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im friends with a shmuck. he's my best friend but he's a manwhore basically. he got back with his ex girlfriend and while they were on a 6 month break me and my guy friend hooked up quite a few times. now that they're back together me and him are both having trouble resisting temptation of hooking up again. we have not been physical at all in the month that they've been back together except for one hug. here's the thing though. we always talk dirty to each other and i feel bad about it and afterwards im almost sick to my stomach in guilt but he's like an addiction. he's the first guy that i've been sexual with if that makes a difference. i really want to stop this because i feel bad but everytime we're around each other our conversations turn sexual and sexual towards each other. don't tell me to talk about something non-sexual because we could be talking about frogs or something random but it'll still end up that way.
pleeaasseee help me, i can't just stop talking to him because he's one of my best friends
Well you could give him an ultimatum: you or his girlfriend, and until then no more dirty talk. Honestly, though, when you think about it, he's already chosen his girlfriend. What he has with you is just something extra and bonus that he can get away with. You may really like him, but it sounds like he's using you, either that or he is really confused.
The best thing to do in this situation, if you feel like you can't act like his friend without any strings, is to get away. Call someone who is not only your friend but who will respect you, and not use you. Or call a bunch of friends, and all go out together; leave him with his girlfriend to do whatever he wants because as it is, it really doesn't need to concern you. Get super involved in school or something after school or anything that will take your mind off of him. Remind yourself that you are really that much better than he is, and be the bigger person for respecting him (in some ways), his girlfriend, and most importantly, yourself. You are worth so much more than what he put you through, and will likely keep putting you through if you let him.
Anyone know how to get a flat stomach adn can you please tell me what i should be eating to get a flat stomach links would be helpful.
-veggies
-whole grains (Whole wheat rice, bread, pasta and none of that looks and tastes like white bread and yet somehow good for you junk)
-fruits
try to eat more fruits and veggies than anything else, and take away excess sugary, fatty, fried food away from your diet. Also exercise regularly. It can be anything but if you are concerned with your stomach you could try the plank (resting the body on the elbows at a ninety degree angle - the body should be straight) or situps. Joining an after school sports team or club is good if you want to be more healthy in general and it's also a good way to make friends.
Okay so my boyfriend and i have been pretty serious for about 8 months.. and we say i love you to each other and stuff like everyday... but im IN love with him... and when i ask if he is with me he says he loves me but he doesn't know if hes in love with me...
but to me there are two kinds of love.
loving someone like a good friend or family or something like that.
or being IN love with a girlfriend/boyfriend that you've been with for a while or known for a while.
and i don't know why he isn't... but lately when I've talked to him I wont say i love you back to him.. and i think he's getting the point.. because he knows that i love him... but he also knows that it hurts me.. but if you answer this don't say anything about me not saying it back.. i just want to know what you think because I'm really IN love with him. and he acts like he is with me.. but he wont say it...
as many answers as i could get would be great.
To you there is this difference between the words "in love" and "love". To him there may not be. Not that he doesn't understand the fact that you can love people like a friend and like a lover, but he may use the same word to mean both (many people do). He isn't going to be able to puzzle this out by reading your mind, so likely freezing him out on the "I love yous" may make him confused or hurt if he notices instead of causing to realize he has made some sort of mistake.
In truth, I fail to see how he has done anything wrong. He says he loves you regularly, and since you are his girlfriend I'm pretty sure he's not talking about love in the brother sister type of way. If it's really bugging you, you could ask "are you in love with me?" or simply say "I'm in love with you" and wait for his reaction. How does he know that it hurts you when he doesn't say he is "in love?" Has he even heard of your whole opinion of two kinds of love before?
