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Q: okay so im 13..and i have the BEST boyfriend in the world..and weve been going out for 2 years! and i feel so happy w/him and its not like so kid stuff, i relaly care for him..and he wants to finger me? but likewhen you finger someone doesnt like discharge get on your fingers? and im afraid he'll get grossed out..what should i do..should i let him?

First off, make sure YOU"RE ok wit it. and comfortable. If your not don't do it. Also, I think 13 may be young but, if you must do it go ahead. Also, if he does get gross out, I mean you know how guys are, they may get so grossed out and dump you. Hope I helped. Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: Hey! ok i was at a friends and we were listening to this song and i wanna know what its called!
its like by a girl singing group! i think lol
its like
Ill pick you up when im down,
ill always ... be around
something like that!
anyone know who sings it/ what its called?!
i cant call my friend because its to late :(

I beleive it's called, Get a Life or something by the Get a Life Group. I think, i'm not 100% sure though. Or look up that song and group on www.lyrics.com. It will show you. Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: Hey I was wondering is there anyway you can download your own pics to google?! And how? Thanks. I need steps cause im slow ;-)

Yeah there is someway, because my friend did it. Im un-sure how but I know it costs money. SO make sure you know that before you do download it. Rate me!

xoxo, Maris

Q: I just got my belly button pierced today and when i went to clean it out i was going to use safegaurd soap... but it was a deoderant soap to or something, and has a little scent, do you think that its going ot hurty my belly button n all because it has a scent?
Thanks so much.

It probably won't hurt it that bad, just don't use it any more, use the kind they said you should.
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xoxo, Maris

Q: well i'm f/15 and lately i've been finding myself in the middle of all my parent's arguements. It seems like they're always fighting. And I feel guilty for either wanting them to stop or just go ahead and get a divorce... how can i deal with this?

Parents always fight, it's human nature. It isn't your fault about their fights. You can either ignore it, or you could tell your parents please not to fight because it hurts your feelings and you don't like it. They will understand! Rate me please! Hope I helped!

xoxo, Maris

Q: so far me and my boyfriend have had the PERFECT relationship. we've been going out for 10.5 months and i dont know what to get him for our 1 year anniversary?? what should i get him? do i get him anything?? do i make him something?? if so what?? HELP!!

Here is a quick idea.... joke presents are always fun. They make people laugh, however you may want to get him something romantic, a nice pair of flannel pajama paints may work. If he likes movies, buy him a movie and a bowl, then in the bowl put popcorn, his fav. drink and his fav. candy, then watch the movie together. Hope I helped! Rate me please! Good luck!

xoxo, Maris

Q: I have always heard that if your wrapper of a Tootsie Roll Pop has the indian shooting a star you can send it in to get a free Tootsie Pop. Is this actually true, and if so who do you send it to?

Sorry, I never heard of that, so I guess my answer would be no. Sorry, I didn't help that much anc it may be worong.
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xoxo, Maris

Q: My friend Alyssa is so cool and funny, and at a party she didn't go to the gurl called her and asked why she wasn't there, she said the she was grouned (a lie she doens't really like the gurl) so the gurl was like, you hate me don't you, so now she keeps saying how she doesn't have friends when everyone is alyssa's friend! So my other friend is having a party that alyssa is invited to and everyone is like, you really hate her, right? NO! what should i say to these ppl, and alyssa?

You need to stick up for your friend, tell them you like her. I mean so what if Alyssa doesn't like those people. They prob. don't even know your friend. They may just be jelious. Don't go with those other people, tell them she's your BFF and alot of fun, also that they are missing out! Hope I helped. Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: 13/f Sorry if this is a little confusing!

My friend goes to a differnt school than me. She introduced this kid to me (hes 12) and now I'm beginning to liek him. I know he likes me too, because my friend asked him and he said yes, and he also told me. Like, it would work out great with us, except for one thing, my friend. She used to go out with him and he dumped her a little while ago. But she still likes him..a LOT. He knows that she likes him, but he doesnt like her. The girl that introduced us (that I have been talkign about the whole time, that likes him also) is mad at him for liking me, and mad at me for liking him. She really doesn't want me to like him, but it's hard NOT to..you know what I mean?? Well it's really confusing and I don't know what to do. What if he asks me out? I like him a lot too, but I don't want to lose my friend. Please help me?

