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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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I started a new job last year. Everyone was pretty cold and unfriendly. No hello's, good mornings, not even eye contact. I figured it was b/c i was new. This year, it's the same. New people give me the cold shoulder and have made friends with the old and new people. Everyone else seems to connect with others except me and recently one other employee. I thought it might be my age, weight, ethnicity...etc. But other people who are older, heavier or more ethnic dont get shut out
Other peers act like I am invisible and cut me off from my turn at the microwave or interrupt serious conversations btwn me and other professionals. So, I was wondering, do these people think i am radioactive? Or I work with a bunch of rude people?

You just work with a bunch of rude people that probably think highly of you. Maybe you are doing really good at your job and moving foward and those rude people are staying in the same position and are just tired of it. Good luck making a good friend don't settle on someone that's going to talk behind your back.

well i'm a teenager and i go through alot of drama and dunb bitches and latley i've been gettting very very angry and jelous and i'm very stressed any advice??

Somethings that i do to relief stress are Working out, listening to music, play games, and spending time with good friends its always good to vent your feeling about stuff to the few good or best friends that you can trust. Best of luck

i want to lose weight. im 13 years old and am over weight by about 30-40 pounds but i dont look like it. i want to be healthier and i lost 20lbs last summer but i gained all back and i want to lose it by may but i have a slight problem, whenever i think about how i look or start a new eating healthy plan or something i get all depressed because of the way i am and start eating. horrible and weird i know but i cant help it. i have an elliptical at home but i never use it. i want to lose weight more than anyone knows. Help! what type of foods should i eat, what kind of excersises what do i do?? help! thanks in advance!!

Ok you need to start eating salads, fruit, and protein such as chicken or fish. For the workout out i would recommend running and doing situps (or if you have another ab workout use it) start off doing 3 sets of 20. Then work your way up every other day another set. Work out 3 times a week no more no less. But you can run every day if you want too. Good luck

14/f

I'm a virgin and probably won't be having sex anytime soon seeing as I'm single, but I wondered, how do people expect your vagina to look?

Cause when guys talk about it, they act like they expect you to be completely bare.

So, I'd like to know, if you're a virgin, how would you expect a girl's vagina to be when you do have sex? Like completely waxed, or shaved, or what?

x

Depends on the age and if she is a virgin or not. If she is a young virgin as yourself then i wouldnt expect it to be neither shaved or waxed. If its a 20 year old virgin id expect it to atleast be shaved. And any non virgin i would expect it to be shaved or waxed. Hope i helped

ok well for valentines day my boyfriend has a bunch of stuff planned but he refuses to tell me because i guess its a secret and well i feel bad because i dont have money or anything to do something special for him....so he said i could just you know do something for his birthday which is about 2 weeks after valentines day and i dont have money but ya idk what to do i was gonna have my mom just buy some balloons or flowers and have them sent too him so they arrive about the same time he gets home from school that day... any ideas??

Make him something like a card and right how you feel about him inside it like a poem. You can't go wrong with that us guys really don't need anything big. Something hand made would mean alot more to him then something expensive. Good luck

Well to start off , me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year. He always say he loves me more and cares about me more than i do for him. Buy seriously i dont think its truley the way he feels , i think im the one who loves him more like wth all my heart i think that . Id do anything for that boy , he also will to . But i mean i just wish he would show we he loves me more , i just dont want his feelings to go away and i hope there not . What should i do because everytime i tell him the way i feel he gets mad and says whatever i love you more end of story and he is just like mad and stuff. So what do i do ? i want him to appriciate me more ''/

so answer these please
- what do i do to get him to show more love?
- How do you know if a boy's feelings are fading for you ?

thanks

If you show him more love he will do the same.
If his feelings are fading conversations between the 2 of you won't run as smooth as they use to. Another sign of his feelings fading is if he wasn't as into to you as he was when you first started. But considering what he says that he loves you more then you love him it's normal he is pretty much saying that he doesn't want you to think that he will ever stop loving you. Best of luck

i'm 13 years old. recently i found a little tiny bump on my nipple, but you could barely see it. could this be breast cancer? aren't i too young to have it? but what is the youngest age you can get it? or if anybody has the same thing or knows a lot about it would help me!

