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friends with benefits
15/f
ive been friends with this kid for a really long time and i had sex with him not to long with ago. and it was the whole 'friends with benefits' thing. now theres another girl and he says that he was tired of being single.. but we both know that if we ever did go out then we wouldnt be able to see each other like the last two times that happened. (he lives like 30 minutes away, by the way). but still i was right here the whole time. i wish he knew that i wanted him, but i didnt have the guts to say it and he said he wanted to move on if he cant have me.. i want to move on but then again it hurts because hes prob over there fucking that girl. pure jealousy. and i dont want to move on because ive been in love with him for two years. i want to know how to win him back, like show him that its me he should have. ideas?
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Sounds like this guy isn't very caring, mature, and or bright to use you in the whole friends with benefits thing (and to get a girlfriend to avoid being single. Slightly lacking in perception, there). But to be honest, you did agree with it. Yes, going out with someone does mean that he probably shouldn't still see you. Why not tell him how you feel? If this is really going to tear you up anyway, you don't have much to lose and if you are his friend, honestly is important. I'm not sure that there's anything you can really do to "prove" anything besides being sincere. If he doesn't like you, no amount of flowers, or cards, or all things superficial can really make him realize anything.
Have an honest conversation. Tell him how you feel about him, all of how you feel. It may not win him back, but it will clear the air and (hopefully) make you feel better for trying and getting your feelings out in the open.
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the thing with being with friends like that its not supposed to have strings attached so no hard feelings when he drops you like a fly and gets another girl! you can tell him how your feeling but he mite just say that being so far away from you isnt going to work out. and sometimes its not. your young for love youll find more trust me this could be just lust because you had sex with him. your having mixed feelings. future reference dont do that kind of friends thing again it messes with your mind and if you dont know the bad effects to friends with bennifts then you shouldnt be doing it at all. it hurts and is frusterating and only makes you realize that guy is a pig and a user and you dont want that in a guy ever!!!
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You probably won't want to hear this, but by just letting him have sex with you, he's just used that and moved on.
Chances are he's not going to fall in love with you anytime soon.
You need to move on and find someone who respects you. xxx
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