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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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alrite. so me & my ex boyfriend broke up in the begining of the summer becasse he was doing stuff he was not supposed to be doing. no it wasn't cheating. & i still care about him but i know for a fact he don't care about me anymore. i already talk to him. didn't help. what do i do?
Not much you can do. You can't make him like you anymore than you can force a horse to drink water.
The only option is to get over him.
I just got my hair colored today at a salon. i was wondering what shampoo and conditioner are best for that..thanks.
You can buy Pantene shampoo and conditioner. Their product is some good stuff!
You can buy it in the white bottles for damaged/color treated hair, or they now have shampoo and conditioner for each color of hair. Color treated reds, blondes, etc.
Salon stuff is good. My aunt works in one and sometimes gives me different kinds for Christmas. It is just way pricey. $15 for a bottle of shampoo? Not for me, I can't afford that habit.
Tomorrow is the first day back at school. I compared my new schedule with my friends' schedules, and so far none of them have the same classes as me. What do I do if no one is in any of my classes? I get really nervous and paranoid when I don't know anyone.
Don't get nervous. Just go to class. Study like you should.
Eventually, you will come to know some of the people in your classes and feel comfortable talking to them.
Hey, golden opportunity to make new friends! You can never have too many good pals.
I am completely in love with my boyfriend. We have been together for 10 months but I've had a thing for him way long before we went out...and its kind of complicating but... before we went out and i liked him, he would start liking me and lead me on to think we will be in a relationship but then he would leave me in the dust for another girl..the same girl...twice.. but then they didnt work out but they still liked eachother and it came the day that he had to choose between us and he chose me. Well 10 months later theres this other girl and he talks to her alot and tells her alot about this novel he is writing and tells her how far he is in it but he doesnt tell me these things.....when i was the one who encouraged him to write it and gave him lots of ideas. I would think he would show me things first... so I'm getting really jealous and scared that he will start liking this girl and leave me in the dust like he did before...even though he said he wouldnt and he only loves me...but I don't know if I should believe him. I don't know what to do.
Hate to say it, but sounds like he's using you for his back-up girl. Sounds like you are being used as "Good ol' Reliable."
He dumped you twice for the same girl. He came back to you by ultimatum. Now there's this other...
Seems as tho he's trying to get up close and personal with this chick. Why else would he be telling her ANYTHING about his book, let alone things he won't even share with you? Sounds to me like he is using his novel as a way to pick up chicks.
Should you break up with him or not? Well, do you trust him? Sounds to me like you don't (I sure wouldn't), so I'm going from that.
Number one, a relationship HAS to have TRUST and HONESTY. Don't subject yourself to one that is missing either of these important factors. To do so is only setting yourself up for disaster and heartache.
It sounds like you may be in for that old song and dance again- "Here's my new girl, see ya next time!"
This guy has already ripped your heart out twice before. Is he really worth that? Is he worth all of your pain and misery? Is he worth using you as a rug to wipe his precious little feet on? Is he worth you losing your heart?
The answer is a big N-O, NO.
You are worth more than that. You are worth not playing second fiddle.
You are worth not having your heart ripped out for the third time, having it thrown to the floor, stomped on, and ground in the dirt.
You are worth picking up your pieces and finding a guy that doesn't treat you like your just there until some one "better" waves her ass in his direction. YOU are better than that.
You are worth being treated so much better.
You don't know what to do? Do what YOU are worth doing, because I promise that HE is not worth it.
WASSUP??!?!?
Ok, this is a stupid question since I already know the answer...at least I think I do...I guess I'm just paranoid...w/e thats what this site is for
does diet cola....if drank in high quantities...I drink like 12 cans a day....
well if you do that...will it make you gain weight???
No soda is good for you in large daily quantities. Does it make you gain weight? Why wouldn't it do the same as any other unhealthy beverage? Lite beer still causes beer bellies.
Known Coca-cola facts:
Pour a can a day down your kitchen sink drain to help prevent build up.
Pour a can of flat Coke into your white laundry loads. Brightens your whites!
Who knows about other brands, but I know that any drink made for human consumption that can also act in the same fashion as poisonous household chemicals isn't something I want to put into my body. Especially 12 cans a day...
P.S. Don't switch to Mountain Dew- it contains vegetable oil. :O
Read the ingredients, I wouldn't lie to you.
Do you think it would be a beter choice for me to go onto the pill before I lose my viginity or should I just use a condom? and what are the chances of me getting pregnant if I just use a condom? thanks.
No birth control is 100% effective.
I suggest you get on the pill to protect yourself against pregnancy, and you use the condom to protect yourself against sexually transmitted diseases.
Condoms are the ONLY STD protection out there. It's not saying your boyfriend has a disease, but if he's had sex before, how do you know he doesn't for sure? That, and it is a good habit to start from the beginning.
A child is forever, AIDS is a life sentence.
me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now and are competely in love. last year around this time he got into a lot of trouble involving drugs and was arrested. ovbiously my mom was not too happy about me being around him but she gave him another chance to make everything okay. everything was going well until a month ago when he relapsed. his mom called mine and told her what happened, so i was forbidden to talk to him or see him. ovbiously, i didnt listen and was continuing to communicate with him. last week when i stayed home sick, he stopped by and brought me soup and all that kind of stuff, and everything was the best its ever been with me and him. we're closer now than ever before. the other day my mom caught me talking to him and everything blew up. we got in a huge fight about how i lied to her and she couldnt trust me anymore and even called him to tell him never to call me and respect her wishes. i was so upset last night that i couldnt sleep and snuck out and ran 2 miles to his house at 1 o'clock in the morning (his mom loves me so it wasnt really an issue) i just needed to see/talk to him and his mom. my problem is this: i cannot stop talking to him. I am so in love and not talking to him would kill me. I dont want to disrespect my mom anymore though either... my boyfriend is going to rehab and a lot of other programs and really for the first time getting his act together. i dont know how to explain to my mom that i need him in my life, hes my best friend and the only person who completely understands who i really am. we need eachother. but my mom just says im too young, and need to let it go. she doesnt get that i wont, and if i want it bad enough, ill just wait for it. should i talk to her more and is there anything i can tell her to make her understand..... ahhhhh
Ok, so I see both points of view. This may be long. Sorry about that.
I will start with your mom.
#1, She wants to make sure he doesn't get you involved in drugs along with him. It doesn't mean that you are doing drugs, she just wants to protect you from them. (Way to go, Mom!)
#2 This is his second chance. She let it go the first time he got help for drugs. And he's doing it again?
#3 She wants to protect you from being with a guy who may choose drugs over her daughter. (Way to go, Mom!)
#4 His mom called to tell her about his relapse. Hmmm... Big, Giant, Huge, Monstrous bells, whistles, and red flags are going off in her head. This relationship is now a very, big worry and concern. Is her daughter safe with this boy? (Again, we have another way to go, Mom!)
#5 If anything above is something she SHOULD be worried about, (I hope it isn't) She will no doubt stop at nothing to see that you don't get hurt. (Hooray for Mom again! See how much she loves you, child? You are a very lucky girl.)
Now for you.
It's nice that he cares so much about you, tending to you while you are sick and all. You are a lucky girl to have a guy like that. He is your best friend, so that means he actually listens to you. Another bonus.
But you also have to realize, he also has a problem. He has a big monkey on his back that he needs to send packing. You need to give him space so he has a chance to focus on doing that, or what good is he to himself, let alone you? But he needs to do this FOR himself, and no other, or he will likely relapse again.
If in the event he ever chooses drugs over you, or if in the event he ever tries to get you to join in, you better cash out on this relationship. You don't want to get hurt and you don't want him to take you down with him.
You say you need him. No you don't. You can live without him. A need is something you can't live without.
I'm not saying to break up. Nor am I saying to stay together. I'm saying you need to sit back and make the wisest decision. You don't want to get caught in his downward spiral, if that's what is happening or ever does happen.
I say go ahead and talk to your mom. It is a mighty fine idea. But don't talk AT her about how she needs to understand your love for this guy (believe me, she realizes this already). Talk TO her about the situation at hand. Make sure you listen to her and what she says if you want her to give you the same respect. Don't turn it into an argument, debate, or shouting match. That will get you no where.
I guarantee the best advice you will get will come from your mother, weather you see it now or 10 years in the future.
Don't disrespect her wishes. To do that is to disrespect one of the very few people in your life who loves you always, forever, no matter what.
I'm so confused!
All my friends are splitting up & talking behind eachothers backs!! & like the second one of them will go away, they'll be like.. "ehmagawd, i hate her." or something like that. I'm afraid their doing this to me too. I don't know who to trust anymore. & their all doing it too! Their all sooo fake. & I can't be friends with anyone else, I go to a very small school. & I'm not hanging out with losers or the sluts. SO. what do i do!?
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but sounds like the real losers in your school are the friends you are hanging out with. If that isn't what you want to be, then find new friends. Small school or no small school.
The "losers" and "sluts" are only that because you and your back stabbing pals labeled them that way. They are people with feelings like you. I have no doubt they have more feelings than your cold hearted friends. Believe me, I was one of your "losers" in my day.
A friend is not someone who causes you mistrust. Why would you want to have a friend like that? You deserve better than that crap.
For you to continue playing buddies to these so-called friends, makes you just as fake as they are. I'm sorry but it's the sad truth.
Maybe you should try to hang out with one of the "losers." You will most likely have a better chance of finding a real friend in that group.
It makes no since for you to continue with the group you are hanging out with. There is more to life than silly "I hate you today, and her tomorrow" games.
i really really want to learn to play piano, but i don't think my parents would let me take lessons. i've been looking at piano software for computers instead. I'm having trouble knowing whats good and whats not. what is a good program to use (and how much is it)? Are there any programs that come with the keyboard or do i need to buy it seperately? if so, what do i get and how much?
thanks a ton!
I don't know what software to get.
Do you have a music store somewhere in your vicinity? (the kind that sells instruments, not cd's)
If you have access to one of those stores, they will know how to help you find exactly what you are looking for. They will be able to give you any information you may need, and answer any questions you have.
They will most likely have the software you desire on hand in the store.
Whats an RA?
I guess it depends on what you are referring to.
Rat's Anatomy?
well i dont know how to pray. and i'd like to start. and i was thinking of making a prayer box. like a box and i write down my prayer and set it in the box. at the end of the month i can open the box and see if i've made progress or god has helped anyone included in my prayer. do you think this is an ok thing to do? and eventully i can learn to pray properly but i think i'd really like to do this. so my question is- is this ok to do? its not the same as praying, but is it still considerd a prayer? because when u pray supposibly god can hear you. can god see or hear your thoughts if their on paper in a prayer box? plez let me know before i waste my time on this box. thank you in advance.
Praying isn't hard to do. What you write down and put into the box are prayers, believe it or not. So by having a prayer box, you are praying properly (but there really is nothing that says there is a proper or improper way of praying). You are praying in a nice, organized fashion as well.
It is a good thing, I think. Having written down your prayers and being able to check your progress sounds like a really good idea. A very thoughtful, healthy way to pray, I think.
As for wondering if God hears you, you can bet your butt he does. You don't need to speak out loud in prayer to be heard by God, He can hear your thoughts. You have to think about what you are going to say on paper, right? He'll hear you just as clearly as someone who speaks their prayers.
It is not a waste of time, by the way. It's inspiring, really. I've never heard of it before, and I never would have thought up something like that.
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one day i'd love to have an advice column in a teen magizine. does anybody know what classes i can take in high school. and what classes to take in college.what requirements are their are for this job. i dont know what type of degree i need or anything. plez help. thanks
Taking debate classes would probably be nice. There you learn to discuss and debate from both sides of a situation, weather you agree with the point of view or not. The advice you give is what's best for the questioner, not for you.
It would help you greatly in learning to discuss any problem without bias. That's how you really should be when giving advice.
(Except I don't really follow that at all times. I am biased against teen sex because a baby isn't like a fun, cute little puppy. It is a harsh reality. And I am biased towards what is best for children who aren't old enough to make their own life decisions.)
As for having a degree to give advice? Do you really need one? If you give good advice, you should print it and submit it to your magazine of choice.
Requirements? You give good advice that people want to read, like Dear Abby or Ann Landers.
DearAdvicenters,
Christmas means a lot to me and I have always tried to make it a happy day for my family. I decorate the house, put up a tree, my husband cooks for a big family get-together, and of course the exchanging of presents. This tradition has become problematic.
There is definitely a sense of entitlement on the part of the boys. (One is 16 and the other 20). They are “entitled” to a big and expensive Christmas. They want to know how much things cost; they complain that they didn’t get as much as the year before; they complain one got more than the other or the presents they did get don’t really qualify to be “special” Christmas gifts. They complain that my husband and I spend more on each other than on them. And to top it off, although I say it doesn’t have to be expensive and can even be handmade, they don’t always even contribute gifts to each other or to my husband and I themselves.
It is extremely difficult however to “tone down” Christmas. When December approaches, I get sentimental and I strive to have that Norman Rockwell Christmas where every face around the tree is happy and glowing. I can’t stand the feeling of guilt that I will have if I haven’t at least tried to give them a wonderful Christmas. Perhaps this stems from the fact that my mother was depressed when I was growing up, but she always seemed to rally around the holidays and, as a result, I got the attention that I sometimes lacked during the year.
