Hello, my name is Sam. There's a lot that I can say about myself, but if you'd like that then you could always message me and we can have a nice cup of tea together :D
I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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I really want some hot pink skinny jeans.
Do you know of any shops that sell them?
I don't want to order of catalogues or the internet because I won't know if they'll fit me properly, so if you know any shops that sell them, please tell me.
I live in england so only mention shops here.
Thanks in advance, xxx (link)
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i know that forever 21 has skinny jeans in every color. im pretty sure that store exists in england.
SAM
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I have to get braces in 7 days. I just got my spacers in today. How exactly are braces put on, what are the parts to braces, and what colors look good together. Which colors make your teeth seem whiter, I was thinking about getting dark pink and light blue or dark pink and light pink. Which would you choose? (link)
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hey i have braces. ok well they use this glue stuff and it tastes bad. but they let you rinse out your mouth. well its different for everyone but the spacers are meant to make room for the molar brace. its a metal thing that gets put in the back of your mouth that secures the brackets. brackets are the little metal things on each tooth. then they use a metal wire to hook them all together. then you get the little colored rubber bands to hold the wire in place. get the dark and light pink. those colors look cool and will make ur teeth seem whiter. also i wouldnt worry too much about that because they whiten your teeth a bit before putting on the braces. oh and take some pain medication after you get them on so your mouth isnt sore =]
SAM
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Okay so I liked my friend Nick all last summer and parts of this year. We had stopped talking whenever I didn't like him, but the other day I was like I miss you we haven't talked in forever and hes like yeah are you going to my baseball game tomorrow? and I told him I would, so I went and it was delayed when I got there, and I was about to leave but he saw me and he goes HEYY MELISSA!!! so I decided to stay because they started playing, and he got a run so I texted him and was like
me: goodjob nick(:
and then it got delayed again, so I left, but the game got cancelled so he answered me
nick: ha no I did really bad pitching
me: no you did a good job, and I say your good so thats all that matters :]
nick: yeah whatever :]
me: did you hear me scream?
nick: no why did you scream?
me: because my hair was so messed up from the rain
nick: oh ha I didn't get a good look at you
me: oh be lucky you didn't
nick: why do you say that
me: nick you've never thought I was pretty.
nick: naww, I think your cute.. deece ha.
And that is a plus because he never thought I was cute he would always just say deece, and he isn't the type that will say that to make you feel better about yourself or anything.
So anyways, I went to this dance and he was there and he came over and was making fun of me because of how short I am, then he had a lollipop in his mouth and I told him I wanted it so I took it and he didn't care at first but I didn't put it in my mouth because I had gum, so then he started fighting me for it and I gave it back and he was like WHORE YOU DUMP MY FRIEND IN A DAY! and I was like Nick I didn't like him you know that.. You knew I liked you and he walked away and then Get Low came on and I was dancing and he said I dance crazy ha and he called me a whore again so I slapped him. Then whenever I would look at him he would come over, and my friend Taylor started grabbing his butt and balls and she tried to steal his lollipop too but he didn't let her take it, and then he told me she was pissing me off and to slap her but I wouldn't. Then a slow song came on and he said I NEED SOMEONE TO DANCE WITH! And his friend Ben was like I WILL! so they did jokingly, and then I had to leave so I gave him a hug, and I started to walk away and he goes have you ever wanted to be tall? and I said yeah so he picked me up and held me for awhile until my friends were finally like awl mel we have to leave, so we started to walk away and he came so I asked if he was leaving and he said No I'm saying bye to T and so we were waiting to get stuff and I stood by him and I was looking at him and he asked what I was looking at and I said nothing and laughed and walked away.
I was texting him when I came home and I was like
Sorry for slapping you tonight I feel really bad
Nick: no its okay I'm used to, that was a solid punch I'm proud of you :]
me: ha thanks I could have slapped you harder but I didnt want to hurt you or anything
he said something i forget ha but he made this smiley like (::)
me: what is that?
nick: a double back to back smiley
me: did you make that yourself?
nick: yes
me: ha goodjob wanna cookie?!
nick: yup i do!
me: haha cookies sound really good right now imma make us some, dudee tonight was fun sorta, I miss hanging out with you
Nick: okay? do you like me now?
me: do you like me?