15/f
I just moved to a boarding school in a different state that's really far away from my old state. I've been here for like 3 weeks and I've started having my typical allergy symptoms that I get with pollen (though that's not an allergen here right now) to something else- but I can't figure out what it is.
how can i find out?
ps: i know there's mold here
It could be mold, it could be pollen, or it could be any number of things. The best way to find out is to see an allergist and take an allergy test. Though it may cause your arm to flare up a bit, it's pretty much painless and it will let you see what you are allergic to. Perhaps if your allergies are serious you may be prescribed some special allergy medication, however, you can also find plenty of over the counter meds at any drugstore.
soo theres this boy who i have been talking and well last june we started talkin like everyday and got realli close like bestest freinds coz he toldme evrything and meto him! until november wen my best freind went out with him and then i started feelin bit jealosus! but he kinda gaveme the impression b4 hand that he likd me coz he would say all this sweet stuff! anyway, he stopped talkin to me in december for some reason - when everi ask him hes like i dnt like 2 talk bout the past anymore!
soo.. recently he started talkin to me sayin tha he dont want 2 keep a grudge with anyone..he used to go to my skul but left because he failed and had to go sum place else..evry time i talk to him i get a rush of feelings..but i dont tink about him that much at all! and recently he kissed my best friend and didnt even call her back!
ive been trying t move on but i just cant and i dont know what to do at all!
so can somebody tell me how to handle the problem? if i like him or if were just friends?
and what to dooo?.. thanks for advance! xxx
Right now, regardless of whether you like him or if he likes you, you are friends. The only way to be more than friends with him at this point is if you both agree to it somehow, ie you could ask him out, or both could confess how you feel, ect. Saying sweet stuff doesn't necessarily mean anything; it could be that the guy is naturally like that, or that he is a flirt, or any other reason.
If you don't really think about him often, then you are probably moving on already. It doesn't seem like the best idea to pursue him at this point since your friend will be upset, since you already know what kind of guy he is by the way he treated your friend, and since he probably doesn't like you and you would have to chase him to some extent to ever be more than friends. I mean you would be going out of your way to be with a guy who is failing school, not calling back your friend, and who your friend probably likes (an assumption I'm making from reading this).
You don't really have to do anything special to "handle" this one. Just don't go out of your way to chase him and you're fine! Rushes of feeling whenever someone is around are signs that you like that someone, but this is more infatuation than anything. It doesn't mean, in any case, that you should start to pursue this person or think of them romantically. Plenty of people get infatuations and crushes all of the time without doing anything about it and that is perfectly fine. Just be yourself, join a club at school, do in general what makes you happy and what you feel you should be doing. Don't feel bad about checking out any other guys that do go to your school. Don't get hung up on this guy - is he really worth it?
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The difference between really liking someone and infatuation (to respond to your feedback): it's a complicated question that I'm sure many people struggle with. Basically infatuation is when you are obsessed with someone without really knowing the person or without being willing to actually commit to them. You may like them superficially, or be obsessed with them because they are so attractive/intelligent/whatever that it's overwhelming. If you really like someone you can see their flaws and still like/love them just for who they are, and will be willing to give to them instead of wanting to be with them because of what they can do for you. Usually you can only begin to "really like" or love someone if you have known them for some time first.
15/f
ive been friends with this kid for a really long time and i had sex with him not to long with ago. and it was the whole 'friends with benefits' thing. now theres another girl and he says that he was tired of being single.. but we both know that if we ever did go out then we wouldnt be able to see each other like the last two times that happened. (he lives like 30 minutes away, by the way). but still i was right here the whole time. i wish he knew that i wanted him, but i didnt have the guts to say it and he said he wanted to move on if he cant have me.. i want to move on but then again it hurts because hes prob over there fucking that girl. pure jealousy. and i dont want to move on because ive been in love with him for two years. i want to know how to win him back, like show him that its me he should have. ideas?
Sounds like this guy isn't very caring, mature, and or bright to use you in the whole friends with benefits thing (and to get a girlfriend to avoid being single. Slightly lacking in perception, there). But to be honest, you did agree with it. Yes, going out with someone does mean that he probably shouldn't still see you. Why not tell him how you feel? If this is really going to tear you up anyway, you don't have much to lose and if you are his friend, honestly is important. I'm not sure that there's anything you can really do to "prove" anything besides being sincere. If he doesn't like you, no amount of flowers, or cards, or all things superficial can really make him realize anything.
Have an honest conversation. Tell him how you feel about him, all of how you feel. It may not win him back, but it will clear the air and (hopefully) make you feel better for trying and getting your feelings out in the open.
Ok....do any of ya'll guys out there do anything sweet for your girlfriends....stuff "just because"...not for any particular reason. If so what do you do? And for the girls.......what have your boyfriends done for you?
