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drunken mistake = furious boyfriend
Hi. I've never used anything like this before, but I don't know who else to turn to for help.
Here's my issue: On New Year's Eve, I went to a party at which I felt out of place and I began drinking to relax a little. The problem is I drank way too much, blacked out, and apparently kissed an old friend of mine who I rarely see (not my boyfriend...). I've obviously learned one valuable lesson from this mess: I shouldn't be drinking so much, and I'm actually not planning on drinking at all anymore. After over a week of not speaking to me, my boyfriend has agreed to let me go over to his house tonight so I can talk to him about what happened. He knows that I didn't mean to do what I did, that I was drunk, that it didn't mean anything. However, he is still having major problems with seeing me (for good reason, of course). I'm wondering if you can offer me any advice on what to do to regain his trust, and what else I can say to him to let him know that this was an alcohol problem, not an indication that I don't care about him or that I wanted to kiss anyone else.
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There is no way to just magically regain some one's trust. It will take him a long time before he can feel like he trusts you again, no matter what you do. Oh, it will get better- it will just take time.
Mistrust is something he feels, and only he can change how he feels. You can change some one's feelings as easily as you can change the past.
I would say that your best bet would be to drop it. He can't get over it if you keep reminding him about it. Only talk about it if he brings it up.
There is no sense in telling him over and over how it was a mistake and you were drunk. He knows that already. He can't move forward from it if you keep rehashing the situation.
If he brings it up, talk about your feelings and listen to his. Tell him how you feel about what happened- don't bring up the excuses of why it happened.
Try to talk about positive things. Look to the future, because the future is all that you can look to in order to mend all wounds.
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