Here's a good website about breast cancer:
http://www.aicr.org.uk/BreastCancerFAQs.stm?source=Adwords

Hope it helps good luck

okay, so i play volleyball, but i dont know if that has to do with anything. So at random times, my shouders feel on fire, like the top of my shoulders (where the shoulders are flat and even out at the bottom of your neck) i dont understand what causes it, and i dont know how to get rid of it. it feels as though nothing can get rid of it and i am uncomfortable for a long time...even when i lay down. help? ill take anything

Thats normal your just working out our shoulders alot harder then you use to. Im taking it that your practicing alot harder or longer then you normally do. Im not so familiar with the sport of volleyball but it looks like you do work out your shoulders while playing. Don't worry about it it should wear off soon your going to get use to the work out. Good luck

Im 16 and have had my license for a month ... i was just on the highway in the pouring rain and couldnt see a thing, i had to slam on my brakes and i may have hit the car in front of me, i dont even know! i jerked forward but i cannot remember if i hit him or not! he didnt stop or signal to me or anything, but what happens if he took down my license plate number? am i gonna be in big trouble? and i looked at the front of my car, but i just got into another minor accident lastnight (wasnt my fault, so please dont judge) so the scratches could just be from the one lastnight. im freaking out i dont wanna get in trouble with the cops or anything ... whats gonna happen?!?!?

No your just being paranoid its not your falt he took off and how in the world is he supose to get your license plate when its raining and you can't see anything. There is not chance of you getting into trouble over this. Good luck get your mind of the situiation

what are some good songs to cry to? this may sound stupid..but i just need some. i'm in like a depressed state. lol (:

hmmmm
Taylor swift-Tear drops on my guitar, and Stay beatiful.
3 doors down- Here without you, Landing in london, and maybe Here by me.
Mayday parade, Miserable at best, and
Matchbox 20-If your gone
Edwin McCain-I'll be
Any song by Colbie Caillat except bubbly.
Renee Cassar-Waiting

hope i helped good luck getting out of depression

Does anyone know of any websites where, for example, you look up a song and it tells you what the genre of that song is?

Thanks loads in advance.

ummm you can go to myspace music.

15/f

i have a dog, who just turned one. so obviously, shes still very much like a puppy. so, ive been working hard lately at school, and have been very tired. so, ive been going to bed at like 9:30. my dogs cage is in my room. [she gets scared sleeping in a room with no one in it.] so anyways, usually its fine, she goes in her cage and everytihng. well, my dad or whoever forgot to put her in her cage, so, my dog comes up on my bed, since i was really tired, i was just like whatever. and let her sleep there. i let her do that for a couple of days. well, i went to put her back in her cage, and she kept crying and crying, till id take her out, and let her sleep with me. [she litterally woke me up 4 times at night.] how do i fix this?

Your just going to have to last most likley just a day with it crying in the cage. After that it will realize that its not going to be sleeping on your bed anymore. I had a similar problem but it was with food my dogs started liking normal food instead of there dog food. We got them back on the dog food but it took about 2 days of them not eating. Good luck

if i keep the gift will the guy i like think im with the other! thanx. then what do i do to redeem myself thanx! :p

Not unless he see's it and you start talking to the guy that gave you the gift more then you usually do. Im not saying don't talk to the guy say thanks give him a hug or whatever but don't talk to him anymore then you usually do because he is going to think that you like him and the guy that you like will think the same. Good luck and have a good vday if you have any other questions don't hesitate to ask.

I like a guy. Im pretty sure he dosen't like me.
therefore i don't think ill get anything from him on vday. sob. there is a guy who likes me and something might come from him on vday. since i don't like him do i keep the gift?

Yes or you might hurt his feelings by giving it back to him. Good luck

There's this guy who acts like he likes me, a lot, he's always texting me and calling me. And I think he's really sweet and funny and cute- but sometimes I think he is desperate. He has been trying to start a relationship with a few girls for a time, but they haven't worked out... and now that I'm single he's hitting on me. Should I give it a go? Or am I just gonna get taken advantage of because he's desperate to have a gf no matter who it is?