Nick: yeah
me: no you don't
Nick: yeah I know sorry ha, but do you likey me
Me: i dunno I thought I did but it's just pointless because were just friends and I sort of like someone else but they are being gay
Nick: oh okay well i gotta go forreal my phone is flashing up low battery bye bye.
I haven't talked to him since and that was Thursday, I tried to text him but I did at like 2 in the morning so he was sleeping and then I did last night at like 10 PM, but he never answered. And today[July 1] is his birthday.. So I probably will text him and say Happy birthday but I'm not going to text him until Thursday because I don't want to get annoying. But what do you think I should do? And do you think I actually have a chance this time, because I think he likes me? Thanks!
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i dont think that he would ever intentionally hurt you or try to lead you on but the truth is that i dont think he really likes you. i think that he sees you as a best friend. i always liked my best friend so much and i wanted him to like me back. he always made it seem like he did like me and everyone told me that we should go out. the only problem is that he never really liked me. what i just read sounds like what my friend would say to me.
I know all of this isnt exactly what you want to hear. but Nick cares about you. youre probably one of the most important people in his life and im sure he misses you too. the best thing for you to do is to talk with him. if you dont want to talk about it then just try to move on. hes gonna keep leading you on until you move on. wish you the best. and anything you need im here for you.
SAM
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14/f (sorry if its long)
Ok well I shadowed one of my friends a couple of weeks ago because i would be transferring to her school soon. anyway, we got to homeroom and she was introducing me to everyone. her boyfriend was in her homeroom, and was sitting in front of me. so he turns around and smiles and asks me if i remember him, and im like yeah. so he keeps looking at me and i turn away. then when i get home he ims me and was like hey. and we used to talk on aim like everyday, so we were sort of close. and we start talking, you know, having a normal conversation, and hes like i love you. i know he didnt really mean it cause he has a gf who is my friend. so im just like yea whatever. but he kept saying it and it got really annoying. and hes always like i love you why dont you ever say it back. and i would say it to get him off my case, but he might use it against me, you know? so i dont know why he keeps doing it so i asked and he says he tells all his friends that. but idk. why does he keep doing it and how can i get him to stop? (link)
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well it seems like he has a thing for you. but ur doing good by trying to ignore it. if it gets to be too much tell him strait out that he has a girlfriend and its making you feel uncomfortable with him always telling you he loves you so much. he'll get the message. and dont tell ur friend or anyone about it because then rumors spread and you dont want that.
SAM
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I'm 16/f, and had a best friend that was 16/m. We were very good friends, hung out everyday almost, or called almost everyday. Either way, we were always talking/or together. Anyway, awhile ago, in January, something happened that ruined our friendship. Now we get in little fights over ANYTHING, and we try to fix it all but it keeps building up. We've been trying since January to regain our old friendship. Is this a lost cause? I really believed our friendship could get back to being very close, but I'm starting to feel like we're both slowly giving less effort. Is there anyway our friendship could ever be like it was, if we keep trying? Thank you. (link)
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last year my best friend and i hated eachother for a while. i mean it was really bad to the point where we argued about everything and couldnt stand eachother. eventually we tried to talk about what happened at put it behind us. if you value the friendship and want it back then its not too late. talk to him about it and explain everything. ask him what he thinks about it too. slowly the two of you can become friends again. it worked for me.
SAM
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The guy i like, i speak to him on msn nearly every day. But, when me or him have to go offline all i say is ''okies, bye xxxx'' or something like that.
But, what are some cute things i could say to him to show that i like him, but so it's not so obvious?
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well if you guys are pretty good friends or something you could throw in something nice. like "bye....ill miss you!" or if he said something funny you could say "haha ur hilarious! i love you" either way he'll start noticing signs but not too much haha. good luck with this guy!
SAM
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what does an orange have to dow with smokin pot (link)
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some people use an orange or apple to smoke in so that no one can see them doing it. you make a hole in the orange and then smoke it. not that ive tried but i have friends who do it.
