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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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14/f
This girl in my class, is writing a book. Well.. let me show how I found out first.. lol. ok, one of my best friends, Hillary, sits next to this girl morgan in math. So, hillary saw these two pieces of paper, & they had my name & a bunch of other peoples names [everyone in my homeroom to be exact] & then next to our names was a different name, so my friend hillary asked her what that was.. & shes like.."Oh, i'm writing a story" & then later on that day, at lunch we were all talking at lunch.. & hillarys like.."Yeah, morgans making a story about all of us in homeroom" & then i was like.."thats kinda creepy? haha" so then I decided to ask her about it.. so I went over to her.. & I was like.."So, I hear your writing a story..whats it about..?" & she goes.."Its a murder story." & I was like...."ok?" & then I asked more about it.. & shes like "Yeah, its kinda like saw.. where everyone kills eachother, & each person, I'm gonna have them get killed differently" & then I was likee. all freaked out .. like wouldnt you think thats tottaly weird if someone is writing about how you die??
Well, it gets better. haha..now, she decided me hillary & this other girl.. are all gonna get tortured in the school basement, & then we die.
WOULD YOU BE CONCERNED?
& if soo.. what would you do?
Should I tell my mom? Shes good friends with the assitant principal.
btw. shes like a total goth.
& i don't have anything against her or anything for her to even do that to me! i actually am friends with this one boy whos super cool,but hes like emo. so its not like i'm ever even mean to her...
ANSWER EDIT:
In response to your feedback, I am curious as to why you asked this question in the first place, as it seems your mind is already set. Maybe I can see it from this girl's point of view because I was quite similar to her when I was in school.
It's called creativity. There is nothing creepy about having an imagination and using it.
As for the names- to write a fiction story about real people, you need to change their names in order to make them fictional characters. The list was to keep track of that.
You and your friend aren't getting tortured to death in the school basement, but your spin-off characters are. You need to learn to separate that in your head. They are fictional characters in a fictional story, but their personalities are based off of yours.
Being goth has nothing to do with it other than maybe you think more depth into it because she is so different from you? Not saying you are mean to her or against her, but she is a girl who is into something you don't fully understand, and I wonder if maybe you are afraid of her deep down? It makes me wonder because of your huge concern for this story...
Let it go. Give the girl her creative freedom.
Maybe you will someday, in your adult life, see a book on the best seller's list and you will say "Hey! I went to school with that girl!"
i REALLY need advice and I don't know who to talk to about it. please givelike really good answers. Okay this might be long but please. So, I need advice on a couple things, one of which is like at school, people call me a lezbo- WHICH I AM TOTALLY NOT. Like people (even popular but not at much) say it sometimes to my face, behind my back, or like say something kinda like "So make out with any hot girls lately" or something like "Yeah, you would look really good with all your hair chopped off- like a dyke", pretty much something like that in a really wise ass way. mostly guys say it to my face and girls just talk shit about it. And I know from reading this you probably think I'm a total nerd, but I'm actually average. People are usually nice to my face but still, it really bugs me thats everyone once in a while people I don't even know, or do, talk about me and say stuff that they don't even know is true. I really would like for someone to help me GET OVER THIS and GET THIS TO STOP. It started last year so I really really want this to stop. I mean I would rather be known as a slut then a lezbo (no offense to anyone). I know I shouldn't care, but it's not something you can really not care about. I don't know maybe its because I never had a boyfriend (not like i don't want one, but that anyone who ever asks me out I don't want to go out with because either i don't know them, or they are one of my best friends) PLEASE! I really need advice, I get so upset about it. One more is, I really need help making new friends. Like I have about only three friends that I actually hang out with outside of school and act like myself around and then the other people are either from other towns or we only hang out once. I have like friends in school, but not the kind that you want to talk to on the computer or call or hang out with. I know its kind of pathetic, but I really do need to make new friends. I'm kid of shy at school and I know if I just acted like how I do around my normal friends (funny and like loud and around guys a total flirt) that I most likely could be in with the "popular kids". ha. yeah so all I want to do is have those rumors stop, and make a WHOLE new bunch of friends. One of my best friends,Casey, ALWAYS hangs out with me and kinda sorta follows me. Im pretty much her only friend because she NEVER talks in school. I really need to kinda of pull away from here because I'm spending all my time with her and not focusing on meeting new people&makin new friends. she isnt really into making new friends and kind of wants me and expects me to spend all my time with her. i need to make new friends and fast -serouisly.
