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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i feel like i'm wearing a mask . everyone sees me as this preppy girl wearing hollister & crap . but i'm really not like that at all. i listen to scremo and rock music , and i wan't to dye my hair blonde & black . i want to come out and say it . it's really hard saying this but i really wanna , and i wan't to start being more like myself . but im not sure how . i want to express how i feel . is there anyone that understands where and what im coming from and can help me? i probobly sound like some overly obsessed person whos all into lables . but i just need to start telling the truth.

If you wanna dye your hair, and dress in the styles you really like & listen to the music you want proudly, then do so! Who cares what people think about you? If they don't like you, then fuck them -- you don't need them anyways.

Trade in your Hollister for Hot Topic & live it up. Live your life with no regrets. Do what you like & have no worries about it.

my sister has strep and i made some popcorn in a bowl earlier & after i ate it, she said she threw up in the bowl i used the night before. my mom bleached it and cleaned it and everything, soooo should i be ok?

Yeah you should be fine. Just use a different bowl next time. That's disgusting.

do you have to handwash when you wash cotton bras? or any type of bras? because i heard that if it's washed with the washing machine, it will ruin the shape and form of the cup and it will get damaged...

I don't really go by the instructions. I wash mine in the washer, and they turn out fine.

i need a different s/n can anyone help mee.
i want something kinda gothic punk and uniquly retarded. ~randomgrl777~ anything like me but the hard part is i want it kinda goth/punk but cant be extremely. just type anything and everything please. i just messed up my life probly.

to the end x.
true punk rock.
kill the scene.
punk glamour.

15/f
I'm sort of dating this guy. Well we went out once to the movies. He wanted us to go to the movies last summer but i told him i just wanted to be firends then he asked me again and sence i have nothing better to do i decided to go see if things would work out. At the movies they never turned the lights off so i think thats why he didn't make a move but i've never been kissed and im kinda scared and kinda using him because i dont really like him and just wanna get my first kiss and hook up over with. It's really embarassing when people talk about guys and how far they have gone and i havn't done anything. So should i go to the movies with him again or should i say no because i don't like him...i also feel bad cuz i regeted him alot before...i just wanna be kissed ugh sorry this was so long. Thank in advance for the advice

If you don't like him, don't go out on a date with him, and don't kiss him. You'll give him the impression you like him when you really don't.

If you wanna see if things would work out however, then go. But don't do anything you're going to regret.

Besides, your first kiss should be with someone you really like. It'll mean a lot more & it'll be really special.

are fig newtons good for you?

No.

When did you make your acount??

When I first joined Advicenators, it was around February of 2006. So, I've been on here about a year & some months.

Uh, but I've been on here for a while with various accounts from when I was younger, but recently, February of 06.

hey. well, i'm 14/f. and this year i'm going to be going into high school. and i'm really scared about being around all of the older kids and stuff, but thats not what i'm most scared about. i'm scared about sex. this probably sounds really stupid to some ppl, but i don't care. i really want to wait until marraige, but there is so much pressure in high school, i don't want to do something i know i don't want to do. i mean, i don't even know if i'll have a boyfriend or anything, but if i do, i want him to be someone who won't pressure me. how can i have good judgement. please help. and any other good advice about high school will be much appreactiated. thanks a bunch!!!!

Firs off - high school will be fine. The older kids might mess around with you a bit, but all in all, there should be no worries.

You'll end up getting a boyfriend in high school, trust me. There are A LOT more guys now so your options are much more open & you have variety. If you find a guy you like, befriend him.

When you're dating someone, and they pressure you into doing something you're against, dump them. If they ask & you say no, but they keep asking, dump them. That person will more than likely make you feel uncomfortable & you know you shouldn't be around them.

Don't be scared of highschool though. It's a lot of fun & it's a good life experience. You shouldn't really fear it. You'll be fine. Good luck!

I want to have a lot of friends. I have virtually none now. The only reason is because when i started dating my boyfriend i kind of stopped hanging out with friends. With the new school year approaching in August i want to become popular friends with all. Any tips or any usefull pointers??

what do u look for in a friend

In a friend, you look for honesty, loyalty, and understanding. Find someone who gets you, find someone who isn't there when it's convenient for them. They need to be there all the time.

It's easy to make friends, just join a club or a sport. And when you get a boyfriend, don't ditch your friends for him because that's how you lose them.

what does
'frost' your hair mean?

They're blonde highlights.

A long time ago, I took these diet pills. I can't remember the name of them, but, they really helped supress my appetite. Then, they took the main ingredient out of all the pills known as "hoodia." Can anyone recommend some good diet pills that makes you not hungry? Thanks.

The person below me had a good idea. Ice chips are really good to eat. I'm not sure if your fridge has an ice maker, but if so, get crushed ice & eat it. My mom has been doing that for the past 2 years, and she's lost a lot of weight from it.

I'm not sure how old you are, but I know that if you're under 21, I do NOT recommend diet pills because they're simply dangerous & aren't made for people under 21.

does anyone know cheap new era hats like this?

http://www.urbanvenom.com/catalog/images/NEwEra-Bravesblk.jpg

it doesnt have to be like that but do you know any store in the MALL sells cheap era hats for girls? thank you =]

I know of a LOT of places that sell New Era hats.

I'm pretty sure that Benzer's is only a store in my city, but if not, it'd be a good place to check. I know that places like Lids, & Champs would sell them. Sometimes Finish Line sells them as well. If the store isn't selling them cheap, then you may need to order your hat online.

i cannot find it anywhere, i tried taking of the lyrics and googleing it and nothing came up, its like a remix and sounds like a patrick stump with like a rap sound to t and he goes upwith his tone of voice and its like " hear" and it goes higher, eek i hope you can help=/

I know a few songs that Patrick Stump has done with other bands, and songs that he has remixed for other bands.