Random emails just to say you miss her and love her
Soft, short, spontaneous kisses just because
hold her hand,
random cards/drawings
Flowers if she's just been part of some sort of performance/ school play
And just be there for her. Listen to her and give her a hug when she's upset. If she's trying to download something, give her the link. Listen to her when she talks and always genuinely act like you care. =]
Okay well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month and everything is going really good.
but well we have been trying to kiss for the last week and well im ready for it and i told him i could kiss him but he said he wants to be the man...but evertime we are about to do it he backs off and we sit around joking about how we cant do it..
does it mean anything bad or....
It doesn't mean anything bad. Think about it. You are ready to kiss him, how do you know that he is ready to kiss you?
Try spending regular one on one time together - maybe not huge amounts of time, but it might be awkward for him to kiss around other people. Try to open up the possibility of kissing by becoming less shy with touching each other. Nothing pornographic, just flirt with him. Poke him playfully. Place your arm around him waist, or hold his hand. Give him hugs. This will make the whole leap from not touching you to kissing you a lot less weird for him (and possibly you as well). Remember to also enjoy time with him in other ways, and not turn kissing into an issue where he may feel pressured.
hey. ok, so what are some songs about a boy that you like, but doesn't know you like them or dosn't really notice you a lot. for example Teardrops on my guitar by Taylor Swift. But they don't have to be country. they can be pop or somethin. idk, but also, i want somewhat recent songs. not like from 1990s or somthing. lol. anyways, thanks!!!
Avril Lavigne - things I'll never say
Diana Degarmo - Boy Like You
Fall Out Boy - Sugar We're Goin Down
James Blunt - Beautiful
The Veronicas - Revolution
Simple Plan - I'd do anything
I can find a lot more/better general love songs, so if that's what you're interested drop me a line
what kind of things should i eat to help make my immune system better able to fight this cold?
my throat is sore so most things im thinking of eating, will make my throat feel worse :/ like bananas or soup.
i dunno; but i need help on what to eat to get over this cold.
ALSO, what should i eat normally so i dont get sick all the time anymore?i mean, i was just sick not even a month ago. i dont think im eating healthy enough. should i drink vitamin water? or maybe take some type of vitamin daily?
please and thank you.
Soup is good. Try as well vitamin c (ei oranges), garlic, and something spicy if you are congested to open up your nose. Putting a hot, wet cloth over your nose helps open your nasal passages, and a cold compress might help if you get any cold headaches.
Basically, you could take many pills and such to boost your immune system, but in order to stay healthy, the main thing is really not to overstress yourself. It doesn't sound very secretive, but seriously, it is probably the one thing that helps ward off colds and other such illnesses the best. Do things that make you happy, allow time each day to relax, and get enough sleep. Most sicknesses are actually caused by people who work too hard, worry too much, and don't listen to their bodies.
today at lunch my bf like hit himself in the head with a water bottle, and i, not wanting him to hit himself, took the bottle from him. then a few of our friends were saying hes whipped. and my bf didnt really oppose it. he was just like "hey that used to be you!!" to our friend cause thats what everyone said about his ex gf. i know i am so nice to my bf though he just does a lot of things that could get him hurt (usually a lot worse than a water bottle dont worry im not that ridiculous) and i have stopped him from doing these things as a way to show him i care (i have done this since way before we were going out) i didnt realize i was doing that. is it really that bad? hearing that and making that realization made me really upset. like since then i have been fighting back tears. and i avoided my bf for the rest of the day because im sad and i dont want him to ask why or wonder why im not talking. i had no idea i was doing anything wrong but now i see. help?
You're overreacting. Of course you're going to stop him from hurting himself! You care about him; it's natural. If you are honestly controlling him by stopping him from living his life, that's a problem. But if all you're doing is stopping him from blatantly hurting himself, frankly, I'd be worried if you didn't have that instinct in you.
About him being "whipped". He didn't object when you took the bottle away because he cares about you, and probably appreciates you caring about him. His friends see this and are probably slightly jealous, hence the "whipped" comment. Look for your boyfriend's reaction. If it isn't bugging him that you are showing concern, or that his friends are teasing him (doesn't sound like it if he playfully teases them back), you really have nothing to worry about.