This happened to me to. You need to tell your friend that you really like him too. I mean the world doesn't revolve around her. You need to talk to her about it, face to face, just you to. SHe needs to understand your feelings also. If he asks you out say yes. Why should you have to say no all becasue your freind wants you to, that's like saying you can't breathe because your friend doesn't want you to. Go for it. Hope I helped. Rate me please. If you have any other questions, drop one in my box! xomarisox

xoxo, Maris

Q: does anyone know how to fade freckles?
.:~*I rate 5's*~:.

Use make-up...... for example cover-up.

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Q: 15/f and my brother is 11 he's similar to autistic. he gets so frustrated. if he doesnt get his way he'll freak out. when we fight he attacks me, pulls my hair, bites me, and tries to suffocate me. MY PARENTS ARE NO HELP. they dont even disipline him. he's SO FAT and my parents LET him sit in front of the tv all day and eat. he talks back to them and they dont even care. he doesnt wash himself and they LET him go to school smelling like SHIT. he CAN tie his shoes but my mom does it FOR him. he cant wipe his own ass without getting poop all over the bathroom. **DONT TELL ME THAT THEY SHOULDNT BE DISPLINING HIM JUST BECAUSE HES RETARDED** how is he supposed to get thru life? i cant deal with it anymore. someone help.

Tell your parents! Tell them how you feel and what you think they should do. I agree with you they are being way to aw that's ok hunny type thing. Tellt hem what he is like and stuff... it is their faults not yours. RAte me please.

Q: Okay...I went out w/ this guy who (I'll call Bobby) 3 months ago. We have remained really close friends, and I really don't want anything else w/ him right now. Well, a couple weeks ago I found out about this girl Bobby likes...so I told him to go out with her. They're going out now.

Well, anyway, people are always coming up to me now and saying that they know I like Bobby when I don't....how can I stop them from thinking this? Now Bobby thinks I like him! argh! I don't like him and I don't know why everyone thinks I do...I don't want his girlfriend to think I like him (because I don't) and because she is my friend :o/

You won't be able to stop the rumors. One way is to embaress Bobby completely and yell at him sayin you don't like him in front of everyone, but that is pretty mean. Unless, you really want to do that go for it. LOL. The main thing to do is go up to Bobby and tell him face to face you don't like him and it's just a rumor. You might even want to add in that you like someone else. Hope I helped. Godd luck! Rate me please.

xoxo, Maris

Q: Ok I went to this birthday party of my really good friend's *e*..and it was a sleepover..and she invited a buncha people i didn't know..so i was just talking to someone there the whole time *s*( someone who is also a good friend of mine ) and everyone was like yeah...lets go walking...we didn't know what was going on so we went with them and they started smoking..so we turned around and came back in the house..ya know we were like forget about it..so then none of them talked to us we felt really left out..but w/e no big deal..but then *e* said..we brought DRINKS! and like they took out a buncha alcohol and took it downstairs..so me and *s* felt uncomfortable..and we wanted to go home..but we didn't know what to do..we ended up calling my dad to pick us up at like 12:30 AM..and we told him the truth..but i really dont wanna get *e* in trouble because she's a REALLY good friend..? what should i do?

You did the right thing. What if your friend got i alot of trouble or something. She will one day hopefully thank you. Also, talk with your friend about it. Tell her or him how you felt and what you think. It's not your fault they may get mad. If you care about them you would do that and keep helping them. However some people don't like to stress like that so you may want to telll your friend what you think and if they get mad... forget them. YOU wasted your time to help them. They should be thankful.

Good luck! Hope I helped. Rate me plase.

xoxo, maris

Q: Hi. My name is Toni and i'm a girl. My friend has been putting things about me on her profile and they are really mean things. I saw them and they made me feel bad and when i was alone, i cried for hours. I can be a dramaqueen, but who isn't one at one time or another?
Also people in her guestbook were calling me a bitch and saying that i was immature and they dont even know me! Should i tell my friend? Thanks in advance!
Toni

You should definately confront your friend. Tell her how you feel and that it was really rude. Tell her you cried and stuff,, then she will feel bad and will take it off( if shes a good friend) if she doesn't,stop being friends with her adn put something really rude aboout her in your pro.

xoxo, maris

Q:
My friend and I were exchanging secrets, and i found out that she had been cutting every time she got stressed out; she swore she'd stop, but then I saw two more marks... she just said she'd stop again, and she was talking about it like its no big deal.
(she's been through a lot... she was adopted when she was six, and she thinks her real parents sexually abused her (and beat her)).
I'm worried... what should I do?
-_concerned-friend_-

Def. tell your parents or who ever you live with about this. That's really dangerous and it can hurt her. And also, if her parents do abuse her the police need to know. It seems like she hasn't have such a good life. Try and do something about it. Hope I helped. Good luck. Rate me please.

xoxo, Maris

Q: Ok, well theres this guy that likes me...he sits behind me in math and he is the play that i'm doing for Drama Class. He always looks at me and smiles and he's kinda weird and I dont like him at all. I mean as a friend, ya, but not as anything more. How can i get him off my back?!

