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Hey, what's up? My name is Annie.

I work in a neurobiology lab and I love my job. I will do my best to help you! Also don't be afraid to ask me a question or a clarification to any advice I give you. I get email updates so they WILL get answered.

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Well, I where makeup most of the time, I wonder if my bf likes it or not? Do you guys like your girl friends with or without makeup? Or wat? He never told me not to wear it, so i dont think he minds it. thankss

I think that make up looks great of anyone if they DONT overdo it. If you are wearing make up and it doenst look like a mask, I would say it's fine. Plus if it makes you look and feel prettier, then a guy will notice.

You can always ask him. Just ask him if you look nice. It's pretty easy.

Ugh seriously my life sucks so bad and i just can't deal with it any more.!:(
I have been home schooled for a year now I left public school second semester of 7th grade and now i am in 8th. I lost ALL of my friends from being home school i have not EVEN one friend! I hate being home schooled i want to go back to school so bad i hate being home on a computer all day and i have no freakin life! It's not fair i want to go back so bad i just want to be a regular teen! Whitch leads to my second problem.... I hate the way i look I hate my body and i am to emmberest to go back to school cause I am fat! so thats why i can't go back i hate myslef and i am not strong and comfterable anuff to go back. I just want to be a normal teen, when i was in school i was the popualar girl not the annoyying mean stupid ones but everyone new me. Well now i am nothing. SO to fix my problem i work out everyday!!! 7 out of 7 days running bikeing stretching light weights EVERYTHING!!! i am on like the 4th month so far and i haven't lost a POUND!!!! i don't get whats wrong with me:(? I seriously cry everyday wondering why i can't be happy with myslef and not be huge i just want to be skinny and ughh it's not fair.
Next problem!.... I am the youngest one in my family My siblings cousins everyone! there all at that age were they can go out drink blahh blahh blahh and then theres me i am kinda of an outcast in my family for certin things, but it sucks that i can't be at that age they get to experince things i don't and i am left out it sucks! so bad being the youngest in your family. I hate how i have to prove to them i am not a freakin 5year old anymore the expect me to watch like Pooh bear (not really but do you get what i mean) and it pisses me off how they don't think i no what going on in the world like they think i don't no what sex or anything ugh idk they treate me like im 2 like really? your fucking anoying ugh whatever!! i hate my life and it's such a waist! i don't understand why any of this is going on it's not fair!!!!!!!
SOrry i just needed to let this out cause i have no one to talk to! i tell my mom this all the time but she never helps ugh this suckkss :( sorry if you have any advice feel free to let me no:(

:( I'm sorry you feel so down these days.

Ok so let's me try to give advice on eash of the problems you listed.

-What is the reason you are being home-schooled and why can't you go back to school? It might help of you talk to your parents about it. And if you don't want to go to school because you don't like your image, well I think you should still go to school. There is a friend for everyone in the world if they are willing to find them.

-The reason you might not be losing weight if probably you are eating the same as before. When someone exercises or works out what they are doing is preventing future weight gain. They only way to actually lose weight is to eat less. You will have to eat about 1,100 - 1,500 calories and eat filling foods, like wheat. This along with you working out will help you lose weight. Also don't forget that muscle weighs more that fat so it might help if you look for a slimmer waist than weighing 10 pounds less. Oh and try only exercising every other day. Thsi gives yoru muscles a chance to repair themselves and get stronger.

-I know you are the youngest and it's hard when you can't do anything. I am the youngest out of all my friends. Most of my friends are a year or two years older than me. So it's hard when i can't do anything. Honestly, I don't let it get to me. Why? Because im YOUNG. It's a good thing. I love when my freinds all say they are getting "old" and meanwhile im still a teen. Plus I still hang out with them. Maybe you can hang out with them and not drink or even ask them to hang out with you somewhere else.
I understand how it feels to be trewated like a child though. What did I do here? I acted older. What i mean is I acted more responsible and i told them to not treat me like a child. It takes time sadly, but it works.

I really hope that helped. If you ever need to rant, i'm here. People always rant to me so it's ok.

best of luck!

whats a good way to pass the time in a hospital... for 3 days. have computer, any good games or anything please

This article has 40 time wasting sites.

http://tech.msn.com/products/articlepcw.aspx?cp-documentid=20923913>1=40000

Well, they would be time wasting if you were trying to get something else done, but in your case its time passsing.

Also try addictinggames.com and gprime.net

Have fun.

I know the answer to this is simply "practice" but is there any leg/ab/arm workouts that can improve my speed for my track season? I really want to finish this year by blowing any competition out of the water.

I did this

and so these are some websites i found helpful

http://www.runnersworld.com/topic/0,7122,s6-238-263-0-0,00.html This site has different kinds of workouts, some are videos so that might be helpful.

http://running.about.com/b/2009/01/07/ab-workouts-for-runners.htm This is a site about ab workouts you can do.

http://www.runningplanet.com/training/strength-training.html This has to do with strength training.