SAM
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months and we have never had a fight. my friend say this is a bad thing. should i be worried? (link)
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thats not a bad thing. its good. that means that you two can comunicate very well with eachother. but if there is ever anything that he does that bothers you then you should tell him about it. if you let everything slide then thats not good. dont listen to your friend because you seem to have a good trusting relationship.
SAM
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Hey,
So, being the random person I am, I sat here thinking about why everyone always thinks they're fat, all of a sudden.
Like, not all of a sudden, but lately-everyone's complaining about their weight.
Even I am not happy with my weight, at about ninety-five pounds (14).
But the thing that I don't understand is how we've all convinced ourselves that we look horrible? I mean-and I am even guilty of it-how can everyone look into the mirror and see something so much more distorted than what's really there?
We should be so much more confident!
Does anyone have any stories or personal experiences relating to this? Any advice for those going through this? (link)
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girls at school are always complaining especially because there is a lot of pressure from the media to look a certain way. i wish girls could just love themselves and their bodies. the only way for other ppl to love you is to first love yourslef. even for me its hard but i try to see that you should embrace what you have and not worry so much. life gets a hell of a lot easier when you stop worring about what everyone thinks. good luck to you.
SAM
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ok. so yesterday we were at our school picnic and i was walking around with a group of all girls then we decided to meet up with a group of guys to walk around with. and my ex was in the group and i knew that he still liked me and he was the only on i was interested in in that group. so everytime we had to pick who we wanted to ride with i picked him. and then he asked me out and i couldnt just say no to him. i completely led him on and didnt mean it. now idk what to do because i dont like him but idk if i want to break up with him or not.. (link)
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well its always hard to have to hurt someone especially when you didnt mean to. honestly you have to make a choice. you can break up with him and tell him you just want to be friends or you could go out with him but you might have to end up breaking up with him anyways. i say you do it now because the longer you wait to then the more its gonna hurt.
SAM
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this may sound stupid if you do not like animals and know the bond you can have with them...i am away from home for college and my cat died....this was 5 months ago and i am still no over it..i am so upset..and sad..but to make it worse my other kitty is missing her sister..and that makes me so sad ..how can i make her happier and how can i deal wiht this loss (link)
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maybe it would be a good idea to get your other cat a new friend. your cat is grieving the death too and she needs something to ease her pain. im sorry about your cat, i really am. i think the best thing to do for you and your cat is to find a new friend. look at a local shelter. they always have great ones.
SAM
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Ok, a couple of days ago I'm IMing my friend and I tell her to hang on I had to use the restroom. Well, when I come back and start talking to her again, she asks what I was doing. I said, "just going to the bathroom." She said, "yea, i know but what were you doing?" I got mad because I knew what she meant by that. I got really mad when she asked, "Did you start your period?" She's always asking me, what're you doing this weekend? What did you do last night? Who do you like? And WAY too many personal questions not even my parents know. I told her to stop asking, but she said, "No, I have every right to know what's happening to you." I need advice on what do do. She won't leave me alone about personal stuff! And why would I tell her if she's going to tell everybody else. She always promises not to tell and goes ahead and says it anyway. HELP! (link)
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ive had friends like that. tell her that you need space and that she cant keep asking you all these personal quesions. and if she doesnt stop then forget her because thats just being to clingy.
SAM
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14/f
Today and yesterday I've been feeling like I can't breathe as deeply as I want to. It's weird.
is this asthma or what?
if it helps- i'm not out of shape. slightly overweight, but in fairly good physical condition. (link)
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i think you should go get checked out for asthma. or it could be something minor but tell your parents to take you to the doctor just to be sure.