Just do what you are doing. Ignore him. That is kinda freaky. If he keeps botherin u just ask him to stop and stuff.
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xoxo, Maris

Q: Well im 15 and i have a WONDERFUL boyfriend. we've been together for 3 years!! and u have to admit thats pretty long..anyways, he gets horny a lot, and he tries to get me to have sex with him sometimes, and im just NOT ready!!! He understands tho of course since hes a real understanding person, but last night, he tried to have sex again!! and of course, (as always) i stopped him. And this morning he came over, and gave me a letter, and then left..here's whut it said..

Dear Nicole,
This no - sex thing just isnt working for me. Im sorry, its just that i get sooo HORNY whenever i see you..i jack off, and i just cum and stuff. I dont have a very strong will, so i think u should rethink about the no-sex thing. you know that i love you either way tho..and i cude never break up with you..but ur a fantastic person, and i neeeeeeeed you..
Love,
Chris

should i just have sex with him and get it over with? or should i stick with my first answer? PLEZE HELLLLLLLPP ME!!!!!!!!

Def, stick with ur first answer. You need to be ready and comfortable. You said he understands but if he's not going to go out with u just cuz u wont have sex, I think you should blow him off. He needs to understand UR feelings. Don't do it to get it over with. Do what you want to do, if he just has a g/f to have sex, re-think him. do wats rite.
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xoxo, Maris

Q: I have a huge problem...I can't stop smoking...and I really don't mean ciggarettes....

Ever since i've been dating my boyfriend, (which is over a year now) I have been smoking pot more and more... I did before that too, but not as much and i am now.

He lives in a rual town, and no one really cares out there, where I live in the suburbs...But last weekend when i was out there, I took the biggest hit ever. Now it hurts to breathe, and I realized that its not the best thing for my body...

It just makes everything so much better. I'm not weak, or insecure, (for the most part) but I just love the feeling.

I have never done, and will never do, any hardcore drugs...

but I really need some advice. I don't want to stop, but I don't want to smoke as much. I'm always around it when I'm with it and sometimes I hate it ...what can I say to him? He understands that I don't like it, but it's his choice you know...I already told him i wouldnt break up with him for it, and I'm too close to him to do somthing like that.

Listen, I know you don't want to stop but you have to. Go to the pharmacy and see if they have anything to help. If that doesn't work you have to go to the doctors. What matters more, being healthy or having a b/f. Your b/f should be helping you to stop not pressureing you. You need to stop, it's the right thing. Hope I helped! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: ok well I'm in love with my best friend and tonight at the dance which finished at 12:00 well during like 9 he told me I'm gonna ask Maria out and he was so happy she said yes and like now I don't know I feel jealous because I've known him my whole life and never has he ever liked me and I'm so in love man I hate the fact he has a girlfriend I'm sad I have no clue wut to do should I tell him?...I'm a nervous chica

Look, theres no way you can steal him, hes in love with the other girl, I'm really sorry try finding some1 else, you may even find some1 better then him. Don't worry there r alot more fish in the sea!

Hope I helped. rate me please.

xoxo, maris

Q: everyday we go to lunch and me and a few friends play truth or dare.. well like im never dared to do anything so im usually happy. i was dared the other day to kiss this boy jake.. and i did. because him and i have kissed before.. yeh sure its no harm done and we acted like it never happened. but my friends made a BIG deal over it for nothing.. what do i do to tell them to chill!?

Just tell them to shut up about it. Your right, it already happened and it was no big deal. If they keep bringing it up after you ask them to stop, ask them again to stop, but if they bring it up again and keep bringing it up, who are your real friends? You should only have to ask once. Hope I helped! Good luck! Rate me please!

Show um whos boss,
xoxo, maris

bio

Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts