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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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my friend smoked weed about a week ago and now she has to get a routine blood test *basic blood work to check levels and stuff* next week and we were wondering if it will show up and if it does will they say it to her parents when they answer the phone for the results. (link)
Depends on the age of your friend. If your friend goes to the doctor alone and pays for it, no problem. However, if her mom has insurance that is paying for the visit, they may well list the test results.

They won't find the weed unless they check for it.
They won't check for it unless it is needed. If it is needed then her mom will find out in all likelihood. Kinds under 18 don't have a LOT of rights
if the parents are footing the bill.


Hi i was wondering,for anal sex,do you put the lubricant on her or on the guy?
Thanks (link)
Couldn't hurt to do both.


Im 15, and used to have ovaric cysts all the time, untill two ruptured and i was put on birth control. I havent really been sexually active, ive only been fingered three times, and that was like a year ago almost.. well anyways, I always get horrible pressure and stabbing pains on both my right and left side of my stomach area... it hurts so bad it makes me feel naseuous. and back when i got fingered, it hurt so incredibly bad... I've been recently for the past 3-4 months always exhausted with low fatigue, and i cant always think straight. I always have headaches, or diariah ish sometimes a lil constipation..

I was wondering if anyone would know if they ever once had one of the three cancers, or if they just know a lot of information, that if its highly possibly that all these symptoms i have could be cancer? thankss (link)
Don't get yourself all worked up thinking you might have cancer. Call and go visit your doctor.

I would imagine with you're being on the pill and just your medical history, that you probably see a doctor at least yearly. So they keep an eye on you.
But if you are having symptoms that scare you, call
and talk to the nurse. See if she thinks the doctor should see you. :)


my friend was over my house she acts like a stud we switched cell phones for 2 day during them 2 day i got over 15 messages from her girlfriend saying stuff i dont even want to mention should i ask her is she gay or play like i dont know


sinceraly "cluless" (link)
Shes your friend so go ahead and ask. Tell her about the calls you got. Might just be another friend goofing around. But, if she is maybe she could use someone to talk to about it. :)


okay... so im 13 and my boyfriend just turned 14 he want to do setain thing that im afraid if i do i will get pregnant but the thing is i havent started my period so do think i will get pregant if i havent started my period. (link)
You are to young to be messing around. Think that 14 year old can support you and a kid?

Yes you can get pregnant. You could start any day. Since you have no idea of when your cycle is you can indeed get pregnant and never have a period.


what is alcohol poisoning and how can you get it? (link)
Drinking to much. Here is a site.

http://www.collegedrinkingprevention.gov/OtherAlcoholInformation/factsAboutAlcoholPoisoning.aspx


ok so i just started sleeping with this guy. But there is one problem! He is never able to cum during after ANYTHING! i've tried a couple things to make him cum, but they just don't work. Is there something wrong with what i may or may not be doing or is it all him? (link)
INFORMATION ONLY...NO NEED TO RATE

Just so you don't think Thew and ygsgirl are nuts...
I banned vailgirl80 for giving misinformation. She was 13 and evidently had no business answering your question.


I was wondering...When I was using my limewire I noticed that you can download games like Sudoku. I know ipods can play games but I was wondering if you could download the game on limewire and put it on your ipod instead. If so where do I put it? Do I drag it to itunes? (link)
I have tried downloading a couple of games. Every time they set off my antivirus as being infected.
Don't know how that would affect your ipod but be careful.

Sorry I didn't answer your question (no nothing about ipods :() Just thought I should warn you of
the games on limewire.


I have a boyfriend but i like someone else that i know likes me but i have already brook up with my boyfriend before and he was really hurt but i dont want to hurt him again so what should i do? (link)
There really isn't a nice way to break up. His feelings will be hurt no matter what.

If you are unhappy though, he will be to if you continue. Best to get it done and over with. Just tell him you feel he's more like a friend than a boyfriend. :)


http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm

i live in SC
can you please explain what my coloum means
like what does law invalidated mean
and it says female 14
so anyone 14 yrs of age can have sex llegaly in sc?
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I guess that's what it means. 14f can consent to sex.
Why guys have to be 16 is weird.

Invalidated means gay relationships must not have an age listed or whatever was listed is no longer valid.

If you are 14 it may be legal, but parents could probably get around that if they really wanted to.


I'm 13, and my boyfriend [who I have been dating for a year and a half] is 17. He will be 18 in April. I'll be turning 14 in October. I live in Louisiana and he lives in Texas. We met off the internet and have met personally twice. Both of my parents have approved and met with him, unfortunately, I live with my grandparents and they do NOT approve.

Some people tell me that the legal dating age difference cannot be higher than 2 years apart. Other people tell me it's 5 years. What is the actual difference?