Please help.!!!!
Hmmm... I don't know that making new friends would solve your problem. Not with the kids calling you names.
And big word of advice on that is- if the friends you have are good ones, don't ditch them for some one new. Don't leave them in the dust. However, don't let your friends dictate who you spend time with or how many friends you have.
Okay, so you got some issues with my favorite and yours- the "belittlers." I was in your shoes once. I'm telling you this with solemn promise, they call you "lezbo" because they know it gets under your skin. THEY KNOW IT BOTHERS YOU!
I know it's hard to do, but you need to make a statement that they don't bother you. Don't let them know that it really does.
Next time a guy comes up to you, and says "make out with any hot girls lately" ask him if he is jealous because he is obviously incapable of such things with his mentality. Then walk away with your head high. Don't do it all the time, just the once would suffice.
Or you could try the "laugh at their joke" approach. When they say something to you, laugh like it's as funny as they think and say "that's a good one. I'll have to remember that."
Or, just give them a bored look, and tell them you've already heard that one, come up with something original, and get back to you.
It takes time, but it works.
As for being in the popular crowd, it isn't what it's cracked up to be. I was a nobody for years. I was in your shoes with the name calling. Then, one day out of the blue, everyone started to think I was pretty cool and wanted to be my friend. Believe it or not- I told them to piss off. Why would I want to be friends with people who treated me like crap all those years? Why would I want to associate myself with that sort of people?
I mean, in reality, these people are big and bad now, but they only have 4 years out of their ENTIRE LIVES to be that way. Then they have to join the real world, which can be cold and cruel at times, and it doesn't care what your popularity status was in high school.
Keep your chin up. Life gets better.
this may be long but i need your helpp please!!
my friend of one year, we became really close and we became a group with 3 other girls. so anyway, this year shes starting to be really rude to me, ignoring me, and treating me different than my other friends. i have talked to her about it at least 7 times and she does not listen. if i had the choice, i wouldnt be friends with her.. but we're in a group. AND shes in my lunch, and my only friend there and she totally ignores me. what can i do, or what can i do to not make me so upset?!!
You should be upset. If you weren't, I'd be worried...
It seems as tho she has made the choice for the both of you. Seems she is no longer your friend. It shows in her actions.
Friends don't ignore each other, act rude to each other, or treat each other in any other unfriendly fashion. A friend would have listened to you the first time, not blow you off after 7 times. Friends listen to each other and care about one another's feelings.
In reality, you have no friends at lunch, because she ignores you the whole time. Try to meet someone else at lunch to sit with and talk to. You may be lucky and find a new, REAL friend.
You do have a choice. Don't be friends with her. Why bother with that crap? So what, you are in a "group"- are their not 3 other girls within your click that you are friends with? There is no law stating you have to be friends with ALL of the group.
Trying to make her your friend again is not worth it. She is not worth your time. You deserve better than having some one for a so-called friend who acts like a bitch to you.
15/f
well...its kind of weird....i think im jealous over my boyfriend....i mean my family is not a poor family but i have a single dad and a brother....for a single parent raising 2 childeren ...we are that bad finacialy..but when i want something , for exsample, i wanted a digital camera for christmas , so i was trying to work and save up for the one i wanted , well all he said to his mom is he thinks he wants a digital camera , and she got it for him that same day, he dont even know how to work the camera and he never uses it!! it makes me sooo mad , and there was a game i though was really fun (saying that i dont play video games much) so i was saving up to try and buy it , well he goes out and buys it the next day ....it makes me so jealous! and i wish i didnt have this jealousy!, and i have to much pride to ask my boyfriend to buy me stuff because i was always taught to take care of myself .... if i count on a guy and he leaves...what do i have left? here is my question...is there any way to get over my jealousy?
It would probably help if you realized one thing- you are responsible, he is not.
You are learning the responsibility of working for the things you want in life. That is a very good thing! Pat on the back from afar to you!
He isn't learning such things. He is learning ask and ye shall receive. Stick out your hand and your momma will put what you want in it, with no contribution on your part. The guy is spoiled, let's face the facts. That is his parent's downfall, not his.
Don't be jealous of him. He doesn't know better, because like most kids in this country, that is how he is taught. He is raised in life wanting for nothing, and, really, where do you think that will get him later in life? He will have a tougher go because he hasn't been taught to be self reliant.