If you want more sites try the google search above.

Best of luck!!

i dont know what muscle this is called so i cant search how to fix it but it is really sore, i went on a walk n tried to do stretches but nothing helped. standing it would be the back of my knee and above it, on the back though. what are some stretches or things i can do, im in training and have to be better by tomarrow, and i cant tell the instructors or they will have me sit out.

Yup those are your hamstrings.

Here are some helpful sites that I found to help you fix this problem.

Also remember to warm up before you so some of these.

http://physicaltherapy.about.com/od/flexibilityexercises/a/hamstingstretch.htm

http://www.halhigdon.com/15Ktraining/Stretch.htm

http://www.fitsugar.com/1983373

Hope that helped.

Why do i feel so unmotivated?
im a senior in high school and i havent doing any homework or studying lately, i did all my work for the last 2 months ago but now i feel so lazy and dont feel like doing anything, i know i shouldnt do that but when i get home from school i feel so tired and just want to sleep i have a 2.4 i would like to go to community college first and go to the state college what should i do to make myself motivated and dont feel lazy at all? im so disappoited to myself but i dont know how to fix it.

Oh gosh, I can't tell you how many times I felt unmotivated.

Last year (senior year in high school) I almost did what you did. I totally wanted to not do anything after i got excepted to my first choice university. But you know what i did. I thought about my future goals. I thougth about what i wanted to achieve in my life and what would happen if I slacked off and did nothing. That helped me because it put my goals back in perspective for me.

This year (college freshman)I went thhrough tthat again. I didn't want to do my hw because it was so much. i talked to my friend and sister about it and they helped me. My friend would complement me when I would get something done. Like "Goood job Annie!!! You finished the chem lab..." That might seem stupid but it made me feel happy when i got apprieciated for stuff like that. My sister started doing the same thing. She would send me random texts saying things like "Just a little bit more to go. You can do it!" and that made me feel energized. I guess they helped me get motivated.

I would suggest you try things like that. Also rewarding yourself afterwards is nice too. :)

Best of luck!

I've searched countlessly online and in books for being confident, and building self-esteem including best sellers and whatnot. But honestly, none of them have ever had a lasting effect. I'm hardly ever happy with who I am -- with my personality, my appearance, my character, or my relationship with others. It honestly feels like being dislike me wherever I go. I never seem to fit in, and I'm never good enough for anyone.

If you need help with self confidence, i would suggest you try new things. This might seem weird because you might have to put yourself out there or be expossed to new people or even have a hard time. But the accomplistment you feel afterwards when you succeed is pretty awesome. So there are many things that quilify. You can try bowling, some craft like activities, trying a new restaurant is always fun too, you can even dress nicely and go to Nordstrum to get samples. It doens't matter.

You might discover yourself when you put yourself in new situations. You might learn a new hobby or something you absolutly hate. I think that might help.

I hope what i said makes sense and best of luck!

My birthday is in 21 days & I'll be turning 17 =). I was thinking about throwing a party but I don't know how to go about doing it =/ any theme ideas ? Or party ideas? Things to do at my party ?...I'm really clueless & I was thinking about having it at my house..since money is really low right now & I wouldn't be able to rent out a hall..I'm also on a budget..the most I could save up right now is 200.. any ideas please?

My group of friends have this thing where we have cooking parties when we all get together. It is super easy to plan and cheap becaue everyone will be making something so you don't have to pay for it all.

How to do this? It's really easy actually. All you have to do is choose the friends that you will be inviting. When you have done that ask each of your friends to choose a dish. This could be something that they are really good at making. Include desserts as well.

Then you guys can meet and make the food together. It's really fun and interessting to eat different foods.

You can invite them through facebook if you all have them. Or just call them and talk to them about it. If you plann early on then you should have no problem when the time comes.

You can also even do a movie night or a slumber party. And game nights are always fun. With tht emovie night you can plan a theme around that and like say watch all teh harry potter movies or something. It's pretty fun to do.

I hope that helped and I hope it all works out. Happy early Birthday!!

Yesterday, I got hit on my left hand between my middle finger and my ring finger with a 40 mph baseball. Since then, my middle knuckle is red and black, and when I put my hand straight and clench it into a fist, I can't see or feel a knuckle on my ring finger. But, I can feel the bone more towards my wrist. It feels like I have a huge middle knuckle but none in my ring finger. One of my best friend's moms says that she thinks that I dislocated it. Can you all please help me???

Best adivce i can give is probably the most obvious. Go to the doctor. As a student athletic trainer I can easily say that this injury shouldn't be taken lightly. You can even go to your athletic trainer if your school has one. But get it checked out for sure.

