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i NEED to resist the temptation
im friends with a shmuck. he's my best friend but he's a manwhore basically. he got back with his ex girlfriend and while they were on a 6 month break me and my guy friend hooked up quite a few times. now that they're back together me and him are both having trouble resisting temptation of hooking up again. we have not been physical at all in the month that they've been back together except for one hug. here's the thing though. we always talk dirty to each other and i feel bad about it and afterwards im almost sick to my stomach in guilt but he's like an addiction. he's the first guy that i've been sexual with if that makes a difference. i really want to stop this because i feel bad but everytime we're around each other our conversations turn sexual and sexual towards each other. don't tell me to talk about something non-sexual because we could be talking about frogs or something random but it'll still end up that way.
pleeaasseee help me, i can't just stop talking to him because he's one of my best friends
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Well you could give him an ultimatum: you or his girlfriend, and until then no more dirty talk. Honestly, though, when you think about it, he's already chosen his girlfriend. What he has with you is just something extra and bonus that he can get away with. You may really like him, but it sounds like he's using you, either that or he is really confused.
The best thing to do in this situation, if you feel like you can't act like his friend without any strings, is to get away. Call someone who is not only your friend but who will respect you, and not use you. Or call a bunch of friends, and all go out together; leave him with his girlfriend to do whatever he wants because as it is, it really doesn't need to concern you. Get super involved in school or something after school or anything that will take your mind off of him. Remind yourself that you are really that much better than he is, and be the bigger person for respecting him (in some ways), his girlfriend, and most importantly, yourself. You are worth so much more than what he put you through, and will likely keep putting you through if you let him.
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It's best you keep your distance from him for a while until things calm down,you have to be able to fight that addiction you have,keep it under total control you can do it if you put all your strength,mind to it you'll manage to beat this temptation of yours.
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Keep in mind, though you think his girlfriend is a shmuck, she has feelings too.
I'm quite certain you wouldn't want your boyfriend talking dirty to another girl behind your back, now would you?
You are just as responsible for this as he is, so you need to put a stop to it from your end. Yah, it may be hard, but you have to.
He has a girlfriend.
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if you cant keep from talking to him set up limits. or try to not talk as much. he needs to tell his girl if he wants you still. he seems not ready to settle down yet.
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