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where could i get a homecoming dress..and fast! ive checked nordstorm and all major companys.. debs, delias, macys, pennys.. all of those.. anywhere else? (link)
Hey! There are tons of places you could get one. Here are a few:
-Ross (they have tons for cheap and most people won't get their from there so you wouldn't have a duplicate)
-Marshalls
-Foleys
-Dilliards
-Cache
-Windsor
-Marshal Fields
-Neiman Marcus
-Lord and Taylor

Try those..you could also try the net and ask for rush delivery. :)


i need ideas for an aol screen name!! here are some things about me. i have black hair & green eyes. i am a prep. i love hollister, abercrombie & Fitch, & amercian eagle. sequins are very hott right now and i love them! well now you have a little info about me
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Here are a few for you to take into consideration:
-Hc0luver34
-GreenEyeedGoddess
-AFAEHCO
-AEobsessed
-sequinsrhott
-preppymcprep
-dontchawish
-sexy4lyfe45
-aebanger88
-funlovinme23

If these don't help you out, just provide me with some more specifics about the type of sn you are looking for.


Does anyone know any really good books to read? I like to read all kinds of books. The last book i read was called "the lovely bones" it was an awsome book it was about a girl that got raped and murdered and the girl went to heaven and she was looking down on her family..I want to read books that teenagers would be interrested in!
15/female..if that helps with anything..
Thanks. (link)
Hey, well I am a teen just a little older than you and it sounds like you like to read young adult fiction novels, so here are a few suggestions for you:
-Life in the Fat Lane
-Crazy in Love
-Cold Sassy Tree
-To Kill a Mockingbird
-Gossip Girl
-Face on the Milk Carton

I am sure if you go to your local library or bookstore someone can give you some other suggestions as well. :)


here's some background info~ im gonna be sixtteen, im a girl.. im a sophomore in high school and i need to make some friends!! badly!! !*** whats the best way to make friends? what's a fun thing to do when you have first become friends iwth someone .. like places to hang out? (link)
Hey, well you're lucky; high school is the perfect place to make and meet new friends. You just can't be shy. Join clubs! Any that interest you because you will have to work with those people which will in turn bring you closer. Join a conversation if you see fit. Just be really vocal. Get to know as many people as you can. Go out for a sport. Join choir, band, or some other organization. Just be yourself and keep an open mind and I am sure people will do the same in return. As far as hang out places: Go out to eat, bowl, lazer tag, movies, put put, shopping..etc. Just give it a little effort and time and I am sure things will perk up! :)


hi im 13 and i havent started my period i am a bigger gurl and a lot of the smaller gurl have and im just waiting...im afraid that theres sumthin wrong with me....wat do i do ? (link)
Hey, don't be alarmed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You can get your period anywhere from age 11-17. So, you still have plenty of time. Some girls just start before others. Some of it has to do with genetics. Just be patient, and besides, it's not that great anyways! :)


Hi, I'm a seventeen year old female, and I was wondering how much is to much as far as masturbation. Currently I'm doing it three times a day at least. I was just wondering what your opinion is.Thnx (link)
Well, everyone's opinion is going to vary on something like this. It's really to each their own. The main thing to keep in consideration is to make sure you don't let this become an obsessive habit and effect your natural daily life. If you find yourself masterbating in place of hanging out with friends or doing something you use to enjoy, then I would say it is too much. I think 3 times a day is quite a lot though. I think you should try and ween yourself to maybe like once a week. That way it will be more special and you won't get burned out on it. But that's just my suggestion for you. :)


Sometimes i get a white/clear discharge in my underwear, well more like everyday. is this a sign of a Std? (link)
In short, no. What you are getting is exactly what you said..discharge. It is completyely natural to have. Some people have different amounts than others, and on some days you may have more or less. As long as there is not a odd odor (there is going to be some though) or a change in color or texture, you are fine. And, remember, if you are going to be active, talk to your partner before hand. :)


At the end of the movie "Dirty Dancing" it plays an awesome dance song. "Had the time of my life, no I've never felt this way before, yes I swear," or something like that is how it goes. Can someone please tell me what's the name of it, who sings it, and where I can find lyrics for it? Free five for a decent answer to any of my questions.
Thanks so much! (link)
"I've had the Time of My Life"


Now I've had the time of my life
No I never felt this way before
Yes I swear, it's the truth,
and I owe it all to you.
Cause I've had the time of my life
And I owe it all to you.

I've been waiting for so long
Now I finally found someone
To stand by me
We saw the writing on the wall
As we felt this magical fantasy.


