieces of you when you're out in public, that's fine. Not EVERYONE needs to know your life story. People who are interested in you at first anyways will THEN ask you more about yourself.

Q: 14/f
lately, ive been having a few bad days.ive been threw alottt but im just really having trouble with my weight and consceince. im in cheerleading and i weigh around 118 (5'3). Im not fat, im musclaur, but not even like big. I just started to fly again and i am so upset because i cant do what i "could" do. if anyone has or is in cheerleading they know how stressful flying is and i am always watching my wieght so i won't be to heavy. people always joke about my weigh and flying because im the bigest flyer on the team and the oldest girl practially, and my best friends lift me so we joke around alot. but everyday i look at the scale atleast 5 times, if it says over 120 i want to cry, if it says under i am satisfied for a little while. I couldnt ever have an eating disorder because i love food to much. i love being in the sports i am in because its lest time to eat and i am never hungry when i work. but still at cheerleading i feel so fat and just feel horrible because im heavy. i try to run everyday but i never find myself dedicating myself. i hate the way my stomach is (its super musclar at the top but i look pregnant sometimes, like a huge glob of fat by my belly botton) and no matter how many situps i do, it never dgoes away. and i just want to not feel like a fatass. i need a drive to be dedicated to, and there just is none. i just get so stressed, i dont know what to do anymore.

Honey, I understand it's hard. But let me tell you, honestly, you are totally average. I'm 5 4 and I wish I weighed your weight. I'm not overweight or anything, but I'd kill to be at the same weight as you. I used to be so self-conscious, and I [still] go on fad diets all the time. They don't work. We seem to have somewhat of the same body type, no worries there. Don't take what other people take so personally. You're doing everything you can do, just don't be so hard on yourself. How do I know this, right? Because I was once obsessed with my weight. You're doing ultimately the best you can do, and stick with that. Because you don't want to end up with an eating disorder. Trust me, it isn't worth it.

Jess♥

Q: i got in a fight with one of my best friends, and i don't want to be friends with her again, i mean i forgive her i just don't want to be buddy buddy with her anymore. My other best friend keeps trying to solve my problems and make us be friends again, but its none of her buisness. I've told her that im not going to change, but she wont stop bugging me. im fixin to get in a fight with her too! how can i tell her to stop, and that she wont fix anything? (< ive already tried telling her that, it's like she doesn't understand english)

Well, the best you could do is just tell her, you're old enough to handle stuff on your own, and that it's your own personal problem. Otherwise, if she won't stop, be firm about it. But, if that doesn't work, just ignore her. There's nothing else you can really do with the situation.

Q: I know i love my boyfriend. I know because.. well.. i just know. I don't have to think about it twice and i care about him so much. And sometimes when were just laying together i want to say it to him soo badly. But i don't.

You see, we've been dating for about 7 months and the only times we really say i love you is like if were signing off aim or through a text message. Never in person yet though. I feel like that is a pretty big step. But i know i want to.

I have reservations though: Is saying "i love you" for the first time the boys job? What if i say it and he doesn't say anything back? Should i say it at a random time or plan it?

If anyone has been in this situation please help me out. Even if you havn't and you have an opinion, anything would be appreciated! thanks so much.

I personally think that if you do feel ready, say it. Because you know how it always works-one person wants to say it, and is afraid, and it just causes confusion. If you feel more comfortable with him saying it first, then wait. Until your ready, at least. Or, if you feel ready and enough to say it, write him a letter telling him how you feel about your relationship.

Q: i was wonderin if anyone could tell me some good pop/rap songs that are upbeat, some like promiscous or maneater by nelly furtado, me n u by cassie, or walk away by paula deanda.. thanks!

Fergalicious-Fergie
My Love-Justin Tumberlake
Here in your arms-Hellogoodbye
Wait a minute-PCD
Smack that-Akon
Face down- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus (sp)
Say it right- Nelly Furtado
If everyone cared- Nickelback
Show me the money- Petey Pablo

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Q: Can you have your hymen broken by getting fingered?

Yes, but like the person said before me, you can also break by stuff like inserting tampons, being extremely athletic, intercourse in itself, stuff like that.

Q: In my opinion, I don't think I have a bad personality. I'm not stuck up, I don't cause any drama, I'm honest, I can keep secrets, and I'm nice unless someone gives me a reason not to be. I mean, I can be "mean" sometimes with guys except I'm kidding and they know it. I'm not shy, but I'm not incredibly outgoing -- I'm just normal there. Plus, all of my friends say I'm hilarious. Most of my friends, who are girls tell, me I'm pretty and I've had some of my guy friends tell me I'm "hot". I'm not stupid, but I'm not a genius. Since pretty much everyone but me cares about this at my school...people say I'm popular (I hate that word and I don't care about "popularity" just to make that clear). The thing is, I've never had a boyfriend -- NOT ONCE. I don't get it. Every single one of my friends has at least had ONE boyfriend sometime in their life, but me. No, I don't only want one cause "everyone" has one. In your opinion, does it sound like I'm doing something wrong? Why can't I get a boyfriend?

Great. You're humble. I wouldn't really worry about having a boyfriend, because most guys just raise hell anwyays. That's my outlook on it. But anyways, just because you have a good personality doesn't mean no guys like you. That's most likely NOT the case. Just because you're friends all have one? Big deal. Does that mean if your friends jumped off a cliff, you'd feel the need to do it too? There's someone out there for you, and no matter how long it takes, he will find you. Or, you could always find him.

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Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:

I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

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