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don't even need to be friends with her in the sense you actually hang out all the time, but for some reason I don't want to never see her again and her to forget about me. I can't explain why. It just this feeling I have (link)
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Yeah it's a feeling that you like her.
The thing is, she doesn't think about you. She's engaged so why would you care if she forgot about you?
I know you don't need to hang out all the time to be friends. But friends talk every once in awhile and you're forcing it. Friends don't have to try to accidentally run into each other or try to act uninterested so they don't think you're flirting.
Let her go, get some help and move on.
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my age is 16 and i am a girl from india last month i got into a relationship on 9th but it was nrmal and i got my periods on tym but this month i have not yet got my periods ? can his regular kissing make me pregnant ? he slept on me but wid all the clothes on ? can this make me pregnant ? (link)
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No kissing can not make you pregnant. Only having sex will make you pregnant.
Before you get any more physical, you need to study about all this so you really don't end up pregnant.
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am not going to break up her fiancee. I was wrong about that (link)
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That's good that you realize you were wrong about that.
But to try to pursue a friendship with her would be for the wrong reason. You clearly have feelings for you. Trying to plan out how to see her or talk to her is just a little creepy and most people don't do things like that and that is why we think you should seek some professional help.
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Aright, so a few weeks ago I snapped and told my best friend that I really really bloody liked her. Her response was that she knew that I liked her and had done for a while but still wanted the friendship. This hit me hard and so i asked for some space for a few days and she agreed. Its a few weeks from that and things are back to normal really, we talk like we did ect but im not sure if im over her if not what do i do? I dont want to end the friendship as you dont come across good friends often.... (link)
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You need more time. Just wait and do your best to move on. Go out with other friends, meet girls, try new things. Just get your mind off her for awhile and eventually you'll meet someone new.
Being friends with someone means being ok when they like someone else or start dating someone else. If you're not over her, you won't be ok with it. You'll try being ok with it but you won't be.
So you need to wait it out and give yourself more time to move on.
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If you can tell me few ways to die which fulfill following conditions:
1. Pain free death
2. Quick death
Also please suggest me a way that no one comes to know about my death.
I do not want to cause any pain to anyone else.
Important:
I am not seeking motivational answers, quotes from bible or Quran or looking any kind of self approval. I again request you to not give me such answers. Thanks.
Just for readers sake: i am not doing this in sadness or despair. And trust me I'm not in denial.
Not going to tell much about myself. Thanks.
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On this website, we're not allowed to help someone commit suicide. So you won't find your answer here.
Just letting you know, there is no pain free death. I mean unless you're elderly and pass in your sleep, there will be plenty of pain since you're taking away a life.
So get some professional help.
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I met a new guy at my college who happens to go to another college in another state. It's not far from me but we met and clicked really well. We did hook up, minus the sex, and got each other's numbers. He even slept in my bed the night we met. Quick, I know, but it happened and I don't regret it. However, before anything happened and we were just laying in my bed, cuddling, I asked him how many girls he hooked up with at my school and he told me it was only one. I ask because the friend he was visiting, his roommate had made me think he hooked up with many more in just the way he was saying things to him and I knew something was going to happen and I didn't just want to be another number for him, so I asked. I guess after he told me it was only one, I seemed skeptical so he told me I think too much and to just trust him. He said "let me explain something to you, I stayed awake til five in the morning with you waiting for your shift for work to be over, I let you paint my nails because you were complaining you were bored, for the first half hour we were together in your bed, we just cuddled and I don't do that and you were the only girl that I actually gave me real number to tonight."
I just don't know how to approach this now, I do like him and he was very sweet and kind and I would love to keep talking to him but he does go to school in another state and when we text, it seems as if I bother him. After he left this morning, he told me to text him, though so that must mean he really did want me to.
I just need to know if I'm being crazy, should I keep talking to him? Or was he being a gentlemen in telling me this because he thought of it as a one night stand? Should I just let it go? (link)
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Well to put your mind at ease, he does sound like he's into you for more than just hooking up because you guys didn't even have sex.
Like Dragonflymagic said, trust takes time. You barely met him, so that's why you don't know whether to completely trust him or not. But if you don't trust him, then you guys have nothing going for you. If you do trust him, then you guys actually have a chance.
So text him, enjoy it and don't think too much into it. Until he gives you a reason not to trust him, then just go for it.
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Okay so. (Im using fake names here) Im a girl and really like this guy named Bob. Bob likes me back or I thought he did anyways. Bob's best friend is named John. John also likes me. I dont like John, I like Bob. But John was mad that I didnt like him and doesnt talk to me anymore. Understandable. BUT he forbids Bob to talk to me. Bob and I havent spoken in a couple weeks and he didnt reply to the one time i called him and left a message saying something like um i would like to hear whats going on from you and not anyone else because im really in the dark here and this is pissing me off. Bob likes all my pictures on instagram which is also very annoying because if hes on his phone he clearly got my voice mail and text. I dont know what to do because i really like him but he wont talk to me or explain what the heck is going on. I know the information that ive shared with yall because my really good guy friend (who is in the same group as Bob and John told me all of this) The good guy friend told me he would talk to Bob but hasnt gotten back with me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Im 16 btw. Everyone in the story is either 15 or 16 (link)
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That's a very frustrating situation.
A lot of guys will choose their friends over a girl. But in this situation, his friend just seems to be controlling him. John sounds like the type of person who is very immature and can't handle rejection and only wants you to himself.
Bob has his own mind and needs to stand up for himself. Obviously, you can't do anything about that because he's not talking to you and he'd probably take it the wrong way coming from you.
If Bob really likes you, he'll regret being told what to do by his friends.
I don't think there is really anything you can do if he's not talking to you. I say you send one more text saying something like, "I really like you and my friend told me about what happened with John. I'd really appreciate it if we could talk things out so I know where I stand in my dating life." Just put it into your own words or something.
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There's this guy that I think is really cool and cute. I first saw him working at this restaurant I go to often and was going to let it go but I recently found his Facebook because we have A LOT of mutual friends and he was tagged in one of the pictures. So I added him and just so I could talk to him I was like "hey you look so familiar and I've been trying to figure out where I know you from did you go to ____High school? and he was like yeah and gave me the year he graduated. so I was like oh okay that's probably where I know you from. Sorry if I came off as a creep or anything lol. and he said its okay :) and that was the end of the convo. now Idk how I could begin talking to him again or if I should even try to talk to again. SO I need advice. should I let it go considering I don't know a lot about him and he doesn't know me at all. or should I try talking to him? I am a 21 year old female and he's 24 (link)
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Try talking to him. I mean you never know until you try so there might be something there. If not, then at least you tried.
Maybe talk to him when you see him at the restaurant or that could even be a Facebook conversation. You could say you saw him working there, then maybe talk about the place and possibly ask him if he'd ever want to hang out or something.
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Ok I won't say the names of these school, but one will be School A, and I went to school a for 6 years and it was ok, then I left and went to School B for a year and loved it. I made so many friends, but I had to annually do a public speaking project, and it scared me so much I decided to go back to School A. Now I need to decide where to go next year. I have friends at both schools and I like School B better but I'm soooo scared of Public speaking there. What do I do? If anyone can help I would be sooo grateful and give advice in return!! (link)
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You like School B better, then go there. You shouldn't start running away from your fears, it won't help you at all.
When I was in high school, I got put in a public speaking class. I'm extremely shy but being in that class helped me a lot and now it's not such a big problem.
You can't just hide from everything. Sometimes you have to face your fears and this one will be for the better. I mean you only have to do it annually so it's not that big of a deal.
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there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in this community college I went to. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 27 and I am 22 and she is engaged, One thing I noticed about her is that she was very touchy feely. , like patting me on the back or shoulder.
I worked with her for about a year and my class ended in June 2013. In fall of 2013 I attended a university but I saw her around campus ( I already knew she attended there too) when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her. I might see her again on April 11th but I am scared when I talk to her it might across that I am flirting or trying to get with her but I really am not since I respect she is taken
the last time I saw her was on December 13th. I haven't seen her in a while clearly but I may see her again on April 11th.
I am trying to prepare for the conversation I might have with her. One thing I want to do is make sure she doesn't think I am trying to flirt with her or get with her. How do I make sure not to come across that way in any way? One theory I have is to maybe I have my phone out while talking and glance at it occasionally because surely someone who was flirting would be 100% invested. I have a lot of anxiety and nervousness so that is why I feel I must prepare. The fact that a girl talked to me at all is significant since no way I can talk to girls my self, so if I never see her again, I can likely never have any sort of female companion for a long time
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You've asked questions here several times and since we already know a lot of background, our answers aren't going to change.