Okay this guy and I have a long history. We went out off/on for 8 months and finally broke up for good last February. The end of March I met another guy and we dated all summer. I would always see my ex and he would ask me to go back out with him, call me all the time and ask me how he could make me like him better than my current bf...all that kind of stuff. He found out that my current bf and I broke up in Aug and he started callin me and talking to me on yahoo and myspace. He was saying all the right things and I believed him. He came over to the house one night and we watched a movie. We kissed and he wanted to do more. The most we had ever done was kiss and I said no, because we aren't technically goin out. He knows Ive never done anything with a guy. Well, the whole week when he was talking to me on yahoo he would say that he wanted us to go back out, but he wasn't sure since I didn't "do stuff". Last weekend he came over for a couple of hours and then we went to the movie together. Things were fine when he was here. We watched tv and talked a lot. He kissed me and it really felt like old times. He kept on and on about wanting me to flash him, so I don't know why, but I did it. I wouldn't let him touch me, but then we started kissing again and he asked me to touch him through his pants. I did and we got caught up in the moment and he put my hand down his pants. This was the first time Ive ever done this with a guy. He put his hand in my pants but not underneath my underwear. That's all we did. After a while we went to the movie but he was different there. He wouldn't hardly talk to me and he hasn't called me since. Last night I was going to message him on myspace and he has changed his whole layout. Says he has a girlfriend. I am so hurt. Did I do wrong letting him talk me into what we did? Should I talk to him ever again if he gets in touch with me when he and this chick are done? I dont know what to do. He is my first love and I can't seem to forget him.
Your question has me confused about who you are talking about most of the time - your ex or this new guy? In any case, yes, I will confirm that flashing this guy and whatnot was a bad idea because of your reaction to it and the fact that he was pressuring you. However, you can't beat yourself up over it. You have to also acknowledge that this guy was being a jerk - considering not going out with you because you won't do stuff? That's a bad sign right there. I say move on. There are so many other guys in the world who won't treat you like that, and you really don't deserve someone who will.
If it's your ex who has the girlfriend (once again you lost me for which guy is which. Anyway), then he's probably moved on just like you seem to have with this other guy, or it probably seemed like that to him, anyway. If it's the pressuring guy who's gotten a girlfriend - I don't know, I'm starting to feel sorry for her. Pressure boy probably feels weird for getting horny or pressurous, or who really knows what his motives are? Once again I suggest you stay away from him, and stay away from getting too physical without knowing the person that well, if it's commitment and love that you are looking for. Should you talk to him: do you want to talk to him? You really don't owe him anything.
So I have this problem.
I have a boyfriend who i trulyyy love.
I'm not "IN LOVE" with him, but i love him.
Hopefully you understand the difference. Well, it's weird because we have been together and everything was really good. Recently, we started hanging out with another couple, the girl being myy real good best friend, and the boy being my boyfriends realL good friend. so it's been us 4 for a while. but it's complicating because ever since we started hanging out with them, we have been fighting. i don't even know why, because it's not like our friends do anything to make us fight. we just do. i think it's because he compares us to them, [keep in mind that our friends are not together, they are just talking and hooking up] but he like compares us to them because they are just "happy" i guess, but alsoo they aren't a couple let alone have their feelings as strong as mine and my boyfriends [well as strong as MINE, i should say] but when we're together, its hearts beating out of our chests kinda thing, i love him, and he has told me that he loves me as well [keep in mind this is nott "IN LOVE" kind of thing] i really really really care a LOT about him. and he has said that he KNOWS he loves me.. yet last nighttt we were talking, and before i let it get to far to become an arguement i was just like "do you love me?" and he just stopped talking and kinda put up his hands and was like i dont know. and so it really upset me because he has said he loves me before and said he knowss he loves me. and hes like sometimes i feel like i do and sometimes i feel like i dont. and i was like ok that means you dont and he says i guess i dont then. so i was just left speechless. and hes like i guess i misinterpereted what the word means. and i just couldnt say anything.. knowing all the other times he said it, and then thinking that he never meant it, let alone know what love is.. just hurt. now i'm left heartbroken. i don't know what to do. that is all that's on my mind. we are still together, not fighting or anything, but i can't seem to get myself to feel any better. it hurts to know you love someone and not have them love you back.. and then think of all the other times he has said it and know that he didnt mean it, when he THOUGHT he did. this guy is my oxygen. what should i do? do you think this all happened because we started hanging out with the otehr couple and started fighting? i really need help. i reeally REALLY appreciate it.
ps- i'm sorry that this is so long.
