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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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i got a yeast infection i had it for about 3 weeks....my doctor gave me one pill called diflucan...i took it and its been 3 days and its been getting worse...i went bqack today nd told her this and she said it will take at least a week for it to go away is this true??

I would trust your doctor. You've had an infection for 3 weeks. It will take some time to get over.

can bulimia cause cancer? ive been throwing up for the last 7 years of my life it usually is only for weeks or months at a time and i NEVER LOSE WIEGHT!

Not that I am aware of.

However, it still does cause death. And those who have anorexia or bulimia for years tend to have serious heart complications. Meaning possible heart failure due to all the strain on that very important muscle.

Seek help right away. Even if it is only for a few weeks or months at a time, it is still a severe eating disorder.

There are much healthier ways of losing weight. Try those, because throwing up what you eat and jeapordizing yourself in order to be thin isn't worth giving your life up.

i can not seem to reach a peak during sex any tips i can use to fix this?

This question is hard to answer...

Are you male or female?

what are some ways to get rid of gas??

Try Gas-X.

13/f
am i able to buy a drug test?

It probably depends on what state you are in.
Call your pharmacy, they know.

What do you do when you want to comite sucicide? I seriously am considering how, but i don't know.

You need to get help.

Stop and consider this: All of your pain and sorrow will be pushed onto your loved ones, but they will feel it tenfold.

There is nothing in this world worth giving your life for.

Call the number Thew gave you right away.

i have thick hair and i don't want it this thick. is there any way to thin my hair out or make it look/feel thin? thanks.

Yah, my hair is really thick. When I put it in a pony tail, I can only wrap the tie around it 3 times (with some struggle) before the tie breaks. :D

Want it thinned some? Go to a salon. Tell them you want your hair thinned. They can do it, and it feels so much better. If you are anything like me, your head will feel 10 pounds lighter.

Getting shorter layers helps a lot too if you have long hair.

i have dirty hair and medium blue eyes and medium skin color. does anyone have good make-up ideas that will mostly bring out my eyes? also #2 i've heard about that proactiv cover-up make-up stuff (i dont know exactly what its called) but does anyone know where to buy it or do you have to call to order it?

I'm not sure about the Proactiv. Sorry about that.

To bring out your eyes, try some eye shadow close to the same color of your eyes. Use black eyeliner and black mascara.

My eyes are pale green, my skin is light. I use pale green eye shadow, and I only use the eye liner and mascara on the top lid to bring out my eyes. When I use it on the top and bottom, the make up over powers my eyes instead of bringing them out.

You may be able to get away with top and bottom lids, considering your skin tone is darker than mine. Try both ways and see what you think works best for you.

Hi. I've never used anything like this before, but I don't know who else to turn to for help.
Here's my issue: On New Year's Eve, I went to a party at which I felt out of place and I began drinking to relax a little. The problem is I drank way too much, blacked out, and apparently kissed an old friend of mine who I rarely see (not my boyfriend...). I've obviously learned one valuable lesson from this mess: I shouldn't be drinking so much, and I'm actually not planning on drinking at all anymore. After over a week of not speaking to me, my boyfriend has agreed to let me go over to his house tonight so I can talk to him about what happened. He knows that I didn't mean to do what I did, that I was drunk, that it didn't mean anything. However, he is still having major problems with seeing me (for good reason, of course). I'm wondering if you can offer me any advice on what to do to regain his trust, and what else I can say to him to let him know that this was an alcohol problem, not an indication that I don't care about him or that I wanted to kiss anyone else.

There is no way to just magically regain some one's trust. It will take him a long time before he can feel like he trusts you again, no matter what you do. Oh, it will get better- it will just take time.

Mistrust is something he feels, and only he can change how he feels. You can change some one's feelings as easily as you can change the past.

I would say that your best bet would be to drop it. He can't get over it if you keep reminding him about it. Only talk about it if he brings it up.

There is no sense in telling him over and over how it was a mistake and you were drunk. He knows that already. He can't move forward from it if you keep rehashing the situation.

If he brings it up, talk about your feelings and listen to his. Tell him how you feel about what happened- don't bring up the excuses of why it happened.

Try to talk about positive things. Look to the future, because the future is all that you can look to in order to mend all wounds.

Will replacing soda and only drinking water as a drink really make you lose weight? If so, why?

First off, water is the best drink for you. Your body is made up mostly of water.

When you start to drink a lot of water, you will in turn start to loose water weight. I'm not sure why that, is exactly, I assume it is because it flushes impurities out of your body.

The carbonation in soda is carbon dioxide. Funny, that our bodies expel carbon dioxide as a waste when we exhale, yet we ingest this same waste though our favorite beverages.

Fact: Mountain Dew contains vegetable oil.

Fact: You can use Coca-Cola to keep your kitchen drains clean, and your white laundry bright. Sounds kinda like some household chemicals I have around here...

Nothing to do with the question. Just trying to make you think about how bad soda is for your body.

Amazing how we love to drink something that can be so bad for us.

