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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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So if i havent talked to my x-gf in like a long ass time and then i talk to her and like crap on AIM. I mean i was trying to get my life on track and shit, my grades were slipping, i got into drugs, then like she doesnt know rite. so why do i feel so frggin retarted?
I can't help but make a comment about god-smusgrove's advice. Keeping the drugs to a minimum is not the sort of advice you need to hear. That is stupid, I'm sorry.
I would wager that your problems range from drug abuse, and to get your life on track you need to stop using drugs altogether... they just screw up your life. I don't know if you are still abusing drugs, but they will make you feel retarded.
As for what you are asking about your girlfriend, I'm sorry, but I'm afraid I don't understand what you are asking.
how can i tell that my friends are really my friends?.. i mean i just got out of a fight with a bunch of my friends and well, we've been in fights b4 too (just as bad) and well i just want to know how i can really tell if we are friends.. because i dont want to have to deal with the fighting drama and bullsh*t again.. please help
Ahh, yes... How I remember this kind of stuff when I was in high school...
I can't tell you how to tell if they are your friends or not, because I don't know what the fights are all about.
However, I can tell you that girls can be serious assholes until they grow some maturity and realize life after high school doesn't care about stupid dramas. I think it has a lot to do with in high school, there is nothing else better to do, and it is stupid.
I had friends like that in school. Usually it would start with one friend tells another friend you said something rude that you didn't really say just to start a fight between you and the other friend. I call this "I want to pick a fight with her, but I don't have the balls to do it myself" AKA "Chicken Shit Fight Picking."
Then, of course, there is the one where a girl or two decide to spice up their day by turning on one of their friends and talk a bunch of crap on her and try to turn everyone else against her. I call this "This week's smack talking fad."
These types of people are not really your friends if they are going to get their rocks off at the expense of your feelings.
So if this is the type of fights you are talking about (or a reasonable facsimile) they aren't really your friends. Friends don't hurt friends for fun.
okay, i'm not overweight, but just a bit underweight considering im like 5-10 lbs away from average. i eat pretty much whatever i want with some restrictions. i'm not on a diet, but im on like a semi-diet, eating fruits and veggies for lunch and not really snacks. i'm 5'9, female, and i weigh around 145 lbs. i just ate a part of a muffin and i hate myself for it. whenever i eat some kind of dessert or something, i feel like crying and i just want to throw it all up. i am not bulimic or anything, but i'm starting to believe i have some kind of mental eating disorder. i just feel horrible when i eat anything like that and it really bothers me. i just want to throw it up and sometimes i even start crying after i eat it. can someone please help explain what this is?? should i just keep dieting??
thanks!!
http://coolnurse.com/eatdis_risk.htm
Check out these questions and see if any sound familiar to you. You sound like, though you may not have an eating disorder at the moment, you are at high risk for it.
I do strongly advise for you to speak with your family physician about the feelings you have about the food you eat. It is good that it bothers you to feel horrible about eating something like half of a muffin, because half of a muffin is a far cry from eating muffins in excess.
http://www.pale-reflections.com/aboutus.asp
If you don't feel comfortable or are unable to talk to your family physician, the above link is to a site where you can talk to people with eating disorders and get support. You have to make a user name and password to become a member and it is free of charge. I know you will be able to talk to others you can relate to. I just hope somewhere you can find someone to talk to about how you feel, because you are in danger of a serious disorder.
http://coolnurse.com/eatdis_risk.htm
The link above is to a BMI (Body Mass Index) calculator. Put in your weight and your height in inches to have it calculate your BMI. I put in your weight as 145 lbs and your height 69" and it came up with your BMI as 21. A BMI between 18 and 25 is normal, so you are neither underweight nor overweight according to these calculations.
Don't keep dieting until you can get yourself to a point where you can do so safely, when you can a good self image even if you are 10 lbs overweight.
how long after you have sex should you start to get symptoms that your pregnant? Like how long after you've concieved should you get sore breasts, and how long after should you start feeling sick? how about other symptoms, and how long will they take?
thanks very much.
This is a link to coolnurse.com on pregnancy symptoms. On this page you will find all the answers you seek...
