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love...in love
Okay so my boyfriend and i have been pretty serious for about 8 months.. and we say i love you to each other and stuff like everyday... but im IN love with him... and when i ask if he is with me he says he loves me but he doesn't know if hes in love with me...
but to me there are two kinds of love.
loving someone like a good friend or family or something like that.
or being IN love with a girlfriend/boyfriend that you've been with for a while or known for a while.
and i don't know why he isn't... but lately when I've talked to him I wont say i love you back to him.. and i think he's getting the point.. because he knows that i love him... but he also knows that it hurts me.. but if you answer this don't say anything about me not saying it back.. i just want to know what you think because I'm really IN love with him. and he acts like he is with me.. but he wont say it...
as many answers as i could get would be great.
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Dear Love...in love,
I agree that there are 2 different kinds of love. Ok so my thoughts are this...maybe he is in love you and knows how sacred the words, " I love you. " are and isn't sure that he wants to say them to you. He may care for you a lot, but maybe he isn't in love you like you are with him. I am not writing this to hurt your feelings, i am terriably sorry if i did.
Hope this helps
K
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To you there is this difference between the words "in love" and "love". To him there may not be. Not that he doesn't understand the fact that you can love people like a friend and like a lover, but he may use the same word to mean both (many people do). He isn't going to be able to puzzle this out by reading your mind, so likely freezing him out on the "I love yous" may make him confused or hurt if he notices instead of causing to realize he has made some sort of mistake.
In truth, I fail to see how he has done anything wrong. He says he loves you regularly, and since you are his girlfriend I'm pretty sure he's not talking about love in the brother sister type of way. If it's really bugging you, you could ask "are you in love with me?" or simply say "I'm in love with you" and wait for his reaction. How does he know that it hurts you when he doesn't say he is "in love?" Has he even heard of your whole opinion of two kinds of love before?
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boys are confusing. even though he doesn't say it at least he acts like it, it would be worse if he said it but didn't act like it. maybe he's scared to say it or trying to figure out his feelings. don't rush it. when he finally says he's in love with you, and says it from his heart and not just because you want him to, it'll feel great.
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just give him time. maybe he doesn't want to rush his feelings for you. and wants the inlove to mean something when he tells you. even tho you've been dating for awhile now.
and i'm sure that he will be inlove and just doesn't realize it yet.
don't fret. things will be alright dear.
godbless and goodluck. :]
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