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jealousy over my boyfriend....
15/f
well...its kind of weird....i think im jealous over my boyfriend....i mean my family is not a poor family but i have a single dad and a brother....for a single parent raising 2 childeren ...we are that bad finacialy..but when i want something , for exsample, i wanted a digital camera for christmas , so i was trying to work and save up for the one i wanted , well all he said to his mom is he thinks he wants a digital camera , and she got it for him that same day, he dont even know how to work the camera and he never uses it!! it makes me sooo mad , and there was a game i though was really fun (saying that i dont play video games much) so i was saving up to try and buy it , well he goes out and buys it the next day ....it makes me so jealous! and i wish i didnt have this jealousy!, and i have to much pride to ask my boyfriend to buy me stuff because i was always taught to take care of myself .... if i count on a guy and he leaves...what do i have left? here is my question...is there any way to get over my jealousy?
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ygsgirl is 100% right. I'd like to add that telling him how you feel may get rid of some of the jealousy too. He probably has no idea that what he is doing is wrong in your eyes. If you helped him realize that, he might just change for the better. He would at least understand you more and that's always good in a relationship. Open a window to let him see into your life. His family is very different from yours. Right now he knows no other way. Good luck. :)
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You shouldn't be jealous of him. Yes, he has money & can buy things without working for them, but then what does he have? Something new, and no pride to show for it.
You on the other hand, you should be proud of yourself. You're working for the things you want, and learning to be dependent on yourself. He's dependent on his parents to buy him things & that's rediculous. I do it too, so this is kind of hypocritical, but I'm trying to be like you & earn my things myself without having my parents buy them for me.
Maybe he'll be jealous of you one day, because you'll be able to carry yourself, and you won't be as interdependent as he will. I'd just give yourself a pat on the back. Don't worry about being jealous of him. You really shouldn't be.
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It would probably help if you realized one thing- you are responsible, he is not.
You are learning the responsibility of working for the things you want in life. That is a very good thing! Pat on the back from afar to you!
He isn't learning such things. He is learning ask and ye shall receive. Stick out your hand and your momma will put what you want in it, with no contribution on your part. The guy is spoiled, let's face the facts. That is his parent's downfall, not his.
Don't be jealous of him. He doesn't know better, because like most kids in this country, that is how he is taught. He is raised in life wanting for nothing, and, really, where do you think that will get him later in life? He will have a tougher go because he hasn't been taught to be self reliant.
One day, he may be jealous of you, because you will be independent and able to carry your own. Try to turn that jealousy into a little self pride. You are so young to act so responsible for yourself. That makes YOU one of the lucky ones, believe it or don't.
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