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy_signs.htm
yea so i just got dumped yet again theres something seriously wrong with me ok but yea on to the question
ok well she dumped me cuz she said she thinks might be a better friend then a bf but like an hour before that we were laying in my bed making out but she also says that she is still gonna call me and stuff like everyday and she still wants to be friends
1)is this an excuse
2)if not an excuse do i still have a chance at getting back together with her ...i really really like her
3)what should i do?
please please help
Well, speaking from experience, it is hard to remain friends after breaking up.
To answer your questions...
1) It boils down to she does like you, but not in a boyfriend/girlfriend fashion. I guess it is an excuse, but is probably an honest one.
2) I would say chances are no on getting back together. She feels a certain way, and you can't change a person's feelings no more than you can lead a horse to water and make it drink. I know you really like her and so this sucks. But I suppose if you want to hold onto that hope that she will have a change of heart, you could.
3) Try to do your best to get over her. If she wants to break up, you just have to break up. If you want to try to be friends with her, do so, but I advise against that until you get over your hurt, which will take some time. If you decide to take some time away from her, explain to her that you don't want calls from her and see her everyday, but tell her you do want to get in touch with her again sometime. To talk to her on the phone and hang out with her is only going to prolong your pain and suffering. When you can stand to see her with another guy, you are over it.
and i'm not allowed to take nyquil due to previous events...what should i do? i'm freaking miserable here...
I don't know what happened with the NyQuil to cause you events, but chloraseptic spray is very good on numbing sore throats. But be sure you check it out before you use it. If an ingredient in NyQuil caused you problems, you don't want to get anything that has that ingredient.
I'm not sure what is in either one, but your family pharmacist can tell you if it would be safe for you to take. Always ask your pharmacist if you have questions concerning any medicine- that is their job.
i have a hard time trying to but gifts for my sister (17) and my mom and dad. what are some good ideas of things to get them! thanks!
http://www.findgift.com/
try this website to help you find what you are looking for. Use the gift wizard to help you along. Maybe you can find something in there based on their intrests.
During winter break for my custody schedule of my parents, I'm with my mom for the second half from the 26th of Dec to the 3rd of January. I have a lot of options as to what to do during this time. Help me choose!
1) Go to Mammoth with friend Rachael (but i kinda dont wanna because her family doesnt like me and it might be awkward and plus id have to take a CLASS in snowboarding and look liek a complete idiot)
2) Go to a special intensive camp type thing for dance with samantha (this would help me prepare for audition season AND the other girls going are older and its important that I kind of bond with them to make life in the dance company more enjoyable
3) Go to Texas to visit friend Hannah who moved to Houston last June which is what I originally promised to do (but i REALLY dont want to go to houston cuz its icky there and plus i dont think her parents are too keen on the idea, though they'd probably let me go)
4) Talk my friend Christine into letting me go to NYC with her when she goes back to visit (this one's kind of a long shot but she's a startlingly flexible person and I'm pretty sure she'd take me if I talked to her about it)
So what should I do?? These are in no particular order by the way
I know you don't want to go to Houston, but I would say that you should since you had already made that commitment. If you didn't, Hannah would probably be hurt about it.
I just hope that your mom will be going along with you no matter which decision you make, since you started out saying that time was with her, but you don't mention your mom in any of these options. I'm sure that your mother would like to spend that time with you, and since it is a custody thing, your time is her time too.
Well..I went on Vacation during summer and I bought a dvd player since it's much cheaper there than here. It's not an expensive one...it's about $25- 40 in best buy and it worked perfectly when i tried it by my relatives there. So I brought it home and my tv doesn't have to special holes to plug it in so I left with playing for about3-4 months. Recently I got time to buy the devices needed and then when I tried it...it didn't work again. IT says either :"unknown disc" or "no disc"! It did work ONCE but it skipped a bit.
I bought one of those lens cleaner...and bam when I popped it in it cleaned it and the cleaner cd said "now your dvd's lens is clean" and played some music to say it's clean....and then when I put in a normal dvd movie...it doesn't work. What should i do? Get a new one...or ccarry it to fix?