One day, he may be jealous of you, because you will be independent and able to carry your own. Try to turn that jealousy into a little self pride. You are so young to act so responsible for yourself. That makes YOU one of the lucky ones, believe it or don't.
okay so i like this guy and im pretty sure he likes me too, but the problem is my friend used to like him. she is now involved with another guy and she told me before that she didn't like him anymore. would it be wrong if i started to go out with him?
She said she doesn't like him anymore and she has another guy anyhow, so go for it. There is nothing wrong with that.
About 3 years ago, I fell in love with a band named Queen (as my username states :P). And well...what can I say? It was love at first listen. I FELL IN LOVE with Queen. I started collecting all of their CD's, books, vinyls, shirts, etc. I've had a crazy obsession with them for the past 3 years. My whole ROOM is Queen...I know the group members, and seen the two that are still alive in concert. Queen is all I ever talk and think about...they're like my second group of parents. I don't know whether its sick or not...but I've noticed it's been getting on people's nerves. Teachers have made comments telling me to lay off Queen. SO many friends have been annnoyed by my CONSTANT talk of Queen (I've also lost many friends because of it). Thing is -- I don't know what to do....This is clearly messing my relationships up. But I
Ha, Ha! younggrandma's first album ever bought was Queen... I think it's at my house, now... :D She used to listen to them when I was a kid, and I have just always loved them.
Anyhow, on to the subject. Don't annoy your friends with it. A lot of kids this day and age don't have a taste for Queen. Be a die-hard fan, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but don't push it on to those around you.
Join a Queen fan club, where others want to hear what you have to say about the band and the music.
Hey, at least you find comfort in something that isn't a health hazard! And I'm glad that though the original band is gone, they are not forgotten!
QUEEN ROCKS! :D
there are soo many sex questions on here, but i kind of need some like...different p.o.v's on this:
i've been sexually active since like june 06, but my cherry didn't pop [i think]. i tried doing it myself, because i didn't want anyone else to. in december, i had sex with my bf, but this time, it kinda hurt. then again in december, [new years] i did again...and i hurt a little more. then a few days ago, it hurt the worst, and i bled...did he pop my cherry? i mean, i'm close to my period, but i don't have it yet...so idk what's going on. i also quit using birth control abruptly....help?
The phrase "popping the cherry" is a slang for breaking the hymen. I promise you, your "cherry was popped" the very first time you had sexual intercourse.
It isn't this big gushing of blood or painful thing as it sounds to be, as a general rule.
how long do you think it would take for a 13 year old to get 320 dollers? i want to buy new clothes,but i dont want my mom to have to pay,she said i could do things around the house, and pay me 10 dollers a week alowence and 20 dollers for takeing wall paper off the walls. soo,how long do you think it would take?
Good for you for learning responsibility at such a young age! A pat on the back to you from afar!
Well, if you save all of your money you earn and not spend it, it is a simple math equation.
$320 divided by $10 per week = 32 weeks. Since you will get paid $20 for the wall paper job, that makes 2 less weeks you have to save your allowance, making it 30 weeks. 30 weeks divided by 4 weeks per month = 7.5 months.
So your answer is 7 and 1/2 months of saving.
If you can do more odd jobs in the future, every $10 you earn doing them is one less week you have to save. However, for every $10 you spend you have to save for one more week.
Hope that was educational and not confusing. :)
I use the computer too much.If I use the computer for longer than five minutes I will have to make my family punish me.Only we can't think of a punishment.
Well, they say a good punishment is to take away that which is enjoyed the most.
If you want to be sure to stay off the computer for long periods of time, your punishment would be best if it was involving no computer, say for a few days. After time, you will learn to not to surpass your time limit.
See, you enjoy it so much, you take it to extremes. If you can take it away from yourself for days at a whack, you will come to see how much you really don't need it, therefore making it easier to limit yourself in the future.
Try using a timer so you don't loose track of how long you have been on the computer. When the timer buzzes, shut it down and spend quality time with your family, rather than a machine.
Though, limiting your time to only 5 minutes is, in my opinion, a bit excessive. It takes me longer than that to check my email. 30 minutes isn't a bad time limit. But you state your question as though this is something you really want to do for yourself, which is a good way to practice self discipline.
Heya!
first off, i'm 16/f.
Well, my best friend (23/m) is really sad as his girlfriend broke up with him (almost a year ago, he has trouble getting over things...but that's ok) and well I just wanna show him that I care for him heaps.
I wanted to write him an email but I wanna be a bit creative with it. Like, once he sent one to me using nothing more than quotes out of songs. I wanna do something like that, but obviously not that.