II would be really sad to give up the family gift-opening on Christmas morning. The older son has received the benefit of these plentiful Christmases until he is 21 so I feel that the younger one deserves the same until he is 21. At the same time, I know in my heart that this just isn’t working and has to be changed. Please help! I've got a Christmas Conundrum.
Hey, you don't owe them anything. They aren't entitled to anything. You and your husband deserve to buy each other special, expensive gifts. You've been married a long time and raised children for years.
This is something they need to learn, or they will walk into the real world expecting everything to be given to them on a silver platter.
If I were in your position, this is what I would do come next Christmas:
"My dearest children, I am so happy to inform you that this year holds a special treat for you.
This year, I am giving you the most special gift of all, the gift of giving. You will give the presents under the tree to the needy children at the Salvation Army this year.
You will see how much a simple gift can warm the heart of someone who receives nothing on a daily and yearly basis, unlike yourselves.
You will receive the gift of learning what Christmas is about, that it is better to give than receive. For, if there were no giving, there would be no Christmas to celebrate.
You will receive the gift of learning that Christmas is not about you, what you want, or what you are getting. It does not revolve around you. It is about taking the time to care for your fellow man.
You will learn that it will be this way next year and the year after until you have learned these values."
Now this would be a true Rockwellian Christmas. "Give me, give me, me, me, I want this, I want that, this isn't what I wanted, more, more" is not even a Christmas.
I may sound cruel and heartless to you. I may be cruel and heartless, I don't know. I don't think I am.
I do know it would be cruel and heartless to allow them to continue thinking that life is about others giving them what they want when they want it and that's it. They don't want to go out into the cruel and heartless world thinking they are owed or entitled anything, they just don't realize it yet. They need a good, stern lesson in life.
Okay so I'm dating this guy and we have been for about 4 months. This New Years Eve we couldnt hangout beacuse we we're both busy, I had some girls over and he went to one of the guys houses... we're all friends. So anyway , we havnt kissed (its not that we're prude or anything.. like we just wanted it to be speacil) so anyway, this guy's house that he went to has an older sister who is a junior and she had all of her friends over on NYE too ! Now my boyfriend lets call him edward, he thinks thinks his friends sister is amazing liek he thinks shes funny and cool and it used to make me jealous but i got over it... so to the point, SHE KISSED HIM . On the cheek but still it makes me mad and i dont know what to do. I explained to edward how upset I was and he just thought i was over-exaterating. Is this silly? I just dont know what to do. I want him to know im mad but not break up with him, i really like him. BTW, we're 14
Okay. So this girl may be amazing. She may be funny and she may be cool. Who does he call girlfriend? That would be you, my dear.
You aren't over being jealous, hate to inform you. If you were, you wouldn't be so upset right now.
Look at it this way, it wasn't even a kiss. A kiss is on the lips. Obviously, a kiss is something special to him, he wants to have that something special with you.
It was a peck on the cheek. I highly doubt he asked for it. SHE kissed HIS cheek, not vise versa.
Yah, I agree with him on the fact you are over reacting a tad bit. Is it silly? Nah. We all do it.
A show of jealousy is flattering, but don't push it too far, because being overly jealous is insulting.
It basically comes down to trust. Do you trust him? If you do, get over it. Don't break up with him, and don't freak out and push him to break up with you.
If you trust him, drop it. It isn't worth fighting over.
If you don't trust him, it isn't a healthy relationship and not worth keeping.
hi.. does anyone know of a quote that's something like "i dont care when people talk about me cause i know that if they care enough i'm already better then them anyway" ifk its something like that.. i looked all over google and i can't find it =[ any help is great!! thankss ♥ i rate*
Hmmm... I have searched to no avail, like you. My mom loves quotes to no end, and she hasn't even heard of it.
Can you tell me where you heard it? Was it a person, or a movie, or a song, or a book? Something? If I had a little more info, I could probably help you. Otherwise, you will have to hope for someone to know exactly what you are talking about.
I never heard it before, but it's awful catchy.
i work at a local takeaway store. Its in a type of shopping complex and there's this guy there I really like who cleans around the area I work. He comes in a few times a day and buys food from us and stuff. He doesn't really talk much but he's really nice. What are some convisation starters while i'm at work. Just something small, just so he notices me. And i dont want it sounding too suss while all the other girls are there and if they happen to overhear me. I kinda need something by tomorrow..
thanks so much.
I used to work in a convenience store. The best way to get anyone to notice you is to always ask them "How are you this morning" or whatever time of day it is. Always tell them to have a good day. Always be as friendly as possible.