I had a dvd player that did that. I never figured out a way to fix the problem. Very aggravating...
I do know that if you were to take it to be fixed, it will end up costing more than the machine is worth. When it comes to taking it to a repair shop or buying a new one, I'd go with buying a new one.
It may have been that on your way home (or in storage), it may have got jostled around a bit and the lens got knocked out of kilter. Just a little out of whack, and it won't read dvd disks.
my boyfriend really wants a kid and at times I want one too but at other times I question it. What should i do I really want one with him but what if I end up being not ready?
please help
Well, first off, I hope you guys are at least over the age of 18... If you are under 18 and still in school, or even if you are just under 18- FORGET IT!! BIG MISTAKE!!! Give yourself a chance to grow up! Don't be a baby with a baby! You would both end up resenting each other and maybe your child. Big No-No!
If you are 18+, or just want the advice for when you are...
I would say your best bet would be to wait. If you guys want to have kids together, get married first. Marriage alone will let you know if you can handle the stress of a family.
If you are not sure if you are ready, then you aren't ready. It's good to want to have kids, but wanting them doesn't mean you are ready for the responsibility of having no life, being woke up several times a night, being tired, unable to shower (let alone take a bath), and having to do your normal daily chores, like clean house, while drag-ass tired and juggling your baby, a bottle, and a burp rag while supper is burning to a crisp on the stove.
As everyone knows christmas is coming up. Well I dont have any money to buy my family preasents and they arent going to have enough money to buy me any either. I dont care about getting presents but I really want to be able to buy them something... what can i do?
You can make them something. You may have stuff around your house you can make into a gift for them. Make them a card, draw them a poster, or make a big picture to the whole family with loved, yet forgoten photographs of everyone. A gift you make is more loved than a gift you buy, because of the thought and care you put into it.
i was really skinny during my puberty years so i never grew boobs, im 16 now and still i am flat chested, if i gained weight would i get boobs? or as much boobs as i would of grown if i was fatter during puberty?
Gaining weight doesn't do anything for boob growth. It just makes you fatter... with fat boobs.
I don't think that your weight during puberty has anything to do with it. You are 16, so there is still some hope they might get bigger.
STORY: Lucy was sitting at the dining room table with her cousin Eileen. Eileen turned to Lucy and said: Lucy you are a size in 8 in clothes; Lucy said; Yes I am, why; Eileen replied; I THOUGHT YOU ARE a size 8. I am cleaning out my bedroom closet, however, I couldnt remember if you told me you are a size 8 or 10.; The next day Lucy told her friends what her cousin said and asked her friends; do you think my cousin thinks I am higher than a size 8; All her friends said to her; Lucy no your cousin does not think you are a higher than a size 8; MY QUESTION: Do you agree with Lucys friends
Hmmmm.....
Well, from what you say here, seems as though Eileen wants to give Lucy some clothes that are size 8, but wanted to be sure they were the right size. Sounds like Eileen had it mixed up as to whether or not Lucy was an 8 or 10, so just checked to make sure, because she thought "I think she is an 8, but I may be mistaken.. Lucy may have said she was a 10 at some point."
So, to answer your question, I agree with the friends, and at the same time I don't. I guess, she did think Lucy was a higher size, but at the same time she didn't, because she was uncertain. That's why she asked. (Hee- Hee... you asked me a trick question!)
However, if Lucy thinks Eileen said that with intentions to be hurtful, she shouldn't. Eileen sounds as though she just wanted to see to it that the clothes fit.
ok well im 16
male
and me and my gf have been going out for a while and she has let me know that she thinks that im a little more commitied then her and she thinks i like her more then she likes me
what dose this mean
should i be worried
please help
Well, being a committed guy is a good thing. It actually shows maturity. Just don't get so committed that you can't enjoy your young life...
As for her saying that she thinks you like her more than she likes you may mean that she isn't as ready as you to advance in your relationship. It isn't necessarily something to worry about.
You say you've been going out for a while... how long is that? A few months? A year? If it's been a few months, don't worry. She may not know what she wants yet. If it's been a year... maybe then you should worry some.