Now with passion in our eyes
There's no way we could disguise it
Secretly
So we take each others hand
'Cause we seem to understand
The urgency just remember:

Bridge:
You're the one thing
I can't get enough of
So I'll tell you something
This could be love

Chorus:
I've had the time of my life
No I never felt this way before
Yes I swear it's the truth
And I owe it all to you

With my body and soul
I want you more than you'll ever know
So we'll just let it go
Don't be afraid to lose control
Yes I know what's on your mind
When you say "Stay with me tonight"
Just remember
Bridge

Chorus


'Cause I had the time of my life
And I've searched through every open door
Till I've found the truth
and I owe it all to you
Chorus


-Dirty Dancing (by: Bill Medley and Jennifer Warnes)

Just type the title of it into any search engine to find out more info. :)


I'm 14 years old and my mom will NOT let me get a thong. Almost all of my friends wear them except for me and I think my mom is being unfair by not letting me get one.. What should I do? (link)
Lots of mom's act that way. Sometimes they just don't want to see you grow up so fast. You can't blame them. I know it's discouraging though, and you probably feel left out- the best thing for you to do would be to explain to your mom (maturely) why it is you want to wear them. Some examples would be: no more pantylines or you feel left out with your friends. In her mind, she probably thinks that if you have sexier panties you are going to want to show them to a guy or it may lead to more. Explain to her that those aren't the reasons. Try to compromise with her. Settle for (at first) some really basic thongs. Not anything too vulgar. This way you can ease into things with her. She'll come around, give her time. :)


lets say you were suppose to have your period on the 4 but you skip a month or 2 would it come back the 4th the next month? (link)
Yes, it very well could come back for you then. It is often times that in the first few years of having a period, you experience irregular periods. It's completely normal. Sometimes if you are very physically active you can set back your period, or even if you are not eating properly. But, yes, chances are it will come back then. Just keep a look out. Maybe wear a thin panty liner to be on the safe side. :)


I have pinch straight hair and not thin or thick. Whenever I try scrunching my hair it never works. Do you know anything I could do to make it work?? THANKS (link)
Well, I think that if you follow this step by step, it SHOULD work out for you:
-First, wash your hair as you normally would, but try to do this the night beofe or hours before you need it done.
-Let it towel dry until it is semi-et to damp.
-Do not brush out your hair.
-Take some type of mousse (I recommend Clairol Herbal Essenses MAXIMUM HOLD mousse, availblae at drug store for like 3 bucks) and shake the cannister.
-Then put about a large handful/blob in one of your hands.
-Bend your head over and just work it all in your hair in a "scrunching" method.
-Flip your hair up and apply more in areas that may need it.
-Apply Biolage Thermal Active Setting Spray (15 bucks at Ulta) throughout your hair.Try to spray farther away rather than closely to prevent stickyness and hardness.
-Set your hair dryer to a low setting and for about 30 seconds run it through your hair.
-Add any mousse needed if you see fit.
-Put your hair in a messy bun with a rubber band. I like to bend over and just grab it all liek you are going to put it in a pony tail and then pul it half way through a few times so its all twisted up.
-Leave it like this for the rest fo the night or until you are ready to go out. Once you take it down, apply a touch more TASS.

This should work for you, if you have any questions, feel free to ask. :)


what do you think about white nail polish? is it cute, ugly, trashy, anything!! and please hurry!!! easy 5's for fast answers! (link)
Well, really, it is what YOU think. Your opinion of what you do to yourself is what matters the most. But, if you are asking for others opinions. I personally don't think just plain white all over your fingernails is very classy. You want the polish to blend in with your day-to-day wear and just not be a distraction to your beauty. If you like white though, try some like french tip. This will incorperate some of the white you like but look very cute/nice. :)


What is the best product for hair removal on my arms?
Please don't say 'Nair' because they do aniaml testing so I can't use that. (link)
Well, first of all..it's okay to have hair on your arms. Lots of people do and in various amounts. Don't be ashamed of that. But as far as removing it...there are a few options:
-You could try shaving, but you risk cutting yourself and it grows back VERY fast (as compared to other methods) so you'd have to do it frequently which is a pain.
-You could try waxing..which hurts a BIT and will cost you about 20 bucks depending on where you go.
-And finally, the product I would personally suggest for you would be NADS. It contains all NATURAL products (it's even edible) and isn't too costly. It lasts around the same time as waxing (4-6 weeks) but you do it yourself. It use to only be available off TV but now you can get it at Target, your local drugstore, or various other places. It's like 15-20 bucks for a jar. It's NOT hot. All you have to do is apply it to yourself and your body's temperature does the work..soo..as far as best product, try that. :)