I don't think that its a good idea to get into a relationship because one of the 2 is despret. Most of those relationships don't tend to last long. But if you like him then take the chance and go out with him. Good luck

I have a 3 year old chinese crested that has had litters before...The first week that she went into heat, my male went crazy and was trying to hump all of the time...That was like a week ago. Now, he is not interested in her, but I didn't catch them locked up...Is is possible that she got stressed out of heat? I know in humans stress plays an important factor in conception, Is this the same in dogs? Or is it possible that they locked up in their crate while I wasn't looking? This is my first litter, and am nervous that they didn't do it, I have waited for like 2 years before getting my pups and spent most of my time researching breeding before making my choice to do this, so please don't leave negative comments about breeding:) I'm just here to get some information that I can't find on the web! Thank you

No i don't think that a dog can get stressed out of heat. Yes there is a chance that you didnt catch them. But it could also be the male dog i had 2 bullterriors and they had 3 litters together but it took 2 years before they had them. Yes she went into heat but they wouldent lock for some reason. Good luck

I Love Love Love music! but i don't want to ruin my hearing when I'm older by always listening to it, I've already reduced the volume from 30 to 20 and I'm getting used to that. I listen to my Ipod on long road trips and on the bus to school. Is there anything else i can do so that i don't need hearing aids when I'm older? Thank You:)

No i don't think you can do anything else i have the same problem the only time im not listening to my ipod is at school (because i can't). I don't know what you mean by 30 to 20. I keep my volume in the middle and sometimes a little over for some acoustic songs. Good luck

I hate using this word, but does anyone know any cute acoustic emo songs? I'm making a mix CD for my boyfriend and so far I have Dashboard Confessional and Secondhand Serenade. So, anything along those lines would be nice! Thanks!

Snow patrol-run
3 doors down- Here without you, Here by me, Landing in london, When im gone.
Aqua lung-Brighter then sunshine
Blue October-Calling you
Boys like girls-Thunder
Buckcherry-sorry
Cartel- Minstrel's prayer
Everclear-I will buy you a new life
Howie day-Collide
Lifehouse-Whatever it takes
Matchbox 20-If your gone, Bright lights
Matt wertz- 519
Mayday Parade- Your song
Relient K- Must have done something right
Switch foot-On fire
The Fray-Trust me
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus-Your Guardian Angel
Vertical Horizon-Everything you wanted
Edwin McCain-I'll be (1 of my fav's)

I hope i helped if you need anymore songs tell me.

I sit with some of my friends during lunch that I have known for over 10 years and now there is this one guy who has started sitting with us and he kinda creeps me and my friends out. I had one class with him last semester and 2 of my guy friends we sit with kinda knew him from football and he is a grade ahead of us so we really don't know him and he really doesn't know us. He said he was going to sit with us because he didn't know anyone else in that lunch period since it was mostly a freshman lunch and he is a sophmore. He creeps us out and is really annoying. We have jokingly told him to go sit somewhere else and kinda been hinting that we don't really want him to sit with us, but he isn't really getting it. How can we nicely tell him we don't want him sitting with us at lunch. We don't want to be mean, he really doesn't know that many people in this lunch, but we DO NOT WANT HIM SITTING WITH US!

I don't think there is a nice way of telling someone that you don't want to be around them. Just tell him straight up that you don't want him sitting with you and your friends but make sure that your friends say something too or he probably won't listen and think you are joking again. Best of luck

I have a friend who is going through a tough time at school. She's constantly made fun of and she has anger issues. She shows people someone she's not and doesn't know who to change. I have no idea what advice to give her even though I've been through that but never really cared. She's afraid of herself and doesn't know who to trust besides me. She's afraid she'll do something horrible to herself and she's on the edge of killing herself. I don't know what to say to her. HELP!

Just let her know that your always going to be there for her if she ever needs to talk (she can tell you anything). And when she is getting made fun of say something stick up for her. Don't let it lead to fighting just make then feel bad for making fun of her. If you think she is going suicidal you need to tell her parents and the reason for it. Best of luck

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