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A guy liked me but he stopped talking to me because of his friend
Okay so. (Im using fake names here) Im a girl and really like this guy named Bob. Bob likes me back or I thought he did anyways. Bob's best friend is named John. John also likes me. I dont like John, I like Bob. But John was mad that I didnt like him and doesnt talk to me anymore. Understandable. BUT he forbids Bob to talk to me. Bob and I havent spoken in a couple weeks and he didnt reply to the one time i called him and left a message saying something like um i would like to hear whats going on from you and not anyone else because im really in the dark here and this is pissing me off. Bob likes all my pictures on instagram which is also very annoying because if hes on his phone he clearly got my voice mail and text. I dont know what to do because i really like him but he wont talk to me or explain what the heck is going on. I know the information that ive shared with yall because my really good guy friend (who is in the same group as Bob and John told me all of this) The good guy friend told me he would talk to Bob but hasnt gotten back with me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Im 16 btw. Everyone in the story is either 15 or 16
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That's a very frustrating situation.
A lot of guys will choose their friends over a girl. But in this situation, his friend just seems to be controlling him. John sounds like the type of person who is very immature and can't handle rejection and only wants you to himself.
Bob has his own mind and needs to stand up for himself. Obviously, you can't do anything about that because he's not talking to you and he'd probably take it the wrong way coming from you.
If Bob really likes you, he'll regret being told what to do by his friends.
I don't think there is really anything you can do if he's not talking to you. I say you send one more text saying something like, "I really like you and my friend told me about what happened with John. I'd really appreciate it if we could talk things out so I know where I stand in my dating life." Just put it into your own words or something.
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wow, sounds like John is a sore loser. If he can't have something, no one else can. Since you don't like him, thats his reaction. Very immature of him.
Maybe he's trying intimidation on Bob, teasing, ridiculing, bullying, or controlling behavior on Bob.
Bob sounds like he may be a gentle creature, not one to rock the boat and probably doesnt have enough self confidence to stand up to the peer pressure of his so called friend John. Thats not how a friend treats someone. With a friend like that, you dont need any enemys cus John already treats people like enemys.
If its so difficult to get Bob to respond to you by texts or calls or in whatever on line venues, then approach him face to face at school. Tell him what the other two advice givers recommended you tell him.
And from me, he needs to learn to not care what anyone else thinks, even his friends. His life is only his to run, and make decisions on. He can give over the authority of his life to someone else like John and allow John to pull the strings and tell him what he will and won't do for the rest of his life...no free will anymore, no doing what you want to do, just giving total control to someone else. thats a terrible miserable place to be. If he realizes he has some self confidence issues, then it might be good for him to study how to gain confidence. Can't say if he should have the family take him to counseling. But some books on the subject, maybe even talking to a school counselor might help get Bob pointed in the right direction. All you can do is your best to get these messages from all of us through to him. What he does with the info. is up to him. If nothing you try to hunt Bob down in person works, then right a letter and have this Good male friend of yours and his, deliver it to him, preferably when John is not around to dictate what happens. Good luck.
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Most guys are going to choose their friends over a girl. Not all but a lot of them and this may just be one of these cases. I would just let him know how you feel in one message or text. I understand your friendship with John is important to you and I am sorry I do not like him other than a friend. How ever I do have feelings for you and have had for some time. I wish we could at least talk this out for both us. Good luck.
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Well idk if this helps but I'm a guy and my best friend told me to stop dating a girl because we were going to different schools, but I dumped her because of him and it was a huge mistake. If he really likes you he will regret doing something like that. I don't have much of a solution, but at least now you can tell him another guy had the same problem and he regrets it badly.
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