okay so i have picture day in a few days and i just got a pimple! what do i do!!!!!! like what are some GOOOOD products i can use to get the pimple away in just like a day or two ?! (link)
Well, first of all, it's JUST a pimple. I am sure 45345 years from now when everyone is going through the yearbook they aren't going to look at your picture and point it out. But anyways, here are some tips for you:
-Make sure you are washing your face well and possibly using a type of astringent (like SeaBreeze) (available at your local drugstore) to clean out some of the bacteria.
-If possible, or the type of pimple that calls for this, try tio sqeeze out and "puss" or bacteria.
-As far as covering it up, put a type of foundation or concelor on it. Then dab a coverstick concelor over it (Maybelline Express 3 in 1) and then finally put a light coating of your choice of powder of it. Make sure it is blended in as best as possible with your other make up too.
-Wear your hair down. Wearing it pulled back makes you look like a guy in the picture and will direct more attention to the face.
-And lastly, if you have/use BareMinerals, you can buy the concelor brush (Available at Ulta) and put the BareMinerals (that match your skin tone) over it and then blend in with a different type of brush. *If you are sticking with the BM line of products, that would be the FullCoverage brush or the Kabooki brush. However, BareMinerals products are VERY expensive, so unless you are planning on switching to that choice of makeup, or you already use it, or you have a lot of extra money to spend, I would suggest the previously mentioned method.
Either way, it's just a picture, Keep that in mind. Also, some photo companies now offer an air burshing option for a few extra bucks, so see if that's available. I am sure you'll look great! Be confident. :)


Ok im 14 and i never got my period. i just want someone 2 tell me what happens b4 you do

Much luv thanx (link)
Hey it's okay that you are that age and have not gotten your period yet. Some girls don't start until there are 17 or 18. The age varies. Some indications that you might be starting in the near future would be that you see some growth or development in your breast, you start getting hair on your pubic region, and/or you begin having or having more than usual discharge. It's no big deal really. We've all been there. Just be patient. Trust me, it's not the greatest thing to look forward to! :)


i heard that theres something you can use to help acne scars and acne itself. what is it called ? and if you tried it, does it actually work ? (link)
Well, first, for acne scars there is not too much you can do but there is one thing that can help it a little but. Cocoa Butter. it is used for a lot of different things. You are probably the most familiar with the lotion for which helps with stretch marks, but there is also a Cocoa Butter (Palmers is the brand) stick you can use. This is safe to apply to your face. It's not too costly and is available at any local drug or grocery store.
As far as the acne..there are TONS of things you can use:
-Make sure you are washing all of you make-up off and washing your face well.
-Try using a *sensitive skin* astringent (like Sea Breaze, also avalible at local drugstores) to help get off excess dirt and oil which causes breakouts.
-Over the counter creams SOMETIMES work depending on the severity..you can try something like Nature's Cure or Clerasil.
-If you see a dermatologist (usually for more severe cases or more than moderate)and ask for both a pill and/or TOPICAL cream with benzol perioxide. Ex: An Emoxycilin pill and a cream like RetinAMicro or Benzaclin. (There are prescriptions)
-For about 30 dollars you can TRY Proactive. It works for a lot of people. It's got 3 different creams/lotions/liquids you apply to your face daily.
-Lastly, you can always try Acne Treatment Facials from an upscale salon. These are expensive though.

If you need any more information, feel free to ask more, or you can also read further down the page where I answered a question very similar. Good luck. :)


this guy i have been hanging out with said that he wanted us to be friends nothing more, but maybe in time we could be bf and gf. I was fine with that. i heard later (from a girl that i trust) that he had a girlfriend. I asked him and he denied it. i dont care that he has a gf...its just we have made out and done stuff together...now i feel like a slut. What should i do with this guy? forget about him or still be his "friend." (link)
Well, if you feel used, I could totally see that and understand why. Guys can be really decietful with you just to get what they want from you. So you have to learn to be careful. From his prespective, he was probably trying to get the most out of you to his benefit without anyone getting hurt. I think it was a pretty slimy thing to do to you. Don't feel like a slut, you didn't know any better (this time). Just keep an eye out of these kinds of things in the future and never do anything you aren't 150% ready and willing to do. As far as your relationship with the guy, that choice is yours. But, if I were in your shoes, I would kind of be a lot more distant and cold to the guy to show him that you know what he was up to. I would also NOT do anything else physical with him. He obviously doesn't want a committed relationship with you, and he can't stay loyal to his current girlfriend so you really don't want or need a guy like that. Instead, be with a guy that will like you call the shots and that won't use you. Just take this all as a big learning lesson. You can still be friendly to the guy (if that's what you feel like you should do) but don't let it escalate more than that. :)