At one point you wanted to break up her and her fiancee.
I don't think you should try to talk to her. You're obsessing and it's not normal to do this. I don't think anyone should try to go after someone they like when that person is with someone else. Even if it's just for friendship, not a good idea. It's not going to help you like her any less, it's just going to prolong it and cause you pain.
I also don't understand your thinking when you say that if you never see her again, you'll never have any sort of female companion. She might have been some sort of a friend a long time ago but you guys have talked in a very long time, so she isn't your female companion.
I think instead of trying to obsess over this more, you need to go seek help. Because doing all this won't help your anxiety or nervousness. You need to find a girl who is available and stop wasting your time on someone who isn't.
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I'm a 14 year old girl in 9th grade, whenever I like a boy or if I don't know them well I get really nervous, my hands just shake and I can't control it and I stutter when I talk to him! I've found it's with every boy I like and not just ones that are shy too. It's always really awkward, even on FaceTime or Skype and I just can't think of things to say!
Someone please help me! (link)
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That's something that's actually common. Maybe not to shake uncontrollably but it is common to get nervous around people you like.
What really helped me was treating them like they are a friend. Talk to them like you would talk to a friend. There are so many things in the world to talk about.
This guy you like, he's not a rock star or anyone famous. He's not from a different planet or anything, you don't need to be nervous. I'm sure he's a great guy but just remind yourself he's just a human with thoughts and feelings like you.
What probably happens when you talk to him and you can't think of something to say, it's because you're over thinking it. So don't think so much into it, I mean I'm sure you don't get that way with your friends.
If this has to do with insecurities, work on that. If you're afraid he won't like you or something, start believing in yourself and learn to come out of your shell.
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my girlfriend of 3 years is constantly looking for fights. she says she gets mad when i don't give her attention and that's why she's always wanting to fight about nothing. when we start fighting she gives me the lowest blows though. she's always reminding me that she can get any guy she wants. which i already know but i don't need to be reminded. she calls me selfish and the worst boyfriend she's ever had. she's constantly telling me that if she wanted a crappy relationship she'd have stayed with her ex. not only that but she's very controlling, anytime i go out i have to pretty much ask permission. i don't like her talking to guys but all of her friends are guys and she knows how much i hate it but does it anyway. what do i do? i've tried so many times to let her go but i can't, i really love her. i just don't know how to get her to stop without starting another fight. (link)
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You have to think about what's best for you.
You're not happy in the relationship and you don't need someone controlling you. I mean if you stick with this, nothing is going to change and you're going to end up married to her, with kids and feeling more stuck and unhappy. Or you'll realize it by then and drag your kids through crap.
You need to think about your future.
You need to sit her down and tell her that you want to talk, you don't want to fight. Don't point fingers at her, that's when she'll most likely start getting defensive. Think your words through before you say them if you really want this to work. If the tension builds and you feel a fight coming on, take a break and go do something else until that feeling passes, then go back and continue talking.
If nothing changes, it's time to let go.
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Ahhh but just now hes been texting back! And idk his texts ar e a bit harsh but hes still replying... (link)
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Just let it go. You keep setting yourself up for this. You already know how he feels. You don't deserve to be used like a toy. He can't play with you like that. Respect yourself because he sure won't.
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So I've been dating this guy for a while, let's call him jack. We are both 14 by the way. We live in Pennsylvania but I am moving to New Jersey soon. We were texting the other day, and he goes "Julie, will you marry me in 12 years?" So I went "haha. That'd be fun." And he goes "Julie, I'm serious. I don't know what to tell him???? Please help me. Oh and we plan to visit and text and otherwise stay in touch once I leave. What should I do???? (link)
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It's fine for him to say that, I think he's just afraid of losing you.
The way you should answer it is letting him know that if things works out between the two of you and you are still together in 12 years, you'd marry him. You don't want to make any promises now because a lot can happen in 12 years.
I mean I'm sure you know that people change. I mean especially since you're moving. You're going to have knew friends and meet new people. You're a teenager and you're going to want to be with someone who is closer and you can spend time with rather than missing someone all the time even if you guys do text and see each other every so often. Just something to keep in mind. Plus, even when you graduate high school, people change drastically and make new decisions and change into different people and aren't the same as they were when they were 14.