He's done something on these two songs:
Clothes Off - Gym Class Heroes.
Cupid's Chokehol - Gym Class Heroes.

And he's remixed this one:
Queen Of Apology - The Sounds.

Unfortunately, those are all I know, but it's probably the first two, so your best bet would be checking those out. Good luck.

Ok well im going to be a sophomore this august and my dad says that if i get straight a's he will buy me a car. If i get a b he wont. But the problem is ive never gotten straight a's im always getting c's. I mean i guess i never really try that hard. but how can i get good grades like that?

In order to get A's, you need to work REALLY hard. You cannot slack off at all. If you do, goodbye car.

In order to get these grades, do your homework, and do all of it. If you don't understand something, call a friend from that class & ask for help. If they don't understand it either, go into school the next morning & see the teacher before school even starts [when everyone is walking around with friends, or going to their lockers] & ask him/her to clarify so that you can do it a free block.

Ask questions. If you don't ask questions when you're confused, then nothing is going to change & your teacher isn't going to know if you get it or not. Chances are, they'll think you will & continue teaching. Don't be scared to ask! Lots of kids make that mistake & end up failing because of it. If you ask questions however, you may end up helping someone else as well. They might have that same question but be too scared to ask. So always ask questions. When you don't get something, maybe stay after school for extra help. Don't be ashamed to get help. There is nothing wrong with it.

Study, study, study. Always bring your notes home. Review your homework, and review past tests & quizzes. When you do that, you'll learn. If you don't know something, make it into a flashcard & study it until you do know it. Have your parents or a sibling help you study it so you can get better. You should probably study a few hours a week so that you get these things to be second nature for you.

When you get home from school, go straight to a quiet place with your books. Don't put any music on. Don't put the tv on. Don't bring a food or a drink around yourself, and don't go to your computer. Things like this will horribly distract you & it'll cause you to lose focus. When you're in a quiet place, you'll tend to have more focus & you'll do better. Once you're done with your homework & studying, do what you would normally do. Shower, eat, use the computr, things like that. Make sure your schoolwork always comes first. Don't do your homework at night when you're tired & drained. Always do it when you get home & make sure you finish it. If you can do that, you will succeed.

Good luck! I hope you get that car.

In your opinion what would you think about someone that you write messages to they read them and don't reply. Like this girl from school, she's real popular. At the end of the school year she told me that she wanted to hang out with me sometime because she discovered we had a lot in common. I sent her a message over myspace with my number and she never calls me and when i ask for her number she doesn't reply. Actually she never replies. She knows that I've beat the $#!% out of people that we talking behind my back. So do you think she had no intention of hanging out with me she was just afraid of me? The thing that doesn't make sense is she told me that "we should hang out".

She's probably scared of you & decided to be nice to you so you wouldn't bash her face in. Honestly, she might've meant it, but she probably didn't so just let it go.

Not to make you think or anything, but chances are she could've been saying things about you & only wanted to be nice so that you wouldn't find out & pwn her everywhere. Just a thought.

Ok... So this nasty girl that goes to my high school told me to charge her ipod [that she stole from someone] well she does a lot of drugs and forgot to ask for it back before the end of the school year. So i sold it.. considering she originally stole [like the piece of shit she is]i didn't think it really mattered. But next year she's going to the same h.s what should i say to her if she remembers that i still have it?

If she remembers, then just tell her that you sold it.

If she gets upset, remind her that you're not the one who stole it.

I want to be the type of girl that shops for designer stuff like Coach, Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Channel, etc. I want to be able to do stuff like that but my parents aren't rich and im definitely not a spoiled brat. How can i do that... like i'm only 15 ill be 16 in feb. what kind of jobs can i get to be able to afford that?

I agree with the previous answer. Designer things are nice, but they're not worth the money you pay. For about 15 bucks, you can have a big purse that's just as cute. Honestly, you're only paying for the name of the designer, not the bag.

The only things you can do right now are babysitting. Babysit some kids, & save your money. So until you're 16, babysit. Then when you turn 16 get a real job & get money that way.

Well I'd have to say my current reputation at school isn't the one i want. I'm dating a guy that everyone likes. People think I'm a bitch but i'm not i'm just sarcastic. I want to be one of them people that is friends with everyone. Pretty and is on school teams. You know that type. How can i turn into someone like that. I shop at hollister so its not like im emo or anything. How can i make more friends and become like that.

From what you've said, I'd honestly say that your personality doesn't sound horrible. You're not a bitch, and you're obviously pretty.

Honestly, just join school teams. If people dislike you for stupid reasons, then why would you wanna be friends with them anyways. They're being rude to you off of a judgement, so what good are they to your life?

alright, so me and my boyfriend have talked about making out, and today we came really close to it, and then it didn't happen.. we talked tonight, and he said that he just doesn't have enough confidence, to make the move.
he said i should.
but i don't know if i should or not.
should i make the move, or let him?

If your boyfriend prefers that you make the first move, then do it. When you kiss him, just start to make out.

Alright, so I have brown eyes. Which I hate. I really want bright, yes BRIGHT blue eyes. I've already had an exam done, so now I just need to pick a pair of contact's to order. I've tried on the Fresh Look colored contacts [which are pretty popular], but the blue one makes my eyes really dark, almost navy, blue. So Does anyone know of a brand of colored contacts that can actually change brown eyes Bright blue?! Please help...I'm desperate!

Thanks in advance!

Unfortunately, there isn't. I have dark brown eyes with black in them, so light colored contacts won't show on my eyes.

Honestly, navy blue is your best bet to blue eyes. I'd love light blue eyes too, but the contacts just won't show because the darkness of my eyes will overpower them.

Maybe try a hazelish color, or green or honey. Those would probably look best on you.

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