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Thongs
I'm 14 years old and my mom will NOT let me get a thong. Almost all of my friends wear them except for me and I think my mom is being unfair by not letting me get one.. What should I do?
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Tell your mom tht you feel uncomfortable wearing whities and tell her you are mature enough to wear one...and tell her that you wont have it hanging out it will be tucked it (but if u want it to be out thats iight she will never kno)but anyways just tell her that and if she doesnt understand sneak one and she will never kno.....what she doesnt kno wont hurt.
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well maybe your could wear one without your mum knowing
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Well, first, just beacause all your friends wear them doesn't mean you have to, but if you really want to, you should discuss it with her in a civilised manner, no tears, no screaming, no whining. If that doesn't work, go to the mall without her and but them yourself.
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well what i did was my mom said i could wear one when i started highschool which was a year away and i was really mad but for my cuzs grad. i got pants that were so see through that i had to wear a thong and my mom was like ok just this time then i asked her if i could just keep wearing them and she said yes and she never says yes to anything. buy something that looks really stupid with anything other than a thong and beg her like get a nice dress for a wedding or soemthing
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go to the mall with your friends and just buy one! just try it, your mom may get mad, but she will get over it. its not like anyone but you will know your wearing it. and just tell her that and explain that its just so there are no panty lines showing when you wear tight pants. :)
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Tell your mom you need them for certain pants that show the underwear line .... or if you have a fancy occasion tell her you need it for your dress. Tell her it's not going to be some lingerie fest just some plain colored thongs. Moms dont like to here "but my friends wear them" it never works.
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give her a good reason you want one such as: pantylines. you dont like them, neither does the rest of the world. do not say: but mom, sally, jess AND laura have one! (doesnt work...EVER!) so say that is just underwear with less cloth and you will only wear it when you NEED to so you wont get an infection or somthing if thats what shes worried about. next time your shopping for lingerie or whatever, pull out a PLAIN thong (see kohls' selection) that isnt sexy but does the job...then shell see whats going on and get you that one. after a while im sure shell come around and let you wear other ones with prints and all sorts of cool things. i dont really recommend getting one and hiding it, shell find out sooner or later but if you must, careful and dont let her see it! hope that helps! <3
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If your mom buys your clothes, and you live in her house. You are pretty much out of luck. Unless you buy one yourself or get someone to give you one.
But is this really worth fighting with your mother over? I mean, just because everyone else is wearing a very uncomfortable peice of clothing that no one will being seeing anyways, you want one?
To each thier own I geuss.
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It was the same with my mom. My cousin wears them, and had one that she really didn't use and left it at my gramma's house. After I took a shower I just put it on and took it. (washed of course) and so I think you should do the same thing. My mom kind of minded, but then she got over it. What you could do is ask one of your friends for a thong, and take it and just wear it when your mom isnt around. Do the same a school. Just change into your thong when you get there.
jess*
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Ok, why exactly do you need a thong? It's nnot like anyone's looking down there! And if your boyfriend is, then I'm willing to bet you were having premarriagal sex. Which is wrong. Personally, I think she's right and you don't need a thong. Remember that your mom is older and has experience, and she probably has reasons for not letting you have a thong. Maybe ask if there's a story behind it.
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well just explain that you feel your mature enought to get a thong and that you really want 1 good luck xxx xWhiteTigerx
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just go to the mall and go buy some..and hide them from her and do your own laundry!
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Lots of mom's act that way. Sometimes they just don't want to see you grow up so fast. You can't blame them. I know it's discouraging though, and you probably feel left out- the best thing for you to do would be to explain to your mom (maturely) why it is you want to wear them. Some examples would be: no more pantylines or you feel left out with your friends. In her mind, she probably thinks that if you have sexier panties you are going to want to show them to a guy or it may lead to more. Explain to her that those aren't the reasons. Try to compromise with her. Settle for (at first) some really basic thongs. Not anything too vulgar. This way you can ease into things with her. She'll come around, give her time. :)
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