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Q: I'm 16/M... i never had sex before (im waiting til im married) but i get erections WAY too much...like 6 times an hour and its really annoying, i get them when im not even thinking about anything close to sexual. i dunno what my problem is but i was wondering if its normal or not? please resond.

O its normal. Don't worry about it. It will eventually go away for you. Im sure alotta guys go thru this. So im sure your not alone-trix

Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for long than a month and couple weeks and he hasnt even kissed me yet. i kissed him once on the cheek but that doesnt matter. what is he doing????

O i know how that goes. Just talk to him about it. Or wish on a star with him sometime and wish that he'll kiss you. Ask him what his wish is and you tell him what yours was.-trix

Q: 14/f me and my boyfriend have been going out a little over a year now, and we both want to have sex. we're both virgins, and we are very eager to do this. problem is, since were "so young" our parents never will leave us alone. we never have any time to ourselves, which sucks. i would like to know if anybody has a way of doing this without our parents finding out. thanks (: i rate high.

Your right. You are young. Dont throw it away. Not now. Save it for like another year. Yet you'll still be young. But at least your a little older. If you have sex now. You'll have sex then. And then more later you may perhaps get pregnant at a young age. You may be thinking well condom will always be used. Well what happans if your both very eager to have sex later on and theres no condoms around. Seriosly think ahead before you do this. If you and your bf both love eachother. You'd wait awhile longer. You can get addicted to sex. So just be safe. And if your honestly eager.. one night sneak him over. Or when your parents are at work. Sorry for being all parental like-ish. Im just looking out for you even tho i dont know you.. but still :)-Princess trix

Q: hello, im a guy and im 14. i have always been kind of quiet in school and stuff. i was just wondering, what should i talk about w/ girls? like i don't know what to say in person except like hi, how are you. and on line i just say hey, whats up, and then the conversation kind of goes quiet, i need real help.

Not Good At Starting Conversations? Nobody is perfect. We all have our flaws. So dont sweat it! Well its summer. Ask about summer how its going. Talk about how it sucks school is starting up soon. Or maybe ask her if she was in summer school. What class she took. Etc. Or trips during the summer. Ask her about her. Her favorite color. What she does for fun. Weather or not she's in a sport. If she drives. What kind of car she has if she does drive. Dont worry so much and try to be more confident in yourself.

Q: if you have alot of favorite colomnits can you change the order so certain ones are displayed on you page instead of having to click more, basiclly can you change the order

Not that I know of. If you dont want the ones you dont want shown then just dont have them. Just have a few. They either go by the order of you subscribing to them or the order of recent updates. Im sorry that i dont know. But as far as i know of you cant. Sorry again-Princess Trix

Q: i have a few questions about getting your belly button pierced.
1. About how much does it cost?
2. How long do you have to leave it in before you can take it out?
3. How long can you leave it out before it closes?

thanks and ill rate you!

1.$25.00-^up^
2.4-5 months
3.Everybodys body heals different.

Q: okay, during the day i have nothing to do, i am so bored. school years aren't so bad because i have school and homework and stuff like that, but the summers are unbearable! I have nothing to do. i can't get a job even though i want to because of those damn child labor laws and i don't have a driver's liscence so can anyone think of stuff i can do during the day?

why cant u hang out with friends? go swimming, running, swinging or biking.-trix

Q: ok so recently i was being very stupid and decided to flash my best friend's cousins's ex boyfriend. what the problem you ask... I HAVE A BOYFRIEND and I told him about cause I didn't want to lie about it and he said he's mad but not going to dump me cause of but i still feel bad for doing it in the first place. so my question do you have any ideas on how i can make it up to him? p.s. no sexual answers plzzz.

I really need ya'll ideas quick!

-Nikki-

Right him a note. Watch a movie together. Just spend time together. Let him know that you know that was stupid foolish dumb thing to do and you defintly weren't thinking right.-trix

Q: well ok so last month i was only on my period for 1 day, and it was light, and then this month it was still really light and only for 2 days, is that normal...or is somethig worng?

You dont need to worry. Its perfectly normal. If someone tells you otherwize they need to check there answer again and get real facts. Anyways If your active and constantly busy then thats why. PLus you could just not be regulating quite yet. It takes 3-4 years after you get your period to regulate-trix

Q: ok so theres this guy and he kinda sexual harasses me or w/e this is called. he grabbed my breasts and my butt like so many times nd he snaps my bra straps and all that kind of stuff! i don't kno who 2 tell and what 2 do? pleasee help me

Well you should probably tell an older cousin. Or mom. Someone you can trust and know they wont go blab to the world. You should do everything in your all in all to stay away from him. Which im sure your doing. Let him know that next time he does it. Say "stop" if he does it again tell him that "You need to knock it off or im telling. Im serious"-trix

Q: I have 101 books and i have a bookshelf thats attached to my wall my mom says i should take off 70 of them or something but the problem is where do i put my books i need some help. i don't have any boxes and i can't get any what should i do and my closet is full. please help me
thanx

Go to Uhaul and get a box or just ask your mom to bring one home from work and put the box under the stairs or in the garage or attic. Just ask your mom to help you-trix