The longer you wait the longer it will take to heal and teh injury will get worse. So please just have someone diagnose it and help to treat it!

hello 14/f 8th grader :) arizona.. 13m 7th grader:)

Well, everything seems like its going alright.We are in diffrent grades(so we cant talk much:/) Plus my phone and his phone is taken away haha. When we do see each other, during the day we make faces at each other and he hugs me and stuff. Today, Friday (every friday the 6th plays intmerals in the gym, arizona has gym that period so i can watch him play haha) He shows off for me and smiles at me, every time he got hit by a ball he would look at me and laugh. He's so sweet he can always make me smile. The one thing that made me excited was he we put are arms around each other today, it made me feel great. Our dance is next week and my friend told him that i want to slow dance..and kiss him than. haha i wish she didnt say that, now i think we will. It's not a bad thing haha i just hope we will stay together. I was wondering does a cancer (me) and a gemini (arizona) work out alright? i heard we can? what do you guys think?

Check it out on this website
http://www.astrology.com.au/compatibility/index.asp

Although i must say, as fun as it is checking your compatibility you shouldn't always take it seriously. Like the answer but don't get upset if it says something you don't like. Make your own fate!

I want a profile picture, but I don't want an actual picture of me because of the whole other people seeing me thing.

Every picture I try to upload is to big! Can someone give me a picture I can get!

I made a pic of a cartoon version of me because i didn't want to post up my actual face.

I used this site http://www.tektek.org/dream/dream.php to make my avatar/profile pic and then I saved it on my computer. I didn't have a problem with the size because it's a cute and small pic.

To make any picture smaller I find it easy to use paint (if you don't have photoshop etc.) You just resize and save.

Also try

to make a free avatar.

okay i'll make this as concise as I can:
I am part shy part confident. I can flirt from across the room but freak out when I start talking to someone...
Anyway so there is this guy who FINALLY got the hint that I like him and is showing some signs of interests (he is very very shy). Thing is he works at the library so it isn't really a social environment where we can get to talk and stuff. I asked him questions a couple of times and he's been quite helpful. Today I went to get some research done and got so mad at the noise so I got up very frustrated and was about to leave (I've got a major paper due) and right then he walks right infront of me. Luckily I manged a "hello how's it going" and he said good good you and turned completely towards me taking a go at a potential conversation but being as upset and 'not in the mood' as I was I blew it and cut it short by saying alright thanks smiled and i don't remember if I said something else and left!!! It was a perfect opportunity to start a conversation especially that it seemed like he was strolling around and not busy at the time.
How do i fix this (this might be the second time I accidentally turn him away!!!) he's super shy.
We don't know each other well as I said I only did ask him a couple of questions and all the flirting done was from across the room or non-verbal! I am going back tomorrow so what's a good scenario (emphasis on SCENARIO) to play out ... I can't ask him something else cause he knows that I know everything there is about the library and because he tends to focus completely (or maybe I do??) on the question..... I don't want to make it too obvious that i "ran into him" by accident.....

How about this:

You go up to him and apologize for brushing him off.
You: hey, sorry about yesturday. I was not in a very good mood, but that didn't give me the right to kind of be mean.
Him: that's ok
You: you wouldn't think that a library would be so loud, but it was yesturday and let me tell you, it's very hard to get a paper done when people everywhere are being loud.
him: yeah it was kinda loud.... (what ever he would say)

then you can maybe ask him to help you with a question you have
You: so can you help me with something? Asking you is much easier than those other stuffy librarians.
Him: sure....

then ask him you questions. when he is doen helping you ar during the process ask him how things are going. If you start out with small talk then eventually you guys will be able to talk about other things. don't forget to smile and be nice.

Well, i hope that helped or maybe gave you soem ideas.

I've been trying to call my Granny at my aunt's house becouse she is living with my aunt and my Granny is 92 years old today and I want to wish her a happy birthday but every time I call she either hangs up on me or somebody else answers the phone and tells me that granny is not there when I know it's a lie why would they do this to me I mean I know they are pissed off at me but why won't they let me talk to my own granny I mean my granny isn't going to live much longer and I know that becouse she's 92 years old and I just want to wish her a happy birthay and they won't even let me do that how can I tell my granny happy birthday instead of calling my Aunts house?

Why don't you try having your mom or another relative call, that is if they aren't pissed off at them? Then hopefully when they answer and give the phone to your granny, you can talk to her. That's the easiest way in my opinion. Or maybe if you know a neighbor that lives there you can call them up and ask them to let your granny know what's going on.

I can tell you are really trying hard to talk to your granny and it's very sweet. I hope that this advice works and that you get to wish her a Happy Birthday!

Whats the best smelling axe body wash

I agree with BahaiMa22. My dad likes the red one teh best.

