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How to get him to leave me alone completely?
So my ex and I only dated a few days. He was too clingy and I didn't feel anything, so we ended it almost 2 weeks ago. Well I decided to change my number because he had it and I didn't want him texting me. Well today (Which is Tuesday), I logged in onto my old account to get one of my friend's numbers and I saw that he left me a voicemail that was sent on Thursday. It was just something random but like still, I don't really want to be in contact with him really. And earlier today, he asked me why I haven't talked to him recently and I just said "Well we're done"... And he said something like "I think you're lieing and that you cheated" and then I kinda just walked away. If he talks to me again, should I just tell him to like leave me alone? It might sound rude but honestly he's not getting the message that I don't want to talk to him. Advice please ASAP thank you :)
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You might not know this but girls mostly mis+comunicate their feelings. It all depends on how you told him you didn't want to see him again. Did you show him that you were serious and meant what you were saying or you gave him a response that made him doubt your seriousness?
Boys also tend to misunderstand communication to them because maybe your body language/voice tone are not coresponding with what you are saying. You should be confident and say things with meaning.
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I feel like there's details left out....but if you want him to leave you alone be forward and honest about it with him.
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By the sound of things he really hasn't bugged you that much really. He contacted you twice its honestly not that much he could be a lot worse. But if you really want him to leave you alone completely just ignore him. If he tries to talk to you, no matter what he says or does. Just completely ignore him and then the message will get through and he'll leave you alone. Hope I helped.
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You need to be completely straightforward with him. If he comes up again, just straight up tell him that you don't want to keep in contact and you'd like him to leave you alone.
I don't blame you for wanting to be away from a guy who acts like this, you just need to be straightforward and to the point. If he still does this, make sure to tell an adult and get them involved.
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Obviously this guy is not getting the message or does not want to take no for an answer. His response to you was way out of line for a few day relationship so I think it is best you get as far away from him as possible.
There are two ways to tell him you're done, that you don't want to see him anymore and not to bother you. One way of course is to send him a text message from your old account. Of course he can always deny he you sent it.
The other way is in person. If you decide to do it this way make sure you have a friend with you, preferably a guy who is bigger than him. Not to start a fight with him but to prevent him from trying to hurt you. Then tell him straight out that he creeps you out and you want nothing to do with him.
That if he continues to bother you that you will consider it harassment and take the appropriate action. IF he asks what that is. The appropriate action against someone who is harassing someone else is to file a police report as harassing some is against the law; even for teenagers.
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Have you told him to leave you alone completely?
You are right: He's not getting the message. So why not just tell him the message, rather than hoping he'll figure it out on his own.
Obviously, this guy has some issues and I don't blame you for not wanting to have any contact with him, but the best way to stand up for you want is to state clearly what it is you want.
Stop worrying about being 'rude' or being 'mean'. You need to be clear. That's what is important.
So if he speak to you again, tell him you don't want to talk to him. If he accuses you, calls you names, or otherwise acts like a nut, don't engage with him and don't take the bait. Either remove yourself entirely from the situation, or just repeat: I don't want anything to do with you.
If he still isn't getting the message, get an adult involved. Once you've told him clearly to leave you entirely alone, if he doesn't, you need an adult to explain to him what an ass he is being.
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