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love or lust? HELP PLEASE !! =[
well there is this guy that i think i am in love with. I've liked him for about a year. Him and I have a pretty good realtionship. Im really scared of rejection, so i've never told him I liked him. I think about him all the time. We always flirt and have hooked up a few times. Im scared to tell him how I feel because he is in my circle of friends and i dont want i to be weird. Im honestly would do ANYTHING for this kid. Is this love or lust and any suggestions on what to do? Thank you =]
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Love and lust:
A very confusing thing. I doubt even adults in serious relationships can always tell the difference. Essentially, love is more the commitment part, the willingness to do "ANYTHING for this kid". Lust is more you like having sex with them or kissing them or something along those lines. In most relationships there are elements of both. It sounds like you like this guy enough to consider acting on it, so I wouldn't really worry about the love/lust stuff at this point (if it makes you feel any better, I'm not sure entirely what you have is love, since I am not you, but it sounds like more than lust from what I've read, since you seem to be looking for more relationship/commitment type things, no?)
If you've flirted and hooked up and been his friend, sounds like you've got what you need for a relationship and all you need now is the commitment. Likely he likes you too, I mean, he probably wouldn't be doing all of what he's doing with a friend otherwise (unless he was really confused or an ass or whatnot), and, well, he's probably in the same boat you are. If you are his friend, you should get it out in the open. If you are really scared of rejection, all you need to do is ask him out. If he's already been out with you in some ways and you make it sound less pressurous, then there's an incredibly small chance he'll actually say no. Make it the two of you, and you can make it regular. And sometime between all of this tell him how you feel. It's been going on for a year all ready? Honestly. Rejection is tough, but as it is, you could have a nothing just because you didn't have the courage to take that step.
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I think its love and if you truly feel that way about him tell him. but like they say its easier said than done i say go for it.
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TELL HIM. i was in the exact situation. after months of liking him i finally got the courage to tell him and that day i found out he was going out with someone. i thought it would be weird if i dated my friend but when i finally got over what everyone would think then it was too late. do it! or you'll regret it i promise
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None of us can tell you what you feel. Only you can. But my advice, ask him over to hang out, and try to hold hands with him when your together. I hope I helped<3
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Well, i think you might be both. you want to love him, and you DEF lust over him. you might just love him and not be inlove, theres a difference.
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