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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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Okay so my boyfriend and I had this big thing well I may of over-reacted but I feel as if I was in the place to just because of the situation.
So my boyfriend and I have been dating nearly 10monthes. When we first met he did all that chewing tobacco also know as *dip*, well I told him I didnt like it an stuff an he quit it. Thing is before like his friends would do it around him an he never let it bug him he would just go get some sunflower seeds or ya know so he wouldnt have to think about wanting to dip.
Well seems like I was at a ball game with him an his sister was like *how do you feel about travis dipping* i was like umm last I checked he didnt do that he quit when we met. And by the way his sister is like 35, so like his sister was like well i dont know I seen it in his pocket today an askd him what it was an told him that its not good for him. And I was like i dont know ill have to talk to him then. SO yeah we were in his truck after the game and I was kinda silent so he knew something was wrong! And he asked me an I told him what I heard from his sister an he was like * you dont understands its a bad habit to break blah blah* so like idk why its such a BAD habit to break if he hadnt did it in all the monthes we have been together? Like what makes him change his mind now? And like i dont know I got real upset and was crying because he lied like we made a promise NOT to do that, an he always avoided dipping when his frineds had it or offered it. But am I in the wrong? Like i dont know I was so upset and crying because I feel as if he lied to me and broke some trust!? So am I in the wrong and would you in my position feel the same way as I did?
Thanks for the advice!
I wonder if he has been chewing the whole time and just not doing it around you? Maybe he said he quit so's not to upset you.
You just have to be patient with him. Tobacco habits are not "bad" to break but very "hard" to break.
I smoke, and when I try to quit, I get VERY irritable and nasty. This is just something that happens as a withdraw symptom, and it is among many.
From what I understand it takes nicotine 14 days to clear out of your system and you suffer through many withdraws! It really sucks!
That is why I'm glad you don't use tobacco! It is a very awful habit to have.
I do hope your boyfriend ends up quitting. For his health if not for anything else. Smokeless Tobacco (aka dip, chew) can cause many mouth and throat diseases such as lip cancer, throat cancer, etc.
I've liked this guy for about 10 months and he went out with me for sympathy because he felt sorry for me. Should i just give up and move on or should i keep trying to get him?
I would move on. If he's going out with you because he feels sorry for you, then he really doesn't like you the way you like him. It isn't fair to him and it definately isn't fair to you.
You would probably end up getting heart-broke in the end if he finds another girl he's accually interested in for real.
You'll find another guy you like someday, and that guy will like you as much as you do.
Besides, you are worth more than a "sympathy boyfriend" no matter how much you like him.
Ok my mom and brother argue all the time and my brother hates my mom alot and my mom never did anything to him, she just doesn't let him get away with anything, and my brother get's so mad and breaks things, and all the fighting makes everyone sad and upset, and every weekend my mom goes out with her friends and doesn't come home until morning, how can i get are family to get along.................Please Heeeeeeeeeeelp.
You are just kind of stuck in the middle and that really sucks!
The best I think you can do to help is to talk to them and let them know how much their fighting and arguing affects you. Maybe trying to work it out as a family will help, or maybe as a family you can decide what other steps to take to work through these hard times.
It seems as though your brother may have other issues bothering him than not being able to get away with stuff, because seems he's a pretty angry guy.
It could be that something's going on with him in his life that has him upset and he takes it out on your mom because she's a more convenient person to take it out on.
Either way, there isn't a way for you to solve these problems on your own, and it isn't fair for you to be the only one trying to fix it.
But do let them know how much it hurts you for them to act that way. They are not the only ones affected by their behavior towards one another.
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my mom caught me mastubating and watching porn and now i'm crying and i'm mad and i don't know what to do.... i feel awful... i cant stop crying i think i'm gonna cut myself... dammit i dont know what else to do!!! please help me i'm not some emo kid but im considering killing myself...
First off, don't hurt or kill yourself. This definately isn't worth doing something like that.
Your mom is as embarassed as you are. Just keep in mind that masturbating is something that everyone has done... including your mother I'm sure.
I know it probably seems pretty akward at this point, but it will pass in time. I don't know how close you and your mom are, but (though it may be embarassing) maybe talking to her about it may help the way you feel. She wouldn't want you to feel so badly about yourself, and believe it or not, moms understand a whole lot more than you will ever think they do.
JUST PLEASE DON'T HARM YOURSELF!
Sorry, this may be a bit long...