SAM
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okay this is skylar...
http://a267.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01060/66/26/1060616266_l.jpg
shes athletic. she can play alot of instraments. shes more of the tom boy. shes adventurous. she likes ping pong. she likes to party and camp alot also. shes prude. she has more money, and is more liked. she hangs out with a lot of guys though, and is often buisy.
and this is mariuh
http://a242.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/61/l_9b420492b9a759e6c364fa28a5287fd1.jpg
shes really loud, but extremely shy around adults and in school. shes pretty bad at school. but shes a fast runner. she likes to break the law, and sneak out. shes not prude. people think shes a lesbian, but shes straight. she loves to dance and swim. she does not have much money, and is not well liked because her ex boyfriend spred lies about her. and shes ussaully not buissy.
who do you think is better to date?
prettier?
what do you think? (link)
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i say go for the first girl because the second seems too wild. you might have to take things slow but i think itll work out better. besides tomboys are awesome!
SAM
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In the movie Freedom Writers, what was the name of the Holocaust Museum they visited? The one where you receive a card with a child's name and info and on it and at they end of the tour you find out whether they live or die. Is it called the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum?
Thanks! (link)
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well ive been to the Museum of Tolerance in los angeles california. there they give you a childs card and you find out if he or she lives or dies at the end of the tour. that is probably the museum they visited. i think you should visit it sometime because it is a really powerful place that shows a very good representation of what happened during the holocaust and othe tragedies around the world.
SAM
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I really want to ask a guy out. I know a few guys, but the problem is... Nobody will be caught dead dating me. If a guy is dating me, he'll be taunted until he brakes up with me. I'm not a geek or anything. I wear glasses, but they actually make me look better than when I don't have glasses on. I don't act like a geek either. I act ok. a little weird, but ok. I've only dated three guys. 1, hurt me physically. 2, was really annoying and was checking other girls out. 3, dated me for three days and broke up with me because he never got to see me.(He goes to another skool across the state)I don't think I'm ugly, or stupid. I'm confident in stuff like that, but i don't know why guys won't date me. My one friend says it's because I don't like/wear make up and dresses/skirts and well... girly stuff. I don't like that stuff because I'm a tomboy, but i still like dating. I mean sure my first experience was bad, but still. I need advice on how to date and who to date. (link)
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look if a guy cant see past the way you look then hes not worth it. im sure you are a beautiful and smart and a great person but some guys are just into a certain kind of way of dressing. shallow ppl like that are not worth your time. im a tomboy too and most guys just see me as a sister. most think im too weird for them but i just go with the flow. you will meet an awesome guy one day that will like you for you. until then try to have fun without all the relationship drama.
SAM
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years, give or take. We broke up a couple of times, longest being last year for 3 months. I broke up with him because I wasn't happy, as I felt he was being too clingy and I love my independence and space. Also, I was extremely attracted to someone else. After 3 months of constant drinking, and him being extremely devastated we got back together. A year on, he has really made the effort, and is less clingy, ie. lets me go out with my friends, and do things on my own without having to ask his permission. Thing is, a year on I think I still have strong feelings for that other guy, and I'm not sure if I'm still attracted to my boyfriend. We don't make love on a regular basis, because I'm never in the humour, and he's got a lot of silly little habits which are starting to drive me insane and they shouldn't. I feel frustrated and stressed when I'm with him, and sometimes relieved to be on my own. At the same time, I love him to bits as a best friend, and I don't want to lose that. I don't know what I should do. I'm so eternally confused by the whole thing. 4 years is a long time, and I don't want to throw it away on a whim. I'm 23 years old, and don't think I'm ready for this type of commitment. Please help me, I would love some good advice for this situation. Please! (link)
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the best thing to do is talk to him about how you are feeling. i remember i had a boyfriend once and he was really clingy so i started to be less attracted to him. i didnt feel a desire to be near him anymore and i made a horrible mistake. i broke up with him in the meanest way possible and we hated eachother for months after. if you dont want to be with him then you need to tell him before it gets out of control and you end up saying things you dont mean. its the best for the two of you and im sure you can still be friends. my ex and i got over it and now were best friends. i know he probably does mean a lot to you but just isnt the right guy for you. so talk to him and explain everything. im sure he'll understand.