It could be that one of the main reasons you guys are having problems is because you keep trying to define the whatever it is that you have. Personally, I think that love is a confusing issue. Even when you do know you love someone, it can feel like sometimes you do and sometimes you do and sometimes you don't. Sometimes you want to be with the person forever, sometimes it feels like you're loosing control and you just want to be alone. It's probably where the whole falling part of falling in love came from.
I doubt that it's this other relationship that is causing you guys to fight, and if it is it's saying something about how strong your bond is to begin with. Don't worry so much. You are committed to each other and want to spend time together, correct? So focus on that. As for if he's really loving you the way you would like, give it some time. Even if his confusion is hurting you, remember you can't really accuse him of anything because he is, after all, being honest.
there is this guy, who is a senior, he likes me and i like him back and we have become really close. we hung out saturday night and like it was really romantic, he held my hand and we jsut talked for like two hours. it was amazing. but hes a senior and im a sophomore. we really like eachother but im sooo worried about the age difference. like homecomming is comming up and i dont know if he will ask me or someone else bc of the age difference. this is really getting me worried...so please help.
Two years is essentially not that great an age difference, unless you find it to be. If it's worrying you, talk to him about it. Say something like, "I had a really great time the other night. Is the fact that I'm two years younger a problem?" Things like this - they may or may not be an issue. But they are only really issues if either of you have a problem with it.
well there is this guy that i think i am in love with. I've liked him for about a year. Him and I have a pretty good realtionship. Im really scared of rejection, so i've never told him I liked him. I think about him all the time. We always flirt and have hooked up a few times. Im scared to tell him how I feel because he is in my circle of friends and i dont want i to be weird. Im honestly would do ANYTHING for this kid. Is this love or lust and any suggestions on what to do? Thank you =]
Love and lust:
A very confusing thing. I doubt even adults in serious relationships can always tell the difference. Essentially, love is more the commitment part, the willingness to do "ANYTHING for this kid". Lust is more you like having sex with them or kissing them or something along those lines. In most relationships there are elements of both. It sounds like you like this guy enough to consider acting on it, so I wouldn't really worry about the love/lust stuff at this point (if it makes you feel any better, I'm not sure entirely what you have is love, since I am not you, but it sounds like more than lust from what I've read, since you seem to be looking for more relationship/commitment type things, no?)
If you've flirted and hooked up and been his friend, sounds like you've got what you need for a relationship and all you need now is the commitment. Likely he likes you too, I mean, he probably wouldn't be doing all of what he's doing with a friend otherwise (unless he was really confused or an ass or whatnot), and, well, he's probably in the same boat you are. If you are his friend, you should get it out in the open. If you are really scared of rejection, all you need to do is ask him out. If he's already been out with you in some ways and you make it sound less pressurous, then there's an incredibly small chance he'll actually say no. Make it the two of you, and you can make it regular. And sometime between all of this tell him how you feel. It's been going on for a year all ready? Honestly. Rejection is tough, but as it is, you could have a nothing just because you didn't have the courage to take that step.
Hey.
15/m
So school started the other week.
And its been pretty much wonderful.
I have a friends who is bi.
And in the past week I think he has started flirting with me.
Now, I'm not gay.
But I have no problem with gay people.
So...
How can I tell if he really does likes me (not by asking?
I prettty conceited,
so I am hoping that i am just "thinking" that he likes me.
help?
Thanks
Well, I guess one way to know would be to think of all the ways you naturally act around a girl you like and see if he's acting in these ways. Is he looking at you more than usual, ei, when someone else is talking? Do his eyes ever melt slightly when he looks at you? Does he tease you by touching you (not tackling kind of stuff, but things that are slightly more subtle). Other signs may be tilting his head to one side, or sitting near you all of the time as you and your friends are sitting together.
Remember, though, that a lot of flirting is often causal and may not mean that someone likes you. If you are really concerned, you could always send some hints his way, for example, you could talk about girls you find hot, or the girl(s) you have a crush on, or give him some hint that you only like him as a friend (ei "you're such a good friend" or if that's too cheesy, call him your brother or something?)