I have a non-severe (or I don't think it's severe) case of social anxiety. I'm 13/f and I've always been very shy...I'm not the people type and I don't really like talking and dealing with people too much. I don't like going places by myself and I don't like picking up the phone OR drawing attention to myself. Usually I have some one go with me all the time to places and talk to people for me, and everyone is starting to get annoyed with the fact that I always need them for simple things. My mom recently got me a book about it and I don't like it AT ALL because I don't understand it...so now she wants me to go to a counselor!!!! I DON'T want to go to any shrink whatsoever because I don't think that will help...I've been to a councelor before about something else and I HATED IT because I hate being talked to in that "shrink" way. I'm refusing to go but she says I have to if I want to "overcome this problem I have". I think my problem is I just don't want to embarrass myself in front of other people and I don't like being by myself because I'm terrified of being kidnapped or something like that. Just now my mom tried to talk to me about (I don't like talking about things with her because she's like a counselor and it really annoys me) it but I refused to talk and now I'm really upset because she's mad at me. Should I really go to a counselor? Maybe I should get another book? I want to avoid the counselor at all costs...maybe I should just have an open talk about it with my mom and tell her those real reasons why i'm so anti-social? HELP!
I know just how you feel, I'm alot like you. I'm really shy and very nervous and uncomfortable when going to new places and being around a bunch of new people, etc.
But I definately think you should have a sit-down with your mom and just open up about everything. If she could understand your reasons, she would probably be less apt to push you towards going to a counselor. Maybe it's something she can help you with instead.
Ok... I am in a bad way. I am constantly telling myself something is wrong with myself... I have a disease, or I have cancer, or something worse, and it spirals. I can never shake these thoughts, when I know in reality that I am simply a normal, happy, and healthy human being. But, because of these thoughts, it has been noted that I am slowly spiraling into depression, when I seem to already have a bi-polar disorder, and I have been told that those two do not make such a hot combination. I really wish I could stop these thoughts, and get my life back on track. I used to do all these activities... Almost every sport I could get my hands on, student council, energy club, drama camp... and I just suddenly dropped out of everything. I want my life back... Anyone have any ideas on how to stop these thoughts and maybe stear me back to my old life?
~Savanna
I definately think you should sit down with your parents and tell them about all of the things you've been feeling. It sounds to me as if you are suffering from depression, and though almost everyone goes through bouts of depression and usually snap out of it, but some don't.
My suggestion to you is that you talk to your parents about seeing your family doctor. If the doctor thinks you have something going on that they don't know alot about treating, they will set you up with a specialist.
I hope you get to feeling better soon and I hope I was some sort of help to you.
My father is turning 90 years old soon. Recently I heard that my nephew's wife was planning his birthday party. She told my sister this. I mentioned to my sister that I was not thrilled that my nephew's wife would take that responsibility on as I believe it should be up to my sister and I, not my nephew's wife. When I contacted my niece about attending the party she told me that she had already been contacted by my nephew's wife. I think that is presumptous of my nephew's wife to make plans like that without talking to me. Am I correct?
I agree with you. He's your father and you and your sister should be the ones who get to plan such a special party. The least your nephew's wife could have done was ask you if she could help you plan it, not take over the whole show.
Will pure bleach used on clothes damage hair if I was to bleach my whole head?
Ok, so I will tell you I have been coloring my hair since Junior High, and I'm 28 now.
I was once curious about what would happen if I used Clorox bleach on my hair, so I cut a lock of my hair and soaked it in a dish filled with bleach for about 30 minutes. Sure glad I didn't try it on my whole head! The hair just desintegrated... it was awful!
Some people have used peroxide to blonde their hair, but generally it just turns it orange.
You could get a blonding kit and bleach your hair that way. But generally after you use a kit, you then have to choose a blonde shade and dye it afterward. Bleaching your hair damages your hair greatly, causing it to be dry, brittle and have split ends because blonding kits and blonde hair dyes contain high amounts of peroxide and amonia.
I would suggest going to a salon and having it professionally done to prevent as much hair damage as possible.
Hey, my bestfriends ex-boyfriend cheated on her again with the same person after already breaking up with her. She's worried he'll come back.
If she's worried he'll come back to her (which he very possibly will) she needs to keep in mind how much he hurt her in the past by cheating on her.
Sure, he's going to probably beg and grovel and say he's changed and he'll never do it again, but she shouldn't fall for that babble. Babble is all it is.
You said he cheated again? So he's done this to her more than once? That makes him a repeat offender. Odds are that he will do it again. There is a famous saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater."
She needs to get together with a guy who will treat her right, and not a bum who will wipe his feet on her. Because sounds to me like this guy is a bum she needs get rid of.
i am a 34c and i am 13 years old. 5 feet tall . and way around 107 . personally i tihnk that it to big and all the guys stare at them . i mean i know that i am pretty . i`m not conceited but i`m honest . i want guys to look at my face more . and i do wear revealing shirts . yeah lol but i`m starting to cover up more and realizing that more guys like me for my face lol . any ideas on how to get them to notice my face more instead of my breasts? thanks a bunch
Well, simple fact of it is, guys are going to look. It's in their nature.
You have a good idea in wearing shirts that are less revealing, that will help. But their still going to look to a degree.
As to how to get them to notice your face more, maybe smile alot when you're talking to them.
