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my best friend
my best friend is becoming reeaaaallly close with one of my other friends. they now have plans all the time and now my best friend talks to her about all her problems and secrets when before she used to do that with me. they aren't mean to me but i just feel replaced or becoming more distant from her.
should i talk to her or what?
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I think you should talk to your best friend about this.Tell her in a nice way that you are feeling left out and that you are glad she has a friend but you wanna spend more time with her.I havent seen my best friend in 4 years but im sure i will see her next year.Good luck and tell me how it goes with a feedback!
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Hell yah, you should talk to her. She is your best friend, you should be honest about your feelings with her. She probably doesn't realize she is making you to feel left out in the cold.
But just remember, she is going to make other good friends, as will you. She may be getting pretty close with her other friend, but this friend will NEVER replace you, nor will any other friends she makes. She may share secrets with this friend, but I doubt she shares the heavier secrets that she would feel more comfortable sharing with you. Besides, when you make another friend and get close, you may share your secrets with that person as well. Mostly because it's always nice to get more than one point of view on stuff.
Invite her to come do something with just you. Something like coming over for dinner, or sleep overs are always a nice way to spend time and talk with your friends.
Don't get upset with her or whine at her about it, because you will make her feel like you don't want her to have other friends (My best bud was that way), and it will make her feel bad.
She is someone who you trust to tell your deepest, darkest secrets. You can trust her with your honest feelings. Just let her know you are glad she has another friend, but sometimes you feel left out and miss spending time with her.
The distance you are feeling is something you are subconsciously causing because you feel replaced. Close that gap and talk to your best friend.
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