He's just afraid of losing you and wants you to make some crazy promises to him so he knows he has you. Just be nice and make sure he knows that you still care about him a lot.
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So my ex and I only dated a few days. He was too clingy and I didn't feel anything, so we ended it almost 2 weeks ago. Well I decided to change my number because he had it and I didn't want him texting me. Well today (Which is Tuesday), I logged in onto my old account to get one of my friend's numbers and I saw that he left me a voicemail that was sent on Thursday. It was just something random but like still, I don't really want to be in contact with him really. And earlier today, he asked me why I haven't talked to him recently and I just said "Well we're done"... And he said something like "I think you're lieing and that you cheated" and then I kinda just walked away. If he talks to me again, should I just tell him to like leave me alone? It might sound rude but honestly he's not getting the message that I don't want to talk to him. Advice please ASAP thank you :) (link)
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You need to be completely straightforward with him. If he comes up again, just straight up tell him that you don't want to keep in contact and you'd like him to leave you alone.
I don't blame you for wanting to be away from a guy who acts like this, you just need to be straightforward and to the point. If he still does this, make sure to tell an adult and get them involved.
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So i didnt get to contact him in anyways last time so instead i sent him a text saying Wow now that i reminince about it. We've had a lot of things that have happened. But I want to be honest here. im not doing this with the purpose of getting back together with you. I just want to see you in person to find closure to settle this unrest i feel in my heart. Whatever happens happens. Reply when you see this and hopeefully tell me a day and time to meet. I dont want to take no as an answer and you know how persistent i can get." And he never feplies back. But still he checked me snapchat stories again. Sigh i think he is just ignoring me now and i feel like a piece of shit. I just want to see him one last time and forgive and forget if he truely feels like he dowsnt love me. What should i do i gave him like probably three days leeway nevause i didnt bombard him with texts demanding that he answers. Bht im thinking about calling him once and texting him once more to see if hed actually reply. If not idk what i will do. Im soery if i sound so annoyingly persistent about my ex. Imbjust a girl that follows her hesrt more than her mind. I even want to try to be friends with him to just ease back into a friendship at the very least. I feel hurt that hed actually ignore me because he never did this before.
Oh so like my oak grove friend from tkd was talking to me and she asked me about me and him. And i told her about how his friends told him that they dont think were going to work out and i think it may be possibly influencing to him. And so she asked me who his close friends were. And i told her that two o then are these people named patrick and daniel. And she was like oh i kinda know these guys from mutual fiends. And so my friend told me how patricks girlfriend jumps from guy to guy constantly and bot long after a relationship. And in my friends group they jokingly call her a wh8re. And then she told me about how daniels girlfriend and her has hated each other since 8th grade for various reasons. And she told me that daniels girlfriend is a spoiled brat. Idk i just kinda found this interesting especially because these are his best friends girlfriends. And he usually makes it sound like his friends know a lot about relationships and are in a perfect relationship to be able to tell my ex thatwe arent working out when they could have told him to try to fix it. And then this so called great relationship of his two closest friends actually seems not as great anymore when his friends girlfriends sound like kinda bad people.. (link)
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Just don't contact him anymore. By not answering, he gave you an answer. If he wanted to, he could have answered and he didn't. So just take that as your answer and let him go. It's not like he didn't see the message, he's just ignoring you so you need to respect his decision and move on. There is really nothing else you can do.
Maybe friendship can be in your future someday, but that can only happy when you don't have feelings for him anymore. Once you don't have feelings for him, go ahead and try to be his friend.
You have to realize that being his friend would mean being ok with him dating other girls. I don't think you're at that point so just move on right now.
As for his best friends and their girlfriends, who cares? He chose his friends and he might even think they know a lot about relationships because of their experience or since they're so close, he might just value their opinion. Even though it might seem stupid, you can't really do much about that either.