SAM
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I know, I have a lot of different guy problems as you can tell by my other posts. But here's a new on for you: I've been friends with this guy for years and liked him on and off for a while. On the last day of school one of his friends came up to me and asked me "If he asks you out next year, would you say yes?" Then I said "yeah, probably. why?" Then he said "I just kinda had a hunch that he would because you guys talk a lot and are really good friends" I'm pretty sure my friend likes me but some of my other friends didn't think so. What do you think? (link)
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its kind of the same situation with my best friend and i. everyone tells us we should date because we would be the perfect couple. but other people just make the situation worse! i say you ask him directly. i asked my best friend if he likes me and he said that he doesnt. i cant say he does like you and i cant say he doesnt because i dont know. my best friend and i hold hands and walk around with our arms around eachother but he still doesnt like me. so its hard to figure out unless you ask. and if he says no then there are a lot of guys who would say yes to you. and dont worry about messing up the friendship. if hes really your best friend he wont care. and he will love you either way. love doesnt always mean going out. thats what ive learned. hope i helped. i wish you the best.
SAM
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ok i like this guy alot and he likes me alot but he has a bad reputation with girls (doing stuff with them and then it becomes a locker room joke)
anyways well i started hanging out with him mostly during the summer and now i have a whole bunch of feelings for him and he likes me alot to well the problem is that well i can't trust people and i don't know if i could bring myself to go out with him even though i like him alot and well he asked me out and i said no and he got really sad almost to where he was going to cry i guess and now he is ignoring me not because hes mad just because he knows or thinks that he won't ever get a chance with me i think i am the first girl that this guy may actually really like so how can i bring myself to go out with him or should i just wait to see what happends i don't know i need help with this one (link)
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if he was sad about you saying no then no, your no just a joke to him. it seems like he really likes you. people can change for the better and it seems that he really cares about you. tell him you made a mistake. tell him you wanna be with him. dont worry until you have a good reason to. and if he does anything to turn you into a joke then forget him. but for now go for it. he sounds like he likes you as much as you do. good luck.
SAM
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this is crazy i knw..... i met this guy who considered me one of his best friends. we hung out all the time and did everything couples do together with out the kissing/makingout/sex part. we held hands hugged at one point walked with his shoulder around me and stuff.......
i thought he was gay so i never really considered that there would be anything there...
later though about 7 or 8 months after we met and right be4 we went our separate since he graduated (he's 22 i am 20).... i told him the truth about how in that past month i was a bit infatuated by him..... very very to say the least...... at somepoint i had doubts about him being bi... because his signs of flirting are always direct with both men and women.... and i figured since we're always together and he hasnt sed anything then maybe he was just gay.... anyway .... wen i told him i told him rite after that i hope this dsnt change or alter our friendship he said he was completly fine with and we even went out that night...
a month later:
i still like him a bit since he was honestly the funnest guy i'd been with.... plus he always makes me feel assured about myself....... but its summer and i am abroad and i met this other guy very very formally... and there may be sparks in the middle... i am still not sure i'm going to have to get to knw him.....he's cute and all but the problem is that i still keep thinking about the other guy since i feel its not over yet and since he has been IMing me constantly asking about this new guy.... he sounds pissed and he always says he'd "save " me and misses me and that he wants to elope with me and things..... i miss him too but i don't know what he's trying to get to....
i never asked hiim about his sexuality and i think its stupid to do so now.... what do i do?!
i just need ppls opinions on this situation... (link)
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im going through the same kind of situation right now. my best friend holds hands with me and puts his arm around my shoulder like couples do. he doesnt like me though. and everyone assumes he is gay or bi and im not sure if he is because he told me he was confused at first but now hes not anymore. the only thing you can do is ask him if he likes you. if he says he doesnt then you have to move on because if he doesnt then he most likely is gay. most guy girl best friend situations dont involve this much flirting. but gay guys show a lot of affection to girls because they feel more comfortable around them. so just ask him. hope it goes well. if you need anything im here for you...
SAM
hey. ok a good way to ask him or find out if he likes you is by just asking him if he likes you. tell him it kinda seems like he does and say other people have noticed it too. if he says no then just say "oh i dont like you like that either, but i just wanted to know if you do." and of course if he says yes then you can tell him how you feel. i suggest not getting your friends too involved because they can make things more complicated. that was my mistake, it turned into the talk of the school! well good luck and anything you need leave me a message in my inbox
SAM
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