If you show that you notice them coming and going all the time, and care enough to ask about their day and wish them a better one, they will notice you and appreciate that.
It's a subtle way of getting yourself noticed, and I promise it works.
It is common to have bad dreams in early pregnancy? I think I might be pregnant. My first pregnancy, I had to have a DNC at 10 weeks, I had bad dreams. Is that common? If so, how long does it last? I hate to be scared! hahaha
Not a horror movie fan!
Definitely ask your OB. You don't specify if your dreams are baby related, or just bad dreams in general. This is something your OB can give you the best answers and advice on.
I know fairly early in my pregnancy, I had a dream that my baby's head was popping out of my belly button.
I know that I, who am a horror movie fan, have woke in the night from dreams that scared the holy crap out of me. I was too scared to get up and go to the bathroom for an hour one time.
There was no set week, month, or trimester that these occurred. Just randomly at random times.
can someone tell me EXACTLY what an emo is?
thank you
My opinion of emo is that it is just like the gothic phase I went through in my teen years. There may be some differences, but I doubt they are big.
Now, where the name emo/emotional comes from, I am no more aware of than where gothic was thought up.
I don't think someone who is emo should be labeled as 'depressed' or 'freak.' There are those types of people in every walk of life, no matter how they look, dress, or act.
I think someone who is into the emo thing is someone who wants to be a unique individual instead of just a face blurred in a crowd of the majority.
Majority = look alikes, act alikes, walk alikes, talk alikes, and basically think alikes. Pretty much sums up to be a large crowd of people who wish to be just like someone else, and not so much like themselves.
I don't know about emo kids, but I know my personal obsession with daring to be different in my teen years has molded me into the woman I am today. I have my own opinions- you can take them or leave them. I don't care if people like me or not- their loss if they don't. I like being me, because there is no one else I would rather be.
This may or may not be the answer you are seeking. I may have told you my opinion to the point of being way more than you asked for. But to me, this is what emo is.
I'm fourteen years old, but I'm small and I have a very young looking face. When people guess my age they think I'm twelve. I have brown hair, blue eyes, and very pale skin. If anyone had any suggestions on how to look a little bit older, they would be greatly appreciated =] I was also thinking that highlights might help, and if anyone knows about if that would help or not, I would love it. Thanks!
Yah, I was that way too.
The only thing I can think of to help you look older is to act older. Silly, I know. But, hey, maturity goes a long ways in this life. I promise.
Don't cake on the make up. It will only give you bad skin. I dyed my hair every color under the sun, and none made me look older. Just gives you damaged hair.
Take advantage of your youthful look, you will be thankful for it in years to come.
I just had fun with it. I thought it was hilarious to see the look on people's faces when they couldn't guess my age(especially the age guessers at fairs- won many fabulous prizes). That look of total shock and disbelief is priceless. :D
I was 18 when an old fellow drinking coffee in the gas station swore I was no more than 14. Proving him wrong with a flash of ID was fun.
But then again, I just like to be hornery like that.
Ok so I'm gonna keep this short and simple.. I'm in love with my bestfriend and everytime I see her I fall more and more in love with her. She don't like me back. I'm a very emotional person so it hurts that I can't be with her like that. I have stopped talking to her to get over her. But she and I dont wanna lose our friendship. How do I get over her and be her friend?
You are in quite a special little predicament here. I can't keep it short and simple as you have. :)
I wonder, have you told her how you feel to come to the conclusion that she doesn't like you in that way? I am going to assume so...
I always tell people to get over someone is to steer clear of them until they get their emotions under control.
However, your situation is different because she is your best friend. I worry that if you stop talking to her, she may think you are mad at her and don't want to be friends anymore. I suggest that if you want to stay away from her until you find yourself, you need to tell her why (if you haven't already). Otherwise, it could be damaging to your friendship.
You are best friends, and best friends should be able to be honest and upfront with each other.
She doesn't want to hurt you, but she has the right to what is in her own best interest. As do you.
I will tell you from personal experience (and I know I'm not the only one who could), that it is a big no-no to date your best friend. If you break up, the friendship is never the same, if it even exists anymore. The old saying is that the quickest way to loose a friend is to date them.
The only way I know you can get over this and be her friend, is to accept reality. Respect her feelings and what she wants in life. Be in love with this wonderful friendship you are so privileged to have, not the friend. Don't let your emotions come between said friendship- it is never worth it.
I promise this won't be an easy task for you. This is one of the many hard things you have to in life that really sucks. Doing what is for the best is never easy. It will take time, patience, and pain as well, but it won't take your heart.