Check yourself out in the mirror and see what you think is your finest facial quality (mine is my lips) and try some new makeup styles to enhance that feature. That may make them notice your pretty face more, and your large chest less.
okay im 13/female . and i`ve had this BEST FRIEND [ danielle ] for like 3 years . not that long but we did everything together . we went on vacation and everything . and then my other best friend [zoey ] got mad at me and got all my other friends mad at me [ its been 6 months ] and she still is gettin people mad at me. but she got my best friend mad at me and then we made up ! but whenever zoey found out that danielle was friends with me again she would flip and then tell her that i was spreading rumors and stuff like that about danielle . which really i never did but my friend danielle got mad at me for talking about her [ from what zoey said ] and didnt talk to me for 2 months . and zoey and her friends finally admitted to lying . but dont want her talking to me but zoey is mad at danielle now for being friends with me and all the girls that are friuends with danielle she hates . how can i get zoey to stop ruining peoples lives? [ she thinks shes all tht because she has a popular boyfriend . thats why shes acting like this ]
You know what? I went through the same thing in school. I feel your pain.
I had a friend named Danielle (she's still my friend). We met in the 3rd grade and became the best of friends. As we got older, she would get so mad and jealous if I made other friends and hung out with them. This would cause the same drama you are going through now.It's a hard situation to work through.
I know that if Zoey is telling your Danielle that you are spreading rumours about her, your best bet is to go straight to Danielle and talk about it with her. If she won't talk to you at school amongst her friends, etc., stop by her house sometime. It seems as though she is a better friend to you than Zoey is.
When did Zoey flip out on you? Was it around the time you became close with Danielle? If so, she was probably only using Danielle as a pawn to hurt you. That being the case, she was never Danielle's friend to begin with. Especially since you say she now hates Danielle and her friends. I imagine she hates her because she doesn't need her pawn now that summer has arrived.
Try to work it out with Danielle. She probably misses you more than you think. Zoey, on the other hand, will just need some time to grow up a little. There will probably be a day when she wants to be friends with you for real.
Try not to let them get you down and keep that chin up.
So I'm interviewing this guy tomorrow. It's a half an hour interview. I saw his band at a local pub and really liked them. And since I'm part a community TV station, I asked if I could interview him.
But now I find out he's REALLY famous here and everyone I speak to knows who he is! He's been the host of a popular music show for a couple of years which I didn't know about.
I'm really nervous now about the interview and worse case scenarios kept running through my mind. I'm afraid I'm going to look like such a fool or have a mental blank or something. It's a half an hour interview that's being filmed and I have no idea how I'm going to fill up that time.
How can I relax a bit, and what are some good things to ask him? The fact that he interviews people constantly and gets interviewed himself means he probably has been asked the "usual" questions several times and I don't want him to be bored! I'm really panicking. How should I act? Help please? thanks.
Maybe you can do some checking on previous interviews he's had to get an idea of what questions he's been asked already. You can use them to your advantage, such as a follow up on something he was planning to do, etc.
Those questions and answers might also help you get a better feel on the guy's personality, which can maybe help you figure out what type of topics he might be more interested in talking about.
You could also see about getting some tapes of the show he hosted. Maybe that will help you think of some things to ask about. If he isn't hosting anymore, you could ask him if he misses doing it. Stuff like that.
As for being nervous, just remember, he may be well known, but he is just another guy like you. It might help to try to put the fact that he's famous out of your mind.
Don't worry about your worst case scenarios, you won't look like a fool, you'll do great. The half hour will be over before you're ready for it to be.
Good luck!
okay me and my boyfreind have been going out for about 4 months and i really like him.at around the second month i told him i was a little uncomfortable with him telling me he loves because i know he didnt meen it because where to young to know what love is.(where both 13).well last night he told me he needed to tell me something and i was like ok and he started off by saying do you remember that time you told me i was to young to know the meaning of love is and i was like yes and then he said well i love you and ive never felt this feeling befor and i love you with all my heart and i want to spend the rest of my life with you.and then he asked me is my heart beating really fast and i was like no and then he said because mine is beacause i was afraid to tell you that i love you. at this point to tell you the truth i was a little scared because i think he was really telling the truth.dont get me wrong i like him alot but i dont think i love especially not as much as he seems to love me.im just so confused on what to do.i really dont want to brake his heart and tell him that i dont feel the same way.should i just end it befor it gets way to serious?please help me.i badly need some advice,
Well, I say that at 13, it's not so much that you don't know what love is, but that your maybe not really ready. I mean, you've only been going out 4 months.
I think he sounds sincere about his feelings. However, I do think that at age 13, a person can know how to love another, but it's awfully young to be deciding who you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I think, as long as he's a nice guy and he treats you right, you should consider sticking with him for awhile. If he does love you like he says, he will listen and respect your feelings, being that you aren't ready to say you love him and the relationship is moving a bit fast for you. That would be the truth of it, and when in a relationship you shouldn't lie about your feelings.
I think if you tell him your true feelings he may be hurt a little, but not for long. It would break his heart for you to break up with him because of his feelings, or to lie to him and say you feel the same.
However, I would end it if he doesn't want to slow it down. If he does love you, he won't want to push you into moving your relationship forward at a pace that makes you uncomfortable.