I've been friends with this guy for about 2 years now, and a few months ago he confessed to me that he really likes me. i told him i wasn't sure about my feelings (beyond friendship) and that i didn't want to rush anything, and he was okay with it. we don't see each other too often, but i enjoy the time we spend together. i'd be ready to take the relationship further because we really are a good match personality-wise and i do like him a lot, but the only thing that bothers me about him are his looks. i hate admitting that to myself and i'm ashamed that i let it stand in my way. he's a really great guy, but physically he's like a 3 on 10! i know i should be able to, well, look past his looks, but it's hard to imagine being more than friends with someone you aren't really attracted to. i'm just so angry with myself...but i can't help it...i can't see myself being able to introduce him to people as my boyfriend or kissing him. it drives me up the wall being unsure of what i want just because he's far from good-looking! i've never thought of myself as shallow; i've been with other guys who couldn't have been considered that cute and it didn't bother me because i liked them for their personality, but this guy is just so far from even that...what's worse is that recently i met another guy who's really cute and who seems interested in me, and even though i don't feel nearly as much of a connection with him as i feel with my other friend, i'm tempted by him because he's just...so much more tempting!! i don't want to hurt anyone and i don't want to make the wrong choice because something stupid is holding me back. sorry for this being so long, but if anyone has any advice i'd appreciate it VERY much! (link)
Well, first of all, at your age, this is totally common. And the way you think isn't entirely your fault. A lot of it has to do with society and their preceptions of people and the way they look on the outside. In my opinion, it's good that you notice and are aware of the way you are thinking/acting. Most people can't even do that. To an extent, you are right. It is hard to maintain an intimate relationship with someone you are not physically attracted to. What you need to ask yourself is if you CARE MORE ABOUT the way he looks, or the way he acts and treats you. It is often times that when we are in a relationship with someone, they become MORE attractive to us after time because we like them so much. Keep that in mind as a future possibility. Also, you might want to think about making yourself have one of those "I don't care what others think" mentalities. Who cares if when you introduce him people are like "Eww". You should be proud of the fact that you get along so well and that he treats you well. I can't make this decision for you. But you know you, better than anyone else. Can you find it within you to look beyond this? Or, if you do presue something with him are you just going to end up hurting him, because that's not fair to either of you. Be honest with yourself. You could tell him that you want to date CASUALLY but don't want a full blown relationship with him yet. That way, you can see what it's like to be on dates, without being too serious. If it doesn't work out, then later on you can say your feelings aren't as strong as they were or you don't think you could commit to him, OR you can realize that looks aren't everything. Just be honest, that's the key. :)


Well i've been with my boyfriend for four months now. but i have this best friend Josh. well awhile back Josh told me he was in love with me. but of course i don't feel the same way so he finally moved on but we're still VERY close and like the bestest friends. well him and my boyfriend became best friends through me. so everything was great and all. then me and josh started talking alot on myspace and my boyfriends somewhat the jealous type. and i put I LOVE YOU at the end of josh's comment. but it was as a brotherly thing. now my boyfriend like hates him and i feel like its all my fault!cause they were like the best of friends.what should i do? (link)
Hey hun. Well, you're in kind of a bit of a sticky situation. You can't control other peoples actions, feelings, or views; only yours. So with that in mind, I would say the best thing for you to do would be to just explain to your boyfriend that you want all three of y'all to get along, NOT because you have intimate feelings for Josh, but because you just like when everyone gets along and is happy. Just tell him that the I love you that was left on the comment should have been taken in the same nature as an I love you that you would say to a good girl friend. Hopefully, your boyfriend will understand. I also suggest that you clear things up with Josh (and make your boyfriend aware that you have too) and make certain that he knows exactly what you meant by it. I think your boyfriend will get over this..and eventually he might become friends with Josh again. Maybe Josh could even reassure your boyfriend that y'all are just friends. In the mean time, don't let this get blown out of proportion. Just be patient and things will work out. :)


im in need of a new screen name and i have no clue with ideas!i like the color pink..im in dance and poms..i have blonde hair and green eyes..im preppy and spoiled..i have a guy in my life im crazy about! well theres a few things about me! can you please help me!? thanks a bunches! (link)
Here are a few I can think of for you:
-GreenEyedDiva
-PinkyPreppy02
-SpoiledBlonde44
-CrazeeBlondee
-PomPomPink57
-LovelyMe123
-DanceNPom09
-LiLMissMe76
-TaKen4Ever
-CrazeBoutYou23
-PrepNProud45
-PinkisLove

If you need some more feel free to tell me. If there is a cetain kind you are going for let me know! :)




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