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Sex vs. Love
17/M
I know I've asked similar questions but I don't think I've been asking the right question. Sex vs.Love, I'd like some advice. In the battle between sex and love that I've been fighting I feel like I love her, I cry when I talk to her because I miss her. I haven't cried in 4 years until I started going out with her. But at the same time, I really miss her touch and what we do. Whenever I see her we do something to do with sex. Is there something else we can do? Is this excessive? We see eachother every weekend. In this scenario I just need to know, what is greater, sex or love?
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i had this problem with my long term exboyfriend.
we loved each other but felt the sex was too much
my advice to you would be to talk to her about it and decided that sex is okay until the point where you dont spend enough quality time cuddling or getting to know each better. its hard to compromise your time with each other.
me ex and i found exciting things to do together that improved our relationship and yet kept us emotionally close. when it snowed we built snowmen together. we went to laserquest just to have fun. we went to the movies and bolwing and ice skating..i found that the more time you spend alone doing nothing the more sexual acts come into the picture.
sex is not excessive and i dont feel can be excessive unless you are losing that emotional connection and replacing that with lust.
love is definitely greater but sex is an act of love. show her you care by just spending time with her but then when she needs that sensual touch and when you desire that sensual touch sex can strengthen your relationship
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I think love is greater, but if you're both ready for sex, I think that if there's a special bond/connection between you to, that would just add on to the relationship.
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Love should be greater....if you love her and she loves you the sex shouldnt be a big deal ask yourself this what if she didnt want to have sex then would you still feel the same way about her if the answer is yes then thats a good sign of love.but sex shouldnt be the biggest aspect and turn into the only thing you got going for you two. if sex ends up being the only thing you guys do when you see eachother she could get the feeling that shes being used or that if she didnt give you enough then you wouldnt love her. If you truly do love eachother and want to be with eachother then there will be plenty of time for sex so you could tone it down alittle bit im not sayig you have to quit entirely but for love to truly work out you have to not only treat eachother as girlfriend and boyfriend or partners but as friends to. So it would be good to talk and go out and do non sexual things to or maybe some days not even have sex. If you love her you should also talk to her about it to to make sure your on the same page and maybe what she wants not just what she thinks you want or what you want.You should have to fight between sex and love because just because you have sex doesnt mean you dont love her but if you did love her truly then sex wouldnt matter because you would be prepared for a lifetime togeather where theres plenty of time to do that kind of stuff. So think about what matters most to you and which one you couldnt live without with her if the answer is love then i would say its love that you feel greater.
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If you love her then .. whether you two have sex or not it shouldn't matter to you. If she decided not to have sex any more and wait til marriage. Since you're completely in love with her then you wouldn't mind and respect her decision. Sex is a physical thing. Its great to do it. But Love is a more emotional thing. Love and sex doesn't go hand in hand. Love is when you care for that person endlessly. You put their happiness before yours. All you want to see is for the person you love to be happy even if it kills you inside. You're not selfish when you love someone. You're able to open up to the person you love. There's no secrets between you two.
Sex is something more physical. Of course if you both love one another ... you two want to be close to one another and be intimately. But don't let sex overpower the relationship. Love is about honesty, communication, and trust.
when you two see one another.. you guys can talk about anything. You can tell her something she nvr knoe about you.. and she can do the same.
but you guys can have sex too.. just not a lot.
I can't tell you which one is better sex or love. its all on your opinions and how you look at it. You can see it in a diff way than I do. But I can try to give you the best examples and my opnions.
hope I help =].
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