Good luck =]
I'm not going to go into detail, but there's this guy who really seems to think that I'm going to wait around forever for him. Newsflash: I'm not. Basically, he seems to think that I'm just going to be his loyal princess, or whatever, but he seems to get alarmed when it looks like I'm distancing myself from him.
I wanted to get the message across to him without being overly rude, so today, when I passed him (I usually strike up a conversation FIRST) I said absolutely nothing.
I saw him do a double take, almost like he was waiting for me to say something, and when I didn't, he was like "What the fuck?"
I've tried this before, and the next day, he actually took a different route to class to avoid me.
Do you think this will help him appreciate me? I know you're probably going to say "Why don't you talk it out with him?" Let's just say we aren't at that point yet.
Any other suggestions are helpful.
If you walk right by him it gives the message that you are purposefully giving the silent treatment, maybe because you are angry, or... actually angry is probably the main thing it conveys. If you want to give the message that you have in some way moved on, the best way would probably be to give off the friendly but too busy for him vibe. Instead of giving the message that he has done something to you, it will make you more desirable because you'll just look like a more involved, desired by the public person. Maybe next time you see him in the halls say hi, and be friendly (unless you actually are mad at him, then you could nod your head. No need to be overly upset looking), but at the same time acknowledge the people around you. If they are in your classes say hi to them too, or become super involved with after school stuff if you would usually see him then.
I'm not sure it was the alarmed by the you distancing yourself thing... it may have been more alarmed at the sudden silent treatment thing. I'm not sure if he thinks of you in a friend way or potential admiree (if he sees you as a friend, well, what if one of your friends gave you the silent treatment? for no apparent reason?). But the main point is to try to be friendly in general because you may get farther with people liking you in life in general that way. Distance yourself in a way that isn't maybe so obvious, and then when he sees you smiling and laughing with a group of friends in the hall, that's when he'll realize what he's missing.
i have recently gotten mono and i have been dating my boyfriend for quite a while. the most common way to attain mono is through kissing. he is the only person i have kissed for over a year. should i be worried that he has been messing around on me?
when i ask him he swears that nothing is going on.
not only that, but i have just had my doubts lately. i really love him and i dont want to be a controlling crazy girlfriend but i dont want to be strung along like an idiot either. what do you recommend i do?
and if you have ever had mono, how long did it take until you felt better?
Kissing is actually not the only way to pass on mono; it can also be passed along by things such as sharing drinks and food and anything that contains one's saliva in general. Does your bf have mono as well? It could be that it wasn't in fact him who gave you mono, and that you got it in a completely different way other than kissing.
I'm no mono expert but from what I've read you'll have it for about a month (or according to wikipedia, it takes one to two weeks to realize you have it and then from there you have one to two weeks to recover.
You would have somewhat of a right to be paranoid if you actually suspect your boyfriend of cheating for other reasons. Does he still seem into you? Is he flirting a little too much with other girls or is he okay in this area? You should probably think about these things when determining your boyfriend's loyalty, and if you are really unsure you should ask a friend. Or you could ask him (again). But if you do, don't accuse him. He's already said he hasn't cheated, and in principal it would probably the best thing to trust him, at least for now. If you've been with him for this long, hopefully he has given you plenty of reason to trust him so far.
Sometimes I feel sad, and think life is not worth living. But I know killing myself won't be solving anything. My question is, is there anything (medicine wise) that can help me?
There are things medicine wise AND not medicine wise that can help you. No matter what your situation, if you are depressed and you want to get out of it bad enough, you will, guaranteed. Sometimes it takes months, sometimes it takes years, but nothing is forever except death.
Life may not feel like living right now, but you want to be around when it does.
It's good that you already realize this, and are already reaching out for help. There's nothing that most of us here can suggest to help you, however, there's tons of meds out there for people in your condition and for people worse off. You could go on google and do a search to easily come up with numerous results. They do come with side affects, but most of the time these are far less painful than the depression itself.
Other things to try (even though you have not asked this) are things such as therapy, or even things like changing your diet or getting a more normal amount of sleep. Sometimes it's just a lifestyle choice that's making you feel this way - you could be isolating yourself too much, or working way too hard without giving yourself any time to relax. It could be, if you are a teenager, that you are more likely to feel this way anyway just because your body is changing so much.