Also, his mom or dad does not approve at all of us having any kind of romantic relationship [or any kind of relationship at all] together. Do they legally have the rights to keep him from talking/seeing me while he's still 17? (link)
Here is the age of consent laws chart.

http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm


whenever i reach my arms up, my bra usually rides up. why does it do that? is it because my bra is too big or too small? i am a 32A. (link)
Here is a site that will help you get the perfect fit.

http://www.barenecessities.com/fit_sizing.asp


What are some websites that tell you what bra size you are from your measurments. thanks! (link)
http://www.barenecessities.com/fit_sizing.asp


how do you get a forum? (link)
Add this number to russianspys link given below.
2921


What are the Warning signs of Miscarriage:
If you experience any or all of these symptoms, it is important to contact your doctor or a medical facility to evaluate if you could be having a miscarriage:

Mild to severe back pain (often worse than normal menstrual cramps)
Weight loss
White-pink mucus
True contractions (very painful happening every 5-20 minutes)
Brown or bright red bleeding with or without cramps (20-30% of all pregnancies can experience some bleeding in early pregnancy, with about 50% of those resulting in normal pregnancies)
Tissue with clot like material passing from the vagina
Sudden decrease in signs of pregnancy

^^all that stuff has happened to me.....


Recurrent Miscarriage (RM): Defined as 3 or more consecutive first trimester miscarriages. This can affect 1% of couples trying to conceive.

Blighted Ovum: Also called an anembryonic pregnancy. A fertilized egg implants into the uterine wall, but fetal development never begins. Often there is a gestational sac with or without a yolk sac, but there is an absence of fetal growth.

^^and that sounds exactly like what i saw. Can someone please help me. What should i do now? (link)
Call your doctor and/or go to the emergency room. Don't sit at home and fret about it.

Symptoms of Miscarriage

spotting
passing blood clots or tissue
decreased breast tenderness
no fetal movement
no heart sounds
cramping
vaginal bleeding



ok sorry this is long..but about a week ago my boyfriend and i broke up. (he broke up with me) we had been together a year and a half..and it was very random and he didn't seem too sure when we did it.so to clear things up, a few days later i called him asking to talk. he agreed adn sidd he wanted to talk. And so when we were talking, he kept turning and kissing me and pulling me closer to him and i was liek why are you torturing me with this? and he told m ehe didn't want to be single and he didnt want to see other girls but he thinks that since its my senior year and his freshman year in colleg e(he goes to a community college here) ..that he thinks that i should be single .I kept telling him that i don't think i should be single and that i just want to be with him..after that talk I told him i wnated to finish talking becuase i had had to go. So now it seems he is playirng games with my head and i'm not sure if he really wants to break up..or if he is considreing getting back together..what do you think? (link)
For one thing you need to tell him you have a brain and will let him know if and when you think you need to be single. You don;t need him or anyone else making that decision for you.

Next time you talk to him make it some place public. Like a restaurant. Then he can't distract you with kissing etc.

Talk about your relationship seriously. Make sure he doesn't give you goofy answers. Tell him this is going to be a serious talk. Hopefully he isn't playing games. If he is though, better to find out now.

Good luck. :)


Hi.

Can someone get me the CURRENT laws for marrage in the US?

I tryed something similer to usmarragelaws.com and after calling a few states to verify the law, they were all wronge.

A website that includes numbers to call and verify would be wonderful, but just anything to show some lead way would work.

Thank you for your time.


[I am interested in looking at all 50 states] (link)
See if this is what you had in mind. You didn't really say what info you were wanting. :)

http://www.1800bride2b.com/articles/marriagelaws_chart.htm


I'm getting a blood test next week and I smoked weed and cigs this weekend, they're testing for hypothyroidism, so since theyre testing for my thyroid they wont be looking for drugs and stuff will they? will my parents find out? (link)
I have hypothyroid and get my blood tested all the time. They don't check for anything but thyroid hormone (TSH). :)


15/m/uk
right i get parranoid pretty easily but anyway this is sort of hard to explain but some one please give me the odds. basically yesterday me and my girl freind were goin to have sex we put the condom on and so on about 5 mins later i cheked to see if the condom was on it wasnt so i stopped immediatly NO CHANCES right anyway today my girl freind starts sayin she isnt feeling very well and her stomach hurts. so when i got home i had a search on the internet and things like that they said that precum can mae a girl pregnant. can some one please just give me a hand and tell me the odds if shes pregnan or not and what do i do if she is becuase i cannot let my parents or hers find out because my mum and dad would disown me. by the way im not a man whore or anything like that i had sex with my girl freind becuase we have had an amazing relationship and i love her . if any one could give me a hand on this i would be truly grateful (link)
If you ejaculated there is a chance. How much of one I don't know, but there is a chance. If you didn't, then its possible, but chances are probably smaller.

I do know for a fact that she would not have symptoms of pregnancy the day after. So her stomach ache is just a stomach ache and means nothing.

I wouldn't panic yet. If she doesn't have a period
in the next month then get a home test. Better yet head on to planned parenthood and get a test and some birth control pills. You should still use a condom but it would help out the stress of possible pregnancy. :)


Hi! I am 18 years old and still a virgin. My boyfriend and I tried out anal sex for the first time and the condom broke without us realizing it and he ejaculated. I'm not sure if there was sperm around the anus b/c it was bloody. As soon as we realized what had happend I wiped what I could away from front to back and with a different towel each time. Then I grabbed some hand sanitizer and wiped it from front to back as well. I had read online that hand sanitizer will kill sperm instantly. Then I ran down to the bathroom and peed and squeezed as much sperm out of me as I could. My period last month started on the 27th which means I am now on the 26th day of my cycle. What do you think my risk of pregnancy is? (link)
You cannot get pregnant from having anal sex. Sperm must enter the vagina for you to get pregnant. If you wiped it off you should be fine.

I am concerned about the blood though. Use a LOT of lube. You shouldn't be bleeding from anal sex.




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