Also, there are other factors to consider in how she feels. Such as, is she also 16, or younger than you? Has she went out with some other guy who may have hurt her feelings or broke her heart?
If you are too worried about it, talk to her about it. Ask her why she feels that way. Just don't nag her about it, because that could throw your relationship of kilter. However, you are both in this relationship and should be able to talk, share feelings, and be honest (always be honest!). And keep in mind that how she said she feels about you right now is her honest feelings... always respect her for that, and be sure you listen when she talks about what she thinks and feels. I hope that she gives you the same respect.
Do you think people should take comments made to them at face value and not read into what was said to them. If
you said yes why yes and if you said no why no. I will give you an example of what I mean: If Alice says to Sally; I
noticed that Diane looks terrible in blue; should Sally just take it to mean that Alice thinks Diane looks terrible in
blue or do you think Sally should read into that remark and take it personally.
Well, from what Alice says to Sally, it isn't said in a rude manor. Just simply that Diane looks terrible in blue. I don't think it should be taken personally as a hurtful comment. Maybe Diane DOES look terrible in blue. I know I look terrible in red or pink.
As for reading into every comment made, I would say this is highly unwise. If it is a rude comment such as "Blue makes Diane look like a high riding bitch" well, that should be read into. But "Diane's hair doesn't look nice that way" isn't necessarily rude, it may just be an honest comment.
If you spend your life trying to read between the lines of what everyone says, you are going to worry yourself and upset yourself for no reason. You are just going to make yourself think the world is against you.
If it helps, just remember the old saying, opinions are like assholes, everybody has one.
my best friend is becoming reeaaaallly close with one of my other friends. they now have plans all the time and now my best friend talks to her about all her problems and secrets when before she used to do that with me. they aren't mean to me but i just feel replaced or becoming more distant from her.
should i talk to her or what?
Hell yah, you should talk to her. She is your best friend, you should be honest about your feelings with her. She probably doesn't realize she is making you to feel left out in the cold.
But just remember, she is going to make other good friends, as will you. She may be getting pretty close with her other friend, but this friend will NEVER replace you, nor will any other friends she makes. She may share secrets with this friend, but I doubt she shares the heavier secrets that she would feel more comfortable sharing with you. Besides, when you make another friend and get close, you may share your secrets with that person as well. Mostly because it's always nice to get more than one point of view on stuff.
Invite her to come do something with just you. Something like coming over for dinner, or sleep overs are always a nice way to spend time and talk with your friends.
Don't get upset with her or whine at her about it, because you will make her feel like you don't want her to have other friends (My best bud was that way), and it will make her feel bad.
She is someone who you trust to tell your deepest, darkest secrets. You can trust her with your honest feelings. Just let her know you are glad she has another friend, but sometimes you feel left out and miss spending time with her.
The distance you are feeling is something you are subconsciously causing because you feel replaced. Close that gap and talk to your best friend.
So I'm going out with this guy, Bob, and my parents are going psycho about it. I really don't know what they don't like about this... we're saving sex for marriage, we don't do drugs, we're always supervised, he plays sports and has a loving family like mine. They say it's not "right" for a girl to go over to the guys house...I want to meet his dad and my house is getting boring. My mom took me to his house for less than 2 hours the other day just to get me to shut up and my dad got really mad at her for it. I just don't get why it's wrong. His Mom and younger brother were home. any advice?
A big factor would be your age. Are you at least 16? Is he older than you? How long have you been an item? Is there something they know about him that makes them suspicious of him? Since I don't know the answer to these questions, I can't give you all of the advice you seek. The only thing I can tell you is their point of view.
Well, as you are now finding out, parents are very protective over their daughters. No matter how old you are, you will always be their little girl.
He sounds like a good guy, but they might not see that he is a good guy out of the fear of "what if he's not?"
As for them not liking for you to go to his house, they can't keep and eye on you over there. I bet their way of thinking is this- "Yah, so his mother may be home, but will she watch you like a hawk while we aren't able to?"
Though it may seem like it sucks now, which I know it does, it is a good thing to have parents that are protective over you. It comes down to the fact that your mom and dad care enough about what happens to you to do all they know how to protect you from any harm, even if it may not be the right way of going about it. (Not saying their way of going about it is right or wrong.)