You can't control what he does, you can only control what you do. So it's time to move on.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Today is my 23rd birthday and he didn't even get me anything. I don't even want much just something to feel special but no. We have a long distance relationship and I had a party Saturday that he wasn't able to come to because he couldn't afford the 500$ ticket but he was able to go out that night and spend over 100$ on drinks. He told me he feels like an awful boyfriend but then today on my birthday he tells me he's going to the casino on Thursday... So I'm guessing he doesn't feel that awful. On his birthday I made a huge deal I sent him a care package, visited him, and bought dinner and some other things for dessert. But he can't even send a card or anything. Am I just over thinking this and being a brat? Or is it time to rethink my involvement in this one sided relationship (link)
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No you're not overthinking it at all. If my boyfriend did that, my feelings would be hurt.
I'd definitely speak up about this. I mean he doesn't have to go all out for your birthday but he should at least do something. He needs to put in the effort.
You don't need to fight with him or anything, just straight up tell him that you need the effort and it made you feel like crap that he didn't do anything for you for your birthday.
If things don't change, then your relationship is one sided and you deserve better.
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Hi I'm Bhuvana from India. I have a caring lovable boyfriend. My problem is he is too much caring.Its a kind of possessiveness. I'm unable to sacrifice many things for him as he do to me. My nature is to be independent. But he says he is making me to be independent but I'm unable to feel that. Whatever I do casually he is makng complaints out of it and begging me to change that quality. He is ready to change anything for me but I'm unable to do it.At the same time I'm unable to leave him.He is such a nice guy ever. He is suffering a lot because of me but I'm unable to sacrifice my independence. He makes complains if I speak to other boys. He always intend to see my call logs in my mobile. If I ask for, he is saying he is doing everything casually. How should I take this? Moreover, he is getting upset because of me since I'm not satisfying his expectations in talking something dirty like all tat stuffs. I help him in that but he is expecting all that often with which I'm getting irritated. How to deal with this? I have asked for a big gap for this relationship. But its being very hard to handle this gap for both of us. At the same time we are not able to live happily if we are together. Misunderstandings! I'm scared he will find other person who suits his character if I have this gap between us. I'm helpless. Need advice! (link)
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He is trying to control you.
You should never be with someone who is trying to change you. You should be with someone you loves you for who you are. He doesn't love you for who you are.
He should not complain about you speaking to other boys. If you're not doing anything wrong, he has no reason to be jealous of you speaking to other boys.
There is also no reason for him to look through your call logs. If his excuse is that he is doing everything casually, tell him no. Tell him it's yours and he doesn't have any reason to see it. This means he does not trust you. He has no reason not to trust you. If there is no trust in a relationship, the relationship will end. Someone who is trying to look through someone else's phone is someone who controlling and possessive and that is no someone you want to be with.
Lastly, he should not get upset if you don't want to talk dirty with him. It's your own preference and he should not pressure you into it.
Like the other adviser said, if he is trying to change you, he should find someone else who matches what he is looking for in a woman and you should find someone who loves you exactly the way you are.
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I had a big fight with my best friend (Or 'ex best friend'...?) and she said she was done. We've had fights like this before, but it felt different. Well she said a lot of stuff, including that she's done with me and our friendship.
Well, about 2 days later, she texts me and says she's sorry. It seemed kind of weird. She said that she really honestly is sorry and that she didn't mean it, but can I trust this? She means a LOT to me and I've kind of been sad these past few days, but what if it's a trick? (link)
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I agree with both advisers below.
You do have every right to feel the way you do. There's nothing wrong with your feelings. I mean she said awful things and hurt your feelings. She might genuinely be sorry, you'll never really know unless you give her a chance.
But I also suggest giving it some time until you feel a little better. You can let her know that she means a lot to you but you still need some time.
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I need advice to get over my e boyfriend im 15 years old . I just cant get over him its really hard but all he wants to sex but he would stop talking to me for a while I always felt like it was me I just need advice to get over him . he played a lot of mind games
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Every time you go through a break up, it takes time to heal. Even if you guys were dating for only a month, it would still take time to get over it.
You already know he's no good for you and you wouldn't want a guy like him in your life. That's really good that you acknowledge that and realize that you deserve better.
So pretty much you need to give yourself time to get over him. In the mean time, don't text or call him, don't hang out with him. Whenever you start thinking about him, find something else to do. Break ups are a great time to start working on yourself and giving yourself "me time". Go try new things. Like new hobbies or sports, go out with your friends and enjoy your life. Keep your eye out for new guys you may like and a crush will definitely preoccupy your mind.
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