In any case, you need to reach out. Talk to a guidance counselor, or an adult you trust who can refer you somewhere to be counseled and given meds. Remember that there are people to help and medicine more often than not does work. The most important thing, however, cheesy as it sounds, is to believe in yourself. Get yourself out of the door everyday when you feel like crawling back into bed, even if it is just for a walk to the park. Reach out to a friend, someone who can just be there with you. Find something that you are passionate about doing that will allow you to release all of your negative energy - drawing, writing in a journal, anything expressive. Listen to loud, angry music, or listen to sad music and just cry. It helps sometimes to let yourself be sad to get it out of your system. Remind yourself of everyone that loves you and cares about you and all the reasons why you are thankful to be alive, even if it's just a few small simple things, like how the light looks coming through your bed each morning. Remember that you are put here on this earth for a reason; it's just up to you to find that reason and create it for yourself.
I know that in many ways the medicine does help, it definitely does. A psychiatrist can prescribe it to you incredibly easily and it will help you get better. You will need to reach out and take therapy because this also really works. But through whatever process you have to go through to get "better" remember that probably the person that can help you the most is yourself.
well i was wondering if anyone has any essay writing tips.
and.
how do you start a good essay, like how do you make an outline, i never really leared how to.
thnx.
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There are two main ways.
number #1
introduction
point one overview (what you'll be discussing in paragraph one)
point two overview (what you'll be discussing in the second paragraph)
point three overview (what you'll be discussing in the third paragraph)
thesis sentence
introduction to paragraph
point one
example
point two
example
point three
example
conclusion to paragraph, link first and second paragraph together somehow
introduction to paragraph, link first and second paragraph together somehow
point one
example
point two
example
point three
example
conclusion to paragraph, link second and third paragraph together somehow
introduction to paragraph, link second and third paragraph together
point one
example
point two
example
point three
example
conclusion to paragraph
thesis
point three
point two
point one
conclusion sentences
essay # 2
introduction paragraph, outline what will talk about but not necessarily point by point
intro to paragraph
idea
example
idea
example
idea
example
conclusion to paragraph
intro to paragraph
idea
example
idea
example
idea
example
conclusion to paragraph
intro to paragraph
idea
example
idea
example
idea
example
conclusion to paragraph
conclusion sentences
the first type of paragraph is more complex. The second is probably the kind you will be asked to write if you have never written a formal essay before (how would they expect you to know more without this fabulous site? Okay maybe google. Or maybe in wki how. But in any case)
The introduction is always very general. It should be very appealing and more lighthearted of a sentence, to get readers intrigued. It should be targeted to a specific audience but more about life in general than your specific topic. The point overviews are mini introductions to each paragraph and should be less than a sentence long (see where I have point one, two three?), or exactly a sentence long. It may be easiest to list them in list format. At the end of your introduction you will get to the point and say exactly what you are trying to say or prove. In more complicated essays this is the thesis. You don't want to list examples of what you are proving. It must be something that you can argue and it must be specific.
Each body paragraph has an introduction and a conclusion which should repeat whatever the point is. This point should be something that supports whatever you are trying to prove or say in the essay.They should say the same thing but be written differently. Inside the introduction and conclusion are ideas that support the point. Each point must be proved with a more specific example.IF you were writing an essay based on some sort of text, the example would be a direct quotation or reference of this text.
This sounds very confusing, so I'll give you some examples. Your main idea could be "the internet is helpful" if you are writing something with a thesis this may be too vague so you would say instead "Since the internet has been created, the lives of the citizens in western society have been greatly improved". Your topic in your first paragraph could be "Everyone in western society with a computer is now much more informed than they were" your idea could be "Many people can seek advice online" Your example could be "there are advice cites, such as advicenators.com, where one can ask a question on anything and get results, such as how to write an essay" Your intro could be something like "In North America and Europe, citizens are using computers much more than they were."
Now for your conclusion. The last sentence, or few sentences, is something that sends a message to society as a whole. It should connect your essay back to the outside world in a more meaningful way. I guess if we were to follow with my examples, you could say something like "Now, considering how helpful computers are, very few could imagine their lives without it"
To write an outline, write down one of the example essays above (you know, intro, idea one, ect) and fill out what you would write for each category beside the heading.