The best thing to do is to respect their wishes and give them a chance to see him as the good guy as you see him.
does anyone know a place on long island, new york where i can go tanning? i'm 14 and all the tanning salons i know are either 16 and older or 18 and older. please leave their number & website. thanks.
When I said no avail, I mean that I searched for the salon information you were looking for, but had no luck at it...
http://www.ccmac.org/news.html
Check out this website about New York state tanning laws. Under Fuschillo-Weisenberg bill, click "full story" It will bring up the story on a wordpad document on your computer.
In brief, it says state law does not allow anyone under the age of 14 to go to tanning salons to help prevent the growing epidemic of skin cancer. Teens aged 14-18 must have signed statement from their parents to be allowed the use of tanning beds. (best bet would be to just take a parent/guardian with you). But read it so you know the full details on the law, and why it is in affect.
I have searched for salons in Long Island that will allow teens under 16 to tan, but to no avail. Maybe someone else on this site can find that information.
I would imagine that most only allow teens over 16 to tan in their salons due to the high liability. The way they usually look at it is that they are at risk for getting in trouble with the high possibility of your skin being damaged by UV rays, and the possibility of increasing your chances of getting skin cancer. Basically, the earlier you start, the higher your chances are of getting skin cancer (malignant melanoma).
I know I didn't really answer your question, but I hope I was informative.
there is this guy that when ever he sees me, he hugs me in the hall. hes one year older and doesn't even know my name. i don't like him but his cousin is in my class. the kid that is in my class told his cousin to act like he likes me to see if i am racists. i am not and he still does it. i want him to stop because people think that we are going out. if i talk to them then they will think that i am racists since they are hispanic. help plz. ty
Well, you should definitely tell this guy you are uncomfortable with him hugging you. You shouldn't have to put up with anyone doing that because you are afraid they will think you are racist.
Besides, if they think you are a racist, but you know better, and see now I know better too. If this guy thinks you are racist because you ask him to stop hugging you because it makes you uncomfortable, then he is a jerk who's opinion doesn't matter anyway. I know it's hard for you to see that now because you are in school and have to deal with it everyday.
Do be honest with the guy. Honesty is always the best policy. If he throws up the race thing in your face, tell him, 'Hey man, no offence, but I don't even know you and it's because of that I don't want you to hug me. Your skin tone doesn't have anything to do with it.'
Inform him that the best way to find out if someone is racist is to talk to them and try to get to know them, not invade their personal space. Not all people are touchy-feely, and that has nothing to do with skin tone either.
I dyed my hair last night & I hate the color though it came out too red! :[ The box said it was suppose to be a medium reddish brown. But instead my hair came out red. Well when i got home from school i showered and tried to wash out the dye and it didnt come out like i hoped it would. It's permanent too so its not like it will eventually come out. My mom said she WONT redye my hair because its too expensive and i dont know what to do. My hair is short with layers so i know it wont take as long to grow out. Anways i was wondering if anyone had an suggestions on what to do or how to get it out faster besides dying it. Thanks in advice.
As a person who has dyed my hair for probably a good 15 years, and who has dyed her hair every color under the sun (yes, even green...) I can tell you a few things that may help you out.
First off, just about every color you pick to put in your hair seldom comes out as it shows on the box. It usually turns out too dark if is a brown; to light, not light enough, or even yellowish or greenish if is a blonde; too red or brassy if is a red; or in your case, reddish brown, more red than brown.
Now, to be quite honest, the only way you will get your hair to the color you actually want, especially now after you have colored it to this red color, you should go to a salon to prevent it from looking worse.
I understand that this is probably not an option for you. It is expensive to go to a salon. So- the next best thing for you to do (though I know you aren't going to like this) is to just leave it. I promise you, the red WILL fade. Red is hard to keep in your hair, so after time it will be the reddish brown you wanted.
The best way to do this is to just be patient (which sucks, I have been there) and wash your hair twice when you usually just wash it once. Shampooing fades any dyed hair color, but you just have to give it a week or two weeks at most.