So I go to a hookah bar everyfriday night, but last friday i went and like two days later i got this like, kind of like a cold sore on the side of my mouth like a little off the corner of my mouth. And I was wondering like what is it? Does it have to do with the hookah? like could somebody have had an std and givin it to me by the hookah head?

Yes, a cold sore is a form of herpes. Not the kind you are thinking of, however. A cold sore isn't the kind that you have forever. Once it heals it should be gone permanently.

It is highly possible that it came from the hookah lead if somebody had one.

Below I am putting a link to dentist.net. Scroll down the page to see what different over the counter cold sore medications there are. Then go to a pharmacy like at Wal mart or Walgreen's and get one of these treatments you think will be best for you. Even a local hometown pharmacy may have one of these items.

http://www.dentist.net/cold-sores.asp

If the medicine doesn't help it clear up, call your doctor for further treatment.

I am currently taking Abilify 25mg which is a very high dose , and I would like to know about the "risks that I am taking"... Should I check my blood sugar ...? And If so , how often..?
And Is there a vital risk that I might get diabetes 2....?
I would prefer if someone looked into the medication and if you are a health worker or not I appreciate your response.
Thanks for the replys in advance, apology my poor English I am foreign.

I am not a medical professional. So I am sorry for that.

I will tell you that if you ever have questions regarding the medications you take, always call your pharmacist.

Your pharmacist knows everything about what your medication can do to for you, or to you. That is their job to know. Even doctors don't know that much about the medicine they prescribe.

You have some really good questions, so I suggest for the best advice, get professional advice. Call your pharmacy right away.

In a recent Cadillac commercial, the background song has the lyrics "I'm a punkrocker yes I am." I tried googling it, and after a long time of searching, came up with two bands. I'm looking for the original song in the commercial, not a technoy redone one.

Thanks!

According to Yahoo answers it's by the Teddybears, featuring Iggy Pop (who is one of the original punk rockers).

Here is the link

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20061121175428AAej0FO

What's the difference between a hotel, a motel, and an inn?

So far as I'm aware, it is like this:

A hotel is pricey. A motel moderately priced. An Inn is the same as a motel basically.

Hotel = Marriott, Hilton

Motel = Motel 6, Super 8

Inn? = Holiday Inn

I was just wondering about 2 things. First off, I have noticed alot of people look in your eyes when they talk to you & I tend to look at someones mouth more when we are talking. What is the difference & what does it mean? Also, how can you "read" someones eyes? All I see is a glassy eyeball. How can you tell how they are feeling by looking into their eyes? Thanks!

It's called "eye contact." It is just a good communication tool, basically. It means they are talking directly to you, and you are listening to what they are saying. But that doesn't mean you have to stare into some one's eyes during a conversation.

As for looking at their mouth as they speak to you, I don't think there is a huge difference. You are looking them in the face, right? Glance up to their eyes now and again. Even a glance is establishing eye contact.

People who tend to look at the floor or their feet while talking to you generally tend to be shy or unsure of themselves. I am a floor looker, myself, until I get to know the person.

As for reading some one's eyes, it's mostly in the expressions they make.

However, I do believe in that old saying that the eyes are the windows to the soul. You can see happiness, sadness, anger, and outright insanity in some one's "glassy eyeball." It isn't something I can tell you how to see, you just have to learn it for yourself.

of course this is about a boy. hes totally adorable and right now i like him so so much. but heres the thing. when im hanging out with him or talking to him online or on the fone, i totally dont like him. but wen we hold hands or watevr, or wen im just thinking about him, i totally like him!! hello whats the deal? why cant i like him all the time?

Well, sounds as though you like the way he looks, but not the words that come out of his mouth.

You say you totally like him. No. You don't.

The deal is, you should let this poor guy get on with his life with someone who appreciates him for who he is, and not what he is.

Why can't you like him?

You can, if you stop being superficial.

I like this guy but I have heard that he may be gay is there any way of telling ?
please give me some answers

For starters, you shouldn't always believe what you hear.

If you like him, and you want to go out with him, ask him out. What's the worst he can say?

But if he says no, that doesn't mean he's gay. He could be saying no for other reasons.

If he is gay, he most likely isn't going to come right out and tell you if you aren't someone close to him.

There is no way of telling if a person is gay unless they say so or have it tattooed to their forehead. That's because gay people are normal people just like you.

can i dye my blond hair with green koolaid and if so how do i do it?

Beware: When putting a color on top of blond hair, you run the risk of staining your hair permanently. Even if it isn't supposed to be permanent.

how do you ask a boy out in a note please tell me

Don't elaborate. Don't promote yourself.

Say something simple like, "I like your style. You're one cool cucumber. Want to go out sometime?"

my 15 month old son keeps bittind me and wont stop. ive tried rubbing his gums and give him meds to help with the teeth pain. but everytime i smack him when he bits and say no he just laughs at me and does it again. how can i get him to stop?

Bite him back. Not hard, just enough to show him how it feels. He'll stop.

My mom did that to me and I'm not deranged or damaged mentally from it.

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