Has anyone got any thoughts on what I could do?
thanks heaps!
Do something that would cheer him up.
If you want to send him an email, go online and look up funny photos. When you find some that are really choice, you can right click, copy, and paste to your email message.
You can narrow your search by typing in something specific, such as:
funny photos animals
Or, you can come up with your own idea of things he might find comical. Poems, jokes, etc. The options are endless.
I'm sure he already knows how much you care, but giving him a bit of laughter while he is feeling so down would definitely make his day!
Ok tonight my friend Betty was having dinner with her mom. Her mom made fish. The piece was a little too big for Betty. When she finished the rest of the meal Betty said to her mom; I cannot eat the rest. This piece of fish was too big; The mother said; it isnt too big but eat what you want; But Betty was a little upset that her mother did not think the piece of fish is too big. Betty said to her friends is my mom saying because she doesnt think the fish is too big she wants me to finish the piece of fish she gave me. Her friends told her no Betty your mother is not saying to eat all the fish - she even told you to eat what you want. MY QUESTION: Do you agree with Bettys friends
Yes. Of course I agree with Betty's friends. They are completely right. If Betty's mom wanted her to eat all of the fish, I'm quite sure she would be quick to say so.
Betty should listen to her friends. What are friends for, right?
Betty worries way too much about things she shouldn't even stress over.
So I want to do American Idol next season (Season 7) and I'm not sure what song I want to do, but I want to start practice now. I'm thinking about At Last by Etta James but then I heard Simon's favorite song is Unchained Melody (the song in the movie Ghost). Any suggestions?
I wouldn't do his favorite song, my personal self. Simply because he is so critical, if you mess up on his favorite song, he is going to be extra hard on you. Keep that in mind...
Be sure to pick a song that is excellent when sang a Capella (without musical accompaniment). Some songs sound so good when you sing along with music, but are very hard to sing without the tunes to keep your beat.
I'm not sure of your singing style, or your musical interest, but Amazing Grace and the Star Spangled Banner sound great a Capella, but you need to practice a lot and get it down to a T. Singing a Capella is the hardest way to sing!
ok so my friend and i have been friends since 3rd grade but now i have another friend and she always talks bad about her i told her i didnt care if she talked about her or if she likes her just dont talk meanly about her in front of me and she screams i can do what i want and you cant stop me so i say you cant stop me from not being your friend so were not friends anymore but she always really mean to me when im with my friends for no reason she also says i started all the fights when i didnt for example if i see a punch buggy i punch her now i did accidently do it a little hard but i said sorry and then she says youre not supposed to punch people for punch buggys your supposed to lightly tap them so thay cant really feel it and i told her my science fair idea and she said she was doing that (and she had already said hers and it was different) and i told her i would not be her friend if she did and so we got into a fight and stuff like that and she said i started them ALL!
Sounds like this chick has some serious jealousy issues, and she sounds as though she is acting quite childish.
Real friends respect each other. She does not respect your feelings by screaming at you and treating you like an a**hole, and she does not respect your wishes by being mean to you about your friend. She even stole your idea for a science project! That is more than enough evidence to say she does not respect you.
You have every right to make new friends, as does she.
My advice is for you to cash in your chips on that friendship. You don't deserve to put up with a bunch of crap from someone you call "friend." She is not your friend anymore. She proved that with her behavior.
It's just terribly sad she is so willing to flush such a long term friendship down the toilet, but she has made that choice.
Now you need to make the choice of weather you want to continue to put up with her abuse, or walk away from it and move on. Believe me, I know that walking away is hard to do, and heart breaking. But she is already breaking your heart, isn't she?
As for the punch buggy (slug bug in my day), it is called punch for a reason. Otherwise it would be called tap buggy...
I have noticed a lot of people ask questions about weight loss. Would anyone like to form a support group/challenge? I am captain of one right now and as a group we lost 103 lbs. last week. It would be strictly based on healthy diet and exercise. So let me know!
I would be game for it, after I have my baby, of course. My email is on my column.
Earlier today my dad was yelling at me because I forgot to mention my depression at the Doctor's when I was going there mainly for my ear infection. He yelled at me, and I started to cry because I felt horrible, and then he yelled at me saying that I am just a big cry baby and I am always crying over something stupid! But I can't help it.. I seriously can't. If someone yells at me, or scolds me I cry because I feel so guilty. But I don't want to easily cry anymore! I wanna feel stronger than that (since I am NOW 16!! And I should be acting like an adult) As my dad thinks, I really need to grow up!
But it's hard to not cry since I am sensitive and very emotional, and I am really depressed, so when I am in a sad or depressed state I cry over anything. Maybe it's normal for a teenager girl like me, but some times I feel I am just 'over-doing' it. How can I fix this?
Thanks.
If you are depressed, make another appointment to get back to your doctor (The sooner, the better). Let the receptionist know that you want to talk to the doctor about depression so she allots you plenty of time to talk about it.
Be sure you tell them everything about how you are feeling, and tell them everything that's going on in your life. Leave nothing out.
If your doctor feels you are suffering from depression, they will be able to help.
That will most likely cure your "sensitivity" issues.
P.S. Your dad may be yelling at you about it because he doesn't like to see you sad and crying, and he knows he can't make you feel better.
hey if a guy that you like is talking to you, and he's brought up the subject of his basement and how its awesome and stuff, is that subtley hinting that he might want to hang out? or just saying it just to say it? haha because im not sure if hes hinting to me that he might want to hang out, or hes just telling me about his house for no reason. thanksss.
You didn't say what he said in particular or how it was said, so it really depends.
Could be he is interested in you, but could be he was just making conversation.
hi, well i live in england, and was just wandering, what america is really like? is it like in the movies? because over here, its crap, everythin is grey, all the colours turn grayish, because of the weather(dark, dull windy etc). my uncle came back from new york recently and told me it was amazing, but he had to go so i didnt get to hear anymore. any help?
Here is a link to show you some pictures of America. It contains "several thousand photos of more than 40 states in the USA"
http://www.terragalleria.com/america/
Hope this helps see the beauty this country has to show, because we do have that!
when you no your in love with someone but you know behind you back he is flriting with other girls but when yyou ask he if he's doing it he say he loves me
Sadly, anyone can say "I love you" and not mean it. You got to show love. Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.
You have to have honesty and trust in a relationship.
Is he being honest with you? Do you trust him? Does he SHOW you that he loves you?
If the answer to these questions is yes, then just let it go.
If the answer to these questions is no, then I would cash in my chips on this relationship, because it has no future.
I'm a teenage girl (raised catholic) who has been atheist/agnostic/unsure since the summer. I have encountered several recent events in my life that have lead me to believe that there really is a God after all. All of my friends are really strong christians- but I just don't think that God is real.
I don't know if Christianity is right- or even real... but I'm feeling compelled to recommit my life to Christ. What does that mean anyway? How can you "commit your life" to someone who isn't even real? Who IS Jesus? I mean this whole thing makes no sense. How can there be a God when there are so many other religions like islam and such? My prayers never came true as a Christian.
Oh, by the way- I hate going to church and i don't see the point in doing it. It never even brought me closer to this so-called God. To be a true Christian (not a poser) do you HAVE to attend mass? What if I just want to have my OWN faith? I also don't believe in Bible verses and stuff- like I don't think that the people in it were real. Why can't we just have faith in GOD and not all the crap that goes along with it?
You don't have to attend church. You don't have to study the bible. God doesn't expect you to do these things as long as you believe in Him. That is why he gave you the ability of free thinking.
What makes it real to each individual is the BELIEF in a higher power. That doesn't go for just believing in the christian faith, either.
Each religion is different, but I don't feel any are wrong. They are right for that person because they believe and have faith in their religion.
Believe in what is best for you. If you want to have your own faith, then good for you for having faith in something.
I have this teacher... he's my gym teacher and track coach. I'm not trying to sound strange, but I think I'm sort of in love with him, and I have absolutely no idea what to do! He does flirt back with me, but he doesn't flirt with anybody else! Its always been me, and only me. Since I'm one of the best runners on the team, I'm always staying after class to talk, and he flirts with me by touching my arm and stuff, and he is SO attractive! He's one of the HOTTEST people I've probably ever seen, and I am under a "spell." Sometimes he'll call me into gym during my other periods so we can talk. I'm sort of obsessed, but hes only 23 and hes extremely gorgeous!
I am so confused, and no I have never done anything with him, nor will I ever, but I just don't know what to do! All I do is think about him and any advice will help!!
ANSWER EDIT:
As for the person below me, and myself, a 1 rating is crap. You said "any advice will help." I know my advice is based on your stating that he flirts with you. That is a big NO-NO!
Hot or not, don't take it beyond your simple school girl crush. For it to go any further, he would be committing a crime. He would be labeled a sexual predator for the rest of his life.