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Two faced people & i need some tips =[ !!
i REALLY need advice and I don't know who to talk to about it. please givelike really good answers. Okay this might be long but please. So, I need advice on a couple things, one of which is like at school, people call me a lezbo- WHICH I AM TOTALLY NOT. Like people (even popular but not at much) say it sometimes to my face, behind my back, or like say something kinda like "So make out with any hot girls lately" or something like "Yeah, you would look really good with all your hair chopped off- like a dyke", pretty much something like that in a really wise ass way. mostly guys say it to my face and girls just talk shit about it. And I know from reading this you probably think I'm a total nerd, but I'm actually average. People are usually nice to my face but still, it really bugs me thats everyone once in a while people I don't even know, or do, talk about me and say stuff that they don't even know is true. I really would like for someone to help me GET OVER THIS and GET THIS TO STOP. It started last year so I really really want this to stop. I mean I would rather be known as a slut then a lezbo (no offense to anyone). I know I shouldn't care, but it's not something you can really not care about. I don't know maybe its because I never had a boyfriend (not like i don't want one, but that anyone who ever asks me out I don't want to go out with because either i don't know them, or they are one of my best friends) PLEASE! I really need advice, I get so upset about it. One more is, I really need help making new friends. Like I have about only three friends that I actually hang out with outside of school and act like myself around and then the other people are either from other towns or we only hang out once. I have like friends in school, but not the kind that you want to talk to on the computer or call or hang out with. I know its kind of pathetic, but I really do need to make new friends. I'm kid of shy at school and I know if I just acted like how I do around my normal friends (funny and like loud and around guys a total flirt) that I most likely could be in with the "popular kids". ha. yeah so all I want to do is have those rumors stop, and make a WHOLE new bunch of friends. One of my best friends,Casey, ALWAYS hangs out with me and kinda sorta follows me. Im pretty much her only friend because she NEVER talks in school. I really need to kinda of pull away from here because I'm spending all my time with her and not focusing on meeting new people&makin new friends. she isnt really into making new friends and kind of wants me and expects me to spend all my time with her. i need to make new friends and fast -serouisly.
Please help.!!!!
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if people call you a lezbo go up to the the people and say why do keep saying im a lezbo im not and ask them nicely to stop.
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Hmmm... I don't know that making new friends would solve your problem. Not with the kids calling you names.
And big word of advice on that is- if the friends you have are good ones, don't ditch them for some one new. Don't leave them in the dust. However, don't let your friends dictate who you spend time with or how many friends you have.
Okay, so you got some issues with my favorite and yours- the "belittlers." I was in your shoes once. I'm telling you this with solemn promise, they call you "lezbo" because they know it gets under your skin. THEY KNOW IT BOTHERS YOU!
I know it's hard to do, but you need to make a statement that they don't bother you. Don't let them know that it really does.
Next time a guy comes up to you, and says "make out with any hot girls lately" ask him if he is jealous because he is obviously incapable of such things with his mentality. Then walk away with your head high. Don't do it all the time, just the once would suffice.
Or you could try the "laugh at their joke" approach. When they say something to you, laugh like it's as funny as they think and say "that's a good one. I'll have to remember that."
Or, just give them a bored look, and tell them you've already heard that one, come up with something original, and get back to you.
It takes time, but it works.
As for being in the popular crowd, it isn't what it's cracked up to be. I was a nobody for years. I was in your shoes with the name calling. Then, one day out of the blue, everyone started to think I was pretty cool and wanted to be my friend. Believe it or not- I told them to piss off. Why would I want to be friends with people who treated me like crap all those years? Why would I want to associate myself with that sort of people?
I mean, in reality, these people are big and bad now, but they only have 4 years out of their ENTIRE LIVES to be that way. Then they have to join the real world, which can be cold and cruel at times, and it doesn't care what your popularity status was in high school.
Keep your chin up. Life gets better.
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ok people are always gonna say things about you. behind yur back or joke about it to yur face. its just how people are. and trust me you wouldnt wanna be called a slut. but i know being called a lezbo doesnt really sound good either. but another thing is yu dont wanna change who yu r to fit in with the "popular kids" just be who yu are and if people dont like it and they're still saying things let them . act like yu dont care even if yu know yu really do just play it off. try yur best. and a good way to make friends is go out to sport events where people hang out. everyone has those. yu meet new people and of course the known FACEBOOk yu can meet a whole bunch of new people on there make plans to hang out and then make new friends everyoen does it so can yu just focus on having fun . dont waste yur time thinkin about wut people are gonna say.
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