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LESBIAN
Is there any way that you can not want to be a lesbian but you still are? I try not to be. I try to be with guys but I just don't feel right when I kiss a guy, but when I kiss a girl it feels so right. I don't want to be a lesbian just because it's so hard to these days and I don't want to have to tell my parents. Also I'm Christian so it's against my religion. Is there anyway to make myself straight?
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i dont know if this will answer your question...
but im going to give it my best shot.
honestly, i see that you are extremely unconfortable with really letting yourself out, yet you seem pretty set on the idea that you are, in fact, gay. im sorry, and no offense to ANYONE, but i know that people say that being homosexual is totally out there, and also a sin, but i, under NOOOO circumstances, believe that. God loves everyone, and yes, he DOES support love. i dont care what others have to say about that. im extremely close to God and have a LOT of gay friends. does that make me "a sinner" absolutley not. as long as your not huring anyone, or yourself, hun, im sorry, but i really dont feel the nesessity of telling you how to be STRAIGHT. you are who you are, and you should embrace that with everything you have. and as far as "its so hard to be a lesbian these days" ...?? NOT TRUE AT ALL!!!!! these days, its accepted more than EVER before!!! it was once actually, considerd a mental illness, but is NOT anymore. any where you go on the tv, there's specails about gays... like.. for instance.. on The Simple Life, they had to plan a lesbian marriage. or on A Baby Story, they had a specail: "Two Moms". my gosh, all OVER, there are stuff.. in magazines, (seventeen, cosmogirl!) there are stuff about gays, that support them, and much much more. i know a lot of Christains who are gay. it does NOT mean that you are against Jesus....
professional help???
there are tons of organizations set for people just like you. search on google, with the key words: "lesbian/gay support groups&websites".. garentee you won't find yourself empty-handed.
hope i helped. (;
PLEASE TELL ME IF I HELPED YOU. RATE ME HONESTLY, I'D APPRECIATE IT A LOT!!! *_<3aNGiE
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You are who you are, no matter how you feel about it. Many people are raised with the idea that there is something wrong in being gay, due to religion, ignorance, etc. This can cause some huge problems for people who grow up and realize they are or might be gay. After all, who wants a life full of struggle?
The good news is that it isn't all struggle. You don't have to force yourself to be with a guy just because you that should. You don't have to live a lie. As you get older, you will create a network of supportive and loving friends, and hopefully find a place where you can feel at peace with yourself.
This won't happen overnight.
As regards your Christianity, the two aren't mutually exclusive. There are a number of Christian organizations for gay people - it gives people a time and space to talk about their faith and sexuality in a helpful way. These people recognize they are gay, they are pleased to be gay - and that they are also pleased to be Christian. You can have both! These exist both online and in person (google for more info).
It sounds as if you've already tried to live a straight life and it's not working. There's really nothing that will magic you out of being gay - but there will come a point where are you happy to be who you are.
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Dont you DARE listen to those people hun!
Im Christian also and im not lesbian or anything.
But i have a family member that is.
There is NO way that god will hate you or anything for who you love!!!
I believe if you accept him in your life then your fine!
I just believe people are mean about it and say youll go to hell because they dont like the thought of two Same sex people together!
But i have no problem with it.
And I dislike people that have a problem with it.
And i have gay friends and they are some of the most amazing,fun,free spirited people!
Be who you are and dont let Anyone change you!!!
Much love.
And whatever decision you make......Is the right one for you!!!
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i could preach at you and yell about how i think homosexuality is bad and how i think it's wrong. but i think you know that it's wrong, and i think you know that it's bad. people know what right and wrong is and people know how to make the choice between them. you have to remember that an act of sin no matter how big or small will feel right, will feel like that's how it's supposed to be. because that's what satan does, he plays with you, and makes things seem like they should be one way when in truth god gives us free will and let's us choose whether or not we want to be on the side of righteousness or on the side of sin.
in the end it's a choice you have to make, the only one who can make it is you, and i dunno if i can help you in making that choice but i tried. let me know if you need further assistance.
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thats the way it often is. think about it, why would anyone WANT to be gay/lesbian? for all the reasons you listed, its quite difficult. so thats the way it is, it isnt a choice. there is no way to make yourself straight.
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Unfortunately, research has pretty much proven that we are or are not gay from birth. So, if you are indeed a lesbian, there is nothing you can do to change.
In the past, especially, some men who were gay would go ahead and get married, have kids, etc., trying to be "straight." Often later in life they fell in love with another man and it became a scandal and a horrible mess for the family. Imagine how the wife and children must have felt, living with a man they didn't really know!
I don't know how old you are, and it does make some difference in the answer to this question. If you are still very young, it is not unusual to have crushes on people of the same sex, and it doesn't mean you will be homosexual. At 17 or 18, however, I would give you the following advice: be true to yourself, and if you believe you are a lesbian, learn to accept it, because God made you and loves you just the way you are.
Love, gigi
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This is a mind/head/mental thing. YOU have to convince yourself. You THINK it feels right when you kiss a girl. It will be hard to do, but focus & convince yourself. Make a list of pro's and con's. Read the Bible and it might help you and scare you enough or change your mind.
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