Q: i use to cut alot but after i started goin out w/ this one guy i stopped for him. We broke up after 6 months and for this whole past year every time ive wanted to cut i've thought of him and would think about how much he would hate it if i started again. Well im still in love w/ him and i finally got the courage to call him and tell him. He told me that did love me and that really broke my heart and i've been wanting to cut really bad but i don't know what to do!someone plz help!!!!

thanx
-twiSted

What you should do is try and find a differnet guy i know no guy can compare to him because im sure he is a great guy besides the fact of him hurting you. cuz thats rude!! Anyways! You need to do this for you and not him. Like when people stop smoking for there girlfriends/boyfriends.. its not as strong as if they'd quit for themselves. Your im sure a terrific sweet loving girl and you can find one truely sweet guy for you that will be there for you and make sure everything is good for you so you dont cut! Do it for yourself hun. If you ever needa talk again.. im here ok?-trix

Q: hey
i have had this friend since i was in 1st grade, Becca, and she has been one of my best friends ever since, same with my other friend, Katie were kinda like the 3 musketeers i guess u could say...but over the past year becca started to change...she started dressing and acting really slutty and katie agreed, her attitude also started to change and she started gettig mean somtimes, but she was still one of my bffs and i couldnt just let her go, then she did something extremly evil tht friends shouldnt do and ever since then i really dont like her tht much at all. after she did wht she did (which is very long and i dont really want to explain..) she IMed me and was saying sry and wishing to take back the last couple days and i was just like yeah im am extremly pissed and i will get over it in about a week so a week passed and i told her tht i would be friends again but could never fully forgive her, but we carried on being friends. Over the year when becca started acting bitchy, katie and i became extremly close and are best friends! but now a couple months later Becca is acting like the things in the past didnt happen and is all pissed at us because were best friends, and i dont think she should be mad about tht becaue she deserves it i guess...and i dont really like her tht much at all lately, so should i drop her as a friend? or should i just keep going and pretend everything is good and love her to death? or should i tell her we can be friends but were not best friends like me and katie? im sry this is so long and confusing, but i am very confused about it! thanks so much!
Carly

hey what you gotta do is just talk to her and explain that its defintly not the same like it was back then. things changed. you guys got older. Things do change the older you get and she needs to understand that. Your not going down the same road as her and thats a good thing. Just do what your doing if this is what makes u happy carly-trix

Q: how do people get boyfriends? i cant get one.

people get them by being themsevles, flirty, friendly, lovable, and just out going. just be yourself honestly dont change because the right guy at the right time will come around for you -trix

Q: I'm really confused because it says I have 1 new feedback and everytime I click on it, no new rating shows up. I'm really confused about this...help anyone?

Yeah sometimes this site messes up like that and sometimes it says that about your questions but i dont know its just a error they've had a for awhile now. but you could just check your column and then click on feedback and try that way too-trix

Q: Normally I'm the to give advice to girls on this site who think they are pregnant and tell them ways to calm themselves so that the stress doesn't affect them any more. Well, one of my BEST friends told me that she thinks she's pregnant. She is on the pill and uses condoms all the time when she has sex. She finished her pill on Saturday (the 26th) and was supposed to get her period on Monday (the 28th) it is now Thursday, and she still has not gotten it and that it has NEVER been any later than Wednesday. Like I said, I'm normally giving other girls advice on how to stay calm, but I can't keep myself calm! I mean, this is my BEST FRIEND we're talking about. I told her to try to stay calm and take a nice hot bath and think POSITIVE but now it's alittle hard on me. I'm really nervous for her right now. What should I do? To help both me AND her?

I'm going to be there for her no matter what, if she really is pregnant I'm going to be there for her through the whole thing.

monday was the 27th and its the 29th today. Sometimes periods are late so you shouldnt jump to conclusions exspeacially if she is on the pill and uses condoms. Your a good friend for being so concerned and being there for her. Just continue to do that and dont worry until at least sat. okay?-trix

Q: ok my teeth arnt white.. ive used crest whitening strips before, but my teeth are very sensitive and it hurts them. what else helps get your teeth white besides buying stuff in the store or going to the dentsist?? thanksss!!!!

there isnt anything that you can do just dont drink anything that may stain your teeth just make sure to brush your teeth at least 2 times a day. 3 if possible-trix

Q: is it such a turn off when girls are sorta shy but really pretty...or do guys like confidence and don't care about looks....or do u have to be confidente and pretty....I think i am pretty but the confidence idk....i am courious...what do guys like?

it depends on all guys. I mean alot of the guys get passed the fact that your shy and will be more then happy to spend more time with you to make you less shy with them. As long as your trying to be confident the best you can then that is all that matters. Plus theres nothing wrong with trying to be pretty-trix

Q: what does it mean to be high matenince?..people tell me i am but i dont know what they mean!...some one tell me what it is and how you know if you are??..thanks so muchh!!!

You got your standards set high. And your kind of spoiled. You get what you want and when you want. And you know what you want. So then again its not neccesarily a bad thing. everybody is a little high maitence-trix

Q: I know this is grose but what does it mean when your poop is green. Please help lol.

the food, and if your not feeling well then thats the reason. or you might have food poisoning but you would defintly notice that-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"