I have to write an essay to get into a program at my school. I am normally good at writing, but I have no idea how to start this essay. I am supposed to write about my experience with physical therapy and how i got interested in the field..any ideas? i'm just looking for an opening statement

I wrrote an essay about my internship as a student athletic trainer and i believe it's what got me into college.

My approach when I'm writing essays that's essentailly competing with lots of people is to be different. For example, i made my essay into a story. So i would tell a part of a story on a typical day of me helping my athletes with their injuries and such and then talk about how helping them made me realize my love for medicine.

I would suggest something like that. So for your opening statement, you can start with a dialogue. This depends on how strict the essay is supposed to be. But, a dialogue is a great way to show expression through voice. Then your dialogue can lead to you writing the essay.

I would also suggest writing about what gets you excited in the field. If you have passion for what you are writing about, it shows and people liek reading it. They get impressed.

I really hoped that helped and I hope you get into that program, best of luck!

Hi everybody,

I am writing my resume and I don't have much work experience except as a receptionist and as a cashier. I listed all my responsibilities in those jobs which makes it obvious for possible employers which skills I have so I am not listing those again. However, I have an appointment with AppleOne to help me find a job and they told me to list 5 skills ... I put stuff like:

Hard-worker
Bilingual
Puntual
Positive
Responsible
Goal-orinted
Works well with others
Types 68 wpm

Of course, thos eare all ture about me... but I can only list 5 because they clutter my resume. And I;m not really satisfied with them. I am not posting stuff like "cashier" or "knows how to use Microsoft Word and Excel" because I already listed those as responsibilities for my previous jobs.

Anyways, do you have ideas of what are some great general skills I can include or the skills employers look for the most or which one of those skills I listed should I include?

First I want to say that when they ask for skills they don't mean five words. Make phrases of those skills so they have more meaning. Otherwise they are just a boring list of cliches.

I'm going to list a couple websites that might be able to help.

This one talks about overused phrases in a resume and then shows how you can make them sound better. http://www.careerbuilder.com/Article/CB-772-Cover-Letters-and-Resumes-10-Most-Overused-R%C3%A9sum%C3%A9-Phrases/

This website has skill semployers look for the most. So it might give you ideas on what words you can write.
http://www.quintcareers.com/job_skills_values.html

Another wedsite on words you shouldn't use.
http://www.glassdoor.com/blog/ten-deadliest-resume-phrases/

This one is interesting because it talks about six skills to leave off of the resume. One of them is not to include the word per minute typing power. So i guess you can take that off of your resume.
http://www.thejobbored.com/dont-include-these-skills-on-your-resume_623/

Well, I really hope that helps you narrow down your list and make it sound better.

Best of luck!

I use to love the Disney Channel and could sit for hours watching it. On the weekends I would be glued to that television! When I was little I watched things like The Care Bears, My Little Pony, and The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh but later I watched The Proud Family, That's So Raven, and Even Stevens (Shia LaBeouf is awesome). Now, I can't stand to watch that stuff! Especially with the Jonas brothers and Hannah Montana / Miley Cyrus. I can't even STAND to watch The Suite Life of Zack & Cody!

I'm 14 though and, like I'm saying, I use to LOVE Disney. Why don't I any more? My friends like it...

Maybe beacuase the quality of the shows aren't to your standards anymore. Or quite possible the things you loved to see in the shows before aren't in the new ones.

I think that shows from when i was little were the best, to me they were better and taught me a lot. Now, not so much.

Also you are growing up. Try to watch other shows that aren't aimed for preteens or kids. It might appeal to you more.

hey guys i need a complete makeover nd want to improve my beauty skills.
i do want to improve my self confidence nd my beauty ,style nd looks as well.
please suggest some greats sites that can help me and do give to your own tips love u all .thanks in advance :)

ps: i want to goddess of style :D

This site has tons of tips:

http://free-beauty-tips.glam.com/index.html

Also try http://www.buzzle.com/articles/beauty-tips-for-girls.html

I did this by searching on google

you can look through the other sites on that page.

I was reading around the Advicenators site and someone mentioned implantation bleeding. The question was something about a girl asking if she was pregnant but was having some spotting like her period. Well, I don't mean to sound stupid but what is implantation bleeding?

Thanks...

try this

basically "Implantation bleeding, also called implantation spotting, does not look like a regular menstrual period. Implantation bleeding is scanty and usually pink" http://www.justmommies.com/articles/implantation-bleeding.shtml

I think ive actually had pin worms for years, I know that's very weird.
I don't really gain much weight, do you think that could be the source?
Is there any ways to get rid of it without going to the doctor, cause I KNOW for sure I have it, I really don't want to go to the doctor :/

You can try calling your doctor up at his office and asking.

Explain your situation and symptoms and ask if it is serious. The doctor or nurse will tell you if it is serious and if you need to come in. I think thats the easiest way to find out for sure and to not worry.

Best of luck!

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