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I'm too shy!
I'm a 14 year old girl in 9th grade, whenever I like a boy or if I don't know them well I get really nervous, my hands just shake and I can't control it and I stutter when I talk to him! I've found it's with every boy I like and not just ones that are shy too. It's always really awkward, even on FaceTime or Skype and I just can't think of things to say!
Someone please help me!
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As an 8th grade guy, I can relate. I have a different problem though, but I think the answer to my problem could be the answer to yours. I'm honestly so insecure about my appearance that I could barely talk to a girl I liked. Then I went through a phase where I could only text girls, because after all they didn't see me and I still got to talk to them personally. All you can do is simply be yourself, don't be scarred of what they think, just love who you are. I know that's not always easy. As a guy I can't admit that I like saying that, but it's true. Be yourself, and just enjoy having a genuinely nice conversation with someone you care about. Good luck!
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There is really no reason to be nervous or scared.Just try to calm down and pretend that your just talking with your friend.good luck
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That's something that's actually common. Maybe not to shake uncontrollably but it is common to get nervous around people you like.
What really helped me was treating them like they are a friend. Talk to them like you would talk to a friend. There are so many things in the world to talk about.
This guy you like, he's not a rock star or anyone famous. He's not from a different planet or anything, you don't need to be nervous. I'm sure he's a great guy but just remind yourself he's just a human with thoughts and feelings like you.
What probably happens when you talk to him and you can't think of something to say, it's because you're over thinking it. So don't think so much into it, I mean I'm sure you don't get that way with your friends.
If this has to do with insecurities, work on that. If you're afraid he won't like you or something, start believing in yourself and learn to come out of your shell.
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Try talking about something you find interesting, or ask him questions to see what he's interested in. I was the same way, I would find myself, not talking, and looking away while using Skype or FaceTimeing. I talked about things that I found comfortable talking about and it gets better!
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Wow, never heard of this before.
Well, what do you want to know about him? Everyone, when given the chance, is good talking about themselves. Ask him a question, that will lead to a long, open ended answer. Not a yes/no thing. Ask him about his family... holidays or whatever. His response might remind you of something funny or whatever that happened to you and then just tell him! Just tell him what you're thinking (of course, filter, FILTER) and that's how a basic conversation works. Of course, you know that. The only way to get over this is to talk to lots of boys, and the one you like. Just put your hands in your pockets or behind your back. Don't think about them. Relax, immerse yourself in casual conversation and once you've